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Relationships can be started on all sorts of common ground, so as long as there is some form of unanimity, and not some sort of one-sided seduction taking place, the death of the mutual friend should play a minor role.
Would you allow differences in religious perspective to determine who you may and may not date?
Depending on the depth of the person's "religious perspective", I think this would affect their typical everyday behavior in such a way that it would be clear to me whether I would be, in such a situation, comfortable or not. That is to say, their religion itself would not directly effect my decision, but its effect on their ordinary, practical life probably would.
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It's not an easy question. I certainly wouldn't be able to have a serious relationship with a girl who is extremely religious- partly because of my atheistical views, partly because of my sarcastic character. There is also some pressure from my parents, who don't say anything, but certainly don't hide what kind of girl they would like to see me date.
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Yes, because Ive seen what happeneds when people of strongly differant religous views marry and have kids, its bad enough being the child of 2 differant cultures without adding 2 differant religons into the mix as well, its just not fair. Also religous views color the way you see "dating2 I know it does mine anyway so what would be the point?
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It does influence me yes, but ultimately religion is not what determines who I will date, If I'm attracted to someone, I am not going to let religion stop me from dating her, but I might not get beyond a few dates. It's hard to say really, because someones religion is not always obvious, and I'm not going to ask someone for their religion when I ask them out on a date.
And I could ramble on about this for ages, but I think I got my point accross.
Same Q. because it is interesting, and I'm too stupid to think of a better one.
I dont think religion would come in my deciding whether to go on a date or not. I believe it is just one of the ways a person has decided to live their life and that they have all the right to practice it, so far as me getting influenced by their religion, would not happen, which means that if they ask me to do something specific to their religion I would not mind. I would be more interested in how the person is in their daily lives, their behaviour, their nature, I guess religion is something that a person may not be practicing day in and day out. But yes, I agree that the boy and the girl have to be a bit neutral or liberal on religious aspect and mutually accept each other, if they are fanatics or staunch believers and not ready to give space, then it may lead to problems. Only liberal views would help the relation survive. I believe I am neutral and live and let live would be my stance, and I think my relation would continue if the guy has similar beliefs (whether of the same religion or not) :)
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Well, I married a Jewish girl and I'm Roman Catholic. Neither of us is extremely religious but neither are atheists either. We accomodate each other around the holidays.
Very good question. Same Q.
I would not let religious-spiritual differences interfere only as long as they did not interfere greatly with our interaction. I have dated (and have had serious relationships) with women of greatly different beliefs from my own, yet what made us compatible? Reverence, reverence, reverence for others' beliefs, and we only debated out of mere sarcasm.Quote:
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No one's religion would ever offend me, even if I disagreed with her faith, only as long as I do not hear constant, consistent preaching, debates, etc.
To the person below me: along the same lines, would you (or would your family or friends) ever object to you dating an individual of a different race?
no, i come from a liberal family, i've grown up internationally, "different races" are a completely integrated part of my life.
However, there is reason why one might be sceptical. Recently the danish government will throw you out if your a foreigner, so if i should, say, study abroad, fall in love with someone and we got married, and had children. I would not be allowed to bring them back home... Not really a pleasent situation, which namely students and academics are becoming trapped by.
If this were the situation, would you just forget about your own country, and stay with your loved one, never being able to return?
Probably, at least until said country removed its head from its rectal cavity and decided to carry on like normal again. (That was sarcasm. I am sure the Danes have some reason for such measures.)
Since Jamesian didn't give another question, I assume we're still on the same one. When I grew up in the 60's and 70's, Civil Rights were a big issue in the South. I'm Southern. But in my small town, race was what we did around the block on our cobbled-together bikes. I knew many bi-racial kids. And had I fallen in love with a woman of another race, family objections or not, I would have stayed by her even if it meant another country. I don't tell my kids who to date. They make up their own mind.
Do you feel stereotyping of people still goes on to extremes?
:p Yes, chronical xenophobia. In fact it was suggested by a rightwing hostillity, that we should close our borders to sweden and norway, so that when their societies collapsed as a result of imigration, they couldn't flee into our country... sometimes you really have to wonder...Quote:
Jamesian: Probably, at least until said country removed its head from its rectal cavity and decided to carry on like normal again. (That was sarcasm. I am sure the Danes have some reason for such measures.)
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Thus in answer to Pen's question, yes i'm very sure it does, the second biggest party in denmark has managed to portray all imigrants as terrorists, so we can no longer marry foreigners and remain danish... (It's a new Bedlam, someone save me please!)
How do you think racial discrimination could be "ended"?
"ended", sounds very wrong. ;)
But to be honest I don't know how exactly, racial discrimination is based on fear, so the only way to end it is to take away the fear. I do not know how it is possible to take away the fear. It is possible to take part of it away, but to remove it entirely is difficult to say the least.
Ofcourse I can get all political on this question, but I'm not.
Would you do the one thing you know you cannot do, knowing you will fail?
Sure. Many times I take up a fight/argument knowing that I will lose. Sometimes I find you eventually win by initially losing. I can't think of a real example off the top of my head, but sometimes if you make a good enough case (I'm thinking about work here) but still whoever decides can't help you now (for possibly lots of reasons) he may come back and help you later or make up for it in another way. Fighting the good fight in a respectful way and excepting losing earns recognition.
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Yes, I would pursue my design, though it be destined for failure. Along the lines of Virgil's comment, I reasoned for myself some time ago that the true winner of any argument is actually the loser in the conventional sense; they have succeeded in becoming fully acquainted to a new perspective. The difficult part, of course, is drawing the line at being actually lead astray, when you know that your original perspective was true. Anyway, yes, I would make an attempt to exert my will in whatever direction that satisfied my fancy, and bask in the subsequent failure.
Would you do all in your power to "lose" an argument?