What would you do if you ONLY had 3 months to live?

[dizzydoll]

This is a pretty profound question actually which most people never stop to consider, not only for your own feelings if faced with this situation, but also how you hope others would begin relating and responding to you.
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What would YOU do with your last days, would you want to be surrounded by family and friends all the time? Or not, needing your space to explore all the things you wished you had done before? Would you continue to pound your head with as much knowledge [from books, college, university etc] as you could muster? There is cause to believe that accumulated knowledge in this life will serve you well in future lives, so there is merit to continue being studious too. Or would you get out into the sunshine, snow, rain, etc, to enjoy what little freshness of life is left before your Light goes out? Would you find yourself in constant prayer for the salvation of your soul? How would you best occupy your limited time left on earth?
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From my part, I would ask from everyone I know to be absolutely honest with me going forward. Isn't it silly to think like that, after all I should expect honestly all the time... but no, because there are many reasons why people don't open up completely and I believe that we don't have the right to "expect" it, even tho we would prefer it. We should accept the people we love as they are, warts and all. So that is one thing I would ask, to put all feelings aside and provide total honesty for every question I ask.
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The second thing, I wouldn't want any sympathy, in fact that would irritate the hell out of me, which is probably a good thing if I want to go to heaven, right?. lol. But no, self pity is a luxury none of us can afford and I don't believe there is a "place" called heaven either. However I do believe we all become ONE with the cosmos again to return into another physical body at point in the future. It is for this reason that I am not afraid of death because there is no death. imo. So, no sympathy.
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Look forward to reading your thoughts, I might even adopt some of them as my own if they're appealing.

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[SilentMute]

You know what is funny? I don't think I would alter my life much. The only thing I might do is take lots of pictures, maybe buy a camcorder and do a lot of recording, and keep a journal of my memories.

But otherwise, I'd do what I always do. I would continue to go to school. I would watch movies and crime shows with my mom. I would do chores. I guess if I were dying, I'd spend a little bit more time with my mom than I do already.

Everybody always thinks death is very profound--and it can be enlightening. But it is natural usually--and what is natural can be very anticlimatic. Just because you are dying doesn't mean you stop living while you are doing it. The dishes still need to be washed. And if we didn't take that trip or do that thing we always wanted to do before--it is not likely we are going to do it when we are dying. I don't mean to sound negative, but I just don't think that if you didn't do it before--it was probably not as important to you as you think it was.

I feel pretty satisfied with my life. I think my mom knows I love her. There isn't anything pressing that I feel I have to accomplish.

[sh_einstein]

I'll buy a boat and start going around in the oceans, trying to make sense of this world and try to make sense of my entire life...do you believe in the next life?I do... I'll try to think about the things I'm going to do differently next time.
and then I'll probably go to the Bermuda triangle(as it is called in my language) because I've always wanted to figure it out and as I'll have nothng to lose, It will be a great last experience...

[dizzydoll]

I'll buy a boat and start going around in the oceans, trying to make sense of this world and try to make sense of my entire life...do you believe in the next life?I do... I'll try to think about the things I'm going to do differently next time.
and then I'll probably go to the Bermuda triangle(as it is called in my language) because I've always wanted to figure it out and as I'll have nothng to lose, It will be a great last experience...

You go girl, you've got it! begin to dream a little bit. Treat every day as if its your last. Pull off your sandals, dash into the sea. Sing like no one can hear you, dance like no one can see. And while youre at it, dont forget to hug a tree.

[Dodo25]

I'd start by visiting the special people I have met one more time - the ones that live far away from me right now. Then there are a handful of books I would want to read. I'd write the book I always wanted to write (better hurry that up, maybe need to compress it to a short story).

Other than that, I wouldn't change my life much. I might even still go to school for part of the time, I need some kind of structure in my life that forces me to do things(, and my friends would be there). Of course I wouldn't do any homowork that doesn't interest me though (well I don't do that anyway).

I think what I do wouldn't change much, but my perception of life would. I would appreciate things instead of taking them for granted. I would live much more intense and in the moment. I would take risks for there would be no future.

If my condition is something that gets worse gradually, I wouldn't want to die weak and insane, so I'd kill myself before I can't 'think' anymore.

[sh_einstein]

I'm actually thinking about it...not that I'll buy a boat, I'm going to leave home and start a new, happy life hopefully, I want to travel around and "treat everyday as if its my last" :)

[dizzydoll]

If my condition is something that gets worse gradually, I wouldn't want to die weak and insane, so I'd kill myself before I can't 'think' anymore.

Nope, none of that happening here. This is the world of make believe were all things end up good.


