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cacian
06-05-2013, 10:41 AM
this purely research purposes

how how would you feel if someone left someone they were with for you?
cafolini
06-05-2013, 10:53 AM
It depends on why and what for. But that's very hard to determine without good acquaintance with the circumstances and, of course, meaningful feelings for the other person. Cannot be based on hearsay,
Ecurb
06-05-2013, 11:42 AM
What do you mean? Did she break promises made before "God and this Company"? Or did she abandon her "wing-woman" at a bar to head into the night with me? Or something in between?
Melanie
06-05-2013, 05:44 PM
...how how would you feel if someone left someone they were with for you?
I would call upon my common sense to remind me that if the schmuck would leave someone they were with for me, then the schmuck will someday leave me for someone else.

And as far as how I would "feel"?...in one word, "relieved" to find this out, the sooner the better....because why would anyone want to spend time with someone who doesn't care about them enough to stay?
cafolini
06-05-2013, 07:22 PM
I would call upon my common sense to remind me that if the schmuck would leave someone they were with for me, then the schmuck will someday leave me for someone else.

And as far as how I would "feel"?...in one word, "relieved" to find this out, the sooner the better....because why would anyone want to spend time with someone who doesn't care about them enough to stay?

LOL... Common sense is not so common. Well...maybe within yourself sense is common and that's what you mean.

In any case, you make some very good points...the sooner the better... later for the birds.

Yiddish shmok. It means penis. In USA, it may mean jerk.
Darcy88
06-05-2013, 11:20 PM
Flattered. I don't frown on it at all unless she is married. I've made a few plays for attached women. The only time I have an issue is when they don't tell me they have a boyfriend but flirt or fool around with me anyway. Then I lose respect and deem them undatable.
cacian
06-06-2013, 02:50 AM
I would call upon my common sense to remind me that if the schmuck would leave someone they were with for me, then the schmuck will someday leave me for someone else.
I have never experienced it myself but I am wondering whether this is always true.


And as far as how I would "feel"?...in one word, "relieved" to find this out, the sooner the better....because why would anyone want to spend time with someone who doesn't care about them enough to stay?
how about your feelings?
what if you had feelings for him? I think one cannot always dictate how one feels towards another :)
cacian
06-06-2013, 02:52 AM
Flattered. I don't frown on it at all unless she is married. I've made a few plays for attached women. The only time I have an issue is when they don't tell me they have a boyfriend but flirt or fool around with me anyway. Then I lose respect and deem them undatable.

presumably you would not do the same if you were in that same position? :D