Did love make you happy?

[osho]

I do not know, since I am amateurish.

I have yet to know it and the secret of it. I know there are plenty of people here on this forum who are well-armed ideas and experience.

I have read in some books and heard from many people that love is a pain and then why still many people cling to it?

[Superalicat]

I have never in 60 years known "love", for children, parents etc., yes but never for a partner. Does it exist?

[Delta40]

I don't know the secret of love and I'm not aware that I need to. Love has made me strong, vulnerable, hurt and hopeful in many ways. That is life. Consistent in its spontaneity!

[osho]

I don't know the secret of love and I'm not aware that I need to. Love has made me strong, vulnerable, hurt and hopeful in many ways. That is life. Consistent in its spontaneity!


Congratulation Delta, after all you proved love does exist and you are contented. I doubt few will emerge claiming they are fulfilled.

I am waiting to read their voices.
It is not unnatural if you are unhappy in love or in marriage. This is the way the world works. You are not just one, many will join you in chorus.

Respond freely since sharing joys you will double it, sharing pains you will halve it. Both sides you will win

[blazeofglory]

This is sheer stupid, Osho, love is something abstract and romance is something catchable. Your strivings into catch up with something uncatchable gets you nowhere rather than proving your eccentricity

[osho]

This is sheer stupid, Osho, love is something abstract and romance is something catchable. Your strivings into catch up with something uncatchable gets you nowhere rather than proving your eccentricity

What do you think you are to be judgmental about something like love. It goes beyond your rational outlook, it is a heart to heart thing.

[Jack of Hearts]

It's a dog from hell.

Seriously, though, this reader doesn't know that he believes in 'love' so much as the individual ability to 'love.' That is to say, maybe 'love' doesn't exist but you can 'love.' And that's what 'love' (the noun-y, fake one) has taught him in his previous sophomoric attempts (there are terrible 'love' poems that collaborate this story... ugh. They work, though).

You can love, but that's probably about it, and only if you actively love yourself first.







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[The Comedian]

Sure, love can make you happy. So can a good, productive sit on the toilet. And so can a cold beer. Love on it's own doesn't make me happy. You got pair other things with it: humor, self-confidence, patience, exercise, liquor, pride. . . .

[TheChilly]

Better to be at peace with yourself and others than to struggle to achieve artifical "love" as constructed by pop culture.

[Tournesol]

Ruminate on this:

While I am happy when I see you,
I do not need to see you for my happiness.

I think that this is what true, healthy love consists of.

[Tournesol]

Also, I don't believe that you can 'find' love - it finds you!

[JuniperWoolf]

Why has litnet been so anti-love lately? It's pretty great. Even when it makes your stomach hurt, it's a good hurt. I'm pro romantic love (which I assume we're talking about here - no one has mentioned their mother yet). It makes life MUCH more interesting, nothing beats that rush.

[BienvenuJDC]

Also, I don't believe that you can 'find' love - it finds you!

There's much truth to that...


Why has litnet been so anti-love lately? It's pretty great. Even when it makes your stomach hurt, it's a good hurt. I'm pro romantic love (which I assume we're talking about here - no one has mentioned their mother yet). It makes life MUCH more interesting, nothing beats that rush.

I agree. It seems that we too often dwell on the pain of lost love then recalling the love in the first place. If there IS such pain...then there must have been love.

[Vonny]

Why has litnet been so anti-love lately? It's pretty great. Even when it makes your stomach hurt, it's a good hurt. I'm pro romantic love (which I assume we're talking about here - no one has mentioned their mother yet). It makes life MUCH more interesting, nothing beats that rush.

Do you have any idea how to get a tight ring off a dead finger? Someone told me those bubbles will work, in the bottle that they sell for kids.

[Delta40]

I watched my father die and it was the most amazing experience of my life. It was a journey of self-discovery. Realising that I can love unconditionally and walk them as far as possible toward the light before bidding them farewell.

I'd do it again in a heartbeat for anyone who was dying.

[Alexander III]

Im not sure if it makes you "happy" but there is no greater feeling than being in Love. I guess it is like life, you don't know if it is all that good or all that bad, and you have days were happiness really does seem like a warm gun. But without Life, there is nothing within it, all that sadness and joy and everything we feel is only there because of life. Love is just like that. It is like entering a new life.

[JuniperWoolf]

Do you have any idea how to get a tight ring off a dead finger? Someone told me those bubbles will work, in the bottle that they sell for kids.

Haha, I just so happen to never have been in that situation. You can avoid strapping yourself with a dead weight as long as you remain vigilant.

[osho]

I watched my father die and it was the most amazing experience of my life. It was a journey of self-discovery. Realising that I can love unconditionally and walk them as far as possible toward the light before bidding them farewell.

I'd do it again in a heartbeat for anyone who was dying.

This is a true example to substantiate the fact that live still exists and we are still capable of that notwithstanding the fact that many resist this since we are going thru a socioeconomic era ethics, love, compassion and humanity are in crisis.

[Tournesol]

I guess you also need to ask yourself the question 'what is happiness?'

To me, happiness is a state, a transient state. Just like being 'in love' - it's transient.

Both these things must be transient, because they carry with them such extreme emotions, feelings, such a 'high' that one cannot really live in.

The reason we have bouts of 'happiness' and 'love' is to see us through the other mundane times of our lives. These times we experience contentment, and a 'feeling' of love.

There's a difference between loving someone, and being 'in love' with someone. And I believe that contentment and happiness associate each respectively.

So, for your question, which is in the past tense, and I'd like to chage that: 'Does love make you happy?'

My answer: YES.

Follow up question: Are there other things in the world that make you happy, as The Comedian has posted above. Answer: YES

And any happiness that you experience in life, whether it came from love, from winning the lotto, or from holding your newborn for the first time, is merely transient.

Happiness is transient. Contentment is what takes us through life. And every time our battery runs low, we experience another bout of happiness, which fuels us on ever more.

[osho]

I guess you also need to ask yourself the question 'what is happiness?'

To me, happiness is a state, a transient state. Just like being 'in love' - it's transient.

Both these things must be transient, because they carry with them such extreme emotions, feelings, such a 'high' that one cannot really live in.

The reason we have bouts of 'happiness' and 'love' is to see us through the other mundane times of our lives. These times we experience contentment, and a 'feeling' of love.

There's a difference between loving someone, and being 'in love' with someone. And I believe that contentment and happiness associate each respectively.

So, for your question, which is in the past tense, and I'd like to chage that: 'Does love make you happy?'

My answer: YES.

Follow up question: Are there other things in the world that make you happy, as The Comedian has posted above. Answer: YES

And any happiness that you experience in life, whether it came from love, from winning the lotto, or from holding your newborn for the first time, is merely transient.

Happiness is transient. Contentment is what takes us through life. And every time our battery runs low, we experience another bout of happiness, which fuels us on ever more.
You sound philosophical. The happiness I mean is not the one that comes out of a certain gratification. It is deep and goes beyond your parameters. Of course in a relationship we will; have to face both bouts of joys and pangs of pains but if we are in love we can transcend these delimiting domains. Happiness has little to do with sensuality and only in deep love one can feel it. Or else our definitions become too shallow.