Is the first motive of marriage physical relationship?

[blazeofglory]

I wonder whether our first motive to marry is to have physical relationship, romance, sex and the rest of that and love, compassion follows then after. And it is sheer maturity, youthfulness that matters first and foremost and we for that reason are sheer pretenders and nothing else. We weave so many stories about marriage, heroic, daring but at the core we are interested in the flesh of the opposite sex not in the soul, the platonic stuff is trash.
Do you agree? Maybe not. Since your parents cultivated a mind in you that looks at relationship in a different light. You love to ideate a perfect or ideal relationship. This is how our books o love stories were written in praise of heroic deeds. But beneath all those spun off stories lie all pretensions and nothing else.
Man is the stupidest creature to weave such false stories. Animas do not behave so idiotically in point of fact, do they?
Man is a greedy and self seeking creature and the biggest motive is self sustenance. The rest is rubbish

[SleepyWitch]

I suppose it depends on the culture you live in. Here in the "West" you can have as much pre-marital sex as you want to. So not being married is not an obstacle to having sex.
Nevertheless, lots of people mix up lust with love and get married because of that. From their perspective, they are still marrying out of love though, because they are not aware that they are mixing things up.

[The Atheist]

I suppose it depends on the culture you live in. Here in the "West" you can have as much pre-marital sex as you want to. So not being married is not an obstacle to having sex.
Nevertheless, lots of people mix up lust with love and get married because of that. From their perspective, they are still marrying out of love though, because they are not aware that they are mixing things up.

100 points for Gryffindor!

[SleepyWitch]

100 points for Gryffindor!

thanks :) but how do you know I'm not a Slytherin?

[Shalot]

People have different motives for getting married and it differs for everyone as far as what they're really after. They may not want to be alone, or they could have financial motives. Is marriage an outdated institution?

[Paulclem]

People have different motives for getting married and it differs for everyone as far as what they're really after. They may not want to be alone, or they could have financial motives. Is marriage an outdated institution?

I don't think its outdated, but I have had a very positive eperience of it. One result that surprised me - because I was an unthinking male probably - was how secure it makes you feel. I'm not a needy, grasping, desperate person - and wasn't before I was married, but I found the experience to be comforting. So many pressures are lifted. I think of it as the sanctuary of marriage.

Of course I'm lucky and some others aren't.