Rough day? Vent here . . .

[mono]

Did you have a rough day? Talk about it here; you will most likely feel better, and others may have empathy/sympathy. I will start.

While spending time with a good friend, and one of her friends, who I had previously never met, her friend made a very cruel reference about a passer-by of a different race - a racist slur-term. If there exists any one thing that angers me, it is racism. I normally consider myself a very patient, kind, and opinionated person, but this comment he made instantly made me explode with insults that probably seemed unnecessary. Can you believe that he considers himself anti-racist, though he uses offensive racial slurs?! I very kindly asked a certain non-white person (I will not specify for fear of offending others) what he thought of it, in front of my "anti-racist" acquaintance, and he disapproved, and found the fact highly offensive. I eventually became so angry, I merely left without saying one word more; I feel there exists no justification for using racial-profiling labels, as it keeps racism alive, even when used by someone who claims anti-racism. What do you all think? And feel free, in the future, to share your bad days - I created the thread for that reason.

[imthefoolonthehill]

can i feel free to openly mock those who are having bad days?

[mono]

can i feel free to openly mock those who are having bad days?

Of course. I welcome all opinions.

[imthefoolonthehill]

All RIGHT!!! i'm gonna like this thread.

[ajoe]

You must be very popular, fool.

[Jester]

i congratulate you ajoe... please feel free to curse, scream, yell and insult all rascists... and nationalists too, their a pain in the butt as well.... (i hate supiority complexes)

[subterranean]

oh i bet if you do that..this thread will be closed very soon..no insults, swearing or cursing allow in the forum..

I have a very bad flu. My nose itch and i got a bad headache. I keep sneezing and almost runnin out of tissue..The worst part is my nose becomes red..and really hate when that happen!!. Plus, the air conditioner in my office is so damn cold..I think i'm going to have a day off tomorrow..
If you dont see any of my post tomorrow..you know where i'll be!

[ajoe]

i congratulate you ajoe... please feel free to curse, scream, yell and insult all rascists... and nationalists too, their a pain in the butt as well.... (i hate supiority complexes)

For once I can't read the subtlety.

[imthefoolonthehill]

i congratulate you ajoe... please feel free to curse, scream, yell and insult all rascists... and nationalists too, their a pain in the butt as well.... (i hate supiority complexes)


...confused... is there racism in this forum? Why do you hate people who love their country? Some people are just crazy.

[Isagel]

I have a very bad flu. My nose itch and i got a bad headache.

Hope you feel better soon.

I´m home from work.
I want to move south. It´s dark here. And we have something called "vinterkräk sjukan "- the winter vomit disease. It comes evry year, during winter . Why didn´t our ancestors stay somewhere else? A place with sun.

[Scheherazade]

Why do you hate people who love their country? Some people are just crazy.

I think the problem is not the people who love their country, as I am sure everyone loves their own country to some extent, but those who discriminate against others in the name of that love. Like discrimination against immigrants which is, unfortunately, becoming quite common and widespread in Europe...

[Jessika]

I think the problem is not the people who love their country, as I am sure everyone loves their own country to some extent, but those who discriminate against others in the name of that love.

Totally agree with you. Those kind of people who think you are a traitor because you do some critic to your own country government. I think they lack criticism.

Constructive criticism is a good way to improve things you care of (not just talking about nationalisms)

Good point scheherazade :nod:

[Stanislaw]

I had a ****ty day, I got into a huge fight with my parents, our familly is repeating the mistakes that my dads familly did. I just hate it, it seems that all of the love has escaped our family and that we just can't live together.

Can't post the rest of my day here, too inapropriate, and I'll probably just get more depressed, pm if you wish.

[Jester]

hey fool, Scheherazade said what I meant.... I got that alot even from my freinds for being american when I was younger... really pissed me off and introduced me to this idea of nationalist supiority... I have no porblem with people loving thier country... i wonder about them though, I've got no country to love (thats because i grew up in many and my home country is just as strange to me as other places the I've lived...) I don't think there's rascism but what I meant was congratulations to ajoe for speaking up against it... not on the forum cursing and swearing and what not... didn't mean that... anyway sorry fo rthe conclusion

My alarm clock didn't go off and i feel unbearably lonely. Ohter than that this is just another day in treasure valley (i love the irony of that name)

[imthefoolonthehill]

treasure valley? I live in the treasure valley, in Idaho... so.. uh.. are we close by?

[subterranean]

thanks peeps...
some of my co-workers are out of office and i have to replace them..


oooooooohhhh i hate doing other people's jobs

[mono]

I express the greatest sympathy to all others with a bad day, though I feel oddly comforted knowing I was not alone in having a rough time, but I hope things get better with you all.

[Scheherazade]

Rough days come and go...

[simon]

Finals are nearing, essays need to be turned in, and I discovered the longisland ice tea.

[subterranean]

just now....??? shame on you ;)
it's only long island tea..for heaven's sake..

one of my fav teas of all time :D :D

[amuse]

i got a b- on a paper the other day. nearly passed out when i saw the grade. no more writing in the wee hours before the darned thing's due...(don't read this scher! :p)

[Scheherazade]

Nearly passed out because you were glad or disappointed?? *sends a teacherly glance at amuse's direction*

[amuse]

oh, very disappointed. i mean, a b is just a few rounded pen strokes away from an f. (made a friend do this to :rolleyes: me, but it's true; i thought i might faint, actually!

has that ever happened to you? not the grade, but have you seen a student fall over in disbelief?

