Virgil

Sorry to hear about your mother. I say get your ducks in a row and go to her when you can, even if it's just for a while, unless you think it would do more harm than good somehow, or unless there isn't anyone else. Good Luck

Surgery such as that are more and more commonplace. I see visiting both ways--the immediate visit to put you and her fears to rest and the other isit for the care she WILL need afterwards. I am sorry for the loss of your father--it took me more time then it should have to grieve properly. Having mother issues of mine own right now. On the other hand, depending on her general health her age isn't too bad. Beware of pneumonia during this time--someone told me hip injuries seem to encourage that as an aftermath. As my doctor says not trying to be an alarmist just want you to be aware. All the best Virgil--with respect and concern Rich

oh, man, Virgil, I'm sorry. That can be really tough. I'll be keeping you in prayers.

hey virgil sorry to hear about your mom. the same happened to my mom a few years ago and she had to receive the same procedure. her doctor considered using an artificial hip but used a pin and plate and saved it. this turned out to be a good thing because she didn't lose any range of movement whatsoever. she's in her 70s as well and had the same anxiety at the time. rest assured she's with the best medicine has to offer and will be up and about in no time like my mom was. having gone through that experience with her gave me a newfound confidence in the medical industry, it's the best. keep me posted, and hang in there.

I am very sorry to hear of your mother's fall, Virgil. I hope that her surgery goes well and that all the best of science is offered to her. As for whether or not to visit now or later (or both), I am not sure what to say. So just know that you are in my thoughts and please keep us posted. And a final note -- I was very sorry to read about your father's passing, and though my wishes are late, please take care, Virgil.

Oh goddess! I'm so sorry to hear about what happened to your mother. I hope she recovers soon and easily. You should visit her when you can or as soon as you can help, unless there's someone else to be with her in the first few days. Please keep us posted. *Best wishes, Jin.

your poor mam. She must be in alot of pain. I hope her surgery goes well and that she'll be okay soon.

Aw, Virg. That's sad news, life is always stressful enough and then something like this happens and it can seem overwhelming. Hang in there, and I'm sure your sister will be able to help your mother during recovery, so you don't have to bear all of the responsibility yourself, you know.
Let us know how she is. You are in my thoughts.

I'm so sorry about your mom. You're right that it may be better to go later. She'll probably be in the hospital for a little while and a lot of hip patients go to a nursing home for a couple of weeks. Do you know what she wants you to do? Keep up posted. It's hard to live away isn't it

I'm sure that your mom will appreciate your concern and your visit whenever it happens. I hope her surgery goes well. Take care Virgil. ~Meg~

Thank you so much Shalot, Rich, Andy, Jon, Kizzo, Baki, Niamh, Riesa, Mom-H, and meg. Your thoughts have helped and encouraged me. I can tell you Mom-H she would hate to go to a nursing home at all costs. My father was there for over a year before he finally passed away and she was there every day with him. I know it will bring back a lot of bad memories. I've also heard here that people are out and home in two weeks or less sometimes. What scares me is not the operation and initial rehab. The thing that worries me is that as I researched this on the internet, I found that mortality rates after a year from a hip fracture operation is 25%. That's pretty damn high. I think the shock to the system of an older person can really bring them down. Luckily my mother is in pretty good shape for her age. She passed a stress test with flying colors just over a year ago, and her bones were not supposed to have been brittle last time she had an xray. Anyway, she went in for the operation a couple of hours ago, and I'm waiting to hear.

Virgil,

Hope all goes well with your mother's operation and she recovers quickly and smoothly.

Please keep us informed.