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Halls of the Dark Muse

The Saga Continues

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Dark Muse
, 11-30-2009 at 02:56 AM (1369 Views)
I told you all about the story, of how I happened to give a bit of criticism to a fellow poet, in which I told him that I felt that certain parts of his poem came across as sexist and he through a conniption fit and the poem in question was a poem about the issue of domestic violence, and the issue I had with it, is that for one I felt it grouped all women in the category of being victims and weak and helpless (which you can imagine did not go over well with me) and two it seemed to suggest that only women are susceptible to domestic violence.

Well since that whole thing he has posted a statement to complain some more about my critique of the poem, and than to go on further talking about domestic violence, making it sound as if all women are natural victims, and he literally said that men who might be in that situation just bounce back from it, but women feel abandoned and alone.

To say the least I was LIVID!

I was like no way, you did not just say that.

First of all, I happen to have a close personal friend who guess what? Is a man in an abusive relationship. I am sorry that he has not confirmed to someone's machismo, masculine, stereotype, but he hasn't just "bounced" back from it. It is devastating to him on a daily basis, and what he goes through emotionally is no different than a woman in an abusive relationship. He has no family support system, a few close friends are his only family, if he left the relationship, he would have no where to go and no one to go to, and though it makes him miserable and depressed, he doesn't want to face the possibility of life completely alone without a partner.

And as a woman I was completely insulted by his continuing to presume that all women are just naturally passive and helpless creatures and cannot stand up for themselves.
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  1. mtpspur's Avatar
    Hmmmm your buddy sounds like he can;t get the chip off his shoulder. Can I lend him a chanin saw? As to your friend yes it is possible for men ot be abused it just doesn;t get the attention or sympathy the ladies do. Just saying as an observor of events. As to nowhere to go and aloneness it's sad to live in that manner and settle rather then see what might be waiting over the hill. Ihave known way too many agressive ladies over the years that to be honest the passive ones are a breath of fresh air to me. I personally worship women but FEAR them more. I have scars and a few secrets left.
  2. applepie's Avatar
    I don't know what to say. I can understand why you feel insulted. I sure do since I'm very far from being a "passive and helpless" person. I think this other poet does personify the overall thinking of society, in that he views only women as being victims of domestic violence. I've seen men beaten and scarred by their wives, and everyone turns a blind eye. The day they stood up for themselves and hit her back (as she deserved I might add) he was hauled to jail for it.
  3. Dark Muse's Avatar
    Yes, and the other thing is, while I am sure satisticaly there may be more women in abusive relationships, women are probably also more likely to come forward becasue of the way soceity is established and there may be more men who keep silent for fear of being ostercizied or not taken seriously.
  4. Virgil's Avatar
    This guy is a jerk. He ought to go into our religious threads and start arguing. If he can't take some constructive criticism then he has no right participating. One can only assume he is looking for accolades and feed his ego. He should go to a face to face creative writing class where we said our opinions on writing in person. Perhaps he needs to grow a pair.
  5. Dark Muse's Avatar
    Hahahaha well I have him the what for. Of which he has failed to yet respond to for some reason I cannot imagine why

    I am so nice and fluffy when I disagree with someone.