I'm actually thinking about it...not that I'll buy a boat, I'm going to leave home and start a new, happy life hopefully, I want to travel around and "treat everyday as if its my last" :)

Doubts kills all dreams doll, just have faith treating everyday as your last and you'll be a success. Dont forget to write down what you appreciate every day mind, cos that brings the stardust necessary to sparkle up your life for sure.

[soundofmusic]

I'd try to make sure I had my bank account and house transferred to my daughter and bills paid; make sure my cremation costs were covered...I don't want a funeral.
I am trying to decide if I would call all my old friends and relatives I am out of touch with...Nah, probably not.
I might take that hot, young man up on his offer since I can't die from anything I catch in 3 months....Just watch, they'd suddenly find a cure after I caught something embarrassing

[The Atheist]

I'd try to make sure I had my bank account and house transferred to my daughter and bills paid; make sure my cremation costs were covered...I don't want a funeral.

You and me both!

But I have decided that if I am ever diagnosed with a terminal illness, I'll hold a "living funeral" a few days before I tie the exit bag.


I am trying to decide if I would call all my old friends and relatives I am out of touch with...Nah, probably not.

I dismissed that side, years ago; anyone I can't be bothered with while I'm not dying, I'm sure as hell not going to bother with when my time is somewhat more limited.



I might take that hot, young man up on his offer since I can't die from anything I catch in 3 months....Just watch, they'd suddenly find a cure after I caught something embarrassing

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[dizzydoll]

I'd try to make sure I had my bank account and house transferred to my daughter and bills paid; make sure my cremation costs were covered...I don't want a funeral.
I am trying to decide if I would call all my old friends and relatives I am out of touch with...Nah, probably not.
I might take that hot, young man up on his offer since I can't die from anything I catch in 3 months....Just watch, they'd suddenly find a cure after I caught something embarrassing

You are such I card doll, I really do enjoy your style. I'm the same, dont bury me and then I wake up in a coffin to try and scratch myself out.

LOL, this is what we will end up looking like over time. No burn me and throw my ashes in the ocean so the water droplets can soothe me.

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[soundofmusic]

You and me both!

But I have decided that if I am ever diagnosed with a terminal illness, I'll hold a "living funeral" a few days before I tie the exit bag.

I dismissed that side, years ago; anyone I can't be bothered with while I'm not dying, I'm sure as hell not going to bother with when my time is somewhat more limited.


Exactly, Enjoy life while it is enjoyable. It is always tragic to see someone visit a patient on oxygen who can't swallow, "Look mamma, I bought you your favorite truffles, do you want to try one...No; well, maybe later! And look at this beautiful silk nightie; do you want to get up and try it on...Nurse, do you think we could stand her up...She doesn't stand up...When did she stop walking?

Ah yes, Inviting those folks that mom stopped talking to in the '40s. The first day goes pretty well; by funeral day, "She did not steal your husband...don't call my mother a whore....


You are such I card doll, I really do enjoy your style. I'm the same, dont bury me and then I wake up in a coffin to try and scratch myself out.

LOL, this is what we will end up looking like over time. No burn me and throw my ashes in the ocean so the water droplets can soothe me.


All of my relatives were upset with me when I didn't have a funeral for my husband; and they thought the cremation was scandelous. It was funny, the relatives that did know my husband, didn't like him. Which is my point; I hate hypocrisy and one just sees too much at a funeral.

Yes, as a great fan of Poe, I was always afraid of being buried alive. Actually, now seeing what a person looks like a few hours after death; it would really be difficult to mistake. Though, I swear, every once in a while, I think I see them move as the guys are carrying them out.

I guess, I'd hate to wake up in the oven too...A Viking funeral would be nice!

[dizzydoll]

Exactly, Enjoy life while it is enjoyable. It is always tragic to see someone visit a patient on oxygen who can't swallow, "Look mamma, I bought you your favorite truffles, do you want to try one...No; well, maybe later! And look at this beautiful silk nightie; do you want to get up and try it on...Nurse, do you think we could stand her up...She doesn't stand up...When did she stop walking?

Yes, as a great fan of Poe, I was always afraid of being buried alive. Actually, now seeing what a person looks like a few hours after death; it would really be difficult to mistake. Though, I swear, every once in a while, I think I see them move as the guys are carrying them out.


Isn't it strange how we were thrown together with some people? Some of them would certainly not be of our choosing, but we have to endure them. You can choose your friends but you cant choose your relatives -- you stuck with them. There is a fair amount of learning right there. And when it comes to money, they become vultures. I walk away, as I did once. Let them have the money, its not worth the fight.

Do you know, if you cut a chickens head off it still runs about? lol. So I believe you when you say that you've seen the dead move.

But seriously on a more serious note... if I was to find out that I only have 3 months left on this beautiful earth, I would become outrageous! I leave the rest up to your imagination. One thing I might add, I would keep that smile on my face while doing it.