[Scheherazade]

Hey, B- isn't bad at all!
*offers you a KitKat to cheer you up*
If you are not happy with it this time, next time you will try harder. That's what I always think :nod:

Occasionally there will be students who do not agree with my grading but the things I teach are pretty much clear cut so we settle our disagreements quickly (me being the absolute right! :D ) Last month, a student of mine failed the same course for the second time due to his nerves during the exam. Although I was heartbroken, there was nothing I could do :( I do hope he will come back and take the course again.

[Shea]

My turn.
My University says that they want "well rounded students", but it feels like all their doing is rounding down our wallets. I hate taking required classes that are no good to me! I took French because I wanted to learn the language and it was required for me to take two semesters. Well, now at the end I still can barely choke out a sentence. They move you so fast that you can't absorb the last chapter. What a complete waste of time and money. If it wasn't for that, I could have graduated a semester earlier!!!!

I want to do what my aunt is doing. She quit college here and is going to finish in England when she moves there next summer with her husband. They wanted her to take a year of biology which has nothing to do with her degree in computer graphics. All it did was bring down her GPA. In England she'll be done after two classes. I went to that same school she quit from and I could extend the complaints.( I couldn't graduate from there either without forking out tons more dough)

[Jester]

treasure valley? I live in the treasure valley, in Idaho... so.. uh.. are we close by?

well depends... I'm a half hour from boise, you?

yeah i get annoyed with that to shea but some of the courses that i have to take are a lot of fun... i jsut wish it were all cheaper

[subterranean]

has that ever happened to you? not the grade, but have you seen a student fall over in disbelief?


happened to my self..almost faint when i got B for this class (South East Asian community)..The most shocking thing was some who I didnt expect to get higher grades, actually did get A..

I didnt deserve to get B.. :flare: :flare:


My turn.
My University says that they want "well rounded students", but it feels like all their doing is rounding down our wallets. I hate taking required classes that are no good to me! I took French because I wanted to learn the language and it was required for me to take two semesters. Well, now at the end I still can barely choke out a sentence. They move you so fast that you can't absorb the last chapter. What a complete waste of time and money. If it wasn't for that, I could have graduated a semester earlier!!!!


True Shea..i feel that educational institution becoming more and more commercial these days

[Stanislaw]

indeed, at my university, there is a chapel, that runs everyday, and they sell school products at the end of mass.

[subterranean]

well if the students were the organizer and they used the money to fund student's activites, i think it's ok..

[mono]

I think if anyone has had a rough few days, that title would belong to both poor Logos and Admin; so I offer my sympathy, and may we all post in peace.

[Shea]

I second that Mono!

Why does technology let you down when you need it the most? I have to finish writing my Shakespeare essays, but my disk won't work. It wants me to reformat it. It worked last night. Does my computer just get a kick out of making me drive all the way to campus to spend the next two days in a rather uncomfortable computer lab, instead of working in my comfy house with a nice cup of tea and a bowl of popcorn? (I love popcorn) I hear my computer's evil cackle as I drive off.

Anyone got any ideas what's wrong with the stupid thing?

[Isagel]

Sometimes you can do a scandisk on the disk, like you do on your computer. If it´s a minor error it might work. Is the disk old? Sometimes they start to go bad. I do not know why, though.

Good luck!

[Bongitybongbong]

Today was a rough day for me. I lost half of everything about me because I retired my super-hero alter-ego, Flambouyantman. :bawling: :bawling: :bawling: :bawling: :bawling: :bawling: :bawling: :bawling: :bawling:

[Jester]

awww.... nice name

[Stanislaw]

Today was a rough day for me. I lost half of everything about me because I retired my super-hero alter-ego, Flambouyantman. :bawling: :bawling: :bawling: :bawling: :bawling: :bawling: :bawling: :bawling: :bawling:

Keep a stiff upper lip, don't be too upset about flambouyantmans etirement...ever see the Kryptonite music video?

[Shea]

Sometimes you can do a scandisk on the disk, like you do on your computer. If it´s a minor error it might work. Is the disk old? Sometimes they start to go bad. I do not know why, though.

Good luck!

Is that where you look for viruses? I'm a dunce with computers. If you explain it, maybe it's something my husband hasn't thought of yet. Though he's pretty good with computers, it's his job after all. I doubt though that I'll be able to fix all that before my paper is due anyway.

It's so frustrating! :rage: :rage: Not only did I just lose every paper on there, but also the first two well constructed pages of one of my final Shakespeare papers. I literally spent the entire day rewriting them. I can't beleive I've been at this computer for over twelve hours and I'm not even halfway done! I hate rewriting from scratch! :rage: :rage: :rage:

My only consolation is that I don't have to take that math final after all. I really surprised myself on that last test. It kicked my butt, but I only got one answer wrong! :D :D I was sure that I had failed it!

[Stanislaw]

Cool, it is always awesome when little surprises like that occur! :thumbs_up

A thought on your compy troubles... sometimes disks if transferred from one comp with a different OS than another have trouble reading the other Comps disk format, as was the case with win 95.

Also comp disks over time do start to degrade, especially if they have been formatted over and over again, also if the disk was near something magnetic, ex magnets. speakers? it will degrade and often become inoperable...

