Can boys and girls be friends?

I admit, I didn't read all the posts, but I did scan through a couple...
Here's my opinion:
Guys and girls can be friends. Of course, if you have a "family-type" bond then the thought of getting lovey-dovey with that person is crazy. My current boyfriend and I have actually been forbidden to go out (sorry mom) and we really tried to keep it at "just friends" for that reason, but our bond is so strong that we just can't (we're kind of under cover now). Sometimes it can't be helped, but that doesn't mean that you should stick to friends of the same sex. I personally find it much easier to socialize with boys, perhaps because I'm a little bit of a tom-boy. Most of my friends are guys and I have never had those kinds of feelings for them. Guy friends are great... And if a guy friend of yours tries anything funny you can just smack him on the head and he'll probably still be your friend tomorrow. They tend not to have the Oh-now-I'm-so-broken reaction that girls have :)

I only speak from my own experience and I believe that yes, they can be friends. Two of my best friends are boys, and sometimes they prove themselves to be much more sincere than girls.

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Originally Posted by amalia1985

I only speak from my own experience and I believe that yes, they can be friends. Two of my best friends are boys, and sometimes they prove themselves to be much more sincere than girls.

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Oh, come on! Girls are sincere in a ... girlish way! that mutable, inconstant and rainy way.

Men are what they are. Girls are one thing on a day, and a complete different being in the following day ... Unless you pull the "yesterday girl" back to real life ... haha!

[Whenever possible!]


librarius
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To me ..I think it is hard to be a friend with a friend of the opposite sex without ..one of the 2 attract to the other

Duh!
Of course boys and girls can be friends. The boy just has to be gay and the girl a lesbian.

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Originally Posted by taliesin

duh!
Of course boys and girls can be friends. The boy just has to be gay and the girl a lesbian.

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heheheheheheheh


Exactly:)

so romantic novel and taliesin, are you both saying that you've never had a platonic friendship with a person on the opposite sex?

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Originally Posted by *Classic*Charm*

so romantic novel and taliesin, are you both saying that you've never had a platonic friendship with a person on the opposite sex?

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that's what it sounds like.. Unless they fit into one of the categories mentioned above :p hahah

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Originally Posted by amalia1985

Two of my best friends are boys, and sometimes they prove themselves to be much more sincere than girls.

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I have found this to be true in many cases of people that I have been friends with. I have had a lot of guy friends. I just tend to get along better with guys.

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Originally Posted by Taliesin

Duh!
Of course boys and girls can be friends. The boy just has to be gay and the girl a lesbian.

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well, it's always good to hear a different opinion! :eek:

:D ... :lol:


a klicky
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Originally Posted by Taliesin

Duh!
Of course boys and girls can be friends. The boy just has to be gay and the girl a lesbian.

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I love this! ^^

I tend to think that is true....because the thing about friends from the opposite sex is that they are usually the rebound when a relationship fails.. and if the other friend doesn't feel the same way hearts can be broken...

That is not to say that guys and gals can't be friends....its just a lot more complicated.

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Originally Posted by Domer121

I love this! ^^

I tend to think that is true....because the thing about friends from the opposite sex is that they are usually the rebound when a relationship fails.. and if the other friend doesn't feel the same way hearts can be broken...

That is not to say that guys and gals can't be friends....its just a lot more complicated.

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The breaking heart situation's very common. Reciprocity is many times expected, and not as many times achieved. (I got hurt a lot of times ...) Then I learnt not to fall for whatever girl drops by. (I hope!) (I'm kidding ... I did learn something, otherwise I'd be dead, I think ...)

This is why I spoke about putting a barrier ...

I fell for a girl, once, and she did wish (and managed) us to become just friends. I can't say I wasn't hurt, for a while, but it was wise of her, because she's much younger than me. I don't know if it would have been good (not talking about sex ...) to have gotten involved with her in my feelings ... So, it's a relief, now, that nothing actually happened between me and her, 'cause now I can still be her friend. But, if she allows me in, in the occasion, and then dumps me away ... Hey, then I'd have been really injured.

I avoid doing this with my friends of the opposite sex that I know that can let their feelings for me to grow beyond what I can correspond.

Reciprocity is very important in life and relationships. Including with a community, for example. I'd never be here if I had been rejected here. I make part of forums where I'm somehow, welcome. I've been to two from which I went away, because they weren't friendly places (with me, at least). It happens. It's part of life.


"Le petit"
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Originally Posted by librarius_qui

At the moment, I'm ... in a possible beginning with another friend. Hope is true, and all I can do is to hope, but ... If it goes, it'll do fine. I hope it goes! :nod:

Lets see ...

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Well ... It DIDN'T go. & We decided to be just friends.
If it does with her, it ... ay, has to do with me. (As a matter of respect. Not easy, but I feel I need to respect other people's feelings. When a girl likes you she likes you. When she doesn't, it's time to move on! I wanna girl who likes me, not one who keeps thinking about it.)


& I'm alive! :thumbs_up
So ... Just friends.
And she'll be among the best ones. That's good!~


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I have this GREAT friend who is a guy. I don't know what I'd do without him. Whether we ever get together or not is another thing...but I don't see it happening anytime soon. Which is fine with me. I don't really have feelings for him that way. He really is one of the best friends I've ever had, though.

Okay, on a more serious note.

There are people you are sexually attracted to.
There are people you can or have fallen in love with.
There are people you find aesthetically good-looking.
There are people you're friends with.
These categories might overlap and they often do, but they are different categories.

The question is a bit difficult to understand for me, being bisexual - what is meant here? That it is difficult to become friends and only friends with people that are in your "target group"? I don't know how it is for straight people, but I am not sexually attracted to everyone - and that means that there are a lot of people with whom it is "safe" to be friends - no sexual tension there, although they are, well, humans. Although there also might be the risk of falling in love, when you become very deeply involved with them.
Concerning the people you are sexually attracted to, yes, it is somewhat more difficult, but well, human relations are difficult.

But concerning people you don't feel sexually attracted to, yes, you can be friends, gender doesn't matter.
Shouldn't the question be rephrased as: "Can people who feel or can feel sexually attracted to each other be friends?"

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Originally Posted by Taliesin

But concerning people you don't feel sexually attracted to, yes, you can be friends, gender doesn't matter.
Shouldn't the question be rephrased as: "Can people who feel or can feel sexually attracted to each other be friends?"

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thanks for your well thought out answer, Tal.
I totally agree with you. I do not feel sexually attracted to everyone either, but some people seem to think that one must automatically be attracted to anyone of the opposite sex (in the case of heterosexual ppl). For example, I have a friend who does not have any guy friends and whenever she talks to a guy she starts checking whether he "ticks all the right boxes". She simply cannot be friends with any guy. This girl is an extreme example, because her mind's totally muddled anyway, but lots of people seem to think that whenever you say as much as "Hello" to someone of the opposite sex, it's a pick up line. :( I find this really confusing, because I've got a handful of guy friends with whom there is no sexual tension whatsoever.