Responsibilities

[kilted exile]

So, I have finally taken the next main step in my life (also committed myself to 25 years of debt in the process) and bought a house. I get the keys at the end of November and move over to the shores of Lake Huron (10min walk from the lake). The job will be changing again also (lined up a position at the Nuclear Plant nearby) & I will hopefully have time to myself to do things.

The thing is though that I no longer will be able to make rash decisions about what I want to do (which is probably a good thing:p ). I have lived without any real responsibilities or ties to anywhere in particular for my life up till now, things are certainly going to be different for me now.

Anyway, enough nonsense about my boring existence, I was wondering what event led the rest of you to realise your responsilities? (yes I know my wording is very poor, but I hope it is understandable)

[Granny5]

Childbirth.

[Virgil]

Congratulations Kilt. That is great. I'm glad to see you're doing well. What led me to a path of responsibility was marriage, or at least the commitment to marriage. If I remember correctly I was 27 when I proposed. We got married when I was 29. We bought a house very shortly thereafter. Yes a house is a big responsibility. But not as much as a wife. :lol:

[AimusSage]

Responsibilities??? :confused:

What on earth are you talking about :p

But seriously, congrats with the house :D

[manolia]

Congrats Kilt!!!!! Hehehe i'd definately enjoy designing your house :p :)

I started realising responsibilities when i started up my own office 1,5 year ago. It is difficult when you have to do everything by yourself and learn everything you don't know alone, without an elder to instruct you (this translates to lots of extra work and studying). Moreover when you are your own boss you don't have anyone from whom to ask a raise to your salaries or let you go on vacation and you end up working many hours :(

[Granny5]

Congrats on your new home. It's great to be a home owner but it sucks that you can't just call the landlord when something needs to be fixed.

[BibliophileTRJ]

For me it was starting my own business. Buying a fishing boat was the start; but it really hit me that I HAD TO BE RESPONSIBLE when I began hiring employees. I was suddenly responsible for not just my livelihood, but the livelihoods of 7 other people as well (and their families).

And congratulations on the new home..... YAY! You're a BIG boy now! :lol:

[Niamh]

Congrats on the house kilted! was wondering what was keeping you away from here!
As for responsibilites....i'm not sure. will have to think about it.

[aswelch]

This may sound silly but when I moved in with my boyfriend a year and a half ago I had to think about everything in twos. Everything from grocery shopping (which is much more than 2x what I bought before) to where I will be in 2 years. It is hard sometimes. I think the rest of my college years would have been easier if I hadn't moved in with him but I wouldn't be happy that way. I guess it is a responsibility to another person. We don't have a lot of monetary responsibilities. We rent with another couple, His car was given to him, college loans don't have to be paid yet... The only thing other than rent and bills we have to pay in his motorcycle payment. LOL what responsibilities. This must seem childish to you, you just bought a house! congrats by the way. I would love to have our own house. (of course I would love the proposal first. ;) I don't know how I'm going to get him to go there! LOL)

[applepie]

Congrats on the house. I'm getting ready to make the same jump. I think it was childbirth for me as well. It is a real eye opener.

[cactus]

Hmmm... a very interest question... I don't know when I learnt to be responsible....

Being the second oldest (and having a more commanding presence than my older sister) and of a refugee family, I have always shared the responsibility of looking after my whole family. Often at a young age I had to interpret for my parents, make arrangements on behalf of my parents and plan ahead with regards to the purchase of the family home... and then later my own house. I am more of a parent to my younger sister who I made sure went to the best of school (got her pass the exams to one of the top schools in Melbourne)... and now she is living with me to save up money to go to England to work next year... actually sometimes I wish I could throw away my responsibilities and live a free life like my younger sister.

[Shalot]

For me, responsibility continues to increase in incremental steps.

We took the home ownership plunge recently. I guess I like it. It turns out to be slightly more difficult than I thought. Mabye it's because so many other outside events coincided with the signing of the papers, but it's been more of a strain than I would have liked. Too many home improvement projects and not enough time to do them. But, from what I've seen on Lit Net, you look like you wouldn't have much trouble. You'll probably love it.

[blazeofglory]

So, I have finally taken the next main step in my life (also committed myself to 25 years of debt in the process) and bought a house. I get the keys at the end of November and move over to the shores of Lake Huron (10min walk from the lake). The job will be changing again also (lined up a position at the Nuclear Plant nearby) & I will hopefully have time to myself to do things.

The thing is though that I no longer will be able to make rash decisions about what I want to do (which is probably a good thing:p ). I have lived without any real responsibilities or ties to anywhere in particular for my life up till now, things are certainly going to be different for me now.

Anyway, enough nonsense about my boring existence, I was wondering what event led the rest of you to realise your responsilities? (yes I know my wording is very poor, but I hope it is understandable)

Exile, now you are back home in life and indeed you are setting up a home,and setting up it is really a matter of glory, and now nice it will be to be together, to be in union with someone who too likes to reciprocate it. Indeed you are going to weave dreams and very beautiful and romantic dreams. It is of course dreams that set a home and without that even one owns a villa that does not become a home.

A grand homecoming!!!

[papayahed]

Anyway, enough nonsense about my boring existence, I was wondering what event led the rest of you to realise your responsilities? (yes I know my wording is very poor, but I hope it is understandable)

Congrat Kilted!!

I never realized my responsibilites until they were gone. I remember moving to Kansas and feeling very free - I sold my condo, my car was paid for, I didn't hae to worry about the day to day stuff regarding my family...

