Any tips for a best man

[djy78usa]

Alright folks, I need some advice. My brother has asked me to be his best man at his upcoming wedding. I was, of course, honored and delighted to accept his request... but then I realized it involved more than chugging down beers at the bachelor party and hitting on the bridesmaids.
I'm currently working on writing my speech/toast to the bride and groom, and have a few questions:

- About how long should the speech/toast be?
- I know to not make the speech bawdy or embarrasing, but are there
any other tabboos I should avoid?
- When during the reception is the speech given?

Any other advice/tips will be greatly appreciated, thanks.

[The Atheist]

Alright folks, I need some advice. My brother has asked me ot be his best man at his upcoming wedding. I was, of course, honored and delighted to accept his request... but then I realized it involved more than chugging down beers at the bachelor party and hitting on the bridesmaids.

Sure, but you have to prioritise and those two are right at the top of the list!


I'm currently working on writing my speech/toast to the bride and groom, and have a few questions:

- About how long should the speech/toast be?
- I know to not make the speech bawdy or embarrasing, but are there
any other tabboos I should avoid?
- When during the reception is the speech given?

Any other advice/tips will be greatly appreciated, thanks.

Ok, been there and done this a few times.

Don't let the speech go any longer than a few minutes - one or two amusing anecdotes - normally one on the groom, since he's your bro' and another on the couple, if you can come up with them.

And embarrassing is essential, not to be avoided! Not too embarrassing, but I think ever best man speech I've ever heard has a touch of "roast" about it. The only real taboo is talking about what happened as little kids - leave that to mom to embarrass him.

Witty, short, sharp, those are the keys. The best man speech is usually first cab off the rank, so you'll have little warning. You may be required to toast the bridesmaids as well - 10-20 seconds, every knows they're beautiful...

Good luck! It's not a hard task, but for chrissakes DON'T LOSE THE RING.

[papayahed]

And make sure you a mostly sober for the toast!!!! nothing worse then a drunk baest man trying to give a toast.

[novelsryou]

Don't forget to mention the groom's past girlfriends.

[Scheherazade]

Don't forget to mention the groom's past girlfriends.Even better, bring one to the wedding as your date!

[wilbur lim]

Being explicit and confident in speech would be fecund and remember not to be intimidated,and also be in your best apparel on.All is yours now,take care for the wedding.

[kiz_paws]

I also agree that the 'roast' should not be too embarassing, after all, you can save the 'nonsense' for the batchelor party, no? ;)

To be sure, a sober best man is a necessity! (wish you were at my wedding!)

And for length, well, no more than five minutes max, I'd say. For the Bride's benefit, maybe one 'cute' story, then (because you're the brother) maybe one story about why the Groom is a catch. Then one humorous one.

And no....no....no stories about past flames! Definitely out of taste -- remember that the entire family(s) are there and this is SO out of taste (I squirmed through the telling of an incident with a former flame, and I wanted to crown the B.M. with the champagne glass I was holding...) :alien:

By the sound of your post, you are touched by your bro to have this honorable position of moral support for the up and coming day. Take care and good luck! :)

[kasie]

.....Any other advice/tips will be greatly appreciated, thanks.

Get Him To The Church On Time.
'Cos - he's getting married in the morning,
Ding, Dong the bells are gonna chime.....

[Niamh]

Even better, bring one to the wedding as your date!

nehehehee!!!!!!:lol:

[djy78usa]

Thanks for all the input everyone. I'll keep it in mind while I'm putting my speech together. Maybe I'll post it here to get some feedback before the big day.


Even better, bring one to the wedding as your date!

I actually took my friends ex-girlfriend to his wedding last year (after clearing it with him and the bride, of course).