View Full Version : What did you do for your 18th birthday?
stephofthenight
10-06-2009, 11:01 PM
So It occured to me that my birthday is in like 7 months. And I need to figure out what to do. I was kind of thinking a cruise...But I dont like water or boats. And than I thought about traveling but I hate driving and am scared of fllying... So what did you do for your 18th birthday and would you recomend it.
Lokasenna
10-07-2009, 02:45 AM
I went to a nice restaurant with around a dozen close friends. It was an absolutely lovely evening, particularly because I'm not a fan of big parties.
Maximilianus
10-07-2009, 03:56 AM
My parents secretly organized a party with my schoolmates, at my house. We had a barbecue and after everyone was gone, we realized about all that was missing from the house, including one of my CDs, a cute knife from my mom's kitchen that she still misses because it was a very good knife, and several other goods that were also stolen. We sometimes still regret having had that party. My mom felt bad because it was her whole idea, and she felt bad about my losing that CD. Actually it was nobody's fault. Before the party none of us knew we were inviting thieves. We more like thought they were just... schoolmates.
So be careful, steph. If you have a party, before you invite anyone to your house run an investigation on their habits, so you don't have to regret after :nod:
Dirtbag
10-07-2009, 06:00 AM
My parents secretly organized a party with my schoolmates, at my house. We had a barbecue and after everyone was gone, we realized about all that was missing from the house, including one of my CDs, a cute knife from my mom's kitchen that she still misses because it was a very good knife, and several other goods that were also stolen. We sometimes still regret having had that party. My mom felt bad because it was her whole idea, and she felt bad about my losing that CD. Actually it was nobody's fault. Before the party none of us knew we were inviting thieves. We more like thought they were just... schoolmates.
So be careful, steph. If you have a party, before you invite anyone to your house run an investigation on their habits, so you don't have to regret after :nod:
That's awful. May I ask what CD it was?
My 18th was erm.. interesting.
It was last August, the 22nd, on a saturday. The friday beforehand my family and i went to dinner at this italian restaurant. Just as we're about to finish ordering, the police come in and tell the whole restaurant that we all need to leave. We were evacuated out in to the street and the restaurant and the block was sectioned off, with us in the section. Anyway, long story short, someone called saying that they were going to bomb the place - we were told that the restaurant would be closed for the
night, so we left to another restaurant. Before i knew it , i was incredibly drunk, they brought out a plate that said "happy birthday" on it, because they had found out it was my birthday, were trying to be nice etc etc - anyway, i started freaking out and getting angry asking what kind of restaurant would bring me a "cakeless" plate ( they had written happy birthday in chocolate and put chocolate buttons on the cake )
i was rude and violent.
Got home, vomited all over my floor and laughed as my poor mum cleaned it up. Next day i felt awful, naturally...
And then that night i went out clubbing with my friends, stayed over at my best friend's house, her boyfriend stayed too, and I woke up to him "spooning" me, because he thought i was her.
Best birthday weekend ever.
papayahed
10-07-2009, 08:02 AM
So be careful, steph. If you have a party, before you invite anyone to your house run an investigation on their habits, so you don't have to regret after :nod:
Isn't that a rule? Anytime you have a party at your own house something always turns up missing. At a party at my friends house her mom's hair curlers and a pair of her dad's shoes went missing.
Anyways, I really can't remember what I did for my 18th birthday.
Niamh
10-07-2009, 08:09 AM
My 18th birthday was in the middle of my end of semester exams. I went out to the pub with some of my college friends and got a bit merry. (poor student. didnt have enough money to get drunk) May have gone to a club... not sure.
At the weekend, think did something with the family and then headed out with my sister and all our friends to the gasworks, which was a rock club on o'connell st. (now a russian "flamenco" dancing place... yeah dont ask. :p )
pussnboots
10-07-2009, 08:52 AM
Jeez, I can't remember that far back!!!
1n50mn14
10-07-2009, 10:07 AM
I had a party with a few close friends, then hit the bars to see which ones would ID me :D.
The Comedian
10-07-2009, 10:18 AM
I think I uh. . .I think. . .I had cake. And I remember walking across the field and over the dam and up the big hill to the horse jump. Then I sat on the jump, smoked a cigar, and looked at the mountains.
I think that's an excellent way to spend a birthday, The Comedian - in solitude.
As for my eighteenth birthday last year..I just gathered my family, brought sushi and some blueberry cake. After a couple of days, my friends insisted we celebrate and go to a club. It was the day after my debut in theatre so I felt that I need not celebrate much.
