hehe! i am an enuch! :D 50-50.
as for Robin and "MC" - do we need to get you guys a chaperone?? :lol:
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hehe! i am an enuch! :D 50-50.
as for Robin and "MC" - do we need to get you guys a chaperone?? :lol:
I'd volunteer, being a minister, but if they don't play "strip poker" (you couldn't get me in that game with a hot iron! I myself would be too embarassed!), but regular poker, deal me in! Haven't lost a game in some time. Some old habits die hard! :lol:
I guess that's right.
You Are 70% Boyish and 30% Girlish
You are pretty evenly split down the middle - a total eunuch.
Okay, kidding about the eunuch part. But you do get along with both sexes.
You reject traditional gender roles. However, you don't actively fight them.
You're just you. You don't try to be what people expect you to be.
How Boyish or Girlish Are You?
http://www.blogthings.com/howboyishorgirlishareyouquiz/
Told you that you would need that stick MissC!
Wohoho! What made them say that? Right smack into the truth! Never too girly, never too masculine. :banana:Quote:
You Are 40% Boyish and 60% Girlish
You are pretty evenly split down the middle - a total eunuch.
Okay, kidding about the eunuch part. But you do get along with both sexes.
You reject traditional gender roles. However, you don't actively fight them.
You're just you. You don't try to be what people expect you to be.
Pen: If ever we play a straight game, consider yourself dealt in. Do you prefer 5 Card, Hold 'Em, or something else? And you'll have to try hard to beat me- it's been a while since someone got me in poker too. I just like to play, but everyone seems to forget that I am not my haircolor...
Drame: Ignore Robin. I'll smack him when I get the chance. He really needs to learn what to say to me on a forum...
grace86: Oh, I miss you! I miss you all! But yes, I was happy for the stick. I still have a six foot pole to use, too, if I happen to need it...
mir: ...maybe... :blush:...
And Pen, I'd love it if you'd chaperone. It'd be just as much fun anyways...:angel:
aww you miss me?! I was just looking for you!
Well, I'm supposed to be cleaning, but I'lll be here every little while! Why were you looking for me?:confused:
I sent my best friend a message...quite a few...and he won't talk to me :bawling:
Perhaps you should try using your "feminine charm." ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by grace86
I think that's what perhaps screwed things up in the first place.Quote:
Originally Posted by ShoutGrace
Erm... then I don't know what to tell you. If you don't mind me asking, what happened? (No obligation to answer- but sometimes it helps to get a shoulder to lean on or advice. But we'll still love you if you tell silly lil MC to can it! I am sorry by the way... Is there anything I can do to make you feel better??)
I think that you're thinking too much. :D What are the other possible reasons for this lack of communication?Quote:
Originally Posted by grace86
Well MC, just letting you know cuz you and I were discussing it yesterday and the day before I think...just letting you know how it turned out.
Hm, story, kinda long. Short (very very short) version goes like this: I've had guy best friend for six years. Fiancee doesn't like him, like an idiot I try to keep both best friend and fiancee...doesn't work. Umm, fiancee told me to not talk to best friend (which is a long story in itself) and after a series of events where I ignored best friend in presence of fiancee, best friend now ignoring me permanently....reciprocity.
I just think the venting helps...can't be too emotional at work anyway.Quote:
Originally Posted by Misscaroline
(A) I think that fiancee needs to be smacked upside the head.Quote:
Originally Posted by grace86
(B) I've had my share of unfortunate experiences on that front (i.e., girlfriends having "close" friends of the opposite gender), so I'm not a good source of information, I guess . . . I would immediately agree with the fiancee, but that is just because I've learned to be that way through experience.
(A) It isn't ever right to be rude or callous towards somebody, simply because they have been a good friend to you. Fiancee is being unreasonable, and his dictating of your actions is hurting someone who doesn't deserve it.
Of course, in an ideal world the one who you love and want to be with should be able to trust you, and not feel threatened.
But it's a less than ideal world.
ShoutGrace, that ideal world makes you sound like a pessimist.
But I agree with ShoutGrace. It's ludicruous to ask you to give up a friend, and Fiancee should be more reasonable without grounds for his animosity. I also think that if you want to try and be friends again, you should, but be careful. The events sound rather tangled as it is. And I would also prescribe a minor thumping to knock some sense into Fiancee- grace86, you are a wonderufl person as far as I can tell, and there's no reason he should doubt you or your choices! Besides, your company is your company. Tell him to deal.
This is truly a "girl's thread" conversation. :D Emotional distraught and all.
You make good points, but it would take forever to elaborate on some of the points that you mentioned. I can agree that it is very definitely not an ideal world.
Fiancee has grounds.
Ah. That was what I was worried about. I just didn't want to accuse you of anything you didn't deserve...
