The Best Thing About Growing Up?

[cacian]

I am looking for the best thing about growing up.

Any ideas/contributions would be gread! :)


I found one for now and that is:

the ability to chose without added pressure.

[Volya]

Nothing.

[cacian]

Nothing.

wow that is a statement. I was not expecting this. :)

[Pensive]

You could keep on lying without having to feel guilty about it?
Well actually maybe it's not always this way, but for quite a lot of people it may hold true I think.

[cacian]

You could keep on lying without having to feel guilty about it?
Well actually maybe it's not always this way, but for quite a lot of people it may hold true I think.

Ha.I thought lying gets worse as we grow older haha.:p

[Whifflingpin]

Children have to lie to survive. Grown-ups who lie are pathetic.

[Volya]

Why do children need to lie any more than an adult does.

[Pensive]

whoa now the discussion appears to be taking a turn!
I must clarify though - I am not trying to justify lying for an adult but I have observed young children to be more feeling about right and wrong because in early years we are taught a very defined version of right and wrong. Later people somehow learn right and wrong to be vague terms which could easily be exchanged for one another at different times. There always is the type of lying where you lie to make the other person feel better/to make it less hurtful for them. A child could cruelly state the truth while an adult would most likely be more careful.

[cacian]

Children have to lie to survive. Grown-ups who lie are pathetic.

Haha I guess the adult world is not such a nice place for a child.
Adults need to reconsider the way they treat children.

[Whifflingpin]

"Why do children need to lie any more than an adult does."

Because adults have power, children need subterfuge.

[cacian]

Why do children need to lie any more than an adult does.

Well I look at it this way it all depends on how an adult interact with a child.
If an adult treat a child with as much respect and understanding as he would towards another adult then a child does not need lying.
If an adult treats a child as somebody who does not know much about anything then expect lies from the child. This is purely as a rebelious way towards an adult who does not quite understand what a child is about and able of.
Just because a child is 5 or 6 does not mean he or she are out of touch or completely unware.
Often children are the most observant faster and sharper.

[cacian]

whoa now the discussion appears to be taking a turn!
I must clarify though - I am not trying to justify lying for an adult but I have observed young children to be more feeling about right and wrong because in early years we are taught a very defined version of right and wrong. Later people somehow learn right and wrong to be vague terms which could easily be exchanged for one another at different times. There always is the type of lying where you lie to make the other person feel better/to make it less hurtful for them. A child could cruelly state the truth while an adult would most likely be more careful.

Very true but that is only because children are individualistic and speak the truth regardless because they are less assuming which is a much better way to be with or towards others.
The less we assume about ourselves and others the more we are upfront with each other. This is the best policy long term.
What is important is to get to the point even if it means hurting somebody. One soon gets over it but at least they would have learnt something where otherwise they would not have.