How did you meet the "love" of your life?

[Child_20]

In your response, do include where specifically if you remember. Also, was the romance accidental or mutually intentional? Finally, are you content so far?

[Emil Miller]

In your response, do include where specifically if you remember. Also, was the romance accidental or mutually intentional? Finally, are you content so far?

I'm afraid Child 20 the Litnetters appear not to want to answer this one.
Perhaps they are afraid that their husbands and wives might find out.

[Child_20]

Brian Bean....haha....that is okay. I just wanted to corroborate my assumption that love is a spontaneous occurance for individuals. Nevertheless, your honest humor was of great service to me.

[1n50mn14]

I'm only 17.
But the bank. Waiting in line, moaning about Christmas. Found somebody else with a mutual hatred of Christmas. His best friend called me Horse Face. I've hated her ever since, but we're still together, and that was two years ago. Total accident, we didn't really like each other at first. I've had no end of greif from this relationship.

[motherhubbard]

I met my husband when we were both working for the city police department. The romance was pretty instantaneous, but we dated for two years before we married. We’ve been married for nearly fifteen years and we are the happiest couple I know. We could possible be the happiest couple on the planet.

[AtomicCafe1]

Looking in the mirror. Pretty much accidental, I would say.

[sprinks]

I guess I should answer all the question put forth. I met him at school. The first time I met him, that I recall meeting him, was when a friend of mine was going on about him looking like Jamie Oliver and then... things just went from there. It is very mutual, and he makes me very very content :)

[applepie]

I met my husband when we were both working at Long John Silvers (Fast food). I was only 15 years old at the time. By sixteen we just started dating. It was a mutual attraction, or something, but we were not looking for our one and only at the time. A few years later, we just sort of decided that this was the real deal and got married a month later. Over six years have passed, and whatever it was that just sort of clicked is still going strong. I would say that it certainly would fit into your spontaneous categor;)

[Niamh]

Havent met him yet. :(
Or maybe i have, but didnt notice. *sighes*
love passes by, time and time again

[pussnboots]

I met my husband thru mutual friends of ours (now ex friends). After I met him, I told someone at work that he's the one. 3 years later we married. June of next year we will be celebrating our 18th wedding anniversary.

[TheFifthElement]

I met my hubby at an archery club. I'd known him for, maybe, 6 months before I really noticed him and it was another 6 months before he noticed me. Then it just happened, I can't exactly explain how (except that it had something to do with The Magic Roundabout, specifically Ermintrude the cow). I was 18, he was 32. Needless to say my mother (but not my Dad) was very anti the whole relationship. 15 years later we're married with two lovely kids, and still going strong. I can't ever imagine not loving him, and I'm pretty sure, as sure as you can be, that he feels the same way.

[Niamh]

I met my husband thru mutual friends of ours (now ex friends). After I met him, I told someone at work that he's the one. 3 years later we married. June of next year we will be celebrating our 18th wedding anniversary.
Hes a lucky man :)

I met my hubby at an archery club. I'd known him for, maybe, 6 months before I really noticed him and it was another 6 months before he noticed me. Then it just happened, I can't exactly explain how (except that it had something to do with The Magic Roundabout, specifically Ermintrude the cow). I was 18, he was 32. Needless to say my mother (but not my Dad) was very anti the whole relationship. 15 years later we're married with two lovely kids, and still going strong. I can't ever imagine not loving him, and I'm pretty sure, as sure as you can be, that he feels the same way.

Age should matter. (only in cases of minors of course!) If you love someone, there should be no boundaries.

I love reading about all these successes! Its nice think think that relationships can last still.

[Emil Miller]

A particularly good thing about this forum is the anonymity that allows one to talk of certain things that one wouldn't normally mention to anybody. I know that makes it sound like an agony aunt's column but so be it.

When I was 17 ( about a million years ago ) I was always falling for some girl or another; that's what being 17 is all about. But it turned out that the girls I wanted weren't interested in me and I didn't care for those who were. C'est la vie.
I never married although I had a number of serious relationships over the years, mostly with foreign girls as I used to travel in my younger days. But it wasn't until years later that I met the one person that I ever wanted to marry. We met by chance on an underground train and I knew instantly that I loved her. She was Chinese and had the high cheekbones and blue-black hair that I find so attractive, but it was her eyes that did it because they were the kindest eyes I have ever seen. We were both strongly attracted to each other and continued meeting long after that train journey.
Why didn't I marry her? She was married already and, although I new she would have left her husband for me, I just couldn't do it; he was such a nice guy. I'm sure that he knew of the situation but with the stoicism that is a natural to the Chinese, he said nothing.
Later they moved to another part of town and although I visited from time to time, I finally decided to withdraw into the background. I still miss her.