[Gadget Girl]

Well, good luck with your new home! :)

I realized my responsibility as a student that I really must study hard. There are a lot of things happening to my life lately and I need to cope up with them all. What I must do is to study. That is my responsibility. That's all I have to do.

Before, I don't read books. Yes, none. Ever. I only read pop-up books and that sucks. I'm not being in my age. So, from that moment on I started to put myself committed to my studying and somehow, I was successful. That was also the time that I knew what my responsibilities are.

[Koa]

I am escaping responsibilities and I am planning to do so hopefully forever. I don't want to settle. But I feel really wrong because at my age (same as Kilted's :rolleyes:) I should be starting to behave like an adult. But I don't want to. As long as I get a job anywhere in the world that pays a rent, food, maybe some travelling etc... that's all I want and need. I don't have a partner and by the look of it I won't really ever have one, the only word 'commitment' makes me feel rather sick so even if I had one he'd have to be someone sharing my worldview...
I feel irresponsible because everybody else sooner or later will think of settling down (although most of my friends still haven't finished Uni, buying a house at our age in Italy is as possible as flying to Saturn and back in 15 minutes :lol:) and I'll feel guilty for living my life the way I want it :eek: I feel a bit irresponsible towards my family too, because I left and well we keep in touch really well and I go back there every few months and all, but sometimes they all make me feel like I committed a crime or something (good ol' Italian mentality...). So yeah, the word 'responsibility' is not part of my vocabulary... :blush:

[kilted exile]

Ok, all just about moved in. still unpacking - seems like it will take forever....

Kitchen
http://i63.photobucket.com/albums/h155/celticb33r/DSC00287.jpg

Dining Area
http://i63.photobucket.com/albums/h155/celticb33r/DSC00288.jpg

Living Area
http://i63.photobucket.com/albums/h155/celticb33r/DSC00289.jpg

Hallway
http://i63.photobucket.com/albums/h155/celticb33r/DSC00291.jpg

Upstairs Landing
http://i63.photobucket.com/albums/h155/celticb33r/DSC00292.jpg

My Room
http://i63.photobucket.com/albums/h155/celticb33r/DSC00293.jpg

Spare Room
http://i63.photobucket.com/albums/h155/celticb33r/DSC00294.jpg

Basement
http://i63.photobucket.com/albums/h155/celticb33r/DSC00290.jpg

Will post outside shots when snow leaves

[Zelly]

Ooooooooh. Soooo many books. O.O

Are you going to organize them? (and I love your house!)

My responsibility is school. Studying for the CHSPE so that I can get my diploma by next year and start college.

[Nightshade]

WHy not a pictutre of the house in snow?? :p
But seriously wow.. good on you. and is that a smilie cushion I see?? ( it is! :D)
And you seem to hae a bigger kitchen so will you now be after more recipies? ohh I had more to say but my lecture has started... anyway good luck with the unpacking! :D

[manolia]

Nice house Kilt :)
(is it going to be like that when you finish un-packing :lol: )

[kilted exile]

Ooooooooh. Soooo many books. O.O

Are you going to organize them? (and I love your house!)


That is a fraction of the books, still have 6 boxes of them to unpack. I will do some organising of them but I lack bookcases (need to make shelves in basement).


WHy not a pictutre of the house in snow?? :p
But seriously wow.. good on you. and is that a smilie cushion I see?? ( it is! :D)
And you seem to hae a bigger kitchen so will you now be after more recipies? ohh I had more to say but my lecture has started... anyway good luck with the unpacking! :D

Ok Night, house in snow:
http://i63.photobucket.com/albums/h155/celticb33r/DSC00297.jpg
http://www.online-literature.com/forums/images/smilies/yawnb.gif
:yawnb:
View from my window (lake is just behind tree-line)
http://i63.photobucket.com/albums/h155/celticb33r/DSC00295.jpg

Back yard (deck has large walk-out from living area)
http://i63.photobucket.com/albums/h155/celticb33r/DSC00296.jpg


It is not a smilie cushion, it is my smilie lunch bag:)

Recipes are welcome so long as they are easy:lol:


Nice house Kilt :)
(is it going to be like that when you finish un-packing :lol: )

Course not, I am tearing up all the carpet downstairs for laminate wood flooring.

[manolia]

I like the roof sooooo much :thumbs_up

[subterranean]

Anyway, enough nonsense about my boring existence, I was wondering what event led the rest of you to realise your responsilities? (yes I know my wording is very poor, but I hope it is understandable)


It's not boring, believe me ;)

Mine would be my recent move to Copenhagen (last Nov). I'm getting a job here and after 2 weeks, I have this slight thought that I probably was making a bad decision. But I can't turn the time back so I will need to deal with it to make things better. I'm now completely on my own. I have no family here, so I need to make new friends in order to survive. Compare to the warm full house back home, I'm now living alone in an apartment. I need to schedule my time so I can work and do chores like cooking, doing laundry, cleaning up, doing groceries, learning Danish...and at the same time I also need to think about socializing, reading, trying to stay healthy...I miss my family and friends back home..Now I really understand the meaning of 'home'...

Yea, I know..they are not responsibilities and I may sound like a baby here.. but it's good to let things come out so they won't get stuck somewhere in the inside and cause serious trouble ;)

[Nightshade]

Ok Im coming to live with you... that is a nice house.! :nod:
and I bet you can see the northern lights too.

That garden looks great for barbeques in the summer.:D

[Niamh]

Thats a lovely house kilted! And your smilie lunch bag is so cool! You can tell its a bachelor pad!:p