What are your opinions on marriage?

i know many of my fellows who married just upon their parents' request or just because everyone else does so they just follow suit

that is a ridiculous reason to link oneself to another for LIFE, in my humble opinion, fer chrissakes. come on! May I ask you, are you feeling pressured to submit to an unwanted marriage?

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Originally Posted by Riesa

Marriage is different than love.

"Marriage" , depending on how you define marriage, and how you define love, really matter here, fiona.

My own personal standards were thus: will he be a good provider for our family? Is he capable of growing old with "me" am I capable of seeing "him" grow old, is he someone I would hold hands with when the ocean is in our sight? Does he know the meaning of effort?

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right ! i have no idea what love is and it takes a long time to understand this love and marrige things
i hope i will be lucky to meet a right person that i can grow old with

but now it seems imposssible coz i dont want to love

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Originally Posted by Riesa

that is a ridiculous reason to link oneself to another for LIFE, in my humble opinion, fer chrissakes. come on! May I ask you, are you feeling pressured to submit to an unwanted marriage?

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no i am not forced to marry but i think i am forced to love to some extend

at least there is that. forced to love...huh. contradictory. love is never a choice, or a pressure.

im not mean like that, anyway thank you all

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Originally Posted by peng87

I want an essays

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You want an essay? What do you mean? You want us to do your homework? Too bad.

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Originally Posted by fionaqiujuan

no i am not forced to marry but i think i am forced to love to some extend

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It's not like somebody is going to put a gun to your neck....

There is a difference between "love" and being "in love." The key, I think, is having a marriage where the feelings of being "in love" that brought you together in the first place are preserved throughout the marriage. Is it possible? I like to think so.

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Originally Posted by LizzyBennet

There is a difference between "love" and being "in love." The key, I think, is having a marriage where the feelings of being "in love" that brought you together in the first place are preserved throughout the marriage. Is it possible? I like to think so.

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Of course it's possible! Poppy and I have been married over 33 years and we are more "in love" than when we first got married. It's a much deeper love that seems to grow every year. Marriage is very hard work and it's not always fun. But together we can endure anything and achieve anything. We've turn out to be a pretty good team.

You are a lucky one, Granny!