Personality Reflection

[Shore Dude]

What do you think your friends would say is your greatest strength, and your biggest drawback -- as it relates to your personality traits? Not what you would say. What your friends would say.

[subterranean]

I don't get the question.

Sorry, I'm a bit slow :).

[Jay]

Don't really know David, how can you know without asking them?

Sub... he was asking what your friends think is your best trait and what's your worst, but not what you think it is, but what would they say.

[subterranean]

What's the question Jay? I don't get the point

[Shore Dude]

I guess the point is that many people will look at themselves and reply with what they would like to be, or how they think they are. But either consciously or subcounsciously, they are not really looking at their personalities in a deep, reflective manner.

By adding their friends' perspective, it really forces someone to step outside of him or herself, and look from the outside in. It forces someone to think about the effects they have on the people around them. I just thought it would make the question more interesting.

[Dyrwen]

I couldn't honestly say, since I've got an avoidant anti-social depressive personality in my head that most people don't seem to see.

I do know some people have referred to me as: mature, sarcastic.. I've heard the words smart *** all my life from people, creative, and I'd imagine some people would say caring, though I certainly don't try to be that way.

Hopefully that was what was asked.

[den]

While I don't have many friends who wouldn't be straight up with me, to my face, I'm pretty sure they think I'm too quiet, that I don't speak up enough even though I (allegedly) have some interesting things to say. I'm just not the type to blab on and on about stuff.


What do you think your friends would say is your greatest strength, and your biggest drawback -- as it relates to your personality traits? Not what you would say. What your friends would say.

[baddad]

A positive feedback from friends is that I am very smart. I've been fed this line by family and friends all of my life. It is a tough, no, nigh impossible, standard to live up to. .........not even sure what it means.........

Negative feedback: I think too much. I'm also an A type personality.....this sometimes frightens the ***t out of people who are not. Kind-a like a bull in a china shop on an 'on' day.

So I've decided to just be.....confused.

Dyrwen kind of covered all the bases I think. I am betting that a lot of people on this formum are more alike, in many ways,than any of us imagined.

[subterranean]

I guess the point is that many people will look at themselves and reply with what they would like to be, or how they think they are. But either consciously or subcounsciously, they are not really looking at their personalities in a deep, reflective manner.

By adding their friends' perspective, it really forces someone to step outside of him or herself, and look from the outside in. It forces someone to think about the effects they have on the people around them. I just thought it would make the question more interesting.

O ok. Thanks for the explanation.
I only have someone that has really told me about what kind of person I am. He said that I have this "Independent Woman Syndrome", which is the main reason of why I always failed of building a serious relationship with the opposite sex (including him). But he also sometimes compare me with Lisa Simpson's personality, but I'm less nice than her :rolleyes:

[Helga]

this is something me and my friends talk a lot about...

the people I have known since I started my medications say I'm very open and smart but that I think too little of myself.

the only person that has stuck with me through my darkest time tells me I'm smart and loyal but self-destructive and sensitive. Oh, she also thinks I should lower my standards conserning guys, that is just because I want dark hair and interest in literature... is that to much?! I don't think so.

[subterranean]

May I asked what kind of medication you had/have?

[Helga]

May I asked what kind of medication you had/have?


I take Seroxat wich contains Paroxetin and Seroqel and that contains Quetiapin.

I used to take Zoloft but that didn't do anything for me so I got Seroxat instead. Seroqel calms my nerves so I can sleep and got to school. Seroxat just makes me feel better and I can finally talk to people now. before I couldn't even order a pizza, but I can now.

[Shore Dude]

Oh, she also thinks I should lower my standards conserning guys, that is just because I want dark hair and interest in literature... is that to much?! I don't think so.
Don't ever lower your standards. The person who said this (if she follows her own advice), will likely be an example of the 50% divorce rate in this country (I'm assuming you live in the US; otherwise that statement may in fact be moot).

People who decide to marry a significant other who they think is 80%, 90%, 95% right for them -- wind up seven or so years later living with a person who no longer intrigues them. With individual longevity increasing as a result in advancements in science, I bet living well into your 90s will not be all that uncommon. But let's just say you live to be 80. You get married at 30. That's 50 years with one person. The same person you will make love to each night (if you're lucky). The same person you will confide in to help you through emotional times. The same person to be your best friend. The same person to help you raise a family and teach your children morals and values.

Our lives around us are marked by perfection. Science is constantly being perfected. NASA is sending probes to the far ends of the universe. Political ideologies are being built to withstand terror and socio-economical disasters. Schooling and healthcare are constantly being refined. Look at the people around you. I imagine most everyone is trying extremely hard to get ahead in this world. Striving for perfection. So why, when it comes to the most important thing in a human being's life (in my opinion), would you settle for mediocrity?

If I can offer one piece of advice, allow me to say there are plenty of people out there. Boys and girls. Take your time, and be sure to find a person that stimulates you both mentally and physically. Look at this board. There are plenty of guys who like literature. And I am sure 6 out of 10 of them have brown hair. Just be patient. I don't believe love is something that is forced; it just needs to happen. And what ever you do -- don't settle.

Then go buy a can of silly string. When your friend is not looking, douse her in the whole, entire can. Jump up and down and make demonic cackles while doing this. Trust me; it's warranted for the poor advice she gave you.

[subterranean]

I take Seroxat wich contains Paroxetin and Seroqel and that contains Quetiapin.

I used to take Zoloft but that didn't do anything for me so I got Seroxat instead. Seroqel calms my nerves so I can sleep and got to school. Seroxat just makes me feel better and I can finally talk to people now. before I couldn't even order a pizza, but I can now.



Hope you'll get better and better Helga :).

And I agree with David there...never lower your standard just because you think it's the reason that make you don't have a gf/bf...and I don't see the problem of being a single ...

[Helga]

I really don't like talking about myself but I am thankful for your support...