Is "sex" without penetration is not "sex"?

[Nyu001]

Ok, I got in a discussion with someone after I posted "Love or money" (Not from this forum). And we ended disagreeing about something. What is sex? Is it just the penetration and oral?

To me sex is not just penetration. Sex join many important elements where the couple are interacting in many ways. A mix of Kissing, cuddling, touching, caressing of the whole body.

[Leannain]

Ahaha, the sex in the sentence oral sex is there for a reason. If we think of it in that way, does that mean that a true lesbian is still a virgin despite having had several (female) sexual partners?

I'm sure that you've heard from many women the line: "Sex first starts in the brain", that means, they want romance. Since romance is a road to arouse the woman, "seduce" her, romance is sexual, therefore, romance is sex.

Kissing and foreplay is sexual as well - kissing turns a person on, which results in sex. Some variants of kissing are more sexual: French kissing, for one

Outercourse: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Outercourse

You'll notice something funny about people.

Some Men, will say they "scored" when they kissed a woman(first base).

Some Women will say they have this set number of sexual partners; they don't count the guys they kissed, groped, had oral or anal sex with and the most funny of them all is when they say that hook - ups don't count as sexual partners because it was just sex.

Ahaha, I had one woman say that to me. She was trying to make herself more appealing to me(whereas men who score with a lot of females are thought of studs, women who do the same are thought of "hookers") lowered her sexual partners from 6 to 3 because those 3 were boyfriends or friends she had known for a long time. The other 3 were casual hook - ups.

I'm sure she didn't account for the oral sex and anal sexual members ;).

[Captain Pike]

An interesting topic. I used to be a real stud (legend in my own mind).
I've had some things happen which have made me have a whole new look on intimacy.

[Lokasenna]

I think that the rule of thumb should be that if you've climaxed in the vicinity of one another, with each others help, then that probably counts as sex... I think..?

[Bakiryu]

ok, why is this is an a literature forum? wth?

anyway, in my opinion: if someone is touching someone, parts are being groped and things rubbed, it's sex. it doesn't matter who or what with.

I don't think kissing count as sex if it's just a kiss however....that's silly.

[Nyu001]

This is general chat. Discuss anything. ;)

As I said, to me sex is not a mere penetration. Sex involve the whole act both person do to each other, involves the brain mainly and the pleasure and desire they are causing to each other. To say sex is just when there is a penetration I find it hard to think. Because if you did all the before, what would that be?

The person who I was discussing it was just saying sex is the penetration or the oral of the genitals. But to me, sex is not just that.

[Scheherazade]

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