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Countess
, 08-20-2007 at 11:30 AM (1817 Views)
My son is back, which is great. Since returning home, my parents have not contacted me. They have not asked me over for dinner, or even come up to my apartment to drop off Jordan (they walk to the foot of the steps, and watch him go in.) They show no interest in wanting to see me at all.

Maybe it's the eyebrow piercing. I've been shunned for a 1/2 inch metal bar going through my skin.

Jordan called them on their disinterest. He said they loved my brother more than me. They said they love me but there is always a favorite in the family, and that is my brother. My son told them they never call or ask about my life; they said they do but that I always say "I don't want to talk about it."

That is a bald-faced lie, through and through.

This is what its like to be raised in my family. It's been this way since I was little.

I wonder if their attitude reflects God's attitude towards me - "I love you, but don't want to see you. I have no interest in your life. Have a nice day."

It probably is - there's always a favorite in the family with God. And, there is always one shunned, disdained and hated from birth. We see it throughout the Old Testament and in the New Testament in Romans. I am the hated one; I am the shunned one; I am the bearer of the sins, but what am I to do? Rail against God? What's the point in that? It's ridiculous! Romans makes that point. Am I to suffer it, or should I end it all, so the storyline ends prematurely - why rewrite a Bible book about a loved son and hated daughter? It's been done; the point's been made; it's all redunant now.

As soon as Jordan turns 18, I'm leaving, though I may not make it that far. I am going away - to live in a monastery or commune or graveyard. Those are really the only three places I could find peace.
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  1. applepie's Avatar
    I'm sorry to hear that your parents act like that. No child deserves to recieve such treatment from their parents, but don't feel that it is a reflection of God's feelings towards you. That is a fault in your parents. I can't imagine saying that I love both of my children, but one is always the favorite. It is possible to love them both, equally, for different reasons. I see it as a fault with your parents that they have yet to discover that fact, and even worse, they would dare to tell your son that there is always a favorite and that it is his uncle.
  2. Virgil's Avatar
    Glad your son is back home Countess. As to the other stuff, if one doesn't get support from people you should get support from, well, then you have to do it on your own. I know you can and your son needs your help still and always will. Abandoning him at any age would be as bad as your parents abandoning you. Your son will always need you in some manner.
  3. Neo_Sephiroth's Avatar
    Whoa...Hey there! I don't think that God has that attitude towards you. God does love you, God does want to see you, God does have an interest in your life, and...Pheesh...It's obvious that God does always say "Have a nice day." ...Well, I'm assuming He says that. Given all the talk about how nice He is.
  4. andave_ya's Avatar
    I'm glad your son is home, but I'm awfully sorry that your parents are that way. I don't know what I'd do in that situation.......... I've never noticed what you said about there always being a favorite and a shunned one in the family. Granted, there are people who know both far more and far less about the Bible than I do, but according to the Bible we are all equal in God's eyes........... What story are you talking about, with the hated daughter and loved son? Could it be attributed to the way women are portrayed in the Old Testament?
    Not good for much besides child-bearing and working? ................ And, how can God love you but not take an interest in you and your life? He says in Deuteronomy that He will never leave you nor forsake you. He's in Heaven preparing a place for you. Come on, God sent His only Son to die for you. And also, whom the Lord loves, He chastens. Love and prayers, Andya.
  5. kiz_paws's Avatar
    I think that no matter what, all we have in life is what we can give in the way of ourselves to others. So what you can give to Jordan is your undivided attention to his upbringing, sifted with little things that don't cost anything (walks, talks, singing to him, holding him, teaching him about miscellaneous stuff that kids' find curious, etc.). In the end, he will grow up thinking that no one matches his mom. And he'll try to find a girl just like her. So keep your head above ground, stay happy, find solace in knowing that you have friends here. We don't know everything, but we are always there for you, Countess. Cheers to being with Jordan! YAY!
  6. littlewing53's Avatar
    countess..he who begins a good work will be faithful to completion...he has your name written on his palm, he knows the number of hairs on yr head...he is intimate w/the number of your days...he is the lifter of our heads...u are his one and only...come unto me all ye that labor and are heavy laden and i will give you rest...his perfect peace he has for you...hold fast to the hem of his garment...unto the upright there arise light in the darkness, he is gracious and full of compassion and righteous...he leads you beside the still waters and restores our souls...amen...to encourage not discourage he is...
  7. mtpspur's Avatar
    Finally got around to catching up--computer at home is acting up so I'm work. Very disappointed in your parents. My were major pains as teenagers but they always I was good for a I told you so. As to God I find He pays mre attention to me then I Him. I have also learned favored down her not so favored in Heaven. "They have their reward." I personally have believed that God has been very active in your life (on the surface negatively) much as the first appearance of the Syphonecian woman (BIble not handy) who mentioned that the dogs get the crumbs. A careful stidy of that passage shows the Lord Christ VERY open to uplifting a so-called rejected one. Subtle but it's there if we consider His character and his indiviualized treatment of all of us. Not far from the thoughts when on Litnet--Love Rich
  8. motherhubbard's Avatar
    I know you are glad to have your son home and I’m glad for you. What a relief to have your arms full again! As for your parents, I don’t know where that comes from. It’s not good parenting. It’s not the kind of love a mother or father feels for any child. Their bad parenting and selfish hearts do not reflect your lack of value, in fact I would say just the opposite. You are such an awesome person in spite of their crappiness. Sorry to speak so harshly of your parents. But I hate for someone to make you sad and steal your since of worth. I sure do think you’re great.
  9. Granny5's Avatar
    Countess, always know that everything will get better. Nothing is so bad that one can think about doing bad things to ones self. Especially if you have a child. And it doesn't matter what age that child is, they will always need their Mom. I wish your parents were a little more open minded. If I never spoke to my children because they were independent individuals, I'd wouldn't have been on speaking terms with any of them for years! I though a parents' job was to make them that way. But to each their own. Just remember that your child needs you more than anything else....ANYTHING. My Mother has been gone for nearly 30 years and I still need her. I would give just about anything to just see her. Don't make Jordan feel that lonelyness until he absolutely has to. Maybe in 60 years or so. You have to be your own person and not depend on others to feel good about yourself. It's very hard I know but it is a path to happiness. You'll be alright because you are intelligent and love your son. Best wishes.