^ well said ^ :)
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^ well said ^ :)
Maybe fool is right that it is hard to define what love actually is... As in my opinion what baddad refers as 'the euphoric wonder felt at the start' is not 'love' but some kind of infatuation... What comes afterwards, if the relationship persists, is the real love... which make us care, share, compromise... Maybe we do need to go through that euphoria to for our feelings to mature into love.Quote:
Originally Posted by imthefoolonthehill
I am a hopeless romantic too, I guess because I cannot bring myself to call some kind of chemical reaction and passing infatuation love...
I think true love goes beyond the physical ideals of "loving". When I feel that I am in 'love' I try and look over the situation, if i find that the woman is just hot, ie I like her asthetics, than I realize that is a little shallow, but if the feeling goes beyond lust, and all you want is to hold the lady in your arms and stare out at a sunset, just lounging, than it is a little stronger. It is not that the physical is not present, just that the feelings transcends those of basicity and all you want is to be with them, and have them be with you.
Stan, you romantic boy! ;)
:blush: or be it :ladysman:
lol :D
Yeh, I almost shed a tear reading it ;)
I don't know people still do that..holding arms and watching the sunset..Or kissing under the tree (Schery...ahem ;) )
But I agree with you Stan, when the feelings are way pass the lusty needs, then it must be love, and not just a thought of being in love :nod:
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Originally Posted by Stanislaw
I was thinking about this question today, and I think that if you really love the person, then you would love everything about them. Even the annoying things that they do would seem attractive and tolerable. But most importantly, I think that if you really love the person, you'd want him/her to be happy and whatever happiness you have in your life, you would like to share it with them.
In regards to the other one (the idea of being in love) I guess if a person found themselves in that situation, and only loved their partner soley on that fact, then they wouldnt be happy deep down inside. And besides, I dont think a relationship with a foundation like that would last for very long
Hehe! I beg to differ. I think what you've described there is serious infatuation. Love with a capital L comes when you recognize annoying habits for what they are - really annoying - and you're still willing to put up with them because you want to be with the person that much.Quote:
Originally Posted by Molko
I add my vote to those opposed to a 36 month limit on love.
I also agree that the only way you can really tell if it WAS love is to get out of the relationship. Which, if it was love, is a really lousy way to find out.
....Uhhhh.......ok.........one more time:
....the 36 month limit is the upper limit of the chemical reaction and brain chemical changes involved in those heady moments of infatuation.......
This posts no limits on LOve, like, infatuation, or whatever you wish to call it when two people become involved with each other. BUT..... the changes in brain chemicals lasts between 18-36 months.Period. You don't have to like these scientific conclusions. The truth isn't always pretty......