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(another whiney *****y blog about women, in case you were wondering. )
Why do I bother? The other night I was out to dinner with a few of my CPR friends at bdub's, and we all (myself included) noticed a few things. More importantly, our waitress. She sat down at the table-rather close to me- to take our order. Nobody but me has ever seen someone do that. When I stopped to think about it, the only place that has happened was in places they were kind of required to socialize. (Think the likes of Hooters.) She spent a lot of time talking to me and nobody else at the table. Naturally, I flirted back. Who doesn't want to flirt with a cute waitress that you think you have absolutely no shot at? Anyway, after the umpth time she stopped during our four hour stay to see if we (I) needed anything, all four other people at the table started laughing. I had no clue what was going on. Cameron turned to me and says "Ben, you need to leave your number with your tip." I'm sitting there thinking why? Not that I don't want to, but why? Everyone else starts telling me everything that should have and did tip me off that I was getting a little more attention than the average customer. During this time, we paid up and when she gave me my change, it was the longest, most interactive change exchange I've ever had. After a few minutes of me fighting against what I wanted to do, I decided to go out on a limb. When it came time to leave, I wrote my name and number on each dollar bill (genius idea, right? Dollar bills don't get circulated that much.) that I left for a tip. I wrote it nice and big and left them all lined up all pretty and such. When I did that, I didn't expect anything to come of it. And guess what: nothing has come of it. I can't figure out why I'm disappointed. I can understand no response after a day, possibly even two. Which, it's only been two, but being the paranoid freak I am, I'm still anxious. The endless circle of questions- what if she sees it and just laughs that I fell for it and she got a nice tip? what if that nasty chick at the next table gets my dollar bill as change instead, and the waitress didn't see it? what if . . . and so it goes. I don't know why I bother with women. I'm hopeless and always have been. I haven't had an official 'girlfriend' since I was a sophomore in highschool. Maybe the lesson I'm sposed to learn from this is that I'm supposed to live my life out in the mountains as a hermit.
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  1. Veva's Avatar
    Are you always being that paranoid? anyway, if she calls, that will be something... wish you good luck
  2. Maryd.'s Avatar
    Poor dear. Don't despair. I have always said to my children... "There is always someone for everyone." When you find that someone, you will know. Until then cheer up, don't live out your life as a hermit. I have seen your picture and you are a handsome young man. If I was 20 years younger and a couple of billion miles closer... Ah well.
  3. IJustMadeThatUp's Avatar
    Girls are dumb, I can tell you that because I am one.

    P.S. Don't tell anyone I admitted that.
    P.P.S. Before you get all high and mighty, boys are dumb too.
    P.P.P.S. Did you ever think maybe she is scared to go out on a limb too? She might think you left it as a joke. Ah, the possibilities are endless. It always gets messy and blurry when peoplehave to swallow their pride and put themselves up for a fall.

    Wow, that became longer than I intended
  4. prendrelemick's Avatar
    They may be dumb, but they are a thousand times cleverer at romantic intrigue than the boys are.
  5. TheFifthElement's Avatar
    Maybe what you're supposed to learn from this is the next time you meet a cute girl and she shows you lots of attention, bite the bullet and ask her out directly.
  6. skib's Avatar
    In answer to your question Veva, yes. Regarding women, I am always this paranoid. Thanks!

    Maryd- Aw, thanks!

    Carly- I'm not supposed to tell anyone you're a girl? I'll try to keep that on the lowdown from now on.
    PS- Yep. Boys are dumb. I am one and I know a few as well.
    PPS- Thanks for the new 'noid' questions!

    prendrel- touche.

    Fifth- Believe it or not, this was quite a big step for me! One of these days it'll happen.
  7. Virgil's Avatar
    I think Fifth's advice is right. I know exactly how you feel. I remember fantasizing about many a waitress when i was young. (and single of course, before my wife sees this and beats me up ) I remember when one of my best friends wrote a note to a waitress and handed it to her. She laughed and smirked and moved on. Of course i think we must have been around 18 and she was at least in her mid 20's. You know, it's quite possible she didn't see your number on the bills. Also, it's tough (call me sexist here) for a girl to just call up a guy she just met like that. She probably sees hundreds of guys in a week. I think you needed to ask directly. Hey it was just as tough for me too at your age.
  8. TheFifthElement's Avatar
    Skib I sympathise. I've often thought that it must be tough being a guy and having to be the one to ask and face the prospect of rejection. Maybe you should become a regular, maybe that way you'll get a better feel for if she's interested or not?
  9. JuniperWoolf's Avatar
    Nooo, never write anything on the money. I've waitressed a lot, and we just scoop the bills up without looking at them, because that's what we do all day long. You've got to leave a note on a piece of paper or a napkin, that's much more noticeable.
  10. skib's Avatar
    Crap! I wish I would have consulted you beforehand Juniper! I almost wrote it on a napkin but for some reason I didn't. Fifth- for some guys it's tough. For me, it's absolutely terrifying. I would rather dodge cannonballs than risk rejection.
    Virg-I'm glad I'm not the only one with that problem.
  11. qimissung's Avatar
    Taking that kind of risk is terrifying, but unfortunately for men and women, there is no getting around it.

    When you reach the point where you can accept is as simply a moment in time that you participate in and enjoy it will be easier for you. You might be almost dead by then, but it will be easier.
  12. skib's Avatar
    I think that kind of risk may be the reason I'm staying single for the next ten years till I get over it.
    Don't get me wrong though- I have no problems with flirting! Just taking the initiative is what gets me.