sexual identity

[cacian]

This for research purposes.

Do relationships affect sex?
and
Is sex corruptible?

[Alexander III]

What is sex? The x at the ends seems so very ominous and it rhymes with rex, which in latin means king, absolute rulers, so it implies dominance and the sound and sight of the x at the end is so very ominous; sex is not good unless it changes the word. Why do kings wear crowns?

[cacian]

Interesting Alexander and thank you for posting.
Sex is a mystery to me when it becomes dominant. I try and keep it a level where it does not become an issue a dependence an addicition or even twisted fiction.
Sex is pleasant and so are other things. Relationship need not necessarily sex to make it work. What works is a combination of other things including feelings and attention to each other. There are people who see sex as the key to a successful relationship. I am not so sure that is it.
People who feel sex is a mechanism to happiness is something I put to question.

And to answer your question: Why do kings wear crowns? I guess because they feel underdressed and not recognised as royalty if they did not. A bit a shield they wear it on a head because insecurity is dominant in their lives their status is threatened they feel if they did not show off with a crown.
It is not about looks ] dominance or power it is about the lack it.

[Scheherazade]

Thread title: Sexual identity

The questions posed in OP:
This for research purposes.

Do relationships affect sex?
and
Is sex corruptible?How do these relate - if at all?

Otherwise, I am pretty much in agreement with Alexander (only this once... Do not expect it to set a precedent!)

[cacian]

Thread title: Sexual identity

The questions posed in OP:How do these relate - if at all?

Otherwise, I am pretty much in agreement with Alexander (only this once... Do not expect it to set a precedent!)

Sexual identity has many variants meanings.
Sex is psychological as well as physical.
Sexual identity establishes itself I am guessing when one is first of all happy with who they are psychologically and physically ie gender. In other word sex is finally achieved at a feeling and emotional level rather then a physical one.
It is also because both partners have established what their sexual identity is about.
For example take a case of someone who enjoys sex with both sexes.
I have always wondered about it in the sense it must be more tricky for someone who likes both sexes then it is for someone who is straight or gay.
I am not sure I am speculating here.
And so I would imagine in this case this person would only or could only establish a sexual identity when gender, their gender, does not enter into it anymore. What should become more attractive and rational at this stage for them is to be someone because of emotional attachment rather then sexual tendencies.
I am not sure I am making sense.

So back to the question the first relates to the second because if one is unhappy in their own skin or insecure about their sexual identity sex would become an issue.

[Charles Darnay]

And here I thought I got over the shock of some of the ideas you come up with......but you continue to outdo yourself. Some of this borders on disturbing.

[Scheherazade]

I am not sure I am making sense.I am not sure, either.

[stlukesguild]

I'm quite sure. Of what, I'll leave up to you.

[cacian]

I am not sure, either.

It is a hard subject to tackle. I see where I did not make sense. I shall go over what I wrote again.
I am trying to say that one must establish their own sexual identity if they are to be sexually happy within a relationship.
Sexual identity is gender related.
Relationship where by one is straight and the other is both can affect sex. If one of the parties has not establish a fixed sexual identity and the other one has then sex could become an issue. I speak from experience.
Sex being corruptible meaning that sex can distort the reality of the relationship by making difficult for both to have sex at the same psychological level. Sex is psychological as well as physical.

[MarkBastable]

You might want to consider Scrabble instead.

[Delta40]

You might want to consider Scrabble instead.

Concise has seven letters...

[cacian]

Concise has seven letters...

Highfaluting has 12.

[Delta40]

Lol Cacian. But your highfaluting (12) is longer than my highfalutin (11) so you must highfalute more :ihih:

[2X2E5]

I think that biology play a crucial role in the matter because isn't everyone genetically different, and some people might have a lower production of hormones that trigger the desire for sex, I'm guessing age might have such an effect as well, or satisfaction with one's sexual life.

Sex can not be an important component of a relationship or it can be make into a valuable form of expression and intimacy.
You can expose yourself psychologically but also physically, which can be equally discomforting...I'm thinking of that scene from Dexter, when he has sex with Rita for the first time.

I think/image because of my lack of sexual experience, that having a partner not have a fixed sexual identity would be a problem...in a way aren't they uncertain of their desires, and if one's significant other on one level bears some responsibility over pleasing their partner, then stress is placed on the partner for not knowing how to please their other? With an unfixed sexual identity, doesn't the value and importance of sex remain uncertain?

From what I've observed in my father's friends company is that sex can be corruptible, unless one has a commitment to discipline and higher value of the comforts of a relationship and love. But if im still on topic, then it seems you have to understand a person's philosophy towards satisfying desires and their self made regulations, and how well they face the tension.

[cacian]

Hi 2X2E5 and thank you for posting. You do indeed bring up an interesting point and that is gene related issues and of course lower production of pleasure or sex hormones.
I am not sure age is an issue. There are children sexually active at a very alarming age. I know who started at 11 and this before puberty and others at 13. IS this an imbalance or something else?

I am not aware of Dexter scene. Are you able to explain?
I personally seek to please my partner but seek to please both and at the same time. In other words pleasure is derived when both are experiencing it.
To worry about pleasing others is perhaps not the way forward. I think yes it is stressful not knowing how to please each other and that I think is the issue.

With an unfixed sexual identity, doesn't the value and importance of sex remain uncertain?
Yes you are very right. I think many do not realize that the sexual identity is lacking.