Aphorism #106 Do not parade your Position.

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Aphorism #106 Do not parade your Position.

To outshine in dignity is more offensive than in personal attractions. To pose as a personage is to be hated: envy is surely enough. The more you seek esteem the less you obtain it, for it depends on the opinion of others. You cannot take it, but must earn and receive it from others. Great positions require an amount of authority sufficient to make them efficient: without it they cannot be adequately filled. Preserve therefore enough dignity to carry on the duties of the office. Do not enforce respect, but try and create it. Those who insist on the dignity of their office, show they have not deserved it, and that it is too much for them. If you wish to be valued, be valued for your talents, not for anything adventitious. Even kings prefer to be honoured for their personal qualifications rather than for their station.

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[Jane Jane]

That is so big and so true. If you look at people in your sphere even that have some sort of cult status, where people flock to to them and not because of money or such but simply because of the wisdom with which the individual governs his or her life so that their talents blaze like a comet in the night,you do yourself a great favour but studying that one and applying some of that gold leaf to your own life.
I know someone who started as a lowly dishwasher in a fancy restaurant. For years he watched and listened and learned as he did his work carefully and perfectly.
The chefs and cooks treated him like garbage and even the waitresses were harsh at the beginning. But little by little they began to take notice of the fact he never got upset like others, was calm and gentle and could handle any situation of stress that arose. Gradually one by one the waitresses and then the cooks and finally the chefs would come to him and tell him their woes and he would always encourage without interfering and say what he himself did when going through similar things.
Now a couple of decades later he gave up another job a lucrative one, to come back to this place after being asked by the Big Guy. He came to a position of honor, power, authority and the place has already seen an increase in business and production by the workers because they are so happy he is there.
That, to me , is something.