Best of luck with your paper, it really burns me up whenever I have to retyp something. One thing I learned the hard way is always to save my work to atleast to floppy disks, and a master copy on the compy's hard drive.

Good luck and Seasonal wishes!

[Monica]

how i hate buses. i get up at 6 am in order not to be late to the university, then i freeze at the bus stop for something like 20 minutes just to learn that my bus is out (of course i have only one bus that goes where it should but still it's not a direct connection). so i take a tram and then a bus and another bus and still have to walk for about 15 minutes (and remember that it's cold) and when i finally DO reach my university and am ON TIME it turns out that the first lecture has been cancelled :(

[Isagel]

Is that where you look for viruses? I'm a dunce with computers. If you explain it, maybe it's something my husband hasn't thought of yet. Though he's pretty good with computers, it's his job after all. I doubt though that I'll be able to fix all that before my paper is due anyway.



It´s a small program that fixes minor errors on discs, usually you use it on the computers. It is not a virus program. Try and use the search function on your computer and search for the program "scandisk" or scandisc ? I´m not sure of the spelling. When you use the program it will ask you what disk you want it to scan. You just have to choose the floppydisk . That should be drive A:, I think. The program will now scan, and fix minor errors. You might loose some information. I hope it works. If it´s a big error , it will not work.

I hope this is readable. I´ll try and write an english description on how to do it - all the programs on this computer are in swedish , but my pc at home has the english names. It´s a handy thing to know.

[Shea]

I'm feelin' ya Monica. I have about 3 hours left to finish my paper but I got to vent one more time about computers! I put off finishing Shakespeare to get some French journals and compositions done (they're due in 4 hours). So now I'm at school in the computer lab because Leo won't buy a printer and I can't log on to the internet because we're too close to our peak minute limit. Yes, our internet access is through the cell phone, thank USF they're squeezing every nickle from us on useless classes. Anyway, I get here only to find that as careful as I was to save to a new disk AND the hard drive, all my French stuff didn't save. I've either got to go aaaaalllllllllll the way home which will waste an hour, or hope that my French teacher is kind enough to take my assignments later (when they're already late)! AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!

OK, I'm ready to finish Shakespeare.

GRRR, I just realized that I forgot to copy my other Shakespeare paper to a disk. It's at home too. I hope she's just as forgiving.

I HATE COMPUTERS!!

[mono]

I read some of the closed threads, prohibited to replies due to insulting remarks. I want to restore peace. Cannot we all get along?!

[subterranean]

Mono, it's not only about peace. It's about being on topic

[simon]

No we cannot all get along.

[Shea]

I think you misunderstand mono. I'm not mad at anyone in particular, especially not here in the forums. Like Monica, I'm mad at my situation which I'm getting another cold from because of the stress (typical).

BTW, Isagel, in my frustration, I forgot to thank you for your advice. But Leo did that. Didn't work. Thanks anyway. :)

ALMOST DONE!

DONE!! :D :D :D

Now I can deck the halls, read what I want and watch movies :santasmil :banana:

[Stanislaw]

Just wrote My chem lab final today, and I realised that I screwed up an important question...stupid @#$%^&* equilibrium. anywho, any one else hate chemistry?

Oh SubT and Mono, its about staying on topic (hard to do, human nature and all :D) and bringing peace back. But I think its about time we all crucify mono! (Hitchhikers guide to the galaxy loosly paraphrased: last time some one said lets all try peace for a change, they went and nailed him to a tree)

Yeah I would like to bring back the good ol' days, 'One for all and all for one!' who is with me?

[subterranean]

Oh SubT and Mono, its about staying on topic (hard to do, human nature and all :D) and bringing peace back. But I think its about time we all crucify mono! (Hitchhikers guide to the galaxy loosly paraphrased: last time some one said lets all try peace for a change, they went and nailed him to a tree)

Yeah I would like to bring back the good ol' days, 'One for all and all for one!' who is with me?


what do you mean by the crucify thingy..

And oh, I'm with you ;)

[Stanislaw]

Twas a Joke from the douglas Adams book. thats all. Because he state that last time some one said lets just be nice to eachother, they nailed him to a tree. (just a little dark humour about ol Jesus.)

[Scheherazade]

Yeah I would like to bring back the good ol' days, 'One for all and all for one!' who is with me?

Ohhh, Yoday was part of Three Muskateers??? :p

[mono]

*laughs, no, Stanislaw, I do not consider myself as much of a peacemaker worthy of crucifixion like Jesus or assassination like Gandhi. Oddly, however, I accept it as a compliment (he-he-he).

[Stanislaw]

Indeed, lets try an all get along, like we used to. ;)

[Psyche]

*Group hug*
I have had a pretty low day so far. Endometriosis is an evil nebulous disease and the treatment options are so limited. I do not want surgery, nor do I want to go through menopause at age 22.
And I am tired of narcotics. Sigh, whine, the end.

[Isagel]

Group hug it is.
And a poem. This one was written by a man fighting another evil disease.

Invictus

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud,
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find me, unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

-- William Ernest Henley

[mono]

*Group hug*

Aww, my dearest, Psyche. I give you the warmest of warm hugs that my arms can give.

[Jay]

Hey I heard that, me likes hugs :). *joins the group huggie*

[mono]

Stupid insomnia. Stupid malls. Stupid natural disasters. Stupid lack of reverence. Stupid coffeehouses. Stupid impatience. Stupid college financial aide department. Stupid professors. Stupid piercers. Stupid materialism. Stupid cell phones. Stupid neuroleptics. Stupid puns. Stupid marketers. Stupid stupidness.

