The Art of Seduction

[cacian]

Fancying someone is one thing but getting closer or asking them out is a different thing all together.

Women and men differ in the sense each one looks up to the other with different expectations and so the moment of truth the minute one decides to gather strength and get closer to that person by asking them out becomes of games of hopes and lows.
In other words women expect to be asked and men think it is the hardest thing they have to endure.
I however has had the pleasure of doing the other way as in asking the men I decided I liked the look of.
The art of seduction after that was not what I had expected however.Totally different from the books I had read and the flims I had watched. There was no Darcy after all.

So how do you approach the one you like and what do you do to seduce them into thinking you are the one for them?

[Varenne Rodin]

I am myself. It seems that that has always been enough.

[Delta40]

You mean you don't have to put your ankles behind your ears?

[cacian]

You mean you don't have to put your ankles behind your ears?

I am not acrobat and so no it is all about tacts haha.

[Alexander III]

I however has had the pleasure of doing the other way as in asking the men I decided I liked the look of.


On a side not, me as a guy, I detest when women approach me or ask me out. If it is not I who does the picking I just don't like it. I always refuse any laddie who approaches me regardless of how pretty she is, because I find it so irritating. I figure there are other guys like me, so careful when you decide to approach the guy, for some it is a turn off.

[cacian]

On a side not, me as a guy, I detest when women approach me or ask me out. If it is not I who does the picking I just don't like it. I always refuse any laddie who approaches me regardless of how pretty she is, because I find it so irritating. I figure there are other guys like me, so careful when you decide to approach the guy, for some it is a turn off.

Indeed and well I guess it is also a question of who is who and how things unfold.
My fist one I have approached is now my ex husband and the second one I approached am now with and have been for eight years.
The others I did not approach I did not like. If you like I did not notice them and so when they asked me out it was kind of annoying because it is hard to say no.
I guess I am like you.
I ended going out with someone I did not like because they just obsessed and won't leave me alone. I felt sorry for them but it did not last.

[tonywalt]

You mean you don't have to put your ankles behind your ears?

You hit the nail on the head. When a girl pins her ankles behind her ears- let's call it an "indicator of interest" - it signals, to me at least, that she may like me and I approach. We then begin to chat about really cool stuff.

[cacian]

You hit the nail on the head. When a girl pins her ankles behind her ears- let's call it an "indicator of interest" - it signals, to me at least, that she may like me and I approach. We then begin to chat about really cool stuff.

It is all about the signals. So how do you read them or how do you know they are the right ones?

[tonywalt]

Well the ankles to ears signal is fairly easy to read for most guys, although it is discouraged in many European and North American establishments.

But in the event I do not get sort of obvious indicator of interest(and I won't) - I would say laughing at my jokes and leaning towards me(but not leaning into me, as in drunk, which is a whole other thread )

Women also observe how you interact with the people you are with or around and also how you interact with their own friends.

Did we not have a similiar thread that 'went to hellfire and brimstone"?

[cacian]

Well the ankles to ears signal is fairly easy to read for most guys, although it is discouraged in many European and North American establishments.

I have to admit I am not getting the ears and ankles bit.


But in the event I do not get sort of obvious indicator of interest(and I won't) - I would say laughing at my jokes and leaning towards me(but not leaning into me, as in drunk, which is a whole other thread )
I thought more eye contacts was an indicator of interest.

Women also observe how you interact with the people you are with or around and also how you interact with their own friends.

Do they?

Did we not have a similiar thread that 'went to hellfire and brimstone"?
Did we?
I do not recall it haha.

[Volya]

I do not understand why you would or want to seduce somebody...

[MANICHAEAN]

I normally carry a club and pull the wench by the hair.

My father had an unusual technique. He used to pick women up physically with his arms around their ***. If he got slapped in the face, he took it as a no, but invariably they laughed and presumably he had his wicked way.

Delta. How you got away with the ankles behind the ears bit I will never know. There seems to be some confusion also, as to exactly what it means!

[Delta40]

Delta. How you got away with the ankles behind the ears bit I will never know. There seems to be some confusion also, as to exactly what it means!

Lol. Nobody appreciates my sense of humour on Lit-Net :angel:

[MANICHAEAN]

Delta I always have.

What was even more amusing was your “sock em between the eyes” forthrightness, followed by Tony commenting on body signals as if it was a scene from wild life in the Serengeti

[Buh4Bee]

I do not understand why you would or want to seduce somebody...

I agree Volya. If you have to seduce them, you're barking up the wrong leg. You may get short term play, but lack long-term success.

You'll eventually get this:
:argue:

[GreenLucky]

On a side not, me as a guy, I detest when women approach me or ask me out. If it is not I who does the picking I just don't like it. I always refuse any laddie who approaches me regardless of how pretty she is, because I find it so irritating. I figure there are other guys like me, so careful when you decide to approach the guy, for some it is a turn off.

Something tells me you don't ever have to worry about that.

[cacian]

I normally carry a club and pull the wench by the hair.

