Random Thought of the Day

Do you ever feel like you can't stand your best friend? Well I have this friend, she's the one I go out most often with, but more and more often I feel it's just cos we have noone else as other friends we have in common have less time to meet us...and we are almost the only ones we know who dont have a boyfriend etc... And sometimes it feels it's the only reason why we stick together cos we disagree on so many things...we have different tastes, different viewpoints on many things... And she keeps judging and complaining, about every little thing (her mum is the same, she has a polemic for everything) and since her family is very strict, my behaviours are seen as a libertine's... My choices are always weird to her, when I was in a long-distance relationship she kept telling me to quit it cos it'd have no future, and the whole thing was hard enough for me, the support of friends would have been nice... I mean, I never feel accepted... Ok sometimes it's ok, we have a good time as friends, but then she just starts complaining about something in general...I hate the world 'absurd' cos she used to refer to such a wide range of things and facts... Last night she saw my desktop picture and had to make a weird comment about it, hearing it you would have thought I had some terribly immoral pic... it was just a damn pic dedicated to my damn favourite band, on my own damn laptop!
I have another friend instead, we meet less often cos she has many different friends, and a boyfriend...but we always understand each other, agree on many things, and she's always always supported me, I could always rely on her even in the relationship thing, she never even judged how crazy it all was, and she always tries to find some time for me if she can...
For tomorrow, I have an invitation from another 'friend'. She was in our group of friends at school, then found a job and with it a more interesting and varied life with different friends, and then a boyfriend which caused her to show up with me like 5 times in one year and a half... Now she seems to call me only when there's noone she can think of calling, in a way I dont mind cos that's often my destiny and anyway it's a chance to meet... but I wonder if we still have anything to tell each other, any common topic to talk about... Anyway I'll probably go, it's someone different to me...and my friend I mentioned first won't be there so I'll feel somehow more free to be totally mycrazyself...

Sorry, just felt like venting some random thoughts of these days...

No need to apologize for ranting, Koa; it sounds like quite a situation you have yourself in with your friend. Often, I have found, spending too much time with anyone, including boyfriends/girlfriends, you grow tired of each other, annoyed and short-tempered. Spending much time with someone very critical and judgmental, I can certainly see why one could get irritated; I would (and have), too. Hopefully, if you do not tell your friend, maybe she will realize her faults through other means (possibly other people), or discovering that you seldom want to spend time with her.
Best of luck! ;)

My random thought of the day: I feel so reminiscent today of reading Arthur Schopenhauer, who wrote of boredom seeming one of the worst (and main) evils of the world. :p

Yeah thanks mono... I agree, I often think I'd never be able to handle a boyfriend if I had to see him everyday as most couples seem to die if they don't, that was a good side of the long-distance stuff, though it was too much on the opposite extreme.
So it's sometimes a mess to be only with that one friend, we sometimes look at each other and know that we are going out together only cos really there's noone, as we have nothing to tell each other. In a way it's nice to get to know people so well, but when they get so bitter or when I feel limited because of her, it's a mess... We even learnt not to talk of politics cos we're likely to end up arguing...
Anyway, today I had a nice day with the third friend I mentioned there.

And here goes my random thought: I like to go to the swimming pool. I hate to sunbathe but it's lovely to go in the water and just stay there... I used to love it as a kid too, but then in my darkest phase I even stopped liking the swimming pool cos of the sun it involved, and I didnt even enjoy the water...last summer I never even went once. But this year I like it again :D Me fish :D
(note: here in the summer it's the most common thing to try and go to a swimming pool as often as possible,cos we have no sea right here but the heat can get unbearable).

Random thought number 2: the forum appears to have been rather empty today...

In 3 weeks time I will be a fully qualified Environmental Engineering Technologist. I will actually have to work for a living, instead of this lazy student malarkey. New plan: I have 3 weeks to win the lottery.

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Originally Posted by kilted exile

In 3 weeks time I will be a fully qualified Environmental Engineering Technologist. I will actually have to work for a living, instead of this lazy student malarkey. New plan: I have 3 weeks to win the lottery.

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Good luck with plan B. However, I'll warn you: I once had a horoscope that read "buying a lottery ticket does not consitute financial planning." :D

lottery: it's like the stock market . . . for poor people!

