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do soul-mates exist?

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maraki16
, 10-29-2008 at 03:27 AM (1682 Views)
from time to time, more or less we have all heard a lot about soul-mates. about the famous alter-ego. the mirroring of ourselves in the face of someone else. many have tried to find theirs. i do not know whereas you believe in it or consider it to be a myth, a big lie created by the romantics to remind to the broken-hearted that there will always be a potential to find the ultimate lover. personally, i have dreamed of the white-knight, yes, of the fair prince riding a nice horse, a great deal. though growing older i limited my imagination to a guy wearing jeands and riding a dusty car- i don't like riding motorbikes. i finally understood that i live in a city and not in a fairytail i guess. but honestly, i do not think that i might have a lot of chances to find him.
oh, and you what's the worse part of the story? when you kiss the prince, then kiss him again and again, and the sneaky creature becomes a frog after having stolen too many kisses! and the nightmare can be endless... alternative end for the story: after yuo have given many many kisses to that prince without having taken notice of any suspicious changes in his height( you can still kiss him without being forced to kneel or hold him in your hand), colour( no, he has not become a huge fan of green yet), or speech(well, even if there was a change in his speech, if love can be blind, it could also be deaf right?), you live happily ever after. what? not in this alternative! in this story, you realise after some time that you have found the wrong prince! imagine having met a prince in really high spirits and that you were in a desperate need of a prince because of the season(spring and summer can be really tricky indeed!) or i don't know what else, and after some time you realise he is not the prince of south let's say, but the prince of north. what are you doing then? you tell me.
to get a little more serious though, i'll try to expose my more mature approach to this controversial issue(even more controversial than the one considering the existence of gay penguins-ok, i've nearly found the mature one; i think it ir right...here.)
so, how do we consider our soul-mate to be like? should he be someone as beautiful internally as externally as we'd wish him to? is it really possible to find someone that can fully live up to our expectations? hey, don't wait for answers here! if i had them, i would not bother writing this thing, i would be out tracing my precious!
and supposely soul-mates really exist. does every single person has one? what if some people don't? and is it possible for alter-egos to exist? i mean, for more than one soul-mate for each one of us? and are we bound to meet at least one of them during our life? and if yes, how are we going to recognize him? are we destined with our alter-ego for ever once we've found him, or is it possible to break-up? but can we really move on after losing our soul-mate? i will not bother with the potential of three alter-egos existing and only two of them getting together. poor third one!love is made just for two!
so, is it possible to meet our soul-mate? what if he lives far away, in another country? and what if he has another relationship or family? or if he is much older or younger than us and we are not comfortable with that? or if he belongs to the same sex and we are not gay and vice versa? what happens if one of the two dies before they even meet? what if we spend the whole of our lives near each other and never get the chance to see one another? moreover, are soul-mates bound to be lovers? or can they be inlolved in some other kind of relationship? friendship, blood-relation etc? what if our soul-mate is a pet? anorthodox views you think? well, never claimed to be right!
so, honestly, what do you think? should i give up hope and give the frog a chance evn if i know that he won't become a prince? or at least a human-being?
yours,
mary

Updated 10-29-2008 at 08:14 AM by maraki16

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  1. mtpspur's Avatar
    If you are serious about wanting a soul-mate. NEVER SETTLE!!!! That way will lead to bitterness and apathy and a loss of joy, respect for yourself and the poor tadpole that couldn't even stay a frog. I personally believe my wife is A soul mate and I can think of ONE other who I have NEVER and NEVER WILL blog about (considering all the other ladies I have spoken of in my blog that's quite a feat). I'm of the belief that if the heart's desire for a partner is there then the partner IS out there. Just don't know which they will appear.
    Updated 10-29-2008 at 04:19 AM by mtpspur
  2. maraki16's Avatar
    well, then i suppose i should not let frogs seduce me without strenuous resistance ha? so you think i should wait for the prince. prince-frog:1-0 so far.
    oh, and good to know someone has found his soul-mate!
  3. NikolaiI's Avatar
    I agree with Rich mostly. I think that a soul-mate might not exist. But, the same thing or better can be found in a relationship, although it is rare. I believe there's a great deal to life that we do not understand. When I met my fiancee I had overwhelming feelings which could be interpreted as finding my soul-mate. I felt as though I knew her all my life. And I felt as though the time I spent with her I had known all my life, somewhat like deja vu. And we fell in love within two days' time or so.

    You have to find for yourself what it is you most greatly desire. Because whatever is right for you, only you can tell. For me my greatest happiness depends on a certain type of relationship, which is with one person, and full devoted for the rest of my life. Whatever you desire, you should get shared expectations with your partner.

    You say, "at least a human." This is important-- for some people acting like a human is impossible, and for others they always will. It seems important to you, so you should absolutely require that they be a decent person. So whatever your standards are, find someone who fits within them. I say this because you should simply ask yourself-- you know the answer to this-- if you can be happy with the person. And then you'll know.
  4. maraki16's Avatar
    prince-frog:2-0
  5. B-Mental's Avatar
    I'm trying to figure out the word soul mate. Do you mean a person out there that will be present in your future that was your true love in the past? If so, there is a possibility that your past life you didn't have that one perfect love. I read Nik's comment and become a little envious, but there is always a chance that you can meet your soulmate.
  6. maraki16's Avatar
    yeah, i also felt a little jealous...good for him. i hope i might be as lucky as he is someday. people like nik help me continue to hope.
  7. NikolaiI's Avatar
    Did I say too much? ;) don't be jealous of me*is sad now*

    I only wrote it because I was looking at what a soul-mate might be. My own life has left me with the indelible impression that we can know things which would seem impossible. I believe in God and I believe that, since He is the source of all worlds; all that is bestowed is bestowed by Him alone, or at least originally. In other words, knowledge like this would come from Him and relationship to Him. But a soul-mate type love would be like this in my opinion.

    But don't jinx me, please. :) It has been less than a year as yet. She is my love, but I will not be satisfied ever. That is the way of love, and... well, this verse from the song "love is a rose" sums it up right.

    "Love is a rose but you better not pick it,
    it only grows when it's on the vine.
    Handful of thorns and you know you've missed it,
    your love disappears when you say the word mine."
  8. applepie's Avatar
    Once I believed in the idea of a soul mate and the whole Happily ever after illusion. Then I realized that when you love someone, even if it is the never ending grow old together variety, it is hard work to keep that love alive. Love is a very fragile thing, and it is easily broken. If you don't work to stay in love, then eventually you'll wake up one day and wonder what happened to the love you once shared.
  9. Shalot's Avatar
    some say life is what you make it. some say this realm here is a physical manifestation of our thoughts. maybe the idea of a soul mate just refers to some old soul you keep encountering life after life. You seem to be "made for each other" because you keep finding each other life after life and life lesson after life lesson. And it's always good to keep in mind, that love is a fragile thing, and you have to work at it. Keep all that in mind, and treat people well. You can't injure someone if you're being kind, and if what you put out comes back to you, then just stay optimistic yet realistic, and the person you need will come to you. Or, maybe you just need to be alone, whether it feels like it or not. who knows.
  10. Virgil's Avatar
    Well, white knights re a crock but soul mates exist. If not at first people can gravitate to become soul mates. My wife is my soul mate.