[Niamh]

Aww! Poor Brian! (((((hug))))

[Emil Miller]

Aww! Poor Brian! (((((hug))))

'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

[JBI]

Pack two pistols Brian.

[Niamh]

'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

Thats very true. :)
I love that quote.

[manolia]

I met mine in University (uni is not all bad after all :D). We were in the same school (both studying to be civil engineers but not in the same year) and we had lots of mutual friends. I had this friend who used to tell me "you have to meet my good friend Andrew you guys have a lot in common, you even use the same phrases etc". I was rather disappointed at that time (i'd just ended a bad relationship) so when i actually met Andrew i didn't pay much attention to him. I really liked his company and he had everything that could attract my eye but i really wasn't in the mood..after many months when he quitted trying i called him and we got together and still are (i know women are weird :D).

He still refers back to the period that i used to shun him. I know that he doesn't hold me any grudge or anything but it seems that he wasn't much used to rejection :lol:

[djy78usa]

I met the love of my life, I call her beer, when I was 16 or 17. It was love at first sight (or taste...), and the romance has only strengthened through the years. Sure, we've had our rough patches; when I'm low on coin, I might have to settle for less than her best, and she has occassionaly left me sick to my stomach, but I love her all the same. I think our open relationship has been key. She doesn't mind when I choose to ditch her and spend the night with her cousins Scotch, Gin, and Vodka, and I don't hesitate to share her with my friends.

[1n50mn14]

^__^ :lol:

[Niamh]

I met the love of my life, I call her beer, when I was 16 or 17. It was love at first sight (or taste...), and the romance has only strengthened through the years. Sure, we've had our rough patches; when I'm low on coin, I might have to settle for less than her best, and she has occassionaly left me sick to my stomach, but I love her all the same. I think our open relationship has been key. She doesn't mind when I choose to ditch her and spend the night with her cousins Scotch, Gin, and Vodka, and I don't hesitate to share her with my friends.

PMSL!!!!:lol::lol::lol:

[wessexgirl]

I met the love of my life, I call her beer, when I was 16 or 17. It was love at first sight (or taste...), and the romance has only strengthened through the years. Sure, we've had our rough patches; when I'm low on coin, I might have to settle for less than her best, and she has occassionaly left me sick to my stomach, but I love her all the same. I think our open relationship has been key. She doesn't mind when I choose to ditch her and spend the night with her cousins Scotch, Gin, and Vodka, and I don't hesitate to share her with my friends.

:lol: I have a similar thing going on with a nice glass of red wine!

After a very long marriage, (which has now ended) I'm still waiting for the love of my life :D It obviously wasn't my ex-husband. I think that it may be books, or certain literary characters, as no "real" man could live up to some of them as they are in my imagination :).

[livelaughlove]

I think that it may be books, or certain literary characters, as no "real" man could live up to some of them as they are in my imagination :).

Amen, sister!

[Emil Miller]

:lol: I have a similar thing going on with a nice glass of red wine!

After a very long marriage, (which has now ended) I'm still waiting for the love of my life :D It obviously wasn't my ex-husband. I think that it may be books, or certain literary characters, as no "real" man could live up to some of them as they are in my imagination :).

Unfortunately, we have to live in the real world and fictitious heroes are just figments of a writer's imagination; no matter how real the author has made them appear.
Now there is an interesting dichotomy here, because in a recent thread entitled " The fictional love of your life," virtually all of the replies were from women and, apart from Mr Darcy and Rochester, the majortity of the authors quoted were men; Hardy, Lawrence etc. ( I notice Barbara Cartland wasn't included.)
Does this mean that male writers have a keener insight into female psychology than many women are, perhaps, prepared to admit?

[irenthebest]

I met my man at the bus stop. I was waiting fro my bus, he was driving a car and picked me up. he took my phone number and we began to go out. Then we started to live together. We lived for 5 years in a civil marriage and last year we married.

[mmaria]

I met him (whom I thought the love of my life) in a park. He was sitting on a bank and just looking around like someone lost in space. I was walking slowly trying to attract his attention. After my third circle around him, he finally noticed me and asked me what time it was. I answered and asked him if I could sit beside him. He nodded. We started to talk and went to a nearby cinema to see a film. We agreed to see each other the next day, and the next, and the next...

After five years of living together, he found another girl and left me. Now, I know that he was, and is not the love of my life. So, I am still searching for it.

[librarius_qui]

In your response, do include where specifically if you remember. Also, was the romance accidental or mutually intentional? Finally, are you content so far?