...so how bad is it? :eek: I really want to help, but there is only so much I can do online...:bawling:
How about realist? :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Misscaroline
Females are not always faithful, and as far as my experiences are concerned, I wish that I would have been more suspecting of other men. I can't help the fact that I agree with fiancee's motives - one of the reasons that I am single is the fact that I couldn't restrict a romantic interest's list of friends, and I very well might if I was in a relationship. Especially if "indiscretions" have already taken place.
MC, lol, people can usually ask me anything. If I don't want to answer, I tell them to go away.
After a fight with my fiancee that I was telling my best friend about, he realized he had feelings for me.
He told me I shouldn't keep that from my fiancee. So I told him. Naturally my fiancee doesn't want me to talk to him. And I cannot hate my fiancee for that.
So, as mentioned before, I listened to my fiancee.
Ah, so I was right in presuming that you didn't actually do anything wrong? Or is there more to the story?
:eek:
thats all :eek2:
Nope that's it. I'm a good girl!
Well hello Night! Glad to see I've got you engrossed :D
sorry to interrupt...:pQuote:
Originally Posted by grace86
I would say -- listen to yourself.....what does you heart says???
So far you have been listening to either your friend or fiancee, and I think they are trying to steer the way for you, telling you what to do....
friend -- tell your fiancee -- you do as he says
fiancee -- dont talk to him -- and again you do what he says....
where is your opinion or wish in here.....
EDIT -- since I dont know the whole story, so please ignore if this advise seems irrelevant....:D
yes only I have no popcorn...
sorry its just since Ive never had a boyfriend type thing I fiiger to learn from other people
Night's going to have an aneurysm! :p
Grace, you don't know how happy I am to know the story. Let me think... have you tried to make Fiancee realize that you wanted him to know the truth, but that you would never act on the knowledge of Friend's feelings? I think that would give it a start- put Fiancee back in line, since he wasn't exactly kosher in telling you what to do.
Next, is it Friend who has a problem not being friends? Or not being more than friends? If friend can accept being friends, then you three might be able to find some equilibrium... Or is Friend upset because you don't/won't reciprocate the feeling? That's an entire different thing...
And Madhuri, that is good advice. Grace, how DO you feel about all of this?
Interruption okay! It is a girl issue is it not?! :p
What do I want? To not be so confused!!!!! Well, I wish I could go back to having both of them happily coexist, because that would make my existence a little less tense. :p I used to be able to have both. But it is clear I have to decide now. What I want is to know the right thing to do (don't worry, I am not asking for anyone to answer this for me :D )
Wish granted- you will find out what to do, and it will be exactly what you wanted all along! (No bad side effects.)
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Originally Posted by Misscaroline
Fiancee does realize I wouldn't act on any of that. He is just insecure because I really valued the friendship with my best friend. He thinks it would cause problems if things "went back to normal"
My best friend, in saying what he did, was only trying to be honest with me. Everything was honest between us. He was fine with the fact that I wouldn't return his sentiments, and I guess you could say - even moved on. He is just upset probably because he wants things to go back to normal.
(I should write a short story on all of this. I think I would have all female vote :p )
Well excuse me but just a thought maybe if you dont feel the same as friend its probably best for him as well as for your current stress levels to just be cut off for a while.
Sorry I went to seeThe Holiday last night. :nod::rolleyes:
That's one of options I was thinking about.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nightshade
grace86, it sounds like you're getting to that ideal stage of knowing what to do. I hope we've helped a little. If you need to talk some more, I'll be back in a little while! Until then, may you be blessed with some unnamed power or simply by luck to head in the right direction!
<3 MC (I'll be back shortly...)
Why thank you!Quote:
Originally Posted by Misscaroline
Yeah, I will be okay regardless...confusion is part of my daily habit. But it is time for lunch.Quote:
Originally Posted by Misscaroline
Grace, just to add my two cents here. Without knowing the long version with all the details, I think you got a situation which is incompatible. I suspect you may have to choose here. I take it as a finacee you're going to get married. It's not easy for one spouse (and this applies to either sexes) to have his/her spouse be best friends with a person of the opposite sex. It might work out in some situations, but I think that's not the majority. The majority of times the suspicions and dynamics of the three relationships will undermine the marriage.Quote:
Originally Posted by grace86
I know Virgil. And thank you. I do realize the situation as how you've mentioned and I think that's what makes it hard to grasp, is that I've always been able to have both, and now, it is a choice. But I will make a choice, and not torture the others involved in my attempts to make one. Things happen for a reason. Thanks again Virgil.Quote:
Originally Posted by Virgil
I don't think you're torturing us. I'm glad if I can help. I'm just sorry I had to deliver a somber opinion. :(Quote:
Originally Posted by grace86
I definitely don't want to torture any LitNet members, but what I was saying is that I have to make a decision without torturing my fiancee or my best friend - as that would just make things ugly.Quote:
Originally Posted by Virgil
Your somber opinion was fine. I am just not too used to being an open book online.