Do you relive you your past suffering?

[osho]

I often do when I recall some of my past woes. Nobody’s life is totally full of joys and of course some might have gone through more traumatic moments and others less so but the truth is everyone has to take troubles and struggles in life. Kids have to go to school though going to school enervate them and I hated going to school in my childhood but there was no choice. School in my part of the world was and still is not the like one finds in American or European countries. Schools are remote with no good transport systems. I had to walk for hours and even cross rivers. This is one example Of course I am living luxuriously today and of course we have been more wealthier and money and also the things money can buy are accessible with less efforts today than it used to be decades ago. Of course I had hard times with my elders. Though I had a passion for learning there was no suitable environment. I am a self-made man, that means I worked hard to achieve a success.

In retrospection life was full of worries and I have to face scantiness. But that part of life with less material goods and economic advantage was not totally without happiness compared to the kind of material or materialistic success I have attained.

Turning to the topic, I with hindsight mull my earlier somewhat woeful days particularly when I used to be rebuked for no reason I feel sad momentarily. It seems, psychologically speaking, some of the distressing moments we had in the past pop up to upset even today’s life.

This is not my autobiographic note and though written subjectively the purpose is to give an example in the context of the subject I am putting forth for discussion on this forum

[Oedipus]

I suffer the same way every day; the overblown vindictive curses of fate, the dark jinxes and mockeries of mein fellows. Oh! How I long to defeat my enemy, life.

"It seems, psychologically speaking, some of the distressing moments we had in the past pop up to upset even today’s life" -- upset? On the contrary; every hardship of former times lends assistance to the now; is there no lesson one cannot learn from the grand follies of themselves?

Material goods? The cult of money is the evil of today; superficial feuilletonism second, (one of the latter's school lends themself to the former), post-scarcity beckons and whence that we shall be happier - if that means vacuous?

Oh hardship, a fine teacher; this little love letter is addressed to you: always the hard partner - always the useful; if one knows where to look in thou'dst soul?

DEATH IS LIFE

SUFFERING IS HAPPINESS

PAIN IS LOVE

TEENS ARE EMO WANKERS

[YesNo]

One of the things I want to avoid doing with past suffering is project it onto others in the present as a way to relieve the pain. Also I don't think it is good to pretend it isn't there.

The experience of past suffering is a present discomfort. It will go away, like everything else. One might as well experience it and see what insight occurs as a result of doing that.

[jajdude]

I think everybody relives past suffering. When we talk about painful experiences from recently or long ago, we feel sad at the moment too. All that is somewhere in our psyche, I suppose. Something really painful may have been buried, and its effects can make the present unhappy, or can make us neurotic without understanding why we act or feel in unhappy ways. There is so much that happens and accumulates as we get older, and so much of it never seems to be resolved. All this past experience influences us very much and has great importance in our lives as long as it goes unresolved I guess.

[osho]

I recall a moment when I read Greek tragedies, melodramatic events, in which they put us through a series of cathartic stages with the objective of getting the audience relieved of their past ailments that went buried deep down.

I hate to recall them and yet I cannot help it and these thoughts of the pains I had undergone at some times in my life are really deadening. Thank God we have short memories. I forget things soon and that have indeed helped me immensely. Or else I would have not been alive with a heap of woes weighing down on me all the time.

[Delta40]

Retrospect is the key word for me Osho. At some point these things are there to be sorted through gradually, understood if only a little better than before then put away - not forever but for anytime they need further understanding. I feel I rewrite my history over and over as I get older. Not about what happened - you can't lie about incest for example but you can review how it has shaped you, how you interpret the road you have travelled and what your feelings are about it at this point in your life. These things are not carved in stone and allow us the opportunity to grow from our experiences to become more substantive individuals.