View Full Version : What is the nicest way to break up with your boyfriend?
He's really sensitive and really sweet, but we've been going out for four days, and he told me "I love you." And he was talking about a joke they have in P.E. (the joke is that my twin should be nicer to her "Brother-in-law") and I blew off the joke, and he goes, "Don't you like the idea?"
NOOOOO!!!!!!!!!! We're in NINTH GRADE!
Should I just tell him that I confused wanting to be his friend with wanting to be his girlfriend? Should I do it over the phone or in person?
help...
Oh, pleaaase! This is my first boyfriend, so I'm clueless!!!!!!!!!!!
Bakiryu
09-18-2007, 05:01 PM
Just tell him "I feel we're drifting apart," or "I'm going throught so much right now" You know, the kind of excuses girls make when they want to break up with ya.
Or just sent him a text message.
Any guy who tells you he loves you after 4 days just wants to get into your pants.
farnoosh
09-18-2007, 05:09 PM
baki have you broken up before ?
Bakiryu
09-18-2007, 05:13 PM
baki have you broken up before ?
Usually. I break up with them before they break up with me.
SleepyWitch
09-18-2007, 05:18 PM
Any guy who tells you he loves you after 4 days just wants to get into your pants.
or maybe he just happens to be that one guy who really means it?
Anza, how long did you know this guy before you got together?
Bakiryu
09-18-2007, 05:23 PM
or maybe he just happens to be that one guy who really means it
People lie.
cateyes2011
09-18-2007, 05:53 PM
why didn't u just ask ME how to break up u know i always come up with the perfect excuse 4 everything.... i'm right here in the same house and u have to get ur answers in a blog...i'm so hurt...
btw ppl i am a noob so idk what i'm doing *ROFL*
Bakiryu
09-18-2007, 05:54 PM
Um, this is a thread not a blog cateyes, are you Anza's relative?
Let me help you (Newbie) cateyes,
stop chatspeaking. I read typo, not chatspeak...
I've known him less than a year.
cateyes2011
09-18-2007, 05:56 PM
yes i am anza'a twin sister and i have no earthly idea whats the difference between a thread and a blog so if someone would please be so kind as to explain?
Niamh
09-18-2007, 05:56 PM
Dont break up via a text message. Its not a nice thing to do. Sit him down and tell him how you are feeling, that you do like him but that you dont think this is working out. If you are only seeing him a short while he'll understand.
He's already asked out most of the girls in my grade. I was the first one who didn't have the heart to reject him.
cateyes2011
09-18-2007, 05:58 PM
Oh, alright. Sorry. I didn't know chatspeak wasn't allowed...but dangit I am a NOOB!!! You're going to have to put up with annoying little NOOB things like that ok?
Dont break up via a text message. Its not a nice thing to do. Sit him down and tell him how you are feeling, that you do like him but that you dont think this is working out. If you are only seeing him a short while he'll understand.
He doesn't do "Listening"
Bakiryu
09-18-2007, 06:01 PM
He doesn't do "Listening"
If he won't listen to you e-mail him. :p
Has Bakiryu run away?
oh, ooops, slow computer
I don't think he has an email address
Bakiryu
09-18-2007, 06:03 PM
Has Bakiryu run away?
Nope, I was just commenting on someone's blog.
I don't think he has an email address
does he have a cell phone?
cateyes2011
09-18-2007, 06:04 PM
Anza, I know how to get him to listen...you know why...
I could call him, but I don't think he would really get it. He doesn't do "no" either.
How, Rainy??? :D
cateyes2011
09-18-2007, 06:07 PM
ANZA!!!!!!! I know how to get him to listen and I know how to get him to understand NO. Remember? I had to deal with that...
Bakiryu
09-18-2007, 06:07 PM
yes i am anza'a twin sister and i have no earthly idea whats the difference between a thread and a blog so if someone would please be so kind as to explain?
Hullo. I'm jin.
A thread is for example a game or so in the main forums, a blog is a place where you post what you did today or random nonsense like mine: http://www.online-literature.com/forums/blogs/viewblog.php?userid=31495
Oh, alright. Sorry. I didn't know chatspeak wasn't allowed...but dangit I am a NOOB!!! You're going to have to put up with annoying little NOOB things like that ok?
d0 joo sp3ak L337?
Niamh
09-18-2007, 06:09 PM
damn. When face to face doesnt work, you could do it over the phone....:(
Rainy, WHAT??? make him understand NO
Bakiryu
09-18-2007, 06:11 PM
damn. When face to face doesnt work, you could do it over the phone....:(
Yeah, I broke with my last girlfriend on myspace as a last resort
cateyes2011
09-18-2007, 06:15 PM
Anza, ok... Option numero uno-act really serious around him until he calms down and starts interogating you about what is wrong, and then explain to him how you feel or just be really blunt about it randomly, and tell him and if he doesn't get it act pissed off. those both worked on him with me
you had to tell him NO twice??
cateyes2011
09-18-2007, 06:20 PM
he asked me out twice remember? and asked me to reconsider a few more times
Bakiryu
09-18-2007, 06:21 PM
We'll at least he's persistent :D
We'll at least he's persistent :D
He's irritating. And I don't want a relationship. No, I don't want him. I'm in love with somebody else. But I'm not exactly going to tell him that.
cateyes2011
09-18-2007, 06:23 PM
with this kid, persistent doesn't begin to describe it. he's like a male version of Anza. (no offense to you Anza but we already talked about that so don't get angry with me)
Bakiryu
09-18-2007, 06:23 PM
why did you go out with him in the first place, then?