Why, I guess it is!!

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Not-so-random thought: I try to have as much respect as possible for my fellow readers and bookworms, but this Harry Potter chaos seems a little out of control. Prudently, I avoided all bookstores and libraries on Saturday (the day of its release), but thought to take the risk yesterday - yikes! The rudeness of some people! Very wisely, the bookstore administrators organized the newest Potter books near the cashier registers, but this did not prevent such turmoil from numerous kids running and screaming, concerned mothers and fathers purposely cutting through long lines (and arguing over the fact), and readers of all ages getting in ridiculously heated debates of the movies versus the books.
Dear Harry Potter fans, what you purchase consists of a book (or film), Harry Potter and his friends consist of fiction, and, most of all, the first copy printers made no different from the last copy - there should exist no race, and your bickering, or your child's bickering (though, I think, Rowling intended the book for children, as Harry Potter remains in the 'Children's Literature' section) will not allow you to purchase the book quicker.
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LOL mono, I can imagine the scene at the bookshop!

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Originally Posted by kilted exile

In 3 weeks time I will be a fully qualified Environmental Engineering Technologist. I will actually have to work for a living, instead of this lazy student malarkey. New plan: I have 3 weeks to win the lottery.

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Ah I'm joining you in the lottery plan then... Though I have 4 months time (IF I actually start doing something about my final paper...). But I can feel the void already.
(in 3 weeks time it will be the highest point of summer holidays here LOL...feels so strange to think of anyone in the same emisphere being involved in any kind of activity ;))
Edit: forgot: I like your new avatar kilted :)

Random thought of the day: why did I become addicted to shopping? I have enough clothes to survive for like 3 weeks without washing anything but I wouldnt run out of clean stuff... Go figure. And yet I bought a tshirt I'd probably wear twice cos I dont look that good in such narrow clothes :blush: But it was so cheap... That qualifies me as shopaholic I guess :(
Random though n°2 (which follows number 1): why is it so hard to find trousers? Everytime I come home from the shopping convinced that I need to lose weight, but that depresses me, and what gives me happiness in depression? Food. Especially chocolate....
Random thoguht n°3 (which again follows): in one shop I asked if they had a bigger size...they explained me their range of sizes and it turns out that the biggest one they have is smaller than the size I usually wear. Now ok I'm not thing but I'm not even that huge... there's something wrong with this world. (cos most shops with young/cheap stuff are pretty much the same as that one).

Darling, didn't you hear? Oh, I wish I could find a link to it, but a man killed himself because of a spoiler (plot giveaway) to the new Harry Potter book...that is just pathetic. :alien:

lol... i wonder if the spoiler was true....

oh by the way... Harry Potter dies in the next one.

A bit more serious random thought of the day:
Some lovers make far better friends, and, in such a case, a compromising, unconditional friendship often seems the best answer. If the other would prefer the friendship, then one could guarantee the purest of all companionships, as the most rewarding friend would persist, tolerating the other friend through every state of mind; if the other prefers no contact, however, then neither the relationship nor potential friendship deserved value. In essence, if that divine word, intending so much more than understood, and transcending all, love, ever existed, some form of commitment would remain.
No worries, not even Dante and his inspiration of Beatrice (in The Divine Comedy) had a romantic relationship, but reportedly had a beautiful friendship.

It can be painful to settle for only beautiful friendship with the one you love.

I prefer friendship to (LOL) love.
But after all, they're both meant to have an end, so that doesnt really make a difference. But after it's over, a friend probably gave you more than a lover, so you're left with more. Or probably more to hurt about.

I mean ok, in my current state of mind I'd be more positive but I just can't forget my theories about friendship and love. Possibly the biggest influence on my life has been my best friend's betrayal, now 6 years ago. Basically, I know how it feels to be dumped, despite not having ever been in a serious relationship. So beware, your best friend can turn into your murderer.

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So beware, your best friend can turn into your murderer.

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who was it that said "God save me from my friends - I can protect myself from my enemies."

Anyway my random thought is I was suprised to find that I can quote hamlets to be or not to be speech from the beginig till "shufflle off this mortal coil"