I found her many times, but she never found me ...
:bawling:

Awgh, it's all right! :thumbs_up


:crash:

[Bitterfly]

I don't think I've met the love of my life. I don't think there is one out there. I've had several loves, and currently have a new one, but that does not stop me from thinking that I will probably have others. In a way, I hope so, because I love those throes of love!!;)



Now there is an interesting dichotomy here, because in a recent thread entitled " The fictional love of your life," virtually all of the replies were from women and, apart from Mr Darcy and Rochester, the majortity of the authors quoted were men; Hardy, Lawrence etc. ( I notice Barbara Cartland wasn't included.)
Does this mean that male writers have a keener insight into female psychology than many women are, perhaps, prepared to admit?

Easy: most of Western discourse on women, men and love is male. That discourse has moulded our ideas of men, women and love (women are not excluded from this "brainwashing" by mere virtue of their sex.).Therefore it's logical that (some) men should have insight into what we think of as the feminine character, since that feminine character was largely shaped by them.

Now, if I must express myself spontaneously, I have to admit I find most women written by men to be credible, just as I find most men written by women to be so as well. Maybe I lack critical distance.

[Dori]

This is a tough one. I met a girl who called me the love of her life (and still does), but it's complicated. Much too complicated to get into right now. I met her years ago when I dated her sister (hm!). That's another story. Anyway, we met around three years ago, and apparently we both liked each other back then, but for some reason or another we didn't get together. We re-established contact over this past summer, and ever since it has been complicated. Who knows if she's the love of my life? If anything, she's has shown me the sort of person I am. We're still together, well, in a sense. It's all complicated. :D

[mmaria]

Now there is an interesting dichotomy here, because in a recent thread entitled " The fictional love of your life," virtually all of the replies were from women and, apart from Mr Darcy and Rochester, the majortity of the authors quoted were men; Hardy, Lawrence etc. ( I notice Barbara Cartland wasn't included.)
Does this mean that male writers have a keener insight into female psychology than many women are, perhaps, prepared to admit?

Maybe the answer is in Jung's theory about Anima and Animus.

[Tournesol]

Wow, I love this thread!

Ok, my love and I were introduced by a mutual friend. I was excited to meet him, because of all I heard about him, and vice versa. We've been going together for a couple months now.
We realized that there have been times and places when we have attended the same events at the same time - but we never noticed each other!! I find this so eerie...because he's so captivating. But, I've realized that nothing happens before its time.

[librarius_qui]

In your response, do include where specifically if you remember. Also, was the romance accidental or mutually intentional? Finally, are you content so far?

Or, thinking through another point of view ...
perhaps I haven't found the girl of my life yet.

I doubt she exists! Maybe I'm wrong, but I doubt it.


:crash:

[mtpspur]

When I was eight in 1959 I bought a comic called World's Finest Comics #102 which featured Superman and two people who I thought were bad guys called Batman and Robin. My life changed forever and my wife has GREAT reason to think Batman is the Love of My Life. But if it's the story of meeting the Long Suffering Wife THAT tale is told in my blog somewhere around entry 68 or so--some people were entertained by the story as I recall.

[Child_20]

Maybe the answer is in Jung's theory about Anima and Animus.

Everytime I stumble upon one of Carl Jung's theory, I am somewhat terrified as to how he was able to construct such complex theories simply out of physical observation of the human behavior & interaction with his subjects. One can only imagine how conscious he was of his mind.

[Child_20]

Or, thinking through another point of view ...
perhaps I haven't found the girl of my life yet.

I doubt she exists! Maybe I'm wrong, but I doubt it.


:crash:

There are abundance of women in the world now. You will certainly find one as long as you have realistic & mature expectations of your "ideal" or should I say your "imperfect" women whom you can learn to love "perfectly".

[Taliesin]

Well, this far I haven't yet met the person yet since the people I have fallen for were a)either girls who already were in a happy relationship or b) a heterosexual boy.

Anyhow, I quite like how my grandmother and grandfather left.
My grandfather returned from Siberia after 16 years of prison camp and he started looking for work. Some people recommended the sovkhoz where my grandmother was some kind of director or overseer. My grandfather then went applying for the job, talked with her and when my grandmother said that he gets the job, my grandfather refused, and when my grandmother asked, why, he said:
"Because I don't want to work under my future wife."
And the rest is, as they say, history.

