Misery loves company

[papayahed]

I heard someone say this once:

"when I'm miserable I want everyone else to be miserable too"

A coworker says this is true of most people, I say it is not. What say you?

[hypatia_]

I say it depends. A strong-willed person (in my mind, at least) will try and take responsibility for themselves and overcome their miserableness, rather than desiring that others feel the same. But I definitely know people of whom your coworker speaks.

A lot of people like for it to rain when they are sad, too. Is it the beauty of the rain that they desire, or the miserableness that the rain might potentially bring others? Food for thought.

[Maximilianus]

If they are the cause of my misery and they are either happy or relaxed, even conscious of what they've done, then I want to drag them to hell with me. I won't wish any good for them at all.

[cafolini]

Misery doesn't love. That's why it's misery. It always tries to force misery by whatever imaginable BS.

[*Classic*Charm*]

Disagree. When I am miserable I want to be alone so as to let my misery play out without guilt and not to inflict myself on others.

[Buh4Bee]

If they are the cause of my misery and they are either happy or relaxed, even conscious of what they've done, then I want to drag them to hell with me. I won't wish any good for them at all.

Hahaha! Max, this made me LOL!

[Jett Black]

Unhappy/miserable people often need the reassurance that they are not the only ones who feel this way. So in order to accomplish this they do their best to make others around them miserable too.

[Helga]

I think it depends, usually when I'm miserable I just want to be alone but then again I want to be alone most of the time no matter what mood I'm in. I am happy if I get a better grade than some of my friends, but that makes them miserable but me happy so that probably doesn't matter in this discussion.

I don't think rain should be connected with misery, I love the rain.

[Delta40]

I don't know. Sometimes I can start off feeling miserable but find being in the company of happy people pulls me out of the place I'm in. Good vibes are a powerful force.

[Buh4Bee]

The people I value most know how to have a good laugh, even if they are miserable people. So in this way, I agree that good vibes go a longer way than misery.

[Silas Thorne]

I think when I'm miserable, I want everyone else to let me in to their happiness, and it makes me happy to not have to deal with my misery. I then move past it, and usually realise that the miserable time actually meant nothing after all.

[hypatia_]

I think when I'm miserable, I want everyone else to let me in to their happiness, and it makes me happy to not have to deal with my misery. I then move past it, and usually realise that the miserable time actually meant nothing after all.

does misery ever mean anything? maybe it's just a tool to inspire.

[Maximilianus]

Hahaha! Max, this made me LOL!
Well, I suppose it may be good to serve the purpose of somebody's LOLing :)

[Delta40]

I work with some people who on their smoko do nothing but whinge about everything under the sun and I realise nothing is going to put a smile on their face. I figure they're happy enough doing that though otherwise they'd go into hiding and shun all company.

[Silas Thorne]

I work with some people who on their smoko do nothing but whinge about everything under the sun and I realise nothing is going to put a smile on their face. I figure they're happy enough doing that though otherwise they'd go into hiding and shun all company.

maybe it's what some people think is the expected response to smoko time, along with swearing every second word.
' You know, I've had some mother****ing trouble with that wanker before. he's such a ****...' Etc

Gosh, interesting what the censors don't pick up.

[Delta40]

lol. denial about how many wankers in the world there really are...

[Silas Thorne]

Many more wankers than I can shake a stick at, Delta....no wait...

[Delta40]

heh, heh, Maybe if we had wanko instead of smoko people wouldn't be so miserable?

[cafolini]

maybe it's what some people think is the expected response to smoko time, along with swearing every second word.
' You know, I've had some mother****ing trouble with that wanker before. he's such a ****...' Etc

Gosh, interesting what the censors don't pick up.

Silas. You came to LitNet from your mongering forum, trying to recruit our people. It's all on record.

[Silas Thorne]

Silas. You came to LitNet from your mongering forum, trying to recruit our people. It's all on record.

Oh, do you mean Zero State perhaps? I was involved in it, but I have been losing interest in it, as I don't feel that personally it has much creative appeal for me now. I'm still good friends with many people there though.
'Came to LitNet from' there? Oh no, I was on Litnet much earlier. I keep coming back because I like it here.

'Recruit our people'? People do what they want to do, cafolini. Some people like to write rude snarky comments about people online too.

When miserable, many people seek company, either through real company, whether online or in person, or through the prerecorded company of music and DVD movies.

[cafolini]

Oh, do you mean Zero State perhaps? I was involved in it, but I have been losing interest in it, as I don't feel that personally it has much creative appeal for me now. I'm still good friends with many people there though.
'Came to LitNet from' there? Oh no, I was on Litnet much earlier. I keep coming back because I like it here.

'Recruit our people'? People do what they want to do, cafolini. Some people like to write rude snarky comments about people online too.

When miserable, many people seek company, either through real company, whether online or in person, or through the prerecorded company of music and DVD movies.

Yes, it was Zero State. However, that people do what they want to do is not the subject here. People always do what they want to do regardless of anything else.

[Silas Thorne]

Fair enough then, cafolini. Back to the topic....

[kittypaws]

I heard someone say this once:

"when I'm miserable I want everyone else to be miserable too"

A coworker says this is true of most people, I say it is not. What say you?

Yes, misery loves company but I am not one to give it fuel. I would have to agree that when someone is miserable they want company and I believe it is only cuz they need someone who can support them and bring some light into their darkness.


kittypaws

[hypatia_]

Oh, do you mean Zero State perhaps? I was involved in it, but I have been losing interest in it, as I don't feel that personally it has much creative appeal for me now. I'm still good friends with many people there though.
'Came to LitNet from' there? Oh no, I was on Litnet much earlier. I keep coming back because I like it here.

'Recruit our people'? People do what they want to do, cafolini. Some people like to write rude snarky comments about people online too.

When miserable, many people seek company, either through real company, whether online or in person, or through the prerecorded company of music and DVD movies.

I think that's an important point. Even if people tend to lean towards solitude when they are miserable, most of the time they still end up relying on some form of company.