How to describe a romantic person

[cacian]

can you tell a romantic person when you see one?

and
is there a word an opposite of ''romantic'' person?

non-romantic sounds rather heavy on the lip so there has got to be another word for it.

[Emil Miller]

can you tell a romantic person when you see one?

and
is there a word an opposite of ''romantic'' person?

non-romantic sounds rather heavy on the lip so there has got to be another word for it.

I doubt that the word romantic coincides with the way a person looks, it's more about their attitude than appearance.
The opposite of romantic is unromantic.

[Maximilianus]

You can pick a few clues from their behavior towards the supposedly loved one. For example, sheer droolers would always shoot their hands wildly in order to desperately reach for the partner's genitalia, often without aiming correctly because droolers aren't precisely rational or accurate (though they do have a clear target within range). On the other hand, a romantic person may well want the same as a drooler, but after a romantic ritual that involves mild caresses, rescuing the damsel in distress who is trapped in a gloomy tower, giving oneself away uninterestedly, giving away small items that have no economic value but which hold a meaning between both participants of the relationship (even when all this seems irrelevant to external observers, whose opinion actually matters not), promoting the other person to the position of most valuable possession... and so on. It's all in the behavior.

Then again, there are pretty talented thespians out there, plotting harmful deceits in order to appear genuine, just for the sake of their own benefit (whatever such benefit may be). They usually succeed in their plots; they are good at their trade. However, there are those who are good at being deceived.

Other synonyms or closely-related words for unromantic include insensitive, unsentimental, unloving, cold-hearted, unaffectionate, and unimpassioned (analyze them and you will see that they are all related and all make sense).

I'm a romantic fellow quite skilled in proving it, so I know what I'm talking about :seeya:

[loe]

is there a word an opposite of ''romantic'' person?
Sober?

(It's not (mainly) intended to be a joke, but I'm not sure which word is more suitable - mundane, pedestrian, austere?)

[cacian]

You can pick a few clues from their behavior towards the supposedly loved one. For example, sheer droolers would always shoot their hands wildly in order to desperately reach for the partner's genitalia, often without aiming correctly because droolers aren't precisely rational or accurate (though they do have a clear target within range). On the other hand, a romantic person may well want the same as a drooler, but after a romantic ritual that involves mild caresses, rescuing the damsel in distress who is trapped in a gloomy tower, giving oneself away uninterestedly, giving away small items that have no economic value but which hold a meaning between both participants of the relationship (even when all this seems irrelevant to external observers, whose opinion actually matters not), promoting the other person to the position of most valuable possession... and so on. It's all in the behavior.

Then again, there are pretty talented thespians out there, plotting harmful deceits in order to appear genuine, just for the sake of their own benefit (whatever such benefit may be). They usually succeed in their plots; they are good at their trade. However, there are those who are good at being deceived.

Other synonyms or closely-related words for unromantic include insensitive, unsentimental, unloving, cold-hearted, unaffectionate, and unimpassioned (analyze them and you will see that they are all related and all make sense).

I'm a romantic fellow quite skilled in proving it, so I know what I'm talking about :seeya:

I see haha..so a skilled one means one is not born a romantic but learns to be one?!!
Hummm sounds rather tricky and so how do you prove you are a good romantic as opposed to a failed one?? :biggrin5:
what does a romantic do to prove his (or her) title and again I guess a romantic is mainly masculin and not feminin right??

[Revolte]

Hummm sounds rather tricky and so how do you prove you are a good romantic as opposed to a failed one??


Because a failed romantic knows when to give up. A full throttled romantic will watch over them as a ghost, when the time comes.

[cacian]

Sober?

(It's not (mainly) intended to be a joke, but I'm not sure which word is more suitable - mundane, pedestrian, austere?)
sober is not a bad idea actually haha.


Because a failed romantic knows when to give up. A full throttled romantic will watch over them as a ghost, when the time comes.

:lol: haha I am liking a ''full throttled romantic''.

[Revolte]

:lol: haha I am liking a ''full throttled romantic''.


I wanna make a joke but I can't, so I'll leave a winky face instead ;)

[aliengirl]

I know a guy who is highly romantic and is a devoted worshiper of Keats. He often remarks that he doesn't care if he dies at the age of 25. He is 22 now. I can not tell by his looks that he is a romantic but it is so apparent in his talks.



Other synonyms or closely-related words for unromantic include insensitive, unsentimental, unloving, cold-hearted, unaffectionate, and unimpassioned (analyze them and you will see that they are all related and all make sense).

I'm a romantic fellow quite skilled in proving it, so I know what I'm talking about :seeya:


Are you sure that "unromantic" is synonymous with unloving, insensitive, cold-hearted etc.? I can't really see the link because I think I'm a pretty unromantic person yet I'm sure I'm not insensitive or unloving. Is there an explanation?

