How Easily Do You Guys Give Up?

[Pensive]

A wise person once said that there are four types of people:
1. Those who want to give up and they give up
2. Those who do not want to give up and yet they give up
3. Those who do not want to give up and they do not give up
4. Those who do want to give up and yet they do not give up

Personally, no matter what I appear like, I believe I fall somewhere into the mixture of the last two categories (though here on litnet with my struggling blue-birdy I probably do appear to be so :p)! No matter how much I give others the impression I have given up (or they assume it so), deep inside, I am not the kind of person who can easily let go.

I wonder which category do our fellow litnetters fall into? It doesn't have to be just giving up on people, it can as well be letting go of the death of your pet. Or giving up on a question bugging your mind. :)

[Lokasenna]

I think sheer bloody-mindedness can get me through most situations.:lol:

With anything in my life, if something is worth doing, then its worth doing properly, and it must be seen through to the end.

[kilted exile]

I'm kinda with WC Fields on this one:

"If at first you dont succeed, try, try again - then give up thares no point being a damn fool about it."

[Niamh]

It depends on what i'm trying to give up!

[Madhuri]

A few years ago I was like

Those who do not want to give up and they do not give up

these days I am

Those who do want to give up and yet they do not give up

In the coming future I see myself as:

Those who want to give up and they give up

I increasingly see myself as someone who gives up on things easliy.

[andave_ya]

3. I'm stubborn. Sometimes that's my last bastion of defense :lol:.

[Virgil]

A wise person once said that there are four types of people:
1. Those who want to give up and they give up
2. Those who do not want to give up and yet they give up
3. Those who do not want to give up and they do not give up
4. Those who do want to give up and yet they do not give up

Personally, no matter what I appear like, I believe I fall somewhere into the mixture of the last two categories (though here on litnet with my struggling blue-birdy I probably do appear to be so :p)! No matter how much I give others the impression I have given up (or they assume it so), deep inside, I am not the kind of person who can easily let go.

I wonder which category do our fellow litnetters fall into? It doesn't have to be just giving up on people, it can as well be letting go of the death of your pet. Or giving up on a question bugging your mind. :)

I'm the same as you Pensy, between the last two. I don't give up easily and I have to see that there is no possibility of getting my way, when it really means something to me. I'm reminded of the great Winston Churchill quote, which I know by memory:

"Never give in, never give in, never, never, never, never, in nothing great or small, large or petty, never give in except to convictions of honor or good sense."

I've learned it's best to fight and lose than concede up front.

[The Comedian]

Me? I'm always looking for a reason to qui. . .

[Stanislaw]

#3, I would rather stand and fight

Great quote Virgil!

[Delta40]

Hey number 1. worked well for me packing in the cigarettes. Don't misinterpret what you read!!!! I realised just what a strong person I was. The first line has more oomph than we think.....

[*Classic*Charm*]

I've been wanting to give up for years but I don't have the guts to do it...

makes me a #4 I suppose

[higley]

I just slog through. I wouldn't say I'm resilient, just mindless. ;) I see things through in a Magoo kind of way--absentmindedly, I guess. Not sure what number that would be.

Sometimes people tend to put themselves in situations where they're overstretched, and then they are faced with equally unpleasant choices of giving up this thing they're committed to or miserably keeping at it.

[Oniw17]

I don't give up when it's important, but otherwise I don't put much effort into it from the start. I'm never #4 though, I give up on anything as soon as I want to. I guess I'm between 1 & 3.

[ClaesGefvenberg]

I think sheer bloody-mindedness can get me through most situations.:lol:I think you just described me as well :thumbs_up

Once I have decided to do something, I am very likely to see it through. On the other hand I habitually evaluate situations, trying to decide whether to bother or not. I.e:

Can I do something bout this? If yes, I do it. If not, I just chuck it over my shoulder and move on.

/Claes

[shortstoryfan]

This is one of my faults that haunts me. I give up easily, because I lack the self confidence to believe I have what it takes in the first place. Many times, I don't put forth the required effort so I won't have to entertain the possibility of failure: it becomes a certainty. The events of my life are all self-fulfilling prophecy. One of my biggest fears is that I will invest time and effort and wake up unsatisfied with my proficiency in my chosen field, so I don't choose a field.

I have already left university once, after realizing my chosen major was very difficult and that I did not have the ability (or the will) to have a career in that area. Overall, I am very romantic and idealistic, so I am attracted to art or anything grand.

My biggest regret is disappointing people, but I doubt anyone cares too much about the decisions I have made. To me, it's obvious the only person I have really disappointed is myself. Somewhere, very deep, I see my potential to do good work, which is really all I desire. I'm just so easily intimidated and I can't get past feelings of inferiority.