(sorry, I had to get that out)

[Scheherazade]

Amen......

[baddad]

Stupid insomnia. Stupid malls. Stupid natural disasters. Stupid lack of reverence. Stupid coffeehouses. Stupid impatience. Stupid college financial aide department. Stupid professors. Stupid piercers. Stupid materialism. Stupid cell phones. Stupid neuroleptics. Stupid puns. Stupid marketers. Stupid stupidness.

(sorry, I had to get that out)

I used the quote button just because I wanted to hear it again.....and an especially strong 'ditto' and 'Amen' on the materialism.......

Have a nice cup of tea Mono............and here..........take this hug....

[mono]

Gee, he-he, thanks, Scher and baddad - many hugs back; and a cup of chai does sound appealing at the moment.

[Psyche]

Stupid malls. Stupid lack of reverence. Stupid coffeehouses. Stupid impatience. Stupid professors. Stupid piercers. Stupid materialism. Stupid cell phones. Stupid Stupid marketers. Stupid stupidness.

Awww, what were all those about? Must have been a really icky day having to deal with malls AND Materialism AND impatient people! (hugs to you of course) :wave:

[den]

I agree with all the stupid comments ;) and also stupid people who get mad at you if you aren't drinking as much as they are :mad:

[mono]

Awww, what were all those about? Must have been a really icky day having to deal with malls AND Materialism AND impatient people! (hugs to you of course) :wave:

No, dearest Psyche. None of these comments refer to you even in the least, as you know.
*warm hugs back

[subterranean]

I agree with all the stupid comments ;) and also stupid people who get mad at you if you aren't drinking as much as they are :mad:


Indeed..anything to cover envyness.


I spent my new years very short holiday in bed coz of fever :bawling:

And as a pert of my new year's resolution, i finally got fishes as pet. But today I found one of them was dead,
Now I feel so guilty.

[Jessika]

Hey.. i've just read some posts in this thread.. and i cant understand.. what has happened? :confused:

i'm not sure, i will keep reading but, will anyone of you tell me about it?

By the way, happy new year to all of you
I also join the group hug.
That hug is also for injured people in Asia, Argentina, Madrid, Chechenia.. and the list goes on.. bad year 2004, very bad year..

Although i don't know you, i have to say that i love you in some way. For what you mean to me.

Ok, nostalgic thoughts.




Saludos y abrazos. Y ánimo
(Regards and hugs. And cheer up(?, not sure about that translation) )

[fayefaye]

I like mono's way of expressing herself

Stupid expectations. Stupid conventions. Stupid society full of stupid, and yes, materialistic, people. Stupid $70 skirt. Stupid lost childhood.

[Psyche]

*giggles like mad and aggrees that Mono has a lovely way of expressing herself in all forms.*
To add to the stupids: stupid co-workers who fake rare and communicable diseases to get out of working an undesired shift...pfffft!

[subterranean]

I like mono's way of expressing herself

Stupid expectations. Stupid conventions. Stupid society full of stupid, and yes, materialistic, people. Stupid $70 skirt. Stupid lost childhood.

Dr. Faye, I think Mono is a HE..
No worries, I also make mistakes in that kind of thing ;)

[Jay]

Yeah, Dyrwen is a HE as well ;), right SubT? :p

STUPID EXAMS!!! ahem, hehe

[mono]

Yes, I am a 'he,' but no worries, fayefaye, as I know I keep myself relatively gender-anonymous.
Meanwhile, I only blush (he-he).

[Isagel]

Grrrrrrrr......
Stupid forgetfull boyfriend. We are celebrating our ten year anniversary this saturday. And he has volunteered to work that day.

The only words that would really describe my feelings are not allowed according to the rules of the forum.

[Stanislaw]

Stupid tuition...stupid prof's...stupid weather (-51C)...stupid ugly dog that tore open my garbage yesterday...stupid car that doesn't start...stupid buses that are always late...stupid sick people that give me there disease...stupid computers that die...ah what else be there...stupid ice that causes me to injure me leg!! :mad:

[Shea]

"injure me leg"? Lol, stan, you turn more pirate as the days go on. Hope tomorrow goes better for you.;)

[Bongitybongbong]

Stpuid world so friggen annoing. I hate this planet. :mad: :mad: :rage: Everything sucks.

[mono]

Stupid expectations. Stupid conventions. Stupid society full of stupid, and yes, materialistic, people. Stupid $70 skirt. Stupid lost childhood.

To add to the stupids: stupid co-workers who fake rare and communicable diseases to get out of working an undesired shift...pfffft!

Stupid forgetfull boyfriend. We are celebrating our ten year anniversary this saturday. And he has volunteered to work that day.

Stupid tuition...stupid prof's...stupid weather (-51C)...stupid ugly dog that tore open my garbage yesterday...stupid car that doesn't start...stupid buses that are always late...stupid sick people that give me there disease...stupid computers that die...ah what else be there...stupid ice that causes me to injure me leg!! :mad:

Stpuid world so friggen annoing. I hate this planet. Everything sucks.

Of course I have no complaints of all of you adopting my random way of expressing my frustration, but I feel so priveleged. Such confidence will prevent many 'stupid rough days' to come.