[Maximilianus]

I see haha..so a skilled one means one is not born a romantic but learns to be one?!!
Yep, it's a life process!


Hummm sounds rather tricky and so how do you prove you are a good romantic as opposed to a failed one?? :biggrin5:
As I said above, it's all in the behavior, which includes awareness of what the target of your romanticism likes and dislikes. If you pay little or no attention to your partner's needs and interests, then you won't be good at all no matter how romantic you may seem to yourself or to other people outside the relationship. It's the effect you exert on your soulmate what really counts :nod:


what does a romantic do to prove his (or her) title?
By simply being oneself while taking interest in the soulmate's interests.


I guess a romantic is mainly masculine and not feminine right??
Anyone can learn anything, regardless of gender.


I know a guy who is highly romantic and is a devoted worshiper of Keats. He often remarks that he doesn't care if he dies at the age of 25. He is 22 now. I can not tell by his looks that he is a romantic but it is so apparent in his talks.
Because it has nothing to do with looks. It's all in the way one behaves towards the person one is interested in :)


Are you sure that "unromantic" is synonymous with unloving, insensitive, cold-hearted etc.? I can't really see the link because I think I'm a pretty unromantic person yet I'm sure I'm not insensitive or unloving. Is there an explanation?
The explanation is that even within the realm of synonyms there are different degrees of similitude. In other words, synonyms can't always mean exactly the same. I think most of these words would be better defined as words related to the concept of unromantic, without necessarily conveying and equal meaning. For example, I would say that an unloving person is incapable of feeling love, whereas an unromantic person is incapable of openly expressing love, which doesn't mean incapability to feel it. Thus, both roads lead to love, although one seems rougher than the other. I would say you are the sort of person who feels, but who doesn't find it easy to express it. To sum up, you would be an unromantic loving person. Everything depends on semantic implications http://smiles.kolobok.us/standart/yes3.gif

[Darcy88]

Because a failed romantic knows when to give up. A full throttled romantic will watch over them as a ghost, when the time comes.

I like this. Its how I feel myself right now in relation to a girl I love. Its how I have felt myself to be in relation to all the girls I've loved. I feel like a ghost. I avoid them completely, take ridiculous measures to avoid going near them, and spend my time beating myself up and pining for them. It feels like I'm a ghost. And to them that's all I really am. It sounds pathetic and maybe it is. I think its romantic.

[cacian]

I like this. Its how I feel myself right now in relation to a girl I love. Its how I have felt myself to be in relation to all the girls I've loved. I feel like a ghost. I avoid them completely, take ridiculous measures to avoid going near them, and spend my time beating myself up and pining for them. It feels like I'm a ghost. And to them that's all I really am. It sounds pathetic and maybe it is. I think its romantic.

could you love someone without knowing them properly?
I was thinking more along of infatuation rather thenfeelings because in the other thread we have discussed the idea of looks which alwaus come first or at leat in the few minute of seeing the person right??

It is interesting however that you call this situation you are in as romantic.

[Darcy88]

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[aliengirl]

The explanation is that even within the realm of synonyms there are different degrees of similitude. In other words, synonyms can't always mean exactly the same. I think most of these words would be better defined as words related to the concept of unromantic, without necessarily conveying and equal meaning. For example, I would say that an unloving person is incapable of feeling love, whereas an unromantic person is incapable of openly expressing love, which doesn't mean incapability to feel it. Thus, both roads lead to love, although one seems rougher than the other. I would say you are the sort of person who feels, but who doesn't find it easy to express it. To sum up, you would be an unromantic loving person. Everything depends on semantic implications http://smiles.kolobok.us/standart/yes3.gif

Hmmm...I see. Semantic implications play a great role in such cases. The term unromantic loving defines me quite aptly. I take my time, warming up slowly and that's not without a reason. I can't go back and forget people I really love. So it's better for me to be cautious.

BTW, if by romantic we mean someone influenced by Romanticism then I'm such a person. Though my heart does not leap up when I behold a rainbow in the sky, I'd run a few blocks to some open field or park to watch it as it fades away. I often stood in the great arched windows of my college, looking at the mighty river flowing in its various moods all the year round. My friends often joked about how fascinated I was with the majestic view. May be I'm a romantic in my own way. :)

[aliengirl]

I call my situation romantic because I made a promise to always love her - no matter what. And now, having not seen her for over two months, having done everything possible to avoid seeing her, I still feel the same way I felt the last time we embraced. I think that's romantic. I'm planning on travelling far away and staying far away and I know because of past experience that I will love her and pray for her even then, even at that distance. When you love someone nothing can separate you from that person. Even if I would be most happy to see her meet someone else and fall in love with someone else, someone better for her than me, I still say I love her. And that is what I want. I want her to find someone better than me, someone more deserving. And she will. I'm sure she will and I take great solace in this fact. Doesn't mean I will stop caring. Even if I stop thinking about her and I often do...I distract myself....nothing will ever extricate her from that place she has carved for herself inside my heart. Its irreversible. Once that bond is forged it cannot be undone.