So, I'm definitely number 1. Hahahahha!

[jhonerliz]

I'm number 4.
I'm not a strong person. I easily cry. I easily hurt by what people around me say negatively about me. I always work with tears and almost giving up with what I am doing.
but I still finished my assigned tasks successfully. I never forget to work with determination and honesty.
People who still believe in me are my inspiration in pursuing what I've started.

[Sapphire]

I guess I have done all of these things, but 2 and 4 not consciously - I woudn't admit on acting inconsistently.

I can be stubborn to a fault (#3), and go for something without having reasons to back me up. Just the feeling that I shouldn't give up, shouldn't give in.

I can however easily let go. I am not sure if that is the same as #1, but when it comes to "looking back at it" I hardly ever regret. I always keep that scene in my mind from one of Terry Pratchett books. It is about the old witch and I think one of the magicians, the magician fantasicing of what could have been - them making a family. She disturbs his daydream by asking him "what about the fire". He's all confused, "what fire". "The fire that killed us all".
Of course Mr. Pratchett writes this in a much better way, but the point is that you can long to hold on to something you have let go - but you never know whether life would be better with it. So it has no use to get hung up on it, as it might just as well be that life would be worse or even non-existent when you had not given up on it.

Usually, I just don't think things true and just do what comes natural - not really deciding to give up or not give up but just doing one of the two and not dwell on it. Not sure if that is an answer, but it is how I feel I act...

Edit Found it :)

"Do you ever wonder what life would have been like if you'd have said yes?" said Ridcully. "No." "I suppose we'd have settled down, had children, grandchildren, that kind of thing..." Granny shrugged. It was the sort of thing romantic idiots said. "What about the fire?" she asked. "What fire?" "Swept through the house just after we were married. Killed us both." "What fire?! I don't know anything about any fire?" Granny turned around. "Of course not! It didn't happen. But the point is it might have happened. You can't say 'if this didn't happen then that would have happened' because you don't know everything that might have happened. You might think something'd be good, but for all you know it could turn out horrible..."

[1n50mn14]

I don't give up on anything: I just don't start it in the first place.

[Lily Adams]

I like to think I am a very determined and committed person. Sometimes to a fault. Also a perfectionist. Bad combo sometimes.

[Annamariah]

It depends.

If we talk about studies, I don't give up. I've never skipped classes, I've never failed a test or a course, I've always done my homework and other assignments in time (often in the last night before the deadline, sometimes with a lot of tears and swearing, but done them anyway, and usually rather well). I guess same would apply on anything job-related, but as I don't have that much experience in working-life yet, I can't say for sure.

When it comes to people, I maybe give up too easily. I can't do one-sided friendship for a very long time, I just give up. If I'm always the one who calls or tries to arrange a meeting and the other one never returns the favour, I'll soon stop trying. (Yeah, I don't have many friends left anymore... Maybe it's my own fault.)

[Virgil]

Oh I don't blame you on the people Annamariah. That sounds perfectly reasonable.

[zanna]

I've really enjoyed reading everyone's responses; they're all very interesting. =)

I don't know where I would fit in, because I'm such an odd blend of things -- stubborn as all get-out; perfectionist; hopeless romantic; procrastinator.

Sometimes it takes me forever to get started on something, but then I can usually power through it. And it has to be perfect! =D

When it comes to relationships and friendships, it takes me forever to give up on a person; I keep nursing my hope along, just trying to wait them out . . . it can make life rough -- I don't 'get over' things until my hope is completely trashed, and I have closure. =/

[Neo_Sephiroth]

Number 3.

[Chava]

I think my priorities in life have really changed. Different things matter now; academics are no longer a driving force so to speak. On the contrary my relations to people has started to matter more. Recently we have had a really really bad vibe at work, lots of back talking and unpleasant adjectives flying. At one point I had practically filed my resignation. Instead I called my boss and told him simply; "We need to talk." He complied, and we had an hour long meeting where I explained the situation to him, provided a list of things I had thought about that ought to be changed, I gave him my honest and very critical opinion about his own effort, and told him bluntly how I would sugest and expect he handled things.
It seemed that everyone had given up on the rut we were in, but talking about it, instead of ignoring it fixed things. In fact that's what I told my boss. "You can't just give up, this is your Job, and no one else will make it go away." Now everyone is talking, and we've even raised our profit margin. My boss even thanked me, but decided not to give me a raise...:rolleyes: what can you do?

School work though.... yeah, hmm, lets just say I'm not the dilligent reader of course material unless it really interests me. :)