happa
06-04-2012, 03:00 AM
Denial is a strange thing. When I had first heard that my grandpa had died, I didn't accept it. I knew it in my head, yet my heart absolutely refused to believe. I knew I was in denial and yet I was unable to convince myself that my dear grandfather was really gone.
The human mind is a complicated thing; so is the heart. Both together are like a married couple; at the beginning, many conflicts occur because of hormones, new experiences and choosing between emotions vs logic. As the "couple" gets older, they learn their counterpart, what is the right thing to do in different circumstances and how to find compromises for each other. In other words, they learn to work together.
The mind is like the "male" and the heart is like the "female" (or so how I have stereotyped it). Both are almost always in conflict, yet are perfectly balanced. Without the other than there would be too much logic or too much emotion.
However, the denial stage after losing a loved one is probably one of the biggest problems the "married couple" will have to face because it affects both the psychological and emotional.
I figured there are two ways to solve this dilemma. One is to become bitter, angry and sullen and the other is to move on but never forget.
"If life gives you lemons, make lemonade"
- Dale Carnegie
The human mind is a complicated thing; so is the heart. Both together are like a married couple; at the beginning, many conflicts occur because of hormones, new experiences and choosing between emotions vs logic. As the "couple" gets older, they learn their counterpart, what is the right thing to do in different circumstances and how to find compromises for each other. In other words, they learn to work together.
The mind is like the "male" and the heart is like the "female" (or so how I have stereotyped it). Both are almost always in conflict, yet are perfectly balanced. Without the other than there would be too much logic or too much emotion.
However, the denial stage after losing a loved one is probably one of the biggest problems the "married couple" will have to face because it affects both the psychological and emotional.
I figured there are two ways to solve this dilemma. One is to become bitter, angry and sullen and the other is to move on but never forget.
"If life gives you lemons, make lemonade"
- Dale Carnegie