Aphorism #109 Be not Censorious.

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Aphorism #109 Be not Censorious.

There are men of gloomy character who regard everything as faulty, not from any evil motive but because it is their nature to. They condemn all: these for what they have done, those for what they will do. This indicates a nature worse than cruel, vile Indeed. They accuse with such exaggeration that they make out of motes beams wherewith to force out the eyes. They are always taskmasters who could turn a paradise into a prison; if passion intervenes they drive matters to the extreme. A noble nature, on the contrary, always knows how to find an excuse for failings, if not in the intention, at least from oversight.

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[Jane Jane]

I remember a gentleman saying once that he always allowed each person in his life twelve grave mistakes against him, for he said that he himself had so many more against himself that by doing this he hoped he would not be condemned by others.
Honest criticism that is necessary and timely is a good thing I believe. The Scriptures say 'Faithful are the wounds of a friend.'
But it also says of life in general' it is a kingly thing to pass over the transgressions of another.'
It certainly makes life easier. It is one thing to look the other way at evil, to wink at injustice and such out of cowardice, but it is quite another to realize the hardness of just living in this world, the fragility of that which is called man and to forgive and forget these daily annoyances or little hurts. I know of a woman that practices this formula diligently and she has few if any enemies for she is so kind and thoughtful and accepting and forgiving that, who can find anything to grumble about with her. And when she enters a room it somehow seems brighter and the air more rarified.