[hillwalker]

If I was to find out that I only have 3 months left on this beautiful earth, I would become outrageous! I leave the rest up to your imagination.


Should I book my ticket now, dizzy??

No, seriously (well, slightly seriously) I would convert all my worldly goods into cash and travel in luxury to all those wonderful places I have yet to visit (hoping all the time, of course that the '3 months left' part was indeed correct - having no wish to wake up to reality and spend the rest of my days bankrupt).
And I would probably time my farewell tour to end somewhere like India on the banks of the Ganges.....

[dizzydoll]

Yes exactly Walker, the world is our personal playground. I would like to know what its like to beg in the traffic, at the robots for example, I wonder how much they make in a day? Just for the experience. Anyway I agree, travel.. tell everyone your last name is Rockefeller. I saw a program of exactly that, this guy who didnt have two cents to his name went to the Hampton's in the USA, apparently very upmarket area... lots of wealthy people, they embraced him because he used the name Rockefeller and he scammed them silly.

Now I wouldnt do stuff like that, but I would create an Alta Ego called Sherry or something French would be better, then I would do outrageous stuff.... not bad just fun stuff. Do pranks, like we saw on Funny People for example, things I would never do now.

I would swim in the nude, which I have never done. When it comes to nudity the sky's the limit at shocking people silly, just think about it. I'd join the mile-high club. hehe, got to find someone willing first. lol.

I'd prefer my end in an African game reserve [probably the Serengeti] with surrounding sounds of nature and wildlife, to enjoy its darkness which reveals every star in the night sky.

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[soundofmusic]

Isn't it strange how we were thrown together with some people? Some of them would certainly not be of our choosing, but we have to endure them. You can choose your friends but you cant choose your relatives -- you stuck with them. There is a fair amount of learning right there. And when it comes to money, they become vultures. I walk away, as I did once. Let them have the money, its not worth the fight.
Do you know, if you cut a chickens head off it still runs about? lol. So I believe you when you say that you've seen the dead move. One thing I might add, I would keep that smile on my face while doing it.

Right after my husband left the service, he had a 10,000 dollar life insurance policy he put in his brothers name. Later, he put it in my name with his brother as a contingent. Whenever his brother would come to visit; the first question was the state of his health and the state of the insurance policy:eek:

I think my seeing them move has more to do with an old fear of pronouncing someone who is alive with a really soft heart beat.
I did have one patient who's family gave her an Irish wake after her death. They sat her up and invited her ex husband and both husbands drank together. It was really a bit horrifying...:ack2:
Well, heck, why wait til death; let's go find a male strip bar...No time like the present and I've never seen a male dancer.


Should I book my ticket now, dizzy??

No, seriously (well, slightly seriously) I would convert all my worldly goods into cash and travel in luxury to all those wonderful places I have yet to visit (hoping all the time, of course that the '3 months left' part was indeed correct - having no wish to wake up to reality and spend the rest of my days bankrupt).
And I would probably time my farewell tour to end somewhere like India on the banks of the Ganges.....

Ah, now that sounds like something wonderful; what is that poem about the banks of the Ganges...how do you feel about taking an old woman with you and imparting the remainder of your cash reserve?




I would swim in the nude, which I have never done. When it comes to nudity the sky's the limit at shocking people silly, just think about it. I'd join the mile-high club. hehe, got to find someone willing first. lol.

I'd prefer my end in an African game reserve [probably the Serengeti] with surrounding sounds of nature and wildlife, to enjoy its darkness which reveals every star in the night sky.



I don't believe you've never swam in the nude...it's not that great...at least when there is sand on the shore:crazy:
Is the mile high club the one with airplanes bathrooms or elevators...I've always wondered how 2 people fit in an airplanes bathroom.
It seems a perfect waste to not let me sell a couple of your organs before you die on a game reserve...I think hearts are going for 25,000
do you think we should all make a pact to donate our organs to each other....:frown2:

[dizzydoll]

Well, heck, why wait til death; let's go find a male strip bar...No time like the present and I've never seen a male dancer.

Is the mile high club the one with airplanes bathrooms or elevators...I've always wondered how 2 people fit in an airplanes bathroom.
It seems a perfect waste to not let me sell a couple of your organs before you die on a game reserve...I think hearts are going for 25,000
do you think we should all make a pact to donate our organs to each other....:frown2:

Agreed, I've not seen a male stripper either, that would be cool only with a bunch of girls tho. I wouldnt want some poor guy being embarrassed by the lot of us. lol

Nope, never swam in the nude so that would be right up there if I knew my time on earth was limited.