[amuse]

stupid christmas wrapping paper hiding under my bed! :p
(yes, i'm finally wrapping my brother's packages. :blush: but, on the bright side it's still only january.)

[subterranean]

Grrrrrrrr......
Stupid forgetfull boyfriend. We are celebrating our ten year anniversary this saturday. And he has volunteered to work that day.

The only words that would really describe my feelings are not allowed according to the rules of the forum.


Though volunteering is a noble thing to do, somehow I can feel this old "rage" in you ;)

[Bongitybongbong]

Stpuid world so friggen annoing. I hate this planet. :mad: :mad: :rage: Everything sucks.
Okay I take back every word...for the moment. Everything has been great after that day so :D

[subterranean]

Well good for you. Afterall there's always a silver lining, even on the darkest cloud.

[Molko]

Arrrgghhh!!! having a very bad day today. Im not feeling well, I'm coming down with something...tried ringing the Doctor, but to no avail - booked out. Have to study before school starts or else i'll end up failing this year and my life will be over. I cant remember a day when I havent felt stressed! :(

[Isagel]

Good luck Molko!

Mono - I did not realize that I was part of a trend, but fashion works in mysterious ways. I guess you now can use the title "verbal trendsetter 2005".

Sub. - thank you. My rage has vained, and all is well. We might survive another 10 years.

[Bongitybongbong]

My rage has vained, and all is well. We might survive another 10 years.
That's great that you doing better.

[Isagel]

You too.
Bad days come - bad days go. We remain and make them better.

[mono]

How nice to hear that everyone has proceeded in better terms.
Hmmm, I feel a group hug approaching . . .

[Bongitybongbong]

*hugs everyone*

[Stanislaw]

I suppose I can be joining in an all, being that me bad spell has past!

[Bongitybongbong]

All right Stan :D

[Stanislaw]

an aside (this seems to be turning into the e-hug section as opposed ot bad day, but I be supposin that hugs, be better than B!T@#3n (the only word that rhymes with supposin)), :D

[Jay]

Is it just me or the forums has become blurry all of a sudden? And the streets, and trams and buses and people and... ah, so it's only me, lol :p

[subterranean]

Sub. - thank you. My rage has vained, and all is well. We might survive another 10 years.

Welcome Isagel..and wow 10 years together..how you both do that? My last one only lasted for 2 months, eventhough I love him so till now :(>

[amuse]

till now??? :(

[subterranean]

Yes Ash, till this very moment :(

[subterranean]

Well they say you'll never know what you have till you lost it.

[Bongitybongbong]

Ouch, sorry Sub.

[Helga]

OK I see this thread has drifted a little from the subject but I want to tell you about my day... I was yesterday at my favourite coffee house were I hang out a lot. and a waitor there who is 20 years older than me kept asking me about my breasts and my sex life! and he said 'please don't tell me you slept with Georg' a boy I was dating but never got really close to. he kept rubbing my shoulders and asked me to come with him to the Canary islands with him this summer. and for almost a month he's been begging me to kiss him.today I was at the coffee house with my friend and I told a girl who works there and I consider a friend of mine about the night before, she told the owner and he came to me and wanted the whole story and I told him because this was disgusting. I am 19 years old and he is 39, don't you think I was right to tell the owner? I came home a few minuets ago and I am still so mad at this waitor!

[amuse]

Helga that was pure, unadulterated sexual harrassment. what he did to you wasn't, never was, and will never be okay. if someone ever does that to you again, tell a manager immediately, hmm? he was absolutely wrong to lay a hand on you and to speak to you suggestively. in my profession i have to tell people before i touch them, because anything can be construed the wrong way anymore. what a cretin!

[Stanislaw]

indeed, it appears to me that you did the right thing. If people like this are allowed to continue that type of behaviour, it will only escalate into greater misdeads.

[Helga]

I just hope he will be fired, cause I was talking to my brother and he said that if he will not be fired I should not hang out there anymore so they notice that they will lose customers if they keep him on.

the thing is that I love this coffee house I know all the waitors and one girl who works there told me that her two sons ask about the girl with the pipe when I'm not around. I can't imagine not hanging out there!

[Bongitybongbong]

That waiter is one horrible person. :mad:

[subterranean]

OK I see this thread has drifted a little from the subject but I want to tell you about my day... I was yesterday at my favourite coffee house were I hang out a lot. ...!

My question is, how come that place become your fav place with the fact that there's such an awful pathetic person working as a waiter there? I mean since it's your fav place and you hang out there alot, you should have been familiar with the waiters there and yet it's still one of your fav place..

Well I'm just wondering. Sorry to hear that though..

[mono]

Ugh, that sounds horrible, Helga! Compliments for being attractive, as he found in you, can only go so far, to where, like others said, they proceed to pathetic desperation and harrassment. I would have spoken with the manager too, and hopefully he/she fired that specific employee; if not, I would feel all the more annoyed - losing my favorite coffeehouse too for a reason like that would bother me immensely.
Take care, anyway, and hopefully things will heal themselves.

[amuse]

if he isn't fired the coffeehouse isn't worth favoring with your business, imho.


rant for two days: yesterday my exercise had to be abandoned because the page wouldn't load. today my computer took an ill-timed nap. considering my prof. reset a page for me, i'm a tad annoyed. hopefully, as it's almost identical to the in-class paper we got, i won't have to try this a third time...
and in other news, santa rosa junior college in northern california has a far more comprehensive anatomy program for nursing students than does my current uni. :( so kudos to srjc! :)

[Helga]

My question is, how come that place become your fav place with the fact that there's such an awful pathetic person working as a waiter there? I mean since it's your fav place and you hang out there alot, you should have been familiar with the waiters there and yet it's still one of your fav place..

