stalking

[cacian]

do you stalk on the internet?
and who?
I tend to just post and write but never follow anyone.

[islandclimber]

You ask the strangest of questions...

If I stalked someone online, it would likely be myself, though I haven't quite figured out how this would work... Maybe some kind of hypnotic self-dissimulation? Desperately hunting even the fragments of my electronic shadow...

[cacian]

You ask the strangest of questions...

If I stalked someone online, it would likely be myself, though I haven't quite figured out how this would work... Maybe some kind of hypnotic self-dissimulation? Desperately hunting even the fragments of my electronic shadow...

LOl indeed.
Yes the question comes from another site and I thought that was weird too but it did not seem to bother anyone. I guess by stalking I meant following. I am thinking there is a lot internet users who stalk sites but never actually bother posting.
In this other site someone was admitting that they stalked people's profiles. They meant they like to read about them and what they post. Strange may be...who knows.Haha.

[Lokasenna]

I was stalked by someone on this forum for several months, and I have to say it was a very unsettling experience. I would recieve up to 5 PMs a day from her, and it was evident from their content that she had read through months and months of backposts, gleaning whatever personal information she could from them (perhaps it was foolish of me, but I've always been very open about who I am). I tried to ignore it, simply not responding to anything she posted, either to me personally or on the forum generally, but it kept getting worse and worse until eventually, following one particularly disturbing and explicit PM, I wrote to her and firmly told her to stop. It didn't work, and eventually I had to involve Scher in the mix (who dealt with the situation wonderfully) - this user even ended up creating several new accounts with the intention of getting to me.

So yes, speaking as a stalkee (if that's a word?) it is not very nice at all, and nearly drove me away from this forum. I'm much happier here now when I'm not worried about logging in for fear of finding a mountain of horror in my inbox.

[Helga]

LOl indeed.
Yes the question came from another site and I thought that was weird to but it did not seem to bother anyone. I guess by stalking I meant following. I am thinking there is a lot internet users who stalk sites but never actually bother posting.
In this other site someone was admitting that they stalked people's profiles. They meant they like to read about them and what they post. Strange may be...who knows.Haha.


I don't really get that, reading peoples profile page and things like that. This is the only forum I use and not frequently like I used to. I hardly ever wonder about the person behind a user name. I once got a few odd pm's from a person here but that has been dealt with.

what was that Sting song about stalking?... it creeps me out. Although I have to admit my favorite t-shirt has the sentence 'the more you ignore me the closer I get' in big bold green letters, that's OK though, I think.

[cacian]

I don't really get that, reading peoples profile page and things like that. This is the only forum I use and not frequently like I used to. I hardly ever wonder about the person behind a user name. I once got a few odd pm's from a person here but that has been dealt with.

what was that Sting song about stalking?... it creeps me out. Although I have to admit my favorite t-shirt has the sentence 'the more you ignore me the closer I get' in big bold green letters, that's OK though, I think.
''Every Breath You Take''? Do you know a long time ago I use to listen to it and sing it outloud with a friend and I never thought it was a stalking song until recently haha.
I think the internet is an easy place to stalk because of the anonymity.


I was stalked by someone on this forum for several months, and I have to say it was a very unsettling experience. I would recieve up to 5 PMs a day from her, and it was evident from their content that she had read through months and months of backposts, gleaning whatever personal information she could from them (perhaps it was foolish of me, but I've always been very open about who I am). I tried to ignore it, simply not responding to anything she posted, either to me personally or on the forum generally, but it kept getting worse and worse until eventually, following one particularly disturbing and explicit PM, I wrote to her and firmly told her to stop. It didn't work, and eventually I had to involve Scher in the mix (who dealt with the situation wonderfully) - this user even ended up creating several new accounts with the intention of getting to me.

So yes, speaking as a stalkee (if that's a word?) it is not very nice at all, and nearly drove me away from this forum. I'm much happier here now when I'm not worried about logging in for fear of finding a mountain of horror in my inbox.
wow do you know why she stalked you in particular?

[Lokasenna]

wow do you know why she stalked you in particular?

No idea. I think she had a lot of personal and circumstantial difficulties, and for whatever reason began to focus on me. I felt (and still feel) sorry for her, but it was not a healthy outlet for her life issues.

[prendrelemick]

If you want to go stalking Twitter is an entire domain devoted and designed for it. In fact your stalkees are glad to have you follow them. I follow various writers slebs politicians and jornalists on there. I also have a few of my own stalkers, but to be honest I don't give them much to go on.

[tonywalt]

The question really is, who would actually admit to stalking.

[osho]

Stalking is one of the human instincts out of anonymity since everybody likes only in part what the other stalks or talks. Even a nagging wife is kind of stalking when one mostly find the talk uninteresting and at times objectionable. Stalking is everywhere and one cannot stop but the only measure is stuff your ear-holes with cotton

[Delta40]

I can't imagine stalking someone unless it is for unhealthy reasons.

[qimissung]

I've never stalked anyone. I don't do twitter. I don't really get the concept, nor does it sound really interesting, you're allowed to use such a limited number of words. I also read somewhere that people who use it a lot can be somewhat self-absorbed. Don't know if that's true or not. Anyway, here's a link. It mainly discusses Facebook users, another medium I don't use.

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/05/17/does-facebook-turn-people-into-narcissists/

[Joreads]

I don't have the time to stalk anyone. One of the things I like about forums like this is the privacy they provide You can disclose as much or as little as you like.
Lokasenna has an important lesson for us all - you are never really total Anonymous to people really looking and it pays to be careful what you say.

[osho]

I do not choose to stalk and at the same time I do not intend to be anonymous since I have nothing to cover up under the sun. I talk with sense and there is nothing to keep from my readers. I do not fear anybody and I find everybody here friendly though at times I love to argue even heatedly with them and I get angered and anger them but in a while I am back to normalcy and want to regain friendship. However a friend here was somewhat vexed and she still is not OK and I am apologetic but to no avail. I just want to widen my horizon and do not want to shrink into my littleness

[cacian]

I can't imagine stalking someone unless it is for unhealthy reasons.

LOL what unhealthy reasons?

[Whosis]

There's a stalking outlet called online dating. Or maybe that's more swooning over potential matches? I don't really know of any instances of stalking in real life, so doing this online seems a bit of a stretch.

[Pensive]

It depends on how you define stalking. Bothering or torturing people repeatedly or gathering information with ill-intent is not at all acceptable. However I don't see any harm in innocent curiosity. There are some posters I may like more than others and want to know more about and look up their personal information and more of their posts. But it seems to me stalking is kind of like p**ing. It is natural and almt everybody does it but nobody wants to be caught doing it.

[tonywalt]

I'd probably 'stalk' someone as in ensuring i'm at the same place as they are. But having said that: I will deny that i would ever do such a thing. In fact, I will deny saying this.

[cacian]

I'd probably 'stalk' someone as in ensuring i'm at the same place as they are. But having said that: I will deny that i would ever do such a thing. In fact, I will deny saying this.

why would you do that? be at the same place as they are?

[Dreamwoven]

I can't imagine stalking anyone, still less if the target is anonymous as many on this forum are. But it is something that the internet is notorious for, it seems to give people a sense of anonymity to stalk that is quite scary.

Mobbing is another thing that happens on some forums, it seems to be more common on the big social networks, like Face Book and Twitter, which also function as pressure groups. It's the main reason I don't join these social media. I was mobbed on one forum a few years ago, so I de-registered and have now "lurk" which means you can't post.

The internet is a bizarre medium and its always best to be anonymous. Sign out and rejoin with an anonymous identity if you want to post and be active.