Are you a self contained / self contented person?

[osho]

We can be happy with or without anybody. It is of course to be in somebody’s arms. If not, so what we may have the capacity to be happy within our own limits or space. That is why we have so many singles and yet people are depressingly seeking for someone’s love despite everything.

[cacian]

I do not know about self contained but I am definetely content haha.
Being single is not something people chose to be in but then if and when it happens it can alienating and so the best thing is to go out and find something to do.
To seek love is trying to want it is different I guess.

[cafolini]

I prefer to contain self.

[cafolini]

Sorry. Forgot the LOL and I don't feel like being editconteined. Double LOL!

[loe]

Being single is not something people chose to be in ...
Really?
I don't agree because I think that you can have the choice to say no to a potential relationship (or you can choose to quit an existing relationship etc).

Personally I think that the opinion every single is a single because he/she didn't choose it but just couldn't find someone to love is an outdated cliché.

Back to topic:
Maybe I'm a content container of myself... or so...

[cacian]

Really?
I don't agree because I think that you can have the choice to say no to a potential relationship (or you can choose to quit an existing relationship etc).

Personally I think that the opinion every single is a single because he/she didn't choose it but just couldn't find someone to love is an outdated cliché.

Back to topic:
Maybe I'm a content container of myself... or so...
why would you say no to a potential relationship?

[loe]

Because I don't want to have one. I really like to be single and I want to stay one.

[osho]

It is really interesting. Some people are singles just because they are yet to build up relationships or yet to get someone to relate with or live with. On the look out for some potential partners to feel better off in the company, to love and to be loved.

There are still others who have already found and yet became spilt up. There are still some others who have plenty at their command or within their reach and for an assortment of reasons they do not want the company.

There could be other types who frequent relationships time and again and this intermittent relationship is choosing through jungles of relationships and yet to settle in.

All of us belong to somewhere here and we make and break and patch up. Categorizing human natures is the toughest job

[loe]

Categorizing human natures is the toughest job
And the most unnecessary thing to do.
In my opinion categorizing people always means to ignore some part of them and makes it impossible to get them known as the whole person they are with every nuance of their being etc.

But please accept my apologies for going off topic.

[cacian]

Because I don't want to have one. I really like to be single and I want to stay one.

hi loe you wish to stay single but for how long? I am not aware of anyone who enjoys being on their own for long.:)

[cacian]

And the most unnecessary thing to do.
In my opinion categorizing people always means to ignore some part of them and makes it impossible to get them known as the whole person they are with every nuance of their being etc.

But please accept my apologies for going off topic.
The reasons I am guessing about not being able to recognise a being as whole is because the person doing the recognising or scrutinising does not know enough of themselves.

[Helga]

When I broke up with my ex it was for the simple reason that I wanted to be alone. I knew I didn't want to be with him but I really just wanted to be alone. 90% of the time I am very self contained, I am happy alone but I that doesn't mean I don't get lonely sometimes and want to see people but being alone is great.

I think it would be a hard for me to choose a relationship over being single.

[jayat]

All is about school times, when we were 10 and the teacher showed us the demography graphics in which the forecasting by 2020 would be at the very top (no room to walk in the streets, spread panic,...). Most of us thought "better five against one, than fuel that possible situation..."

[cacian]

When I broke up with my ex it was for the simple reason that I wanted to be alone. I knew I didn't want to be with him but I really just wanted to be alone. 90% of the time I am very self contained, I am happy alone but I that doesn't mean I don't get lonely sometimes and want to see people but being alone is great.

I think it would be a hard for me to choose a relationship over being single.

Yes of course but meeting someone is not chosen it just happens. I personally think life just happens. I do not plan to arrange anything but when and if I meet someone then I sure don't go ''sorry i'd rather be on my own''.

[Helga]

but what if you'd rather be on your own? I'm not saying I'll be alone forever just that it would take a lot for me to be willing to change things.

[cacian]

but what if you'd rather be on your own? I'm not saying I'll be alone forever just that it would take a lot for me to be willing to change things.

Hi Helga it is interesting you mention changing things. Being with someone is not about you changing things or for you to will to change. It is about letting things take their course. There is a momentum in life an energy in constant movement and we must let it flow. If we interfer too much because we feel inadequate or not ready then the momentum is broken. Life is constant and as are we. Just because we decide we do not want it it does not mean life does not want us and it. Life adapts for us and we therefore must adapt for it. It is a 50/50 deal.
So to go back to what you were saying we must let things happen so that things nice things happen to us. We must go with the flow and not against it. We are humans and have feelings we must explore. Feelings tend to go dormant when we live on our own for a long time. Again being with someone even if it is for a short while help ignite those nice feelings. Feelings are mutual and nice and they can only become human nicer and more interesting when we develop them in the company of others. Love is not a one way block it is a two way flow. To feel love for someone only happens when a second person a company is involved. Feelings are magnet which enrich when they come into contact with other human beings and their own feelings. They are ultimately extremely important to our contentment because they teach us how to become loving and caring towards ourselves and each other and also teach us a lot about ourselves. We must get to grip with our feelings and understand why we have them in order for us to succeed as people . Such is the mechanism and power of living in the company of others . It generates feelings much needed to our happiness. Haha I hope this helps a bit :)

[loe]

hi loe you wish to stay single but for how long? I am not aware of anyone who enjoys being on their own for long.:)
I'll keep you informed. ;)

From today's point of view I'm very satisfied with my way of living concering this matter and I have no desire to change it only because I'm growing old. The idea that one person is always around me is totally unbearable. I enjoy regular meetings with some good friends but I really need a lot of time for myself.