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Why does life have to be so complicated? I keep thinking that's everything's going to get better someday but that day just doesn't seem to be coming. I haven't seen a happy person for such a long time, and don't get me wrong I'm not just talking about my own life. I mean life in general. Isn't this whole thing a big, pathetic joke?
Yep. In my opinion, it seems to be a series of events that cause suffering.
But, you sound like you might be kind of young (perhaps still in your 20's). If that's the case, just wait, life gets much, much worse.
That's mostly how I see it too. Nature is full of suffering, and we're part of it. I wish we could change that and keep more of the good stuff.Quote:
Originally Posted by keilj
My philosophy for the time being is to just make the best out of it and try to prevent the suffering I can prevent.
Top Tips for a Happy Life: http://www.online-literature.com/for...ad.php?t=64062
Life is what it is. If you dwell on the negative - that is what will define you; own you.
Volunteer. Learn to become a glass half full person. Hang with people who have good old fashioned wholesome fun. Get counseling. Turn off the news. Watch & read comedies that make you laugh. Smell the roses. Garden. Write about your cares (it's cathartic)... besides you've already started here; write a short story or poem or autobiography.
Best wishes,
tailor STATELY
You need to find a passion to carry you through life. Both long term goals and short term goals.
Me, I'm an artist - I've trained my brain to be one. But I'm not an artist if I don't do anything.
Before a work I get enthusiastic. During the work. After the work. Buying new materials.
Everyone else is also an artist - a lot just don't realise it because it seems easier to let someone else do it. And that may seem to be true, but from experience I know it's much less satisfying than having a project to occupy your mind - and it can be anything from rejuvinating an old piece of furniture with oils and fabrics, to writing the most amazing novel ever.
But it's up to you to do it first and talk about it later - not sit around imagining it. While you're dong it your brain develops ideas, and after you've finished your brain develops ideas for the next thing.
People who take up space and do absolutely nothing, expecting to be entertained, are miserable, selfish and boring, and deserve all the unhappiness the universe inflicts on them.
You have to generate your own happiness in which ever way you see fit though. You have to use your head and your hands. You have to feel that you've achieved something, that your time has been worthwhile and productive - this gives you the understanding and direction to ensure that your future will also.
Don't be a snail brain!
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Originally Posted by tailor STATELY
What you and others like you fail to realize is that just because you have the ability to see the bright side and are able to ignore the stark realities of suffering in this world, everyone is not built that way. And reading "tops tips" will not cause someone with deep conscience to be able to ignore the darkness in this world.
Behind every silver lining, there's a dark cloud - George Carlin
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Originally Posted by MystyrMystyry
This post has to be pure satire. There's no way you can actually be an adult and think this way
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Originally Posted by tailor STATELY
here's some more realistic advice - rather than that "glass half full" rot:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z2Q7YRDL90E
at least this clip reflects a realistic understanding of the truths of this world
I think the ability to think that way makes one an adult. It's a mistake to try to spin the lack of a skill as a positive.Quote:
Originally Posted by keilj
Ah, yes. There you are with your conscience, and if people happier than you had such a conscience they'd be less able to ignore the darkness, and so they'd be less happy. Those happy, conscienceless nitwits.Quote:
Originally Posted by keilj
If that's a fair way to characterise other human beings as an explanation of their tendency to see a bright side, then it would be equally fair to suggest that those who tend to see the dark side are actually self-important melodramatic scaredy-cats. Not, of course, that any sensible and kind person would make that kind of generalisation, any more than any kind and sensible person would write off happier people with phrases like 'what you fail to realise' and 'ignore the stark realities of suffering'. Either dismissal of vast swathes of humanity would be simplistic and childish.
The darkness of the world can't be helped. You have to find your own happiness without dwelling on the negatives.
When you use your mind to create something worthwhile (an experience for others also to enjoy), then you're doing something which is infinitely better than doing nothing, though this depends - if you're a snail brain washing dishes for a living of course you're going to hate life (fairly quickly I imagine). But if you 'make your own luck' and get the best job in the world where you're surrounded by interesting, exciting, and enthusiastic people with similar passions, then that's how to use your brain to generate happiness.
Hang out with the deadbeats if you think somewhere in the suffocating miasma of their nothingness you'll get to a position of as close to complete happiness you could wish for.
Who doesn't want to crack the joke that makes everyone laugh? Misery guts doesn't - and who cares about Misery guts? Not me - life's too short!
"Behind every silver lining, there's a dark cloud - George Carlin"
dark (for nightshifft)
all is not bunnies
and sunshine and puppies
and rainbows and kisses
and vistas bright
nor angel's wings
hugging one tight
sometimes it's dark
damn, it's dark
sometimes
dark
1/12/2010
tailor STATELY
I've been there and done that with what you portray as your sensibilities.
I've moved on and have tried to make a difference for the good in this wonderful world and life.
I repeat: Life is what it is. If you dwell on the negative - that is what will define you; own you.
Leaving this thread for brighter pastures.
Ta ! (short for tarradiddle),
tailor STATELY
It's a misconception to think that age makes you unhappy - the dribbly end bit does- but up to that point you may find yourself happier than when you were younger. Certainly I'd rather be older than a teen/ twenties.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencete...cientists.html
As someone with a rather debilitating disability, and someone whose had cancer several times, I feel sorry for you, keilj.
Meh, I am having a good time.
Top Tips makes me laugh, and what makes you think that being peed off about anything makes it any better?Quote:
Originally Posted by keilj
If it can be changed - change it. If it can't - do what you can. Neither of which requires miserableness.
Whatever makes you feel betterQuote:
Originally Posted by Mutatis-Mutandi
My premise must bother you, that you have to try to distort it instead of engaging itQuote:
Originally Posted by MarkBastable
If you have an original idea that you want to express - then do so. Instead of trying to misrepresent what I said by adding your own colorful language to it
If you and others in this thread want to mistake being a realist with being some kind of sulking curmudgeon, then feel free. If you want to engage in an intelligent conversation about the basis for people's happiness, what true happiness is built on, and, perhaps, how people cope with the unhappy things in this world, then maybe this Internet thread might become more interesting
In a world where alcoholism and dependence on psych drugs is quite high (see the recent study about "happiness" in European countries), I think it is extremely condescending and petulant to characterize people as "sitting around doing nothing". The world and the people in it are a little more complicated than thatQuote:
Originally Posted by MystyrMystyry
It seems that all of these "happy" people have very little empathy
here's a link to the study
http://www.fyiliving.com/mental-heal...-of-europeans/
I was surprised by it because I had always assumed that Europeans were generally happier than Americas. I had heard how some nations like Italy and Spain have a laid-back attitudes, 4-day work weeks.