have you ever been unfaithful?

[cacian]

and is there a difference between unfaithful and cheating?
Please bear in mind this thread is to purely engage in discussing what drives us to do what we do and hopefully shed light on this is very ''stigmatised'' subject.
I believe that the more a subject is aired and talked about the less difficult it becomes to understanding it.
All voting are sensitive and anonymous.

[Alexander III]

In my young and inexperienced opinion of the world, cheating is a symptom of a broken relationship, not the cause.

[Gilliatt Gurgle]

No, we have 18 years of wedded blitz behind us and still going strong.
Besides she makes more money and who else would have me? - my man breasts are sagging, my chin and jaw are losing definition.

I will admit to taking a gander at a nice rump or traveling the curves with my eyes though.

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[Jack of Hearts]

This reader has never done it but sees the potential in himself. Which is why we're careful with our promises and honest at all times.







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[Darcy88]

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[Mutatis-Mutandis]

I was going to vote, but I don't feel some of the options have enough exclamation points to adequately describe my mindset on the matter.

[Alexander III]

I was going to vote, but I don't feel some of the options have enough exclamation points to adequately describe my mindset on the matter.

:smilielol5:

[cacian]

I was going to vote, but I don't feel some of the options have enough exclamation points to adequately describe my mindset on the matter.

Cool lol

[crusoe]

Since sex is IMHO totally overrated, it's not worth the trouble of hurting the one you're with.

[Revolte]

I never have, cheating isn't my thing. I've been cheated on so many times it hardly hurts at all now. But I don't see the point in it. My honor is very important to me and I don't wanna bother breaking that for a good lay.

I have been tempted, but only once. I could have done it too, hell I couldn't stand the girl I was with. But my moral code comes first.

The last girl I was with was such a sweetheart, took care of me and everything, she was just amazing. But one night I started feeling like there was a possibility that I might end up breaking her heart. So I broke up with her and explained to her that no matter how much I cared about and respected her, it wasn't worth risking hurting her.

Sometimes people cheat, I don't like it and I don't agree with it. But I understand it.

I would call cheating and being unfaithful the same thing, for ease of sanity. If I think of unfaithful as doing something you shouldn't have then sure I have been. And so has most everyone.

[Alexander III]

Since sex is IMHO totally overrated, it's not worth the trouble of hurting the one you're with.

In defense of Sex, you're probably not doing it right. Now at 19, when I think back to my technique, style and creativity in such regards when I was 15; well I have learnt so much that what I called sex at 15 now I would not call it that, for it seems so feeble in comparison, that to call it Sex would be as much of an Insult to Sex as comparing Twilight and the Aeneid would be an insult to Literature..


Also on the poll I voted both for "It is against all what I stand for" and for "Yea, things do happen right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?" because they are both true.

[tonywalt]

I had alot of sex at 15, unfortunately I did not get a partner until later.

[Bluehound]

Yes, I cheated on my last boyfriend with his best mate,
It's a terrible thing to do but me and the best mate have now been happily married for 12 years so I think it was meant to be :)

[OrphanPip]

I've never cheated. If I ever wanted to have sex with someone outside the relationship I'd just ask the bf beforehand (although, I'm pretty sure that wouldn't go over well with the current bf).

[Revolte]

Yes, I cheated on my last boyfriend with his best mate,
It's a terrible thing to do but me and the best mate have now been happily married for 12 years so I think it was meant to be :)

Last time I got cheated on, that I know about anyway, the girl stayed with the guy, so they have been together over a year now. Which is why it doesn't bother me, well it didn't bother me then either, it's the fact rather then her telling me I had the new guy talking like a gangster to me and threatening me. THAT pissed me off.

As it turns out he is just another not so handsome, dramatic white trash moron who doesn't let her go out and hang with friends or any of that. I'll never understand that, but I guess if you're raised a certain way and it sticks, you can't help yourself. Regardless, it's hard to be mad if you get cheated on and the results were that good.

I think it's more honorable to just break up with the person though.

[cacian]

I've never cheated. If I ever wanted to have sex with someone outside the relationship I'd just ask the bf beforehand (although, I'm pretty sure that wouldn't go over well with the current bf).

How do you mean you would ask the bf?
Does he ask you too?

[Scheherazade]

Seems like the cinversation is concentrating on sex mostly. Is sex necessary to be unfaithful?

[Alexander III]

Seems like the cinversation is concentrating on sex mostly. Is sex necessary to be unfaithful?

But how would you define unfaithfulness, to me sex is just the line, that clearly indicates unfaithfulness.

I would never get angry if my girl hung out with other guys even if it is just her and another guys, because I have plenty of friends who are girls and just enjoy hanging out with them too

I would not be bothered if she filtered with other guys because I like to flirt with other girls too, and that is healthy.

If she felt intimate feelings for another guy but she never acted on them I could not consider that unfaithfulness as despite what she felt she did not act upon it and by that clearly showed that she chose me over him.

So how else could you define unfaithfulness if not "the beast with two backs".

There is something about sex, especially for women, which implies a certain submission and intimacy, which gives a strong significance to the act.

[tonywalt]

re: Clinton v Monica Lewinsky covered that (at least in the US)

So anything from an afternoon $!()% j()$ on up would be unfaithful

[tonywalt]

But how would you define unfaithfulness, to me sex is just the line, that clearly indicates unfaithfulness.

I would never get angry if my girl hung out with other guys even if it is just her and another guys, because I have plenty of friends who are girls and just enjoy hanging out with them too

I would not be bothered if she filtered with other guys because I like to flirt with other girls too, and that is healthy.

If she felt intimate feelings for another guy but she never acted on them I could not consider that unfaithfulness as despite what she felt she did not act upon it and by that clearly showed that she chose me over him.

So how else could you define unfaithfulness if not "the beast with two backs".

There is something about sex, especially for women, which implies a certain submission and intimacy, which gives a strong significance to the act.

Damn, women do love to hear those words in mid argument: "What a second, define unfaithful"

[Mutatis-Mutandis]

Damn, women do love to hear those words in mid argument: "What a second, define unfaithful"

Hey, don't argue with the 19 year old who knows everything about relationships.

[Alexander III]

Hey, don't argue with the 19 year old who knows everything about relationships.

If age is a relative sign of knowledge upon a give subject, then it would be hypocritical of you to do anything else except concede to Emil Miller that your liberal thoughts are merely reflective of your immaturity...

[The Kid]

Actually age is a double edged sword. I use it to get out of heated discussions by saying "We're still young, it's alright. We don't know what we're talking about."

[cacian]

Actually age is a double edged sword. I use it to get out of heated discussions by saying "We're still young, it's alright. We don't know what we're talking about."

Yes good on you !!!the best line ever in the world :D

[Mutatis-Mutandis]

If age is a relative sign of knowledge upon a give subject, then it would be hypocritical of you to do anything else except concede to Emil Miller that your liberal thoughts are merely reflective of your immaturity...

Yep. All subjects are the same when it comes age and knowledge.

[cacian]

re: Clinton v Monica Lewinsky covered that (at least in the US)
That was a complete set up by the way the ''politic way'' that is.

So anything from an afternoon $!()% j()$ on up would be unfaithful
It is personal and down to the individual and it is called guilt.
Whenever you start questioning yourself feeling somehow guilty or becoming self conscious then that something is telling something is not right.

[OrphanPip]

How do you mean you would ask the bf?
Does he ask you too?

Open relationships work for some people, but the rules should be worked out beforehand.

[qimissung]

Is there a difference between the first one and the last one?

[Alexander III]

Yep. All subjects are the same when it comes age and knowledge.

do you mean that politics is more complicated than love or vice versa? Too me they seem equally complicated.

[tonywalt]

Is there a difference between the first one and the last one?

Three exclamation points.

[Mutatis-Mutandis]

do you mean that politics is more complicated than love or vice versa? Too me they seem equally complicated.
I'm saying to be well versed in one, relationships, it takes a different kind of knowledge, that of experience and actually being in relationships. One can learn all one wants to about by politics by reading books and perusing the Internet. I don't feel it's the same for such a personal thing like relationships and sex, which will be completely different for every person on an intimate level. Anyways, I was just busting your balls.

Three exclamation points.

:thumbsup:

[cacian]

three exclamation points.

lol :D

[cacian]

Is there a difference between the first one and the last one?

Hi qimissung thank you for pointing it out.
The first one means that is it not in one totally, not in one's bones as they say, the way one is and think, it is simply never going to cross one 's mind body or soul. It simply ain't going to happen as I like to say, cheating that is.

The last one means it is agaisnt yoru belief meaning it might be somwhere there, that one is able to cheat but because a belief ie religion/conventions that tells one not then then they might never do

[Helga]

relationships are very complicated I think, but I would consider it cheating if my partner was out flirting with girls. I think it would make me feel very small and unimportant to him.

I have never cheated and I don't think anyone has cheated on me. I know a few people that have been cheated on (on different degrees if it is something you can measure). A kiss and you might try to work things out, having feelings for someone else (I would leave at that point) but a person I know tried to make it work after that but after a while it was to hard to live with. Another friend of mine dated a guy that slept with every girl he could find, the younger the better.

I don't know, relationships are very complicated but hopefully sometimes worth it.