My father had an unusual technique. He used to pick women up physically with his arms around their ***. If he got slapped in the face, he took it as a no, but invariably they laughed and presumably he had his wicked way.

Delta. How you got away with the ankles behind the ears bit I will never know. There seems to be some confusion also, as to exactly what it means!
Your father technique is a rather radical off beat now. I can't imagine it would be allowed now. It is more of a Harry Hill or a carry on technique haha. I guess this would beconsidered as 'sexual fauxpas'.
Times have changed.



Lol. Nobody appreciates my sense of humour on Lit-Net :angel:

Ouch that was a joke. I thought I was missing out on something really haha.

[prendrelemick]

Have a few beers, Get her a few beers. Then let the beery love flow.

[cacian]

I do not understand why you would or want to seduce somebody...

Well I guess it depends what your motives are.
Personally one has to court someone in order to get to know someone nicely.
It is all part of the charms and sophistications of coupling no?
Seductions are part of the human enhancement to look attractive to the person one is interested in.
I would not mind writing a book about it for fun.
Youwould be surprised how very little people know about appearing and appealing to the opposite sex and vice versa.

[Volya]

Courting somebody and seducing them are not the same thing at all...

[cacian]

Courting somebody and seducing them are not the same thing at all...

Aren't they?
Courting is in a way a type of seduction. To lure someone into liking that person.

[Buh4Bee]

Seduction is a sneaky sleazy thing, while getting to know someone is transparent. Both are in control, in this case. Showing each other mutual respect.

[cacian]

Seduction is a sneaky sleazy thing, while getting to know someone is transparent. Both are in control, in this case. Showing each other mutual respect.

When I posted this I was thinking more along the line of charming/courting/showing interest in someone we like.
I now get the idea.
I would imagine that would be the case for a couple that are in love with each others to seduce each other with nice things and promises of marriage and not just as a lure or a sleazy thing.

[Alexander III]

Something tells me you don't ever have to worry about that.

Feel free to insult my intelligence or character, for I am flawed in both; but never upon never insult my vanity, I take great pride in my beauty and it is cruel to insult that which deserves no reproach. I mean seriously, I am fvucking beautiful.

[Volya]

Vanity is not a good trait.

[tonywalt]

Vanity is not a good trait.

You've never seen Alex's pics though - incredible. At bookstores people crowd around him just to watch him read!

[cacian]

You've never seen Alex's pics though - incredible. At bookstores people crowd around him just to watch him read!

LOL is that serious?

[cacian]

Vanity is not a good trait.

No matter about good, what is most important is that one does what one feels without offending others.
Just because something is not good does not mean I am not going to help myself.
You have it then flaunt it only enusre others aren't too flaunted by it.

[Volya]

...what?

[tonywalt]

You've never seen Alex's pics though - incredible. At bookstores people crowd around him just to watch him read!


Hand on heart - it's all true.

[Motherof8]

This may not be exactly the same subject being discussed, but it is along the same lines. In the 70's there were books written about "Subliminal seduction." Is it true that one one can be "seduced" by what one reads or sees in a picture and not know it?

[Alexander III]

LOL is is that serious?

Are you calling Tony a liar?

[cacian]

Are you calling Tony a liar?

A what???:eek6: I thought Tony was tony.


This may not be exactly the same subject being discussed, but it is along the same lines. In the 70's there were books written about "Subliminal seduction." Is it true that one one can be "seduced" by what one reads or sees in a picture and not know it?

Hi Motherof8. Thank you for posting this.
I have never heard of subliminal seduction it sounds rather intriguing.
I myself never experienced seduction at a literary level nor ever taken fancy to a picture.
I guess this concept is along the line of someone liking somebody 'off the telly'.
Or liking someone because they were famous Justin Beber fever comes to mind.
I only relate to people face to face.
I get no seduction of a book computer screen or telly for some reason.
How about you?

[Alexander III]

A what???:eek6: I thought Tony was tony.

Tony is a Tony, but by questioning the truth of his words you question his very identity, if would lie but once who is to say that he is truly Tony? Tony is a Tony, but by questing the honesty of anything he says you are denying him his right to be Tony.

[tonywalt]

Tony is a Tony, but by questioning the truth of his words you question his very identity, if would lie but once who is to say that he is truly Tony? Tony is a Tony, but by questing the honesty of anything he says you are denying him his right to be Tony.

Very eloquently put - Jeffersonian in fact. My lowly retort was gonna be "I AM SO NOT A LIAR:argue: and then I planned to stomp off the internet.

[cacian]

Tony is a Tony, but by questioning the truth of his words you question his very identity, if would lie but once who is to say that he is truly Tony? Tony is a Tony, but by questing the honesty of anything he says you are denying him his right to be Tony.

I questioned not the truth but the answer I was given.
I followed my instinct and replied to rectify or subject the interlocutor with another question to check upon the validity of the subject.
I neither denied him the right to be himself nor have I accused him of anything.
That is you sir that thought those words not I.

[Delta40]

I was just in that bookshop and saw him. Tony is right....

[Buh4Bee]

It's all that beauty and genius! It just can't be denied.

:party: