Get it off your chest!

[Niamh]

I thought this might be a good idea. Hopefully it doesnt go against forum rules.

Have something thats bugging you?

What about something thats annoyed or upset you?

Or if you just simply want to go 'AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!'

why not come here and get it off your chest! Just let it all out or simply rant till your hearts content.

[Pensive]

Why am I making silly mistakes in my creative writings? Why am I being such a freak in all English lessons? Why do I receive stunned looks if I get 16/20. Why can't I be considered another human being, making a mistake?

Why did she had to critisize me? Why did she have to make me feel embarrassed?

Why am I being so much expressive now a days? Why can't I keep my emotions within myself?

Why can't I shut my mouth up? And why do I have go on rambling about my crappy day?

And why do I have the answer of only this last question? Why can't I seem to answer other questions?

[Goodfella]

A good thread Niamh. I'll soon come up with my OOPPSS!!!!!!!!!!

[Riesa]

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggg ggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhh. :bawling:

thanks, I actually feel a little better, though it was a silent scream and imaginary tearfest. good idea for a thread, I'll most likely be back.

[cranberry]

Great Idea and good thread >>> congratulations

mmm why is it when you become kind people treat you worse and when you treat them like **** they behave?

and one other thing one of my recent foes made her self my best friend in order just to become better than i am in every thing (Like gandalf and Sawron)>>>> ??? Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarg h!!!!!!!!!

Thanks !

[dramasnot6]

Fabulous idea Niam! :D Thanks!


JDNFJHDSBFJHFDSFGBJHSKGBFSHJGBbgfjgbfjhgbhjfgbjfhg bfjhgbfjhgbjfhdgbjfhgbfjdgbfdjgbjfhgbfjdgbjhfgbfjh gbfdjhgbfdjhgbfdjhgbrifgrughusghnfdjkncm STUPID MATH TAKING UP MY DRAMA STUDY TIME!!!NIDFNJKNGFJDHGNFJHDGNF

[Domer121]

rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.......am SO SICK OF mean people!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Pensive]

Why did they have to become unfair suddenly? Wasn't I and she the one to win? But no, she had to make her favourite class win. God curse this favouritism these teachers do.

I wonder if the teacher did it for the sake of favouritism or was there something else behind it? Behind this unfairness.

I hated this Sports Day. I really did. They shouldn't have made us play if Grade 10 was to made win. :(

[Niamh]

why cant i just get a good night sleep? Does my body think i'm having a laugh when i say that i want to sleep till weel after ten am? Obviously it aint taking me seriously or why would i have woken up at 7.15am...on a saturday.... when i am not in work till 2!gurrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Niamh]

Why did they have to become unfair suddenly? Wasn't I and she the one to win? But no, she had to make her favourite class win. God curse this favouritism these teachers do.

I wonder if the teacher did it for the sake of favouritism or was there something else behind it? Behind this unfairness.

I hated this Sports Day. I really did. They shouldn't have made us play if Grade 10 was to made win. :(

My, thats very unfair pensive!

[Adudaewen]

before i start my complaint, i just want to say that i really love my job and i really do love the patients that i deal with, however having said that

WHY CAN'T PEOPLE UNDERSTAND THAT THE DOCTORS MAKE THE DAMN RULES AND I DON'T CARE THAT YOU DON'T LIKE IT, THAT'S WHY YOU'RE IN THE PSYCH WARD! OBVIOUSLY WHAT YOU WERE DOING BEFORE DIDN'T WORK SO WHY NOT JUST GIVE HIS ORDERS A DAMN TRY!!!!!!!!!!!! AND THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS ODD, JUST BAD PARENTS AND SPOILED BRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks, I really do feel better.

[dramasnot6]

Aww im sorry Pensive. Its terrible when you try really hard at something that is essentially hopeless, probably the worst kind of unfair.


*hands niam some chamomile tea for her sleep*

[Niamh]

Aww im sorry Pensive. Its terrible when you try really hard at something that is essentially hopeless, probably the worst kind of unfair.


*hands niam some chamomile tea for her sleep*

Thanks drama. you are always the thoughtful one!

[Pensive]

My, thats very unfair pensive!

Well, that's life. That's fate. I am trying to make myself believe it happens. But it hurts.