Steph, I think an important thing you must concider on your special day is what activity you most enjoy and spend it with the ones you love; that way, it would be memorable.
stephofthenight
10-07-2009, 03:20 PM
Well. Mountains sound fun, except I live in texas... As far as clubbing...Did that all last year. more fun when its illegal. :) but uh. yeah. seems everyone gets drunk for their 18th. Maybe ill go on the cruise. HMM. We should have a litnet cruise...that would be fun :D
"LITNET GOES TO MEXICO"
*Classic*Charm*
10-07-2009, 04:00 PM
My parents drove up to my school to take me out for lunch, so I spent the afternoon with them, then that evening a few friends from home came up and my friends at school had a cake for me. It was in the middle of midterms so we couldn't really do too much. Then I got in a fight with my boyfriend. The evening ended badly. It was actually a day I'd rather not pay much attention to. My 19th was one of the best days of my life though.
Probably went out and bought a pack of cigars and a can of chew. I don't remember mine, but I remember Kevin's very vividly.
Niamh
10-07-2009, 04:35 PM
may it be noted that for many of us turning 18 actually meant being legally able to drink, hence the drinking. the US is one of the only places with 21 legal age.
*Classic*Charm*
10-07-2009, 08:02 PM
I wasn't legal at 18 either, Niamh! It's 19 in Canada.
stephofthenight
10-07-2009, 09:08 PM
True True. that annoys me. 18 you can vote, smoke, chew, have credit cards, bank account, and insurance plan, not to mention enlist to get killed in the army. 21 you can drink and go to casinos. 25 you can rent a car. LOL pick an age already
Dirtbag
10-08-2009, 04:55 AM
I wasn't legal at 18 either, Niamh! It's 19 in Canada.
18 in Manitoba, Alberta, and Quebec.
We're so random. I love our country.
Niamh
10-08-2009, 05:08 AM
I wasn't legal at 18 either, Niamh! It's 19 in Canada.
Really? but it thought it was 18's throughout Canada?
True True. that annoys me. 18 you can vote, smoke, chew, have credit cards, bank account, and insurance plan, not to mention enlist to get killed in the army. 21 you can drink and go to casinos. 25 you can rent a car. LOL pick an age already
I remember when smoking was 16 here... think it still is in the UK. 18 here to do practically all of that... we dont have casinos though and its 23 to rent a car.
Maximilianus
10-08-2009, 11:39 AM
That's awful. May I ask what CD it was?
Sure. It was a Guns N' Roses CD, specifically their "Lies" album. At that time I was into that type of music, so it was a terrible loss for me.
Isn't that a rule? Anytime you have a party at your own house something always turns up missing. At a party at my friends house her mom's hair curlers and a pair of her dad's shoes went missing.
Well it was the first party at home with crooks, and obviously the last, especially with adolescents (mayhap the worse type of crook). However I suppose it must be a rule.
Annamariah
10-08-2009, 03:17 PM
I managed to get 5 visitors on my 18th birthday. We ate some good food and jumped on the trampoline on our backyard. My parents and brothers were at home but didn't bother us. All in all it was a nice day, but I'm not sure if one can really call that a party...
http://i191.photobucket.com/albums/z284/kaislaneito/IMG_3550.jpg
Niamh
10-08-2009, 03:35 PM
oooo! trampoline! fun!
Lulim
10-08-2009, 04:03 PM
Actually, my 18th birthday, while a long time ago left a lasting impression with me. It was my first attempt at a party. In the end, I sat toying with the food waiting for guests who wouldn't show up. I didn't take the risk a second time, you know :(
Annamariah
10-08-2009, 04:09 PM
Actually, my 18th birthday, while a long time ago left a lasting impression with me. It was my first attempt at a party. In the end, I sat toying with the food waiting for guests who wouldn't show up. I didn't take the risk a second time, you know :(
Oh no :( At least I managed to get five guests, which was two more than the previous year...
Niamh
10-08-2009, 04:13 PM
Actually, my 18th birthday, while a long time ago left a lasting impression with me. It was my first attempt at a party. In the end, I sat toying with the food waiting for guests who wouldn't show up. I didn't take the risk a second time, you know :(
oh no! i know how that feels. most birthdays i invite people out and then usually two people turn up, none of which are my really close friends and i spend the rest of the night upset and wondering if i'm an awful friend. Last year was the first birthday this didnt happen.
isidro
10-08-2009, 04:27 PM
I turned 18. That's about it. Oh wait. I got engaged at the same time but that was not planned for my birthday....
Annamariah
10-08-2009, 04:30 PM
oh no! i know how that feels. most birthdays i invite people out and then usually two people turn up, none of which are my really close friends and i spend the rest of the night upset and wondering if i'm an awful friend. Last year was the first birthday this didnt happen.
That's the reason why I haven't had that many birthday parties :p When I turned twenty I was in Kouvola with my flatmate and one friend, no one else had time or will to see me.
Niamh
10-08-2009, 04:43 PM
That's the reason why I haven't had that many birthday parties :p When I turned twenty I was in Kouvola with my flatmate and one friend, no one else had time or will to see me.
