day in a life

Hey, do possibly suffer from a social anxiety kind of thing? I can totally relate to this and I know how difficult being this way can be particularly if you are trying to meet a partner. I have real sympathy for you.

Are you feeling a bit better, Helga?

B4B has a point and it's something to think about, even maybe investigate.

Also, maybe it's just a matter of getting to know yourself and your limits. Could you hang with the group just once or twice a week?

It sounds like it's been a bit frustrating, so I hope you have a lovely, quiet weekend, with lots of reading and your favorite shows. Take care.

It's ok Helga. Solitude is good. Some need it more of it than others. As to what you call "dysfunctional," the only person you have to feel comfortable with is yourself. If you need to cut back from people, then do so. Every day is a bit much. I can't do that myself. Try limiting the socializing to a day a week.

Talk about dysfunctional. Want to hear a funny story. This past week at work there's a little group of us that once in a long while get together for lunch. Well we were coordinating it and four of us were planning on riding in someone named Allison's car. Me and Greg sit fairly close together and Allison and Andy sit at the other side of the building. That's the four. So come lunch time Greg and I are waiting for Allison and she's not showing up. It's late. We walk to where she sits and she's not there, and neither is Andy. We wait more and she's not back and Greg and I decide to go in Greg's car. So in the car I decide to shoot Allison an email to tell her we left. Those darn keys on the blackberry are so small for my fingers and I don't usually proof read what i write. This is what I sent:
"allison - greg and i couldn't find f you. We left. See ya there."

That "f" in "f you" was a typo. It was taken wrongly.

That is funny. Thanks for the chuckle.

that's funny, virgil!

I have been thinking about talking to someone, maybe I'll do that.

I get like that sometimes as well Helga. I can relate to what you've said quite a lot. Don't worry about it so much because it's not just you. As the others have said, limit your time with people a bit more, you may find that while you are away from people for a few days you begin to crave their company, and then for the short amount of time you are hanging out with your friends you'll feel more comfortable around them.

That's funny Virgil.

I also sometimes avoid people for 2 months at a time. I don't go anywhere except my house, errands, and the grocery store, plus work. I have no needs and do not feel lonely. However, when I do socialize again, I feel really good. I think limiting a social schedule can be helpful or even just seeing one person. I also find hang around with my son is enough socializing for me. He is so socially normal that he reminds me to snap out of it sometimes. Good luck with whatever you feel like doing. Litnet can be the best source of social interaction.