Well I'm just wondering. Sorry to hear that though..


well I hang out there for 3-8 hours a day and he started working there at a similar time as I did start hanging out there . first he was real nice and everybody flirt there, it's a very casual work place. I know all the waitors and the owner personally, I hang out with some of them away from the coffeehouse. at first I just thought he had a crush on me and I thought it was kinda sweet. I don't get that attention a lot. but than it became weird and the other people who work there have been telling me for months to complain about him but I didn't want to for some reason... well, then I started getting messages from the internet about not dating a boy I wasn't even dating and the boy was getting them too, and I get strange phonecalls in the middle of the night from a privat number and just somebody breathing on the line. it's really creepy and I suspect the waitor.

I hope he will be fired cause a friend of mine, a girl that works here gave me a pepper spray because she wouldn't be suprised if he would just grab me on the street or something...
this is really creepy but I hope the owner will solve it...

[Stanislaw]

Perhaps you should call the local authorities?

[Scheherazade]

Helga, I am sorry to hear that you are going through such an unpleasant experience. Sometimes when we try not to be unkind towards others, they take it as a sign that we do not mind their advances. Although it can be hard, there are occasions that saying a firm 'no' would be acceptable and save us further headaches. This waiter seems to have taken advantage of your nice and quiet personality. You don't have to put up with such people. :)

I agree with Stan, Helga. If there is someone stalking you like that, call the police. If not them, call the phone company. They can trace the caller for you and then deal with that person appropriately.

[lhaeber]

new here, skimming through old posts, like this one...i went to halloween party, bumped into young male wearing kkk outfit..blew fuse, asked to leave. what's that saying, don't say anything, then they'll come for you? now harry's wearing swastikas, we're all going to hell in a handcart as mother would say

[Helga]

Helga, I am sorry to hear that you are going through such an unpleasant experience. Sometimes when we try not to be unkind towards others, they take it as a sign that we do not mind their advances. Although it can be hard, there are occasions that saying a firm 'no' would be acceptable and save you further headaches. This waiter seems to have taken advantage of your nice and quiet personality. You don't have to put up with such people. :)
I agree with Stan, Helga. If there is someone stalking you like that, call the police. If not them, call the phone company. They can trace the caller for you and then deal with that person appropriately.


I know that when I describe it it seems much worse than it is. I don't think it's as bad as everybody else do. it does bother me but not that much. if it will continue I will talk to the police but not at this point.

[Stanislaw]

new here, skimming through old posts, like this one...i went to halloween party, bumped into young male wearing kkk outfit..blew fuse, asked to leave. what's that saying, don't say anything, then they'll come for you? now harry's wearing swastikas, we're all going to hell in a handcart as mother would say

uhm, who be harry? were you asked to leave? and welcome

[amuse]

phones here in the u.s. are regulated by the fcc (federal communications commission) - land lines, that is - it's actually a federal crime to harass people like so...

and I get strange phonecalls in the middle of the night from a privat number and just somebody breathing on the line.

[kilted exile]

Bad Day, try bad 4 months. I have been on a co-op term for my college course (Environmental Engineering) working in a wood reprocessing plant. Due to the owner/boss not having a clue how to operate a business I got laid off (now not got required hours to graduate in May) also I am still waiting for $850 (cdn.) in paycheques. Now as if that was not bad enough 2wks before Xmas my younger brother got jumped by 3 *******, cowardly ******* and has only recently been released from hospital after undergoing major facial reconstruction surgery (both orbital sockets fractured - now has 5 titanium plates in his face).

[Scheherazade]

ouch!
ouch!
ouch!

[papayahed]

ok, I guess my day isn't that rough after all. I was gonna complain that now that I'm unemployed (yes your tax dollars are paying me to sit here, well US residents, or maybe just Michigan - not sure) I've cleaned the house, organized my stuff, sorted through my clothes, books, and CDs. Now what can I do? To bad it isn't summer I could sit by the pool but what can I do in a foot of snow.

[amuse]

i am really sorry to hear that, kilted exile. :(

papayahed, only Michigan residents and whatever you contributed to your UI are footing the bill. it goes state by state.

[Bongitybongbong]

Kilted Exile, I send what little comfort I can to you and your brother.

[Stanislaw]

My regrets to you kilted, just don't go down the path of revenge and let it dominate your life, it is not the answer, for once on that path it is hard to change your life, and once revenge is dished out you will find that it leaves you hollow and purposeless. btw, I am not joking it is the truth.

I hope you and your family are blessed from now on.

[Isagel]

Kilted exile and Helga - I really hope the rest of the new year will treat you better.

[Helga]

thanks Isagel, I hope so too...

by the way, the waiter hasn't been fired and he still pretends like every thing is fine. he tells me how much he likes me and asks about things I don't want to talk about, mainly my sex life, or lack of it, well he is just being disgusting. but I talked to the owner and he told me that as soon as he can find someone in his place he'll be gone.

I'm a regular customer, I know them all very well and I sit there and drink coffee for up to 10 hours (NO JOKE)and I don't want to be forced to leave because of him...