Yep i've had that too. One year (many many years ago, shes appologised since) my bestfriend bailed on me on my birthday because she wanted to sit in "alone" with a guy she fancied... cause he was obviously more important than a friend of almost a decade. I was suffering badly from depression at this point so it was a hard blow to me.
Annamariah
10-08-2009, 04:47 PM
Yep i've had that too. One year (many many years ago, shes appologised since) my bestfriend bailed on me on my birthday because she wanted to sit in "alone" with a guy she fancied... cause he was obviously more important than a friend of almost a decade. I was suffering badly from depression at this point so it was a hard blow to me.
Outch :( It hurts when you realise that you don't mean as much to your friends than they mean to you.
Niamh
10-08-2009, 04:51 PM
sure does. that was my 19th birthday if i remember correctly.
andave_ya
10-08-2009, 05:21 PM
ummmmmmm. I turned 18. I...hahaha. I had wanted to get three of my best friends and my sister to go out but we were all so terribly busy with finals and schoolwork and stuff that we kept postponing...it never happened.
BUT I did go out with my family - I think - and we had a very nice meal.
Lulim
10-08-2009, 05:40 PM
Yep i've had that too. One year (many many years ago, shes appologised since) my bestfriend bailed on me on my birthday because she wanted to sit in "alone" with a guy she fancied... cause he was obviously more important than a friend of almost a decade. I was suffering badly from depression at this point so it was a hard blow to me.
I made the experience that people suffering from depression have somehow a repelling effect on other people -- because they are "funkillers"? Do they depress other people?
Btw, my 18th birthday lies already 30 years in the past, it's ok for me now. -- Strange: back then, I even wasn't the hag I've become since ... :goof:
Niamh
10-08-2009, 05:47 PM
No they dont generally.
do they depress other people?
depression isn't like sadness, it's not something that people absorb and then SUDDENLY they're depressed too. It's a mental illness.
Lulim
10-08-2009, 06:24 PM
I know it's a mental illness. What I meant to say is, depressive people do not contribute a lot of fun when people come together, they emanate "bad vibrations". -- I don't mean to make fun of it, I tend a little to depressions myself. But I understand people who try to avoid depressive people because they don't know how to handle them.
Niamh
10-08-2009, 06:32 PM
not nesessarily.(sp?) most of the time its hidden behind a cheerful facade. Its just things that get said or done that can show it.
i don't think they do. not the ones i know. i've suffered from it myself.
the thing about depression is, at least this is what i find, you feel all these things... yet your personality still operates to the rest of the world. and that's one thing i find quite odd about it - that your personality still seems to tick. it's empty. but it's there. i find depression is quite a private thing - i think it is a hard thing for other people to pick up on simply because you don't go around moping openly, wanting attention.
it always bothers me when people say that they sometimes feel "depressed"
i'm sure you can feel similar things to it, but it's not a switch you can turn off and on. there is a difference between feeling "depressed" as a way to explain how you feel, to actually suffering from "depression".
Scheherazade
10-08-2009, 06:39 PM
If you would like to discuss depression related issues,
please start a separate thread dedicated to this issue.
The OP:
So what did you do for your 18th birthday and would you recomend it.I was at university for almost two years by the time I turned 18 so it did not mean that much to me becase I was already feeling all grown-up and like a true know-it-all.
I went out for a small dinner with some friends because I did not have much money to spare for a party either.
Steph, I think the important thing is to be with the people you really care about rather than trying to get the most crowded or noisiest party thrown... Because parties are usually forgotten (as you can tell from most of the posts) but the people who have been with us are remembered :)
Mathor
10-08-2009, 06:43 PM
When I was 18 I just hung out with my friends. I wasn't old enough to drink or anything :-/
Niamh
10-08-2009, 06:47 PM
The OP:I was at university for almost two years by the time I turned 18 so it did not mean that much to me becase I was already feeling all grown-up and like a true know-it-all.
you started uni at 16? wow!
I went out for a small dinner with some friends because I did not have much money to spare for a party either.
Steph, I think the important thing is to be with the people you really care about rather than trying to get the most crowded or noisiest party thrown... Because parties are usually forgotten (as you can tell from most of the posts) but the people who have been with us are remembered :)
i agree. spend it with the people who actually mean something and do something that you will all enjoy doing together that will make it loving and memorable. :)
Bakiryu
10-08-2009, 07:11 PM
I just turned seventeen but for my eighteen birthday I'm getting a tattoo and probably more piercings (I have 8)
stephofthenight
10-09-2009, 11:02 PM
Baki you can bet I'll end up with more Tats and piercings the following morning. howvever my Birthday falls on or close to memorial day so that limits what I can do THAT day. :) I'll probably get the other side of my lip pierced and maybe my tounge... idk...
