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It's been another long week, but there is good on the hoizon. Tom is coming to visit in just another week, and we are all looking foward to having him here. I must admit that there is a selfish part which doesn't wish to share him with anyone, and she is a bit resentful to hear that my in-laws are taking vacation time. I know, it's petty, but I can't seem to help it. I'm also waiting for them to ask him to do work on their house during the week he is here. They've already asked him to build a fence for them, but I'm not sure how big, but the property is five acres so I'm guessing pretty large. I personally think it is a little unfair to want you son to come home and do work for you when he hasn't sen his kids in three months.

This isn't really a rant, per se, but let me give you a bit of background on this whole situation of having my husband spend his vacation time fixing things that they've torn up. The last time we were home visiting as a family they had work in the house that just HAD to be finished. They wanted a bedroom refloored, and they also wanted a bathroom refinished. Now the floor wasn't a big deal and it was finished in a few hours, but then they dropped the bomb about the bathroom with an "Oh by the way, we've bought the materials and rented the equipment, so will you do this too. Oh yeah, and will you spend two days at the house waiting for a new recliner chair to be delivered". The short story is that he spent the entire week at his Mom's house fixing things and refinishing the rooms and waiting on that chair. There were some issues with poor materials they had bought for the bathroom, and my hubby didn't have the time to get the toilet back in. For something that was so urgent that he spent his vacation doing it, I find it a little odd that the thing is still missing the sink and toilet some two or three years later.

Now they want a fence on this new property that they've bought, and they've the nerve to ask him for it. Hence, there's a bit of resentment there. I just find it a little cruel to ask him to spend his vacation time, this time with his kids, building a fence that if unfinished they'll not complete. It will be just another thing for him to do the next time that he's home. Just so you know I'm not just feeling mean:) I'll add on that it isn't as if my father in law doesn't have the skills. He spent years as a contractor and knows all the ins and outs of building. He's just lazy about it.

I really want to like my in laws. I love them, but sometimes I can't help but dislike them. I know it is the nature of family, but as always I hate being resentful of people that I love. I just can't help but wonder the issues we'll have when we are here for good. They've already hinted that they want us to come out and take care of the animals they've bought each weekend, but it isn't happening. We are going to have our own house and things that need to be done there, but it's like she has him conditioned into the idea that he owes her for something. He'll not deny his mom on anything regardless of who it hurts, even if it is his kids. I just think of the demands they place on his time when visiting, demands to do work on their home, and all I can think is if this is how it is now, What are they going to want when he's home to stay?

Oh well, I guess it is a worry for another day, but the good news is that Tom is coming home:D I've also had another interview this week that I felt went really well. Hopefully I'll be going in for another round in a week or so.

Take Care,
Meg