As flies to the wanton boys, "Are we to the Gods, they kill us for their sports?"

[Pensive]

why cant i just get a good night sleep? Does my body think i'm having a laugh when i say that i want to sleep till weel after ten am? Obviously it aint taking me seriously or why would i have woken up at 7.15am...on a saturday.... when i am not in work till 2!gurrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Didn't you by any chance have the simple Blackish Brown Tea? Whenever I have it, I always have sleeping problems.

Think of something wonderful, for example: You are a writer, wrote a wonderful novel and everyone is so pleased reading it. It may help. :D

[Niamh]

Normal tea is a staple in the irish diet. cant live without it. Statisticly ireland drinks more tea tham britain.
I was starting to drink hot milk for a while but it started loosing its sleepy ablity.
Oooo! just thought of something.... maybe if you all gang up on me and hit me real hard you might be able to knock me out cold.... but then again when i fell down the stairs a few years back an smashed my head a few times off wall and sill which it smashed, i didnt even knock myself out! :blush:

[vin1391]

Normal tea is a staple in the irish diet. cant live without it. Statisticly ireland drinks more tea tham britain.
I was starting to drink hot milk for a while but it started loosing its sleepy ablity.
Oooo! just thought of something.... maybe if you all gang up on me and hit me real hard you might be able to knock me out cold.... but then again when i fell down the stairs a few years back an smashed my head a few times off wall and sill which it smashed, i didnt even knock myself out! :blush:

Thats sad ...but then again you aren't the one being subjected to dreams every single time you sleep....thats what happens to me and the thing is some of those dreams came true...its reallly creepy.And these dreams are tiring me out...I feel sleepy almost all the time(except when I am at the computer).

Try taing a warm bath before bed or...listen to calming music...

[Niamh]

vin, before you go to bed at night do this exersise. it might help.
close you eyes, take deep rythemic breaths, breathing slowly in and out until your body is relaxed. now visualise in your mind that there is a door and this door if open. you are standing on the misty spiritual side of the door. Step back through the door until you can see yourself standing in you room. close the door until you are certain that you can not see the spiritside anymore. now imagime that there is a pink light around you body. this is a light of healing. push it to the floor so that you are grounded in reality. now slowly begin to relax your breathing until it is normal and open your eyes.

let me know if it works.

[Stanislaw]

printf ("My Life");

venting:

Why are engineers who use computers so dumb?

more venting:

12 hour shifts after 3 hours of sleep really suck!

and more venting:

moving sucks, its alot of work.

and some final venting:

my cd player in my car is malfunctioning, a small problem, but irritating to me. sigh.

[King of Frogs]

Grrr. I hate raincoats - and scottish weather! Yesterday it was raining, so when I went out I put all of my stuff (keys etc.) in my raincoat, next morning, my raincoat has all my stuff in it so I wear it to school and guess what - it's sunny! So whenever I go out I (not to put too fine a point on it) sweat like a pig under my raincoat and can't enjoy the sunshine!:brickwall

Whoo...that feels better.

[sealharvey]

It's hard to keep on responding to unfair, unaware, uncounscious, friends and
strangers. I am working on being brave and facing my truth outloud.
Often being animated-alive scares people. do it anyway. Give them a gift of life.

"Trying to save yourself is like pulling yourself out of quicksand by your own hair." Wilhelm Reich

[Pendragon]

I think I'll pose mine in the words of Wayne Watson, a singer of gospel music:

I can smile, and make 'em think I'm happy
Lie, and say that things are fine
Hide that empty longing that I feel
Don't ever show it
Just keep my heart concealed...
Why, are the days so very lonely
I wonder when can my heart go free?
Who will dry the tears that no one sees?
There must be someone
To share my silent dreams

Wayne Watson, Friend of a Wounded Heart

[Niamh]

I think I'll pose mine in the words of Wayne Watson, a singer of gospel music:

I can smile, and make 'em think I'm happy
Lie, and say that things are fine
Hide that empty longing that I feel
Don't ever show it
Just keep my heart concealed...
Why, are the days so very lonely
I wonder when can my heart go free?
Who will dry the tears that no one sees?
There must be someone
To share my silent dreams

Wayne Watson, Friend of a Wounded Heart

Ooooh Pendragon.... my heart weeps!:(

[Schokokeks]

STUPID MATH TAKING UP MY DRAMA STUDY TIME!!!
Oh my, Drama, you are so cute :D.
I, on the other hand, have always enjoyed studying for maths while in high-school...I'd love to do it together with you (and lots of vegan cookies ! ;) ), I'm sure it would be more fun that way ;).

I'm sorry to hear about your sleeping troubles, Niamh. I hereby volunteer to read to you the Iliad in the original Greek every evening; it's has quite a sing-song quality, and reading it aloud was my trick for hypnotising nasty little kids at baby-sitting ;) :p. It worked 100% :D.

[Niamh]

Oh my, Drama, you are so cute :D.
I, on the other hand, have always enjoyed studying for maths while in high-school...I'd love to do it together with you (and lots of vegan cookies ! ;) ), I'm sure it would be more fun that way ;).

I'm sorry to hear about your sleeping troubles, Niamh. I hereby volunteer to read to you the Iliad in the original Greek every evening; it's has quite a sing-song quality, and reading it alone was my trick for hypnotising nasty little kids at baby-sitting ;) :p. It worked 100% :D.

:as-sleep: :as-sleep: :as-sleep: :lol: (even the thought of it put me to sleep!

[Pendragon]

Weep not for me, Niamh, for I would not have your coutanence cast down or saddened. If I am anything, I am a survivor. The sailor rides out the storm without ever losing his love for the sea. I have been only wounded, and wounds may leave scars, but they heal. I am fortunate that I heal at a faster rate than most.

Many of my stories are completed, five sent to the publisher yesterday. Tis Saint Paddy's Day, and I sit in my green clothing, writing poetry and visiting the few forum threads I keep up with as I heal. In the words of Douglas McArthur: "I shall return!"

Thank you for your kindness.

Pen http://i94.photobucket.com/albums/l108/AbsalomKane/friendly.gif

[Misscaroline]

Pen, you're too sweet. Good luck with the publishers, and don't have too much fun tonight...

[Countess]

This is a great thread, btw. Rant on everyone!

You know I try hard not to complain, even though I have so many things I can complain about, like not being able to find another job, not being able to pay the rent/bills, having no medical insurance, wondering if and when I'm going to be homeless (I just foresee myself as a homeless wretch wandering the streets writing her insanity on the back of used, empty McDonalds Big-Mac wraps - the kind that are difficult to write on because they're made of wax paper)...

...but I'm not here to complain about those, or that my child flunked Social Studies last interim, or about having no friends and not having had a date / been touched in almost two years, for all of these are common enough to man...

...I'd rather ask the unique question: why do I bother entering writing contests I know I'm going to lose? Firstly, the material I submitted is religiously and politically charged; secondly, stylistically it's poetic/written above the ordinary person's reading level preference; thirdly, it's literature, not pop fiction. Fourthly, it probably really sucks but I'm too close to realize it.

I'm consoling myself with the notion that I consider Online.Literature to be comprised of the most elite thinkers, philosophers, readers and writers (which is why I'm here and have been here for so long) while the competition is being judged by everday man who is a member of the general masses, and prefers steak and potatoes to British beef brisket, especially British beef fed to members of both sexes.

And then I have the second question: why bother writing at all if one has no audience? What is the purpose of writing in a vaccum? Why don't I go to technical school and take up carpentry or something more practical, something that will earn me income, instead of stirring in the imaginary worlds of my own design and trying to unravel them before others (when there are no others?)

Why do I breathe?

Why am I, period?

Rant Off. Thanks for reading.

FHW-WOMB-MB (Future Homeless Woman Writing On McDonalds Big Mac Bags)

[sam96]

Who says you have no friends?!!
One of the "elite readers"here would be delighted to call you her friend.(and i'm sure not only me).;)

[erho]

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
if there is no furture,how can we go?

everything is trouble

[Niamh]

Weep not for me, Niamh, for I would not have your coutanence cast down or saddened. If I am anything, I am a survivor. The sailor rides out the storm without ever losing his love for the sea. I have been only wounded, and wounds may leave scars, but they heal. I am fortunate that I heal at a faster rate than most.

Many of my stories are completed, five sent to the publisher yesterday. Tis Saint Paddy's Day, and I sit in my green clothing, writing poetry and visiting the few forum threads I keep up with as I heal. In the words of Douglas McArthur: "I shall return!"

Thank you for your kindness.

Pen http://i94.photobucket.com/albums/l108/AbsalomKane/friendly.gif
Always the poet Pen:) . Happy to hear about the publishers! hope everything goes well for you and may the luck of the irish be with you on this our patron saints day!;) :D

This is a great thread, btw. Rant on everyone!

You know I try hard not to complain, even though I have so many things I can complain about, like not being able to find another job, not being able to pay the rent/bills, having no medical insurance, wondering if and when I'm going to be homeless (I just foresee myself as a homeless wretch wandering the streets writing her insanity on the back of used, empty McDonalds Big-Mac wraps - the kind that are difficult to write on because they're made of wax paper)...

...but I'm not here to complain about those, or that my child flunked Social Studies last interim, or about having no friends and not having had a date / been touched in almost two years, for all of these are common enough to man...

...I'd rather ask the unique question: why do I bother entering writing contests I know I'm going to lose? Firstly, the material I submitted is religiously and politically charged; secondly, stylistically it's poetic/written above the ordinary person's reading level preference; thirdly, it's literature, not pop fiction. Fourthly, it probably really sucks but I'm too close to realize it.

I'm consoling myself with the notion that I consider Online.Literature to be comprised of the most elite thinkers, philosophers, readers and writers (which is why I'm here and have been here for so long) while the competition is being judged by everday man who is a member of the general masses, and prefers steak and potatoes to British beef brisket, especially British beef fed to members of both sexes.

And then I have the second question: why bother writing at all if one has no audience? What is the purpose of writing in a vaccum? Why don't I go to technical school and take up carpentry or something more practical, something that will earn me income, instead of stirring in the imaginary worlds of my own design and trying to unravel them before others (when there are no others?)

Why do I breathe?

Why am I, period?

Rant Off. Thanks for reading.

FHW-WOMB-MB (Future Homeless Woman Writing On McDonalds Big Mac Bags)
I'm sure your work is really good.:) I suppose these people are probably the same type of people who think Cecilia Ahern is good and think she deserves an award.:rolleyes: but yet Mia Gallaghers debut novel Hellfire which was an excellent read is over looked! Do these people even read? oh look i'm starting to rant.

[Countess]

Nicholas Sparks is the devil (I've said this before). The man writes kitschy stuff on a third grade level and has made millions of dollars doing it. Only Lucifer could accomplish so much with so little.

I have to confess I haven't read either author you listed but the second sounds much more interesting than the first. I am really stuck forever in the 18th and 19th centuries - perhaps because I like dead people better than the living (Oh, that was the Lovecraft coming out. (-:).

Countess

Trolling the graveyards looking for inspiration in charnal headstones/sepulchres/mausoleum.

[Niamh]

Nicholas Sparks is the devil (I've said this before). The man writes kitschy stuff on a third grade level and has made millions of dollars doing it. Only Lucifer could accomplish so much with so little.

I have to confess I haven't read either author you listed but the second sounds much more interesting than the first. I am really stuck forever in the 18th and 19th centuries - perhaps because I like dead people better than the living (Oh, that was the Lovecraft coming out. (-:).

Countess

Trolling the graveyards looking for inspiration in charnal headstones/sepulchres/mausoleum.

Cecilia Aheren and Mia Gallagher are both irish authors. Cecilia is the author of, dare i say it, irish chic-lit and her books are full of cliches, while Mia Gallaghers debut novel Hellfire was about a young fifteen year old girl growing up in innercity Dublin in the 70's and 80's, stuck in a world of gangs, and drug addiction, including her own addiction and downfall. theres a little sub-story based on the hellfire club in the dublin mountains. kind of a childish idol fantasy of what went on. It was very good. Probably the best book i read in 2006 and thats saying something seeing as i read around 100 books last year!

[Schokokeks]

... while Mia Gallaghers debut novel Hellfire was about a young fifteen year old girl growing up in innercity Dublin in the 70's and 80's, stuck in a world of gangs, and drug addiction, including her own addiction and downfall ... Probably the best book i read in 2006 and thats saying something seeing as i read around 100 books last year!
I've just added it to my reading list :nod:. I'm keen to read a bit on Dublin and life there, and since you recommend it so heartily... ;).

[Pendragon]

I have to confess I haven't read either author you listed but the second sounds much more interesting than the first. I am really stuck forever in the 18th and 19th centuries - perhaps because I like dead people better than the living (Oh, that was the Lovecraft coming out. (-:).

Countess

Trolling the graveyards looking for inspiration in charnal headstones/sepulchres/mausoleum.Like Lovecraft do you, m'lady Countess? As it happens I just purchased and finished reading a new book Arkham Tales: Legends of the Haunted City edited by William Jones, published by Chaosism Fiction, a Call of Cthulhu fiction book. Very good. I also finish the first of two volumes on Kolchak the Nightstalker, the one I finished being Chronicles (29 short stories by masters of short fiction) and I have The Casebook (17 new short stories) to go! Both books are from Moonstone, which is publishing a lot of macabre stuff these days. Try it, You might like it!

Pen

http://i94.photobucket.com/albums/l108/AbsalomKane/scream.gif

[B-Mental]

Like Lovecraft do you, m'lady Countess? As it happens I just purchased and finished reading a new book Arkham Tales: Legends of the Haunted City edited by William Jones, published by Chaosism Fiction, a Call of Cthulhu fiction book. Very good. I also finish the first of two volumes on Kolchak the Nightstalker, the one I finished being Chronicles (29 short stories by masters of short fiction) and I have The Casebook (17 new short stories) to go! Both books are from Moonstone, which is publishing a lot of macabre stuff these days. Try it, You might like it!

Ahh, Kolchak....I loved those Night Stalker TV shows...I think if I were to read them, Darin McGavin's voice would be running through my head. Pendragon, you've moved me to add 2 more to my list of must reads.

[Countess]

Like Lovecraft do you, m'lady Countess? As it happens I just purchased and finished reading a new book Arkham Tales: Legends of the Haunted City edited by William Jones, published by Chaosism Fiction, a Call of Cthulhu fiction book. Very good. I also finish the first of two volumes on Kolchak the Nightstalker, the one I finished being Chronicles (29 short stories by masters of short fiction) and I have The Casebook (17 new short stories) to go! Both books are from Moonstone, which is publishing a lot of macabre stuff these days. Try it, You might like it!http://i94.photobucket.com/albums/l108/AbsalomKane/scream.gif

Ooooh, thanks for all the great recommends! Yes, I am in love with Lovecraft's writing. Do you think it's possible to fall in love with writing itself, because I have truly fallen for Wilde's wit and Lovecraft's beautiful, poetic expressionism.

I can actually experience an exhiliration while reading them.

Good luck on your publication, Pendragon, though I doubt you'll need luck when you've got talent.

C

[Countess]

PS: I loved the TV show "Forever Knight" and wish they still had transcripts from Lucian Lacroix' radio show "Nightcrawler". Oh, the philosophy he would weave in such a short period of time - gave me the same haunting feeling as Poe/Lovecraft. Bennett's voice is forever etched in my mind.
C

[Niamh]

I've just added it to my reading list :nod:. I'm keen to read a bit on Dublin and life there, and since you recommend it so heartily... ;).

Oh you should! it takes a bit to get into it as the beginning is kind of a backround story to the character Lucys family(mothers side) who have a touch of the gipst sight in them. There is some fowl language in it but it creates the feel of innercity dubliners, their attitudes and way of life. kind of a hardness to their poverty etc. but its good. would make a very good movie i think.

[Lioness_Heart]

Ok, before I start let me first apologise for the drivel that I'm about to write. In my defense, I am 16 years old, and have far too many hormones rushing around... curse oxytoxin!!!!!!!

right... There's this guy in the year above (he's just under 2 years older than me, because he's one of the oldest in his year, and I was put up a year, so...) the trouble with him being 18 is that he's a lot more experienced than me. But I've fancied him ever since I first met him, and when we were on a school science trip in America in Febuary, we got really close. But still he maintained that he was my FRIEND, nothing more. And the trouble was, I knew that he would make a really bad boyfriend because he flirts with everybody, so he'd probably not be that reliable. And he also had a problem understanding why I said that I want to wait until I'm at least engaged before I sleep with someone. So... I kind of gave up on him, and once we got home, he was acting really strangely around me, and there were all these rumours about him and my friend, so I just thought that I was better off out of it.

In the meantime, this guy in my year asked me out. I said yes, so we went out last week and it went really well, so we've arranged to go out again this Thursday. Now the first guy has decided that it's a good time to tell me that he likes me back, and that he's never felt like this about a girl before etc... so I don't know what to do. It would be really horrible of me to dump the guy I'm going out with, but then again I have really strong feelings for the first guy, even though he really annoys me sometimes. Argh!!!!!!!!!!

I have no idea what I should do!!!!

And I'm also annoyed because the school has just announced who's going to be made prefects, and I'm not, even though I've done loads for the school ever since Year 7. Three of my best friends have been made prefects, and I'm really jealous of them. I don't like being jealous of my friends, but it just seems so unfair because I actually want to give something back to the school; my friends just complain about it and skive PE to go off and smoke on the Meadows. I don't do anything like that. I just feel really rejected.

[*Classic*Charm*]

Hey Lioness. I feel your pain about the hormones. I'm 17 myself. And don't worry, we all need some drivel once in a while, and at the very least, our teenage antics will prove amusing for our senior posters (not that you guys are old, just older than us :idea: ).

For your guy situation, I was in a similar one last year. Unfortunately, my only advice kinda sucks. My suggestion would be to back away from both of them for a while. Give yourself a chance to organize your feelings a little bit without any obligations to either of them. Once you've had some time away, it might become clear which you should be with if you realize that it's been more difficult being away from one of them more than the other. Does that make sense? Really, what I mean is, you mightt come to miss one more than the other. It might mean letting one or the other down, but you're 16!! You've gotta enjoy yourself, not worry so much. I know, easier said than done, though, right? Good luck!

And about your other matter, I can't help you there because I'm experienceing the same thing. That damn green-eyed monster. All my close friends have been accepted to university. One of my best friends has been accepted to the school I most want to attend, and it kills me because she doesn't even want to go there. I hate feeling jealous of them as well, but it's hard when the rest of my life is riding on this one acceptance and they've got it and don't care about it.

And while we're getting things off our chest...I HATE CALCULUS!!!!:flare:

[hockeychick8792]

Sleep issues (insomnia), Boy Issues...
What else is new
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[Niamh]

gurrrrr!!!!! I cannot get sick again! this pain in my throat has got to be an illusion. Its not real.....:bawling:
this is not fair! why oh why is it always when i'm drawing nearer to holidays? Am i cursed in a way that i'm not allowed to enjoy time off? Must i live on in stress and never again experience relaxation! :(

[Pendragon]

Pain is the Great Equalizer,
One form or the other,
That form draped in black
With a scythe on its back
Creeps out of the ether... http://www.industreal.spb.ru/smiles/scull.gif

[Countess]

Lioness Heart, take it FWIW, but I think you'd be doing both yourself and the other guy a disservice if you ended the first relationship for the second, reason being the second guy might be playing with you (the kind of guy who likes to have control; by giving up on him and moving on you've shown he hasn't any control over you) and might leave you completely or leave you cuckolded in the end.
And btw, you're ONLY 17. Why do you have to choose? Can't you sorta date one and the other without committal or seriousness? Just make sure you don't lie to either.
Calculus does suck, and so does dyscalculia.

And being sick also sucks, but so does the monthly cycle. Damn stupid moon.

[optimisticnad]

i want to shoot all men. their indifferent morons with no opinions about anything at all! I need my girlfriends at the coffee thread....

[Lioness_Heart]

Countess and Classic, thank-you. I hope all of you guys feel better soon too!

[dramasnot6]

STUPID MR.MENEY. grrr i work sssoooo hard to get recycling bins at the school and he is just soooo mendacious and refuses last minute..and....grrr...

ahh, that feels better.

[Countess]

Dramasnot6,

Take heart: mendacious is a great word and will serve you well in sundry arguments.

(I love words.)

[Schokokeks]

he is just soooo mendacious
...and you're soooo educating me *adds mendacious to her vocab* ;).

