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Saturday morning I got up a little later for practice than usual. As I get ready in the morning I turn on the radio station and warm up my voice. But there was no music playing and I headed over toward the radio to turn the station, until I realized that some pastor was giving a service on the station, so I thought instead I might listen to that while getting ready. The next thing I realize, I am sitting on my bed with my journal in hand and taking notes rapidly.

The speaker said that there are four major decisions in life that we all must make (more or less):

1. In whom/what we will believe. (i.e. our faith)

2. What our profession will be.

3. How much education we will put into our profession (i.e. how long we will go to school and for what degrees).

4. Who we will marry - if we choose to get married.

I suddenly realized that on top of a new city, new home, and family out of state, that I am pretty much involved in all four of these decisions...at the SAME time. Now these are pretty big decisions, but I tend to think that a lot of people are lucky enough to make them one at a time. Not in the span of a couple of months like me.

So forgive my absence among the forums...

Now whenever I resort to writing services down into a journal, I never really go back to them. But that same day, and the whole weekend as a matter of fact, I've been constantly repeating this information (along with the following) to friends...and it has helped them greatly as well as it has helped me.

The pastor went on to talk about Song of Songs chapter 5. And I share this information because one day, at least I would like to hope, it might help one of you.

Chapter 5 talks about a woman who wakes up and realizes she can't find her lover. In the middle of the night she searches the town and gets beaten up by the guards in search of the one she loves. Some women ask why she searches so passionately for her lover. So she describes him physically, and ends the chapter by saying "he is my beloved, he is my friend." She not only was in love with him, but she liked him as her friend as well.

Going through the marriage process myself, I got stuck to this part of the service. The pastor said that we could be in love with someone, but at the same time we could also not like this person. If that is the case, there is trouble. He said that anyone who is contemplating marriage or on the point of the alter should ask: "If this person whom I love were to be exactly the same ten years from now as he/she is today, would I still love him/her?"

If you cannot say yes, get out of there.

Needless to say that probably opens a lot of eyes. Just been thinking about it and wanted to share. Pretty good advice even if you aren't Christian. I will try to write some more later...life has been pretty interesting.