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Anza
, 04-22-2008 at 07:27 PM (1802 Views)
Mea Mater ages me insana!! All I ever hear from Mom anymore is "Amber, listen to me..." "I need you to..."
God! I know it sounds selfish, but what about me?!? What about me needing someone to listen to me?! What about taking care of myself instead of taking orders?! She's so selfish, sometimes. Exempla gratia, I have a 1000 word research paper due Thursday, and she wants me to set up her laptop. So without thinking I said what I really thought-- "why can't you do it for yourself?" I mean, she bullied me into going to this awards ceremony this afternoon, and that took about two hours from my homework time. Then I ask her to do that for herself, so that I could be allowed to take care of my own needs... who cares about my needs, anyway? ANd have I not served her needs faithfully?
Then all I get is "I don't want to hear any lip from you, I've had enough from your sister!" What am I, an invisible child?
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  1. Bakiryu's Avatar
    Oh poor Anza! You should show her. Ignore her and treat her badly too!
  2. 1n50mn14's Avatar
    Aww babe, having siblings is hard, and being a teenager is hard, I know... that sucketh severely, though... good luck with everything, thinking of you. Becca.
  3. Anza's Avatar
    but I'm the reason she's not in the insane asylum, Baki. if I did that to her... the family would fall apart. She holds the family together, and I hold her together.
    And thanks Becca!
  4. Virgil's Avatar
    No, don't treat anyone badly. I think you said your sister is bi-polar. Unfortunately she has special needs. Consider yourself blest that you are healthy. I know for a fourteen year old this is hard, but you've got to suck it up and help your mother. Would you prefer the roles were changed and you had bi-polar? She needs help and she needs you. You will be better for it. Honor est praemium virtutis.
  5. Anza's Avatar
    But Virgil, how am I supposed to help her when she turns on me. it's like saving a snake who promptly turns and bites the crud out of you...
  6. Virgil's Avatar
    Is it your mother or your sister that's turning on you? Perhaps you need to sit with your mother and tell her she's being unfair. Tell her you want to help but she's got to encourage not discourage you. Get your father to help too. I know it's difficult. I feel for you. But screaming back isn't helping anything.
  7. andave_ya's Avatar
    Anza, I'm really sorry. You have my sympathies, but I really think that you'll do a great job. Let me know if there's anything I can do for you. Can you talk to her and see if she'll listen to you? I'm sure she knows how great you are.
  8. mtpspur's Avatar
    Sometimes with the stress and ups and downs of ife a parent will forget how special their child is or take for granted that the child will love them anyway when they are not at their best. Mind you my didn't work out well most of the time but I always got to see some other family dynamics work well. A soft answer turns away wrath says the Bible and you would be amazed how that works out if you try it.