How does one acquire friends on this network?

[Seasider]

Invite them? Wait to be invited? Hint? Send them a begging letter?/Valentine?/proposal? Be so warm and sweet to everyone that you get added automatically? Not a plea, only a question?

[hillwalker]

Click on the name of the person you want as a friend (either in one of their postings or wherever their name appears) - their profile page will then open - and in the 'Friends' section on the Rt hand side of their profile page click on Befriend whoever and they will receive a Message telling them you have asked to be considered as a friend.

If they like the look of you (!) they'll welcome you with open arms - if they decline, don't take it personally.

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[mtpspur]

My original experience here took a bit of doing. Was coming off a low point in my life and was anxious for ANY form of positive companionship but not sure if this palce was a 'right' fit or not. Most of my classics reading was done decades ago and I've mostly lived on pulp and detective novels since. I almost gave up a few times. I blogged more to get some demons out of my system and started getting attention that way. I rarely invite anyone thanks to that pesky fear of rejection. Grace86 will always hold the record for getting me started in friendships here as she sympathetically responded to a post made months earlier with NO response (which you get used to) and one of the moderators began encouraging me as well--the always to be foindly thought upon Logos. So best to you. As the fellow above stated--don't take it personal. People come and go so fast here I'm probably considered an old timer now. Sigh.

[kiki1982]

I don't know, it just comes and then you click 'accept'. I think I sent one so far. For the rest I get them, though the last one came across as fishing (which was not intended ;)). I still do not see any plusses, though, Comedian :p. Anyone else who wants a try? :D So, needless to say that I have few friends, but that's because I haven't really set my aim at getting loads of them.

I don't know, get noticed by writing interesting stuff? (although that sounds too much like blowing my own trumpet. Well, only once :q).

[Paulclem]

Bribery...bribery is always good...

[kiki1982]

What do you suggest :D

oh oh oh,...!

A KINDLE!

[Maryd.]

Argue with them... Everyone except me, likes people who argue with them.

[Maximilianus]

Invite them? Wait to be invited? Hint? Send them a begging letter?/Valentine?/proposal? Be so warm and sweet to everyone that you get added automatically? Not a plea, only a question?
I've tried most of that and so far it's been working :p


Argue with them... Everyone except me, likes people who argue with them.
Except me too. I only like people who step themselves on my side :p
Steph must be the only friend with whom I've argued, but we never ceased to be fond of each other :)

[Mutatis-Mutandis]

I must admit it's much more flattering when someone send you an invite, but that someone also accepts it is also nice. Basically, I ask people who I find to be insightful on here to be friends, rather than someone who agrees with me or is nice--though it doesn't hurt (and this is in NO WAY meant to mean if you haven't gotten a friend request that I haven't found your posts insightful or anything--adding people to my friends list is not my first priority on this site).

I have found that when I click some people's public profiles, the usual page doesn't come up. No profile pic or list of friends, no visitor messages. The latest has been MystyrMystyry who I want to send a friend request to, and there's no option there. Here's what I get when I click to see his public profile. (http://www.online-literature.com/forums/member.php?u=75130) Privacy settings, maybe?

[The Atheist]

Invite them? Wait to be invited? Hint? Send them a begging letter?/Valentine?/proposal? Be so warm and sweet to everyone that you get added automatically? Not a plea, only a question?

Easy answer:


Bribery...bribery is always good...

Set up a few rounds at The Blokes Club - that'll work. We eve allow girls if you're that way inclined and have a large...






























...wallet.

[Paulclem]

oh oh oh,...!

A KINDLE!

It'd get my vote!! Yes.


Easy answer:



Set up a few rounds at The Blokes Club - that'll work. We eve allow girls if you're that way inclined and have a large...

...wallet.

:biggrin5:

[OrphanPip]

I have found that when I click some people's public profiles, the usual page doesn't come up. No profile pic or list of friends, no visitor messages. The latest has been MystyrMystyry who I want to send a friend request to, and there's no option there. Here's what I get when I click to see his public profile. (http://www.online-literature.com/forums/member.php?u=75130) Privacy settings, maybe?

They have their privacy settings set to friends only.

[farnoosh]

Well, I always accept friend request even if I don't know him/her, eventully I leave CMs so much that we become friends but some poeple don't.That doesn't mean they don't like you, it simply means they don't know you still to call you a friend.
You can try leaving CMs on the profiles or reading blogs to get to know others.and hopefully they'll respond!:)