I couldn't stand to tell him NO. He had been rejected so many times... and he IS my friend, I didn't want to hurt him. Anyway, the guy I'm in love with will probably never love me back.
He's out of my league... no matter how hard I try
did everybody run away?
Shalot
09-18-2007, 07:00 PM
The nicest way to do it is to go completely and totally psycho on him and then dump him angrily. you'll be that crazy biatch and then he won't miss you at all. it's easier on him that way, you see.
Mortis Anarchy
09-18-2007, 07:26 PM
Blame it on the Parentals! Thats what I did...
"Carlos, my dad really doesn't like you...he told me I wasn't allowed to date you any more...and he won't let me drive anywhere or whatever and you know how he is."
My dad and him had conflicts, so it worked.:p
He's out of my league... no matter how hard I try
The guy I was ga-ga over...yeah, I felt the same way about him, but luckily it turned out he was a poo-face. Don't ever think that way about yourself though...he is out of YOUR league.
Virgil
09-18-2007, 09:00 PM
Blame it on the Parentals! Thats what I did...
"Carlos, my dad really doesn't like you...he told me I wasn't allowed to date you any more...and he won't let me drive anywhere or whatever and you know how he is."
My dad and him had conflicts, so it worked.:p
Ha! That is a great one. Now I know why girls said that to me. :p No only kidding. I had never heard that before. Girls told me exactly why they broke up with me. I'm a jerk. :lol:
Shalot
09-18-2007, 09:04 PM
Ha! That is a great one. Now I know why girls said that to me. :p No only kidding. I had never heard that before. Girls told me exactly why they broke up with me. I'm a jerk. :lol:
that doesn't surprise :lol:
Shurtugal
09-19-2007, 03:46 PM
i never had a boyfriend. i'v been liking a boy for four years now, but i have never told him. ok, once i did tell him, but we were ten so i don't count that as anything.
SleepyWitch
09-19-2007, 04:05 PM
I couldn't stand to tell him NO. He had been rejected so many times... and he IS my friend, I didn't want to hurt him. Anyway, the guy I'm in love with will probably never love me back.
He's out of my league... no matter how hard I try
did everybody run away?
in that case, stay together and make him your slave :) just joking...
do you wanna stay friends with him after you break up? i guess the best way to break up depens on that
motherhubbard
09-19-2007, 04:07 PM
Blame it on the Parentals! Thats what I did...
"Carlos, my dad really doesn't like you...he told me I wasn't allowed to date you any more...and he won't let me drive anywhere or whatever and you know how he is."
this is what my girls do. In fact any time they don't want the blame for anything they blame me and I don't mind- It keeps them out of trouble and it's handy to keep around just in case
Bakiryu
09-20-2007, 12:04 AM
Blame it on the Parentals! Thats what I did...
I actually do this! :lol: Except that my father is a total psycho and hates all members of the male species who try and approach his PRECIOUS! (he sounds awfully like gollum sometimes!)
Once he chased my boyfriend Adrian with a machete.....:sick:
*Classic*Charm*
09-20-2007, 12:58 PM
Where on earth did your father get a machete?
I just don't bring guys home or get really heavily involved until I've known them for a while. I have three older brothers plus my dad, so anyone I bring home had better be prepared to deal with that, which can be pretty intimidating.
Bakiryu
09-20-2007, 03:10 PM
Where on earth did your father get a machete?
We used to live in Cuba, I've no idea were he got it. He used to have a bunch of bayonets and stuff :alien:
stephofthenight
09-20-2007, 07:27 PM
sometimes, you just have to be a *****, pardon my french. sorry to be blunt, but some guys are desprate and pray on soft hearted girls who are willing to give them a chance just so they dont hurt them...this is NOT a good ideal. okay so ignore him, tell him its over the next time you see him, talk about another guy non stop, talk about your girly time to him all the time, tell him that your friends, not seeing each other, that he appals you, hmm handcuff him to a bed tease him give his parents the keys, and ahve them relay the message in case he doesnt understand that its over...:) any more sugestions you would like just ask...ill be glad to help.
Mortis Anarchy
09-20-2007, 07:35 PM
Where on earth did your father get a machete?
I just don't bring guys home or get really heavily involved until I've known them for a while. I have three older brothers plus my dad, so anyone I bring home had better be prepared to deal with that, which can be pretty intimidating.
My mom has a machete...and my friends mom has like 4! Her mom is from Manila and mine is from Guadalajara.
My first boyfriend was in my room with me...the door was open and we were just looking up movie times. My brother comes home sees who is in my room, walks out and comes back in with a shotgun shell and continued on discussing the functions of a shotgun etc. it was pretty entertaining actually...but at the time, rather embarrassing.
this is what my girls do. In fact any time they don't want the blame for anything they blame me and I don't mind- It keeps them out of trouble and it's handy to keep around just in case
Yeah, this guy was bad news but I just don't like...I dunno. I felt bad...lame...but I did. He was aggressive, dominant (which I'm rather dominant as well) and very controlling...plus he told me had to go to court, which he didn't tell me til the night before (He said he may be deported...wtf?)...so I think its a pretty good way of getting rid of a guy, especially when you know your father has that image of scaring guys away.;)
I couldn't stand to tell him NO. He had been rejected so many times... and he IS my friend, I didn't want to hurt him. Anyway, the guy I'm in love with will probably never love me back.
He's out of my league... no matter how hard I try
did everybody run away?
well you can just tell him (since he is your friend) that you value his friendship way to much and that you don't want your friendship to fall apart. so that for the best of you guys friendship you should stop the bf/gf thing and stay as friends
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