[kilted exile]

Going to take this opportunity to thank ppl for the comments relating to my recent misfortune. Worry not happiness is alive again.

[shortysweetp]

just thought i would bump this up i am sure i will be needing this soon with the actually moving process really get under way.

[Bianca Fransen]

Ah Shortysweetp, Keep us involved!

[mono]

This seems like a bookworm's worst punishment and torture.
One would never think that scheduling an appointment with an optometrist would take so long, but I called weeks ago, and I must wait for almost two more weeks. Meanwhile, today, I spent some time at my usual favorite coffeehouse, enjoying my book (The Rainbow by D.H. Lawrence), and these headaches seem entirely inevitable and miserable. The pounding (almost pulsating) in my head did not seem too bad, so I continued reading, finished two chapters, and read some poetry by Robert Burns - what a mistake. I normally do not complain so much about pain (if someone saw me, with my collection of piercings, one may understand), but my head aches so badly that I feel noxious . . . and staring at this computer screen certainly does not help (for obvious reasons). :flare:

[Bianca Fransen]

Mono, I am so very, very sorry for you!!

[mono]

Mono, I am so very, very sorry for you!!
No worries, but thanks, Biana. :)
Though I normally dislike taking any pharmaceuticals for anything unless necessary, including horrible headaches, I succumbed to taking some Aleve (naprosyn), and dozed off for a little nap, waking up feeling much better.
I suppose until the appointment, I will have to either limit my reading (even the painful concept sounds unthinkable!), or just get a supply of Aleve. :rolleyes:

[Chava]

Just need to vent my gnawing frustration at my english teacher (no respect for her students) forced me to say sorry for having read the back cover of a book during her class.. she confiscated the book and waited for me to come pick it up after class whereupon she gave me a lecture about reading in her class...
Anyway, I asked if i could have the book/script back and she holds it out, i reach for it and she takes it back. Splitsecond and i realise she's asking me to appologise to her... for reading the backcover of a book. so i contain my rising fury and contempt and pass out an "I'm sorry, it won't repeat itself." she adds, "you can have it back this time, but if it happens again, you will never get it back." First, she by no means has the authority to destroy a students items, and also this script happened to be the manuscript to the play myself and a few others intend to produce for the school. Independantly, and we purchased it per order from america for our own money. All that because i was reading the back while she was ranting about how the main character of our current book is crazy.....

Phew, just needed to vent that massive frustration. I'm not used to being talked down to, and i find it humiliating and disrespectful.

[PistisSophia]

The dog threw up. The dog threw up. Yesterday the cat threw up. My kid doesn't want to do homework and whines like a baby. My husband gripes about the turkeys at work. I worked for many years. I know what it is like to make a living. I have a high maintenance kid and I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. I don't know how my aged mother is doing. I wasn't up for chit-chat today. The guy is here to clean the gutter and I gotta get dinner ready. Working for a paycheck seems like a fine thing now.

The grass IS always greener on the other side. The news is bleak; another hurricane a comin' in. They say the storm is headed for Texas......Crawford maybe? I hope FEMA is ready like last time a hurricane went into New Orleans.

I am headed back to the kitchen. The mums need to be watered and the dog is waiting for her rice dinner. I'm taking her to the vet on Wednesday. I need to make an appointment with the lady who did the auditory processing disorder test on my kid and get a prescription slip in the mail.

Tonite is Monday night football. I can curl up all by myself. I can read a book in peace with my siamese cat, Honey, at my side and have a cup of tea.

Things just go that way somedays I guess, but I have tried to have my fun and my "ballroom days" ain't over, baby.

[samercury]

Have a cold and keep sneezing all day and yet have to finish homework... so tired. To make matters worse, it's freezing :rage:

[Nightshade]

okay this was really yesterday but here it goes AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH :smash: :brickwall:

[Jay]

I don't like phones.

[rachel]

what a day. baby hasia crumpled up her cupcake and threw it all over the couch and floor and i was having company. so i vacuumed and she screamed. then after i cleaned and was starting the luncheon she wanted a cookie and has to always sit wherever i am so i gave her one and then i happened to look down and she had used the cookie(chocolate chip) to draw pictures on the hardwood floor and she was brown everywhere. I was so frustrated. i put her in the crib while i vacuumed again and cleaned up. Then i had the stuffed peppers and yadayada all done and waited and waited.i put baby to bed with her baba and waited. travis was in the bedroom doing something totally wierd and freaky on the guitar(like the sound of fingers scraping the blackboard) so i hit myself ten times so i wouldn't start screaming.
then i checked my email and of course my guest from out of town couldn't make it.
of course. so i decided to work on one of the children's books and the baby woke up and hated me. nothing made her happy except that she should destroy the computer and rare books. of course.
the rest of the day went down hill and at bed time baby had oatmeal and assorted foods stuck to her hair, she had thrown her dinner all over the floor. naturally and i had company.
finally two of the family went to bean to cup and i put hasia in the bath. she kept putting her head into her bucket filled with water and then crying. arghhhhhhhhh!!!
she is asleep now but i am too tired to write.of course. so i guess i will go and do more dishes, the laundry and fall asleep, have to be up at three a.m.
of course.sorry if my small life bored you all but if felt so nice to vent

"good grief" charlie brown

[Kaltrina]

Rachel I am so sorry for your bad day. I was frustrated as I was reading your post so I can only imagine how you felt. I just hope there won't be any more days like these... :)

[rachel]

thnks, just your saying that makes things better. and the next day was infinitely better.i hope your day is too.

