Why a relationship cannot go far?

[osho]

Why people become fed up with one another in a while? And I have no relationship will be fascinating after some time? When people fall in love, have sex and make a bond and set up a family it seems as if they will do it for good but the fact is the relationship will go sour gradually.

Is it the chemistry of the bodies in a relationship that affects their intimacy? Maybe human bodies secrete some chemicals and the people in a relationship feel a kind of repulsion in a while?

Even friendship in which there is a little give and take thing ends up in a while.

[free]

Maybe because they base their relationship predominantly on physical attraction which has not enough power to keep them in a harmonious connection for a long time.

[hannah_arendt]

Nothing lasts forever I think. It is very difficult to find a person with whom you can create a very deep and longlasting realtionship.

[cacian]

relationships do last it depends on who is who and how we view ourselves with others.
living with someone takes time and effort and motivation is one of them.
relationships boil down to everything we do from the day we are born family ties/circle societies and how we come to be through the impact of our wider environment.
in order to have a solid relationship with a partner we have to have a solid confident view of ourselves in relationship with our families and the world around us.

[osho]

It is interesting to read your views. Humans have flaws and they lead us to be imperfect beings. Then to think about having a perfect relationship is simply an imagination. Yes relationship goes on to a certain extent and there comes an edge and one has or is compelled to face a precipice. Humans want space and when he feels his space trespassed he will protest. Of course humans have needs and these needs cannot be fulfilled alone and they need someone to have acts of sex and also to rear children or to protect themselves against external aggressions. For example cave women need men to defend themselves and their children from predators.

That is why they want to compromise for a certain reason and the relationship goes on physically thought they can still continue internally is called into question,

[osho]

Nothing lasts forever I think. It is very difficult to find a person with whom you can create a very deep and longlasting realtionship.

you are true and particularly in a world of commerce wherein everything is for sale. Love is for sale, relationship is for sale, sex is for sale. Everything is measured in economic terms. I often think people choose to stay together to satiate their own individual urges and there is little to do with sacrifice.

People have to learn to adjust singly and yet the relationship can be possible if there is a common interest.

[Delta40]

People hardly enter into relationships for the good of the community - at least in western cultures. So individual needs is the key term and perhaps a contributing factor. I really dont know but we are a consumerist society not a productive one and I'm sure this impacts on the erosion of many things including relationships.

[Darcy88]

People hardly enter into relationships for the good of the community - at least in western cultures. So individual needs is the key term and perhaps a contributing factor. I really dont know but we are a consumerist society not a productive one and I'm sure this impacts on the erosion of many things including relationships.

That's exactly what I intended to say. We have gone far in the direction of individualism, often seeming to avoid or discard things which make us responsible to anyone other than ourselves, and we are also members of a consumer culture to whom almost everything is disposable.

[free]

We could explain it from the point of the general mind's nature, too. Human mind has not evolved yet from its level of hunting to survive. Although we apply agriculture, our world's mind is still on the level of hunters. One goes hunting, catches 'an animal', eats it and that's the end of story. Then he or she goes hunting again to catch a new animal. Symbolically speaking, of course, it could be applied to relationships as well.

[tonywalt]

That's true about the disposable nature of our western society, but i see alot of very miserable marriages in Thailand, rural parts of China, and the Dominican Republic. And they are all in the industrial stage of their economies, with the only sections of the big cities qualifying as consumerist in habits and outlook.

But I do not some marriages that appear to be happy, and that always gives me hope. The common denominator is always that they are really good friends - a very true cliche.