The mile-high club, on the seat my dear in first class, lol. with a sheet to conceal the ecstasy. Seriously, its a nice thought but I dont know if I'd have the courage.. even on my death bed.,

AND OF COURSE, ALL THIS TALK IS CHEAP.!!!! LOL.

And you are correct, I would donate any part of my body to research or to another who needs an old organ. lol. I am currently an organ donor anyway but thanks for bringing it up. Everyone should be an organ donor. :biggrin5:

[applepie]

I would likely go on with life as normal. Odds are, unless I couldn't hide it, I wouldn't even tell anyone other than my husband about it. I would just focus on enjoying the time I have left with my kids and the rest of my family. I would want them to have good memories of our last days when when I was gone. I can't think of much that I would do for myself other than to soak everything in since the memories are for my pleasure too.

[soundofmusic]

Agreed, I've not seen a male stripper either, that would be cool only with a bunch of girls tho. I wouldnt want some poor guy being embarrassed by the lot of us. lol

And you are correct, I would donate any part of my body to research or to another who needs an old organ. lol. I am currently an organ donor anyway but thanks for bringing it up. Everyone should be an organ donor. :biggrin5:

I have been invited to parties with male strippers; actually, though, the girls get so embarrassing when they're tipsy. Poor fellows, particularly since most of the male strippers are gay, the last thing they want is to have some old cougar grabbing at them. I think I might go with a nice lady friend or male friend and sit discretly in a corner sipping my fruity drink.

I haven't become an organ donor...actually, I passed a bloodmobile yesterday. The lady said, "Donate blood" I said, "When you guys give it to the patients for free; I'll give it to you for free"...Do you know what they charge patients for blood...scandelous! I would be an organ donor; but I want to make sure I get all of my last breaths before they start cutting:cold:
I couldn't believe how fast the paperwork came from the university before my husband died. They wouldn't accept him at the VA hospital when he was alive (because he had contracted MRSA); but UM sent a organ chart as soon as they took him off the machine telling all the parts they wanted...I was so disqusted, I refused to sign. However, I always thought that was why his body disappeared for 2 weeks.


I would likely go on with life as normal. Odds are, unless I couldn't hide it, I wouldn't even tell anyone other than my husband about it. I would just focus on enjoying the time I have left with my kids and the rest of my family. I would want them to have good memories of our last days when when I was gone. I can't think of much that I would do for myself other than to soak everything in since the memories are for my pleasure too.

That is the best idea. We all enjoy our ideas about death...really, few people feel very much like visiting, eating, or trips in their last days. I did have one patient who ate pork ribs and died playing dominos, with his family and friends at his side...what a way to go...

[blazeofglory]

Should I behave impulsively if I will have just three months to live? I want to do funny things breaking all norms and standards. I may be thieving or murdering someone I really disgustful of and strip myself of all formalities and of the dos and don’ts. Money? I will rub the rich of it the way my favorite Robin hood did and run on the street the way I did in my babyhood. But I cannot do all these stuffs and somebody is watching all the time and finally I will have to settle myself with the same old routine doing this and that by our set standards. Can we do what our heart wants? I bet we cannot

[caddy_caddy]

I'll try to prepare my kids for the situation, emotionally and intellectually and ask for forgiveness from others and God so I can die peacefully .

[Revolte]

The mile-high club, on the seat my dear in first class, lol. with a sheet to conceal the ecstasy. Seriously, its a nice thought but I dont know if I'd have the courage.. even on my death bed.,
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I'd do it, I think sex has been ruined the same way playing has. You have certain places that it's ok to do so, and of course working it around your schedual, and hoping your not too tired by the end of the day. You can only run around the parts of your house untill it's just no fun anymore. Sometimes you have to spice it up, sure you may have to run from security.. But hey, that just means it was worth it :lol:

[dafydd manton]

This sounds like a cheap joke, but it isn't. I'm being quite serious. Ask for a second opinion!

[Buh4Bee]

I'd take a trip to Norway. Then I would talk about destroying my body with drugs and alcohol, but instead I'd sit with my baby. I'd probably cry for a week straight, then accept the circumstances and visit the church as much as possible. I'd want my dog with me and the baby. My husband would be there and no one else except God. If it were spring, I'd ask to sit in a chair outside and if it were winter, I'd want to be by a window to watch the snow by a fire. I'd smile and see the beauty in everything and then I'd die. I'd be at peace?

[Jassy Melson]

I would only do things that make me feel good. I would stay away from things that make me feel bad such as economics, politics, alegebra, electronics, mechanics, preachers, teachers, philosophers, poets, and my relatives. I would drink a lot of alcohol and do a lot of drugs that makes one feel good but doesn't do any harm--such as mescaline. I wouldn't read or write anything. I would enjoy each day to the fullest.