Such devoted love is rare today. I really admire your ability to go on loving even when there is no hope or at least no personal benefit. Perhaps Hafiz meant this kind of love when he wrote -
"Even after all this time
The sun never says to the earth,
"You owe Me."
Look what happens with
A love like that,
It lights the whole sky."

[cacian]

Because a failed romantic knows when to give up. A full throttled romantic will watch over them as a ghost, when the time comes.

about the failed romantic how does one know one has failed romantically?

[Darcy88]

I know a guy who is highly romantic and is a devoted worshiper of Keats. He often remarks that he doesn't care if he dies at the age of 25. He is 22 now. I can not tell by his looks that he is a romantic but it is so apparent in his talks.


Your friend and I have much in common, except for the fact that I'm 23. Hahaha. Your friend is cool and interesting and I can tell this just from what you wrote here. He indeed is a true romantic. Its hard to encompass with words just exactly what the nebulous word "romantic" means. But someone who worships Keats and spurns life itself in the attitude of your friend is for sure a true romantic and I therefore tip my hat to him.

And to Cacian: You know you've failed romantically when the person you love tells you to leave them alone and then ceases communication. Those two things are like atom bombs and when combined they entirely incinerate the great alter you've erected in your own mind as a testament to your love for that person. You need both. If both are not said/present there is room for hope. But if you get both you know its over. Its over for good. That person, even if they love you still, does not want to see you and this fact puts between you and them, regardless of actual geographical distance, a psychological barrier which seems and in fact IS far vaster than continents. Your love becomes ash. You have become mere ash to that person. You've become a ghost to them. When this happens I take ridiculously extreme measures to avoid the other person. Its a tough way to live I tell you. My friends don't care at all about bumping into former romantic partners but for me its like getting punched in the gut by a champion heavyweight boxer. Actually its worse than that. Its like being set on fire while 50 chickens peck at you. I fall through the floor of the earth and find myself in some dark abyss which has neither up nor down, neither left nor right. It puts me in a kind of hell.

Anyway.

[Revolte]

about the failed romantic how does one know one has failed romantically?

I think that a passionate romance doesn't end with being neglected by the one who is being romanced. Rather (unless it's a completely pre-thought and forced romance) the one handing out the romantic gestures would continue to do so until they either stop having the feelings towards the person, or they die.

So if the romancer gives it a whirl and gets turned down, then gives up and heads on the next one, it would be a failed effort due to lack of the relentlessness that is associated with romance. If this was continued throughout the persons future then he or she would be a failed romantic.

I tend to associate romance with passion. And a short lived passion is hardly worth considering passion at all.

Of course that's just my way of thinking and I wouldn't be surprised if the masses disagreed.

[Delta40]

I think romance has to involve friendship and understanding. Interest in the other person's life and maximizing on that. I love receiving original poetry from my friend. Without a doubt it is one of the most touching romantic things he can do because it speaks to me in so many ways. And no matter what happens between us, it will always be a treasured keepsake.

[Bakiryu]

can you tell a romantic person when you see one?

and
is there a word an opposite of ''romantic'' person?

non-romantic sounds rather heavy on the lip so there has got to be another word for it.

I don't think you can. Not on sight.

The opposite of romantic is aromantic :)

[cacian]

I don't think you can. Not on sight.
Oh and here I am thinking it is a whole look not just a personality trait.



The opposite of romantic is aromantic :)

I nearly misread that as aromatic haha :D Never heard of it until now thanks for that!!

[cacian]

I think that a passionate romance doesn't end with being neglected by the one who is being romanced. Rather (unless it's a completely pre-thought and forced romance) the one handing out the romantic gestures would continue to do so until they either stop having the feelings towards the person, or they die.

So if the romancer gives it a whirl and gets turned down, then gives up and heads on the next one, it would be a failed effort due to lack of the relentlessness that is associated with romance. If this was continued throughout the persons future then he or she would be a failed romantic.

I tend to associate romance with passion. And a short lived passion is hardly worth considering passion at all.

Of course that's just my way of thinking and I wouldn't be surprised if the masses disagreed.

I guess I am one those who do not quite feel comfortable around romantics then.
I am in very direct and like to speak my mind and get on with things.
I suppose if a girl is not romantic stuff then the relationship is not likely to flourish.