[samercury]

Sounds like you really had a rough day rachel......

Who invented the PSAT- or the SAT?????? It's the stupidest test in the world- almost fell asleep while taking it :bawling:I think I did bad on it...maybe :(

[rachel]

Well i am sort of embarassed now that i shared because the next day was way worse. so i should have been grateful for that day. my daughter was assaulted badly by her guy and i felt like my world was crashing down. she is safe with us now but he is living in her apartment and all the police did was go and talk to him, then tell her he seemed like a nice guy. a nightmare.

the SAT was invented in 1905 by a french psychologist called Alfred Binet, then an American gentleman called lewis Terman altered it slightly and it became used all across the U.S. the purpose was solely to pick people to beome part of a 'new elite."
yawn, i personally would have liked it better if Chris Farley or Jack Black would have come up with one. Then maybe I wouldn't always have had terrible scores.

"you're not hard core unless you live hard core." school of rock

[samercury]

Thanks for the info Rachel ;)

Is your daughter ok now (I hope so anyways) :(. Why didn't the police do something more about it is what I'd like to know :rage:

[rachel]

you are so welcome. why didn't the police do something? It depends it seems on the age of the officer, the older ones still feel uncomfortable with "domestic problems" and the younger ones seem to have more psychology behind them and can spot a con.She is very broken and alternates between anger and deathly quiet behaviour. Only time and love can mend things I guess. thank you for asking.

[Kaltrina]

I am so sorry these things happened to you daughter and I hope she'll be fine soon...

[Nightshade]

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!
:crash::crash:::brickwall:::brickwall:::brickwall: ::brickwall:::brickwall:::brickwall:::brickwall::: brickwall:::brickwall:
Thats alll

[MCFlow]

Just venting...people talk. They talk all the time. Interpretation and intended message are two very different things. Patience is needed to gain an understanding and bring the message intended closer with the interpretation. What's most unfair is when someone decides to play judge, jury, and executioner to something that's not intended to be ill-will. I know it's human nature to form judgments right away and assess in-the-moment, but for it to increase in significance and turn into an extreme reaction is wrong. Disagreement is fine, but to reaction in a negative/angry/extreme way is as wrong as someone who's ignorant. Maybe people are living lives that are lacking so they get their panties in a bunch when they get the opportunity to evoke strong emotions. I'm saddened that our fellow men and women can be so strong and unreasonable. And the ones you thought knew you suddenly turn their backs too. You feel like no one has your back. You lose trust and confidence in others. You become paranoid, cautious, and apathetic. At least I can still maintain poise and a good mood. Still it's so easy for some to point one finger at others and not seeing the 3 at themselves. Where has the compassion gone? Why is it every man for himself? I always wondered why was I different, and why didn't I mix into the general population. It's because I really do think and operate differently. I'm on another wavelength. I like where I'm at. It's happy land without drugs or other bad vices. It's truly enlightened thinking, and appreciation for life, and all in existence. It's too bad they can't see the sky or the rainbow, and they take it out on others, or drag others down. I was, OK. I've visited dark places before. One time I got way too deep into the darkness, and since then I've vowed never to return, not even a little bit. Since then, I see it in others. I've tried pulling them out, but only in their own time will they cross over. I guess you just have to be patient and let them be. In the meantime, just stay out of their path. Especially those with war paths. I'm naive, I want to be immune to darkness. And I blindly let others run into me. I need to learn to avoid these negative butthurt ninnies. They're everywhere! I guess the best way is to be: 1, vague-don't let others onto who you are what coolness you possess. Let your gut guide you to who you want to confide in. Listen to the almighty gut feeling!! Long live intuition and commonsense! Don't worry, be happy! There are kindred spirits out there. The mean people do not define who you are! You define who you are.

[MystyrMystyry]

People who read tend to be friendlier and more hospitable than those who don't. They also have the aspect of having interesting relevant things to talk about rather than being purely interested in their own selfinterestedness (that's my made up silly word for the day!). I've avoided nitwits, when I was an awkward youngster lacking in confidence, to putting them in their place when in the appropriate mood. The latter is far more fun and satisfying. I've developed methods of staring down the most hardened criminal when not feeling otherwise confrontational. I have an expression which says 'Sure, you can try it on but be warned: you will be playing with a type of fire you have no knowledge of..!'

Ah, the power of being prepared to play act in the adult real world.

Probably my advice for any of you who have ever felt at the mercy of a turdulous bully - join a local theatrical society. It's fun and you learn how to cope with situations and also gain stamina for a prolonged onslaught. One thing both semi-literate and illterate types respect is someone who's clever with words - you can talk your way out any situation just by quoting Jabberwocky very fast.

'Don't let the turkeys get you down' might be a modern variant of 'It's hard to soar like an eagle when you're surrounded by gobblers' but it's true - life is too short to be bothered with and flustered by epsilon minuses.

You're unique and valuable, with a far higher calling than stupid gutterface (I always call a spade a shovel), and though it's true that many have twofaces, I've met many that have twoarses only.

Anyway, life is for is for living, striving, not for the dreary, cowering.

Envoi: This ain't a dress rehearsal - start struttin' and frettin' today!

[papayahed]

OK, at least three people have explained how important these meetings are, why then decide to go to the unimportant meeting instead???