[Cellar Door]

We met...

at a mutual enemy's house. Okay not "enemy" but we both did not like the guy. A friend of mine had a thing for the disliked fellow, and dragged me over there. I didn't want to go, but I didn't want her to get hurt either (let's just say he was not a good guy and my friend was kind of dumb), so I came along. An impromptu party was formed, and my childhood friend (whom I hadn't seen in years) showed up, and encouraged me to go with this guy who had been hitting on me. I didn't know the guy from Adam, so he could've been a rapist or something, but she (the old friend) said he was a good guy, so I went. We went off roading in a rental truck he had. I was 17 at the time, he was 22... We went to a restaurant. I'm a vegetarian, he's the king of all carnivores, and he ordered wings. The waitress did not bring him any napkins after repeated requests, so he put the wing sauce all over his face and head (he had a shaved head at the time). The waitress's jaw dropped... I sat across him and knew he was special...

Eight years later (no, we never married) and he is still special to me

[Joreads]

We met...

at a mutual enemy's house. Okay not "enemy" but we both did not like the guy. A friend of mine had a thing for the disliked fellow, and dragged me over there. I didn't want to go, but I didn't want her to get hurt either (let's just say he was not a good guy and my friend was kind of dumb), so I came along. An impromptu party was formed, and my childhood friend (whom I hadn't seen in years) showed up, and encouraged me to go with this guy who had been hitting on me. I didn't know the guy from Adam, so he could've been a rapist or something, but she (the old friend) said he was a good guy, so I went. We went off roading in a rental truck he had. I was 17 at the time, he was 22... We went to a restaurant. I'm a vegetarian, he's the king of all carnivores, and he ordered wings. The waitress did not bring him any napkins after repeated requests, so he put the wing sauce all over his face and head (he had a shaved head at the time). The waitress's jaw dropped... I sat across him and knew he was special...

Eight years later (no, we never married) and he is still special to me


He sounds Delicious:lol:

[Hairy Faery]

I met my partner while travelling in Australia. The friend I was travelling with at the time said " If he's gay, I get him....If he's straight you take him!" He's straight, and 4 years later I still have him and love him!

[maraki16]

i have not met the love of my life yet......well i know i am really young, i am still 19, but i just hope to meet him someday and stay with him forever......and i wish this day is not really far! i don't want to wait any longer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[librarius_qui]

There are abundance of women in the world now. You will certainly find one as long as you have realistic & mature expectations of your "ideal" or should I say your "imperfect" women whom you can learn to love "perfectly".

Aw ... I'm only not looking for.

It happened that I stumbled onto one, ... But we came to an agreement to go ahead as friends, and, if this is fine for her, I'll survive.

Actually, I'm ... almost healed.

Only one tiny detail missing.

Thanks for the concern, anyway.

A can't say that there is no woman for me out there ... I can say that, once I'm not the looking-for kind of guy, it's nearly impossible to stumble onto one. And I like to let these things happen. Once I don't cause them to happen, they possibly (or even probably) won't happen.

But you're right! If I were searching for, I'd most certainly find! :thumbs_up :)



:crash:

[MattG]

8th grade, 1980.

I was on my way to being embarrassed in Ms. Shepherd's history class (she always called on me, I seldom had the answers). I bumped into my wife who was her way to Mrs. True's math class. After that time, we've never really been apart though we didn't really start dating with any kind of seriousness until the 10th grade.

So, we did prom, college, got married at 21, had some kids and are still married nearly 21 years later.

The woman is a saint, whatwith all that she puts up with from me. :D

[Amundsen]

I met her in queue. We were waiting for results in biological recognizing of species (contest), some jokes that I will be the last. She said no. She will be. No one from us were last. We were in the middle. She was better than me. I was twentyfourth and she was twentythird. Yes I loved her. But she didn't. Maybe it's sad. This year she is ending high school and she will go to university. So we won't meet in road of love.

[kiz_paws]

In your response, do include where specifically if you remember. Also, was the romance accidental or mutually intentional? Finally, are you content so far?After a very stormy and damaging relationship with a total loser, I moved into an apartment with my cousin (who I nicknamed my Twin), who is a guy. He was working for a very 'incredible man', 'a guy with his head on right', all the right phrases for me to try to take notice of. But no, I was not.

My cousin (roommate now) insisited that I accompany him to a Social Event where his boss would be attending. I went, because my cousin was getting tired of my being sad and down, and I thought that I'd go along with it. Well ... his boss nearly died at meeing this guy's cousin. And I nearly died at meeting my cousin's boss, lol :lol:

This fellow asked me politely for my phone number, after buying me a drink and dancing with me at the event. (I knew darn well that he had my number, because if I lived with my cousin, and my cousin worked for him -- wouldn't it be logical that the fellow have MY number afterall??)

Thinking that he was sweet in this respect, I did give him my telephone number and we never lost touch. We were constant companions, eventually moved in together, and then he asked me to marry him. The rest is history.

Yeah, we're happy! :nod:

At our wedding, in the speeches that are 'have to's at a wedding' -- we made a thank you speech to my cousin (my "twin") who led us to find each other. :D