View Full Version : does the church frown apon being in love with your brother in laws sister??
kmkelly419
05-12-2009, 09:46 PM
my sister is married. I have be in love with her husbands sister for over 10 years. I am single and his sister is single. How does the church view this situation. It is wrong??
Which church? What a church has to do with your love life?
Free your mind !
Michael T
05-13-2009, 05:04 AM
As that means you are not blood relations there are no societies, churches or religions that would have any problem with your situation. Your position is no different from that of your sister and her husband when they met and married. So be happy in your love. :)
Whifflingpin
05-13-2009, 07:41 AM
Why have you waited 10 years to ask?
BienvenuJDC
05-13-2009, 08:29 AM
Not wrong at all...Go for it...:D
Scheherazade
05-13-2009, 11:09 AM
Just wondering what the gender of kmkelly419.
It is possible that kmkelly419 is asking whether it is OK with the Church if kmkelly419 falls in love with another woman...
BienvenuJDC
05-13-2009, 12:00 PM
Just wondering what the gender of kmkelly419. It is possible that kmkelly419 is asking whether it is OK with the Church if kmkelly419 falls in love with another woman...
That is a good point...and pertinent information...;)
Virgil
05-13-2009, 07:25 PM
my sister is married. I have be in love with her husbands sister for over 10 years. I am single and his sister is single. How does the church view this situation. It is wrong??
Just wondering what the gender of kmkelly419.
It is possible that kmkelly419 is asking whether it is OK with the Church if kmkelly419 falls in love with another woman...
That is a good point...and pertinent information...;)
That was my thought too. :lol:
As long as you are of opposite genders Kelly I see no reason why the Church (I'm going to assume Roman Catholic church only because that's how we catholics refer to the church and so I think you're using a phrasing that catholics would use) would be against it.
JuniperWoolf
05-13-2009, 08:39 PM
Just out of curiosity, what about step siblings? No blood relation there, but is it legal to marry your step father's/mother's children?
kiki1982
05-14-2009, 03:35 AM
Just out of curiosity, what about step siblings? No blood relation there, but is it legal to marry your step father's/mother's children?
Yes! I have asked myself that question many a time... Even being a Catholic, I don't know.
Anyone know about it?
Michael T
05-14-2009, 04:14 AM
Just out of curiosity, what about step siblings? No blood relation there, but is it legal to marry your step father's/mother's children?
There is no problem with stepchildren being able to marry because there is no blood tie between the two. Had there respective parents not met, then nobody would object...the fact that the parents do meet and marry does not change their children's rights to enter into a relationship either morally or legally. There are probably just as many examples of divorced parents getting together as a couple after meeting through their respective children's marriage to each other. :)
I expect the original poster would have mentioned the fact that the object of their affection were of the same gender, were that to be the case! ;)
Nightshade
05-14-2009, 05:31 AM
Just out of curiosity, what about step siblings? No blood relation there, but is it legal to marry your step father's/mother's children?
It gets complicated but is circumastances where they have been brought up together from when they are little it is illegal in the UK , not religioous illegal but law of the land illegal :nod:
I was shocked when I found this out concideriung the teen books Ive come across with stepsibling pairings. :nod:
Niamh
05-14-2009, 06:27 AM
thinks kmkelly is a probably a he, Kelly being an Irish surname. Km probably being inititals.
I dont think there is a problem... sure even in literature it happened. Emma married Mr Knightly and her sister was married to his brother....
Whifflingpin
05-14-2009, 08:26 AM
JuniperWoolf: "Just out of curiosity, what about step siblings? No blood relation there, but is it legal to marry your step father's/mother's children?"
Nightshade: "It gets complicated but is circumastances where they have been brought up together from when they are little it is illegal in the UK , not religioous illegal but law of the land illegal"
I could be wrong, but I think the distinction is whether or not the children have been formally adopted by the step-parents. Adoption, as opposed to fostering, creates a legal equivalent of a blood-tie.
Doctor Don
05-14-2009, 01:27 PM
... but then I don't know of which church you are speaking. I am, of course, assuming you are male, so there should be no problem involved there, either.
I would then go a bit further and ask if you and the lady of your affection have discussed this? Before you start playing Don Quixote to her Dulcinea, it might be a good idea.
subterranean
05-14-2009, 05:04 PM
I think if you're a member of specific congregation and you care about what it says and believe in its authority, then it'd be good to consult the elders in your church instead. I just wonder why you waited so long. :)
Virgil
05-14-2009, 08:09 PM
JuniperWoolf: "Just out of curiosity, what about step siblings? No blood relation there, but is it legal to marry your step father's/mother's children?"
Nightshade: "It gets complicated but is circumastances where they have been brought up together from when they are little it is illegal in the UK , not religioous illegal but law of the land illegal"
I could be wrong, but I think the distinction is whether or not the children have been formally adopted by the step-parents. Adoption, as opposed to fostering, creates a legal equivalent of a blood-tie.
That was my thought too. Though there would be no genetic reason to not sanction such a marriage, I think there would be an ethical reason.
Step siblings meaning what? Sibling + adopted Sibling, or Sibling from one marraige combined with Sibling from the new wife's previous marriage (in other words, the parents are married, but they technically have no blood connection), or both?
Virgil
05-14-2009, 09:03 PM
I would say either. If they are raised together as brother and sister, they have built up emotional sibling bonds.
Whifflingpin
05-15-2009, 07:19 AM
I would say either - but I don't think the "emotional sibling bonds" are an issue. If they existed, then the marriage question would not arise. If the marriage question arose, then the bonds would obviously be something else.
I think there is a purely legal issue, that arises only following legal adoption of a child by its step-sibling's parent. The issue is the same, whether or not the adopted child is the child of the step-sibling's parent's partner.
(I am only talking for UK*, and could be wrong, but, from a relevant Scottish law "An adopted person is to be treated in law as if born as the child of the adopters or adopter." http://www.opsi.gov.uk/legislation/scotland/acts2007/asp_20070004_en_3#pt1-ch3-l1g40 )
*For possibilities elsewhere, see http://legal-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/Overt+incest , paragraph beginning "In a number of jurisdictions..."
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