Lying

[cl154576]

Is it better to conceal, and live in constant fear of being exposed, or to irrevocably erase a history?

I need help choosing.

[osho]

Is it better to conceal, and live in constant fear of being exposed, or to irrevocably erase a history?

I need help choosing.


It is interesting me tremendously. I have stories up my sleeves and yet the stored go untold. The stories have gone untold for decades since you are not prepared to listen to it barricaded by your unreal realities.

I have something I choose to whisper but the mind that is programmed to be deaf to my statement chooses to be muted.

If you want to secure yourself conceal your secrets or else you will enmesh yourself in this treacherous world..

Can I share with you my funny dreams? I have to go by the conducts.

My code of conducts incarcerate me and I love to hush all else.

[cl154576]

It is interesting me tremendously. I have stories up my sleeves and yet the stored go untold. The stories have gone untold for decades since you are not prepared to listen to it barricaded by your unreal realities.

I have something I choose to whisper but the mind that is programmed to be deaf to my statement chooses to be muted.

If you want to secure yourself conceal your secrets or else you will enmesh yourself in this treacherous world..

Can I share with you my funny dreams? I have to go by the conducts.

My code of conducts incarcerate me and I love to hush all else.

Are you serious or is this another 'poem'?

[LitNetIsGreat]

Is it better to conceal, and live in constant fear of being exposed, or to irrevocably erase a history?

I need help choosing.

You might have to expand a bit, what do you mean "irrevocably erase a history"?

[cl154576]

You might have to expand a bit, what do you mean "irrevocably erase a history"?

Deletion.

[LitNetIsGreat]

You're going to delete history?

[Paulclem]

Is it better to conceal, and live in constant fear of being exposed, or to irrevocably erase a history?

I need help choosing.

Is this some kind of communication or contacts you've had on Facebook or a forum? Erase a history suggests this, as does deletion.

If keeping something is damaging to you, or threatening to someone else - get rid of it rather than have it hanging around. Peacefulness is good.

[zoolane]

Is it better to conceal, and live in constant fear of being exposed, or to irrevocably erase a history?

I need help choosing.

Do mean your personal history to erase for example childhood? For own experience and lots people on here will tell you. I have writing from own experiences from my past. To write about things that happen in your past, is alway of let go and realize that you have survive it. I still writing about thing happen in life now but not alway tell.

[Calidore]

I guess it would depend on the seriousness of what's being concealed. The strength of the "constant fear of being exposed" is subjective to the fearer, so it's hard for anyone else to answer. Is what's being concealed any of anyone else's business anyway?

[zoolane]

I guess it would depend on the seriousness of what's being concealed. The strength of the "constant fear of being exposed" is subjective to the fearer, so it's hard for anyone else to answer. Is what's being concealed any of anyone else's business anyway?

As depend if you fear is real enough to put yourself or other round in danger. As not people business but some poeple need to ask to help them and also realize need support.

[The Atheist]

Is it better to conceal, and live in constant fear of being exposed, or to irrevocably erase a history?

I need help choosing.

Why do either?

My bet is that whatever the problem is, it will be lessened by dealing with it honestly. Running away rarely solves anything, and lies tend to grow out of all proportion.

[Delta40]

Concealment eats me from the inside out. Especially conspiracies of silence. It is a large price to pay by keeping secrets that threaten to cast you out. However, the lifetime of pain it causes is not worth it - especially when we learn how we tacitly pass it down to our children without realising it. In the end, everyone must take personal responsibility for their own conduct, their own reaction and their own understanding once it comes pouring out. It cannot be your concern and there is nothing like separating the 'grown ups' from the 'children' when the s hit hits the fan....In the aftermath, you will know who your true friends and family are. Being above board and transparent is a great way to be.

[cl154576]

Is this some kind of communication or contacts you've had on Facebook or a forum? Erase a history suggests this, as does deletion.

Nothing of the nature; erase and delete aren't precise words, but the idea meant was permanence.


Why do either?

I would choose honesty, but I'm sick of being harassed.



I suppose it is unfair to ask such a question without giving details, but I am starting to feel uncomfortable ... If anyone can promise not to be too harsh, I would feel safer discussing details through PM.

In any case, thanks all of you for your advice.

[JuniperWoolf]

Concealment eats me from the inside out. Especially conspiracies of silence.

Me too, keeping secrets makes me physically sick. Whenever I make decisions, I always have to remind myself that I'm going to have to tell people. Usually keeps me in line.

[cl154576]

Would you keep a secret if you would be seriously harmed otherwise?

[Delta40]

I would weigh up the long term effects vs the short term effects and seek counsel.

[zoolane]

Would you keep a secret if you would be seriously harmed otherwise?

No. If it harm to you and others then better for out in open for deal with. it will effect all part of life and special your mental health.

[The Atheist]

I would choose honesty, but I'm sick of being harassed.

Well, there are legal remedies for harrassment.


If anyone can promise not to be too harsh, I would feel safer discussing details through PM.

Feel free. Guaranteed no harshness!

[Calidore]

Would you keep a secret if you would be seriously harmed otherwise?

Would keeping the secret harm anyone else? For example, if the secret is that you're gay, you have no obligation to disclose that to anyone ever, because it's none of anyone's business and affects nobody but you.

[Delta40]

Would keeping the secret harm anyone else? For example, if the secret is that you're gay, you have no obligation to disclose that to anyone ever, because it's none of anyone's business and affects nobody but you.


except if he has a wife and children....

[Buh4Bee]

Or a mistress.

[Panglossian]

Or a talking horse.

[cl154576]

except if he has a wife and children....

Please, no. I'm female and I am well under the age of consent ...

[Emil Miller]

Keeping a secret sometimes has unforeseen consequences depending on the secret. There is the well-known case of the man who worked for the British Foreign Office and was obliged to keep his position there a secret.
He attended an international gathering and became engaged in conversation with a man who asked him what he did. He thought quickly and said 'Oh I'm the desk officer for Roumania', and the man replied 'But you can't be.'
When he was asked why, the man said: ''Because I'm the desk officer for Roumania.'
Back in the days when the Official Secrets Act actually meant something, I was obliged to sign it when working in a government security post and was not allowed to inform anyone of the type of work I was engaged on. One evening I was talking to the owner of a public house and he asked what sort of work I did. I lied to him by saying that I worked for the Inland Revenue and he said I was just the person he'd been looking for because he was having trouble with his income tax.
Sometimes, keeping a secret can be problematical.

[tonywalt]

Depends on the nature of the secret and who it may effect. If it is work related, given the Darwinian(on a fun day) nature of certain places of employment then a resounding Hell Yes! In fact, Machivelli is my saviour and his tactics are employed for sheer survival.

On the other hand, if it effects people I actually care about, I'd rather be transparent. How does it go "secrets secrets are not not secrets secrets hurt someone".

[Calidore]

except if he has a wife and children....

Naturally, but cl has said before that she's a 13-year-old girl, so non-issue.

[G L Wilson]

At bottom, humanity is a lie but necessary.

[Buh4Bee]

Lie if you can carry the burden of guilt associated with the lie. Did I say that? terrible.