Maximilianus
10-10-2009, 01:21 AM
I managed to get 5 visitors on my 18th birthday. We ate some good food and jumped on the trampoline on our backyard. My parents and brothers were at home but didn't bother us. All in all it was a nice day, but I'm not sure if one can really call that a party...
http://i191.photobucket.com/albums/z284/kaislaneito/IMG_3550.jpg
Nice days are a type of party :nod:
... I sat toying with the food waiting for guests who wouldn't show up. I didn't take the risk a second time, you know :(
You did well. Similar in my case, I take no more thieves at home.
... most birthdays i invite people out and then usually two people turn up, none of which are my really close friends and i spend the rest of the night upset and wondering if i'm an awful friend. Last year was the first birthday this didnt happen.
Then THEY WERE the awful friends.
I turned 18. That's about it. Oh wait. I got engaged at the same time but that was not planned for my birthday....
Birthday with all and special gift :brow: :D
That's the reason why I haven't had that many birthday parties :p When I turned twenty I was in Kouvola with my flatmate and one friend, no one else had time or will to see me.
People who lack the time and will to see us are not our friends, IMHO.
Yep i've had that too. One year (many many years ago, shes appologised since) my bestfriend bailed on me on my birthday because she wanted to sit in "alone" with a guy she fancied... cause he was obviously more important than a friend of almost a decade. I was suffering badly from depression at this point so it was a hard blow to me.
No best friend can harm me that much, simply because I have no one. The people I know are not the best-friend type; just occasional acquaintances.
Outch :( It hurts when you realise that you don't mean as much to your friends than they mean to you.
I insist... those are not your friends. I have experience in this field. The only times I mean a lot to someone is when mom and dad get worried when I'm late after a few hours out of the house, so it's basically them and me... when I'm not with myself and I. You know what they say, better alone than amid bad company.
Annamariah
10-10-2009, 06:27 AM
People who lack the time and will to see us are not our friends, IMHO.
(...)
I insist... those are not your friends. I have experience in this field. The only times I mean a lot to someone is when mom and dad get worried when I'm late after a few hours out of the house, so it's basically them and me... when I'm not with myself and I. You know what they say, better alone than amid bad company.
Perhaps, but there's only so much loneliness one can take (okay, it depends on an individual, but at least I hate being alone for too long. At some point spending some time even with people that aren't very good friends of yours starts to sound appealing.
Too bad that most of the time I decide to be active and socialize a bit I end up sitting alone in some corner and thinking "what the heck am doing here?" while other people are having fun :p
--
But about birthday, I think you should do whatever it is that you like best :) If you don't want to have the stress of throwing a big party, then don't. Just invite your closest friends over and do something fun together, or maybe you can go somewhere together. Or if you prefer to be just with your family or alone, it's fine too. It's your birthday, just do what YOU want, not what someone else says you should do :)
*Classic*Charm*
10-10-2009, 03:45 PM
I just turned seventeen but for my eighteen birthday I'm getting a tattoo and probably more piercings (I have 8)
OH YEAH! I forgot that I got my navel pierced on my 18th birthday! That was the highlight of the day too! It was actually a gift from my brother and sister-in-law!
sprinks
10-11-2009, 08:11 AM
I turn 17 in 2 weeks! :) One of my friends has planned her 18th since she was young, have her parents pay for an open bar and invite as many people as she can.
As for me, I'm really really not into drinking. At all. So I reckon I'll have a retro themed night for my 18th (which is over a year away. *sigh*), I have so many retro game shirts (most recently a space invaders one, and some more Atari ones :D) and just do whatever, dance, sing, be random, I don't need alcohol to do that. My friends lately had alcohol at their 17th, and it just caused so many problems. Mostly because it was underage drinking for most people there (and only 3 or so of us weren't drinking, and yet we still had more fun than most people there).
Maximilianus
10-11-2009, 12:39 PM
(...) I hate being alone for too long. At some point spending some time even with people that aren't very good friends of yours starts to sound appealing.
Often the farthest turns the closest :)
Too bad that most of the time I decide to be active and socialize a bit I end up sitting alone in some corner and thinking "what the heck am doing here?" while other people are having fun :p
Happens when you're in a place that's not your place. The best is... to leave the place :p
But about birthday, I think you should do whatever it is that you like best :) If you don't want to have the stress of throwing a big party, then don't. Just invite your closest friends over and do something fun together, or maybe you can go somewhere together. Or if you prefer to be just with your family or alone, it's fine too. It's your birthday, just do what YOU want, not what someone else says you should do :)
Agreed completely :)
Whifflingpin
10-11-2009, 06:21 PM
Had a big party with Ham and Shem - and Mrs Noah made us a nice pigeon pie.
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