[Domer121]

I have to get something off my chest.......On St Patricks day I did not go out and get drunk...I had to work....:)

[Niamh]

I have to get something off my chest.......On St Patricks day I did not go out and get drunk...I had to work....:)

so did i! and i'm Irish!:lol:

[*Classic*Charm*]

Me neither!! Since I'm legal and all ;)

I stayed home and played Risk. Lemme tell you, my World Domination skills are not up to par!

[Domer121]

Last time I played Risk I spread myself way too thin and was conquered in a matter of minutes...!!! Why cruel fate?!?!!!!?!?!
:)

[Serenata]

I'm not really mad about anything, but I am freaking out because I graduate in two months and I feel extremely unprepared. Nomework is piling up and the more work I do, the more I have left.

[andave_ya]

urgh. ick. yuck. blurgh. eew. udge. blurgh. blah. sigh. go back. start again.

*tsk, tsk. all this ruckus about homework? I ought to be ashamed.*

bah humbug.

[RobinHood3000]

i want to shoot all men. their indifferent morons with no opinions about anything at all! I need my girlfriends at the coffee thread.......

...

...

.........~hides~

[kathycf]

People who ignore my PMs make me feel sad. :(

[Niamh]

I am fuming. I just dont understand why some people have to be so ...... grrrr!!!!!!!! :rage:
And as for not considering peoples feelings... well.... :mad:

[kandaurov]

to every beaten-down soul commenting this thread:

there there, now now :)

[Niamh]

to every beaten-down soul commenting this thread:

there there, now now :)

:lol: :lol:
That is so sweet Kandaurov!

[Madhuri]

When some people say (in the beginning of the month) -- that they are falling short of money, do they really mean it? Or is just another way of getting some money out of me, knowing that I dont say no to friends? How can someone make a lavish plan when they know they cant afford it? Why do they plan in the first place and then back off, so that the other person is in a fix? They suddenly become so broke that they cant even afford their own bus tickets. Not that I cant buy their tickets or pay for the lavish plan, but it really surprises me sometimes. I am not sure if they are really in need or just making it up? :( I dont get money for free, its my hard earned money. Dont they realise what they are doing? :(

[kilted exile]

**Ok, just going to vent here. Mainly cos I need to get it out my head. Dont feel any need to reply, and I will apologise up front in case any profanity makes its way in.**


I hate feeling helpless.

Some of you who have been here for a while will remember me posting about my younger brother previously, I have no desire in boring the rest of you by repeating it. It has been a couple of years now since the attack took place and I thought he was over most of it (still seeing the plastic surgeon on a fairly regular basis) at any rate he seemed fine. Over the last couple of months however he has regressed and is at times breaking down into tears or scared to be out at night with only one other person.

I am his older brother and I should be able to do something to make it easier or make him feel better, yet I dont have a fragging clue how!!! There are a few things I'd like to do - such as take a sledgehammer find the ######## and smash in their faces - however dont worry you wont see me appearing on the news any time soon, I am fully aware this would make the situation a thousand times worse, but it would make me feel a little better.

There is also a possibility that I may be moving halfway acroos the country for work, something I have to do for myself. It still feels like I am deserting me when he needs me though.

[Shalot]

**Ok, just going to vent here. Mainly cos I need to get it out my head. Dont feel any need to reply, and I will apologise up front in case any profanity makes its way in.**


I hate feeling helpless.

Some of you who have been here for a while will remember me posting about my younger brother previously, I have no desire in boring the rest of you by repeating it. It has been a couple of years now since the attack took place and I thought he was over most of it (still seeing the plastic surgeon on a fairly regular basis) at any rate he seemed fine. Over the last couple of months however he has regressed and is at times breaking down into tears or scared to be out at night with only one other person.

I am his older brother and I should be able to do something to make it easier or make him feel better, yet I dont have a fragging clue how!!! There are a few things I'd like to do - such as take a sledgehammer find the ######## and smash in their faces - however dont worry you wont see me appearing on the news any time soon, I am fully aware this would make the situation a thousand times worse, but it would make me feel a little better.

There is also a possibility that I may be moving halfway acroos the country for work, something I have to do for myself. It still feels like I am deserting me when he needs me though.


Not that you have to do it, but whoever did it does deserve it. They'll get theirs.

[Niamh]

Kilt i feel sorry for you and your brother. It must be very hard for you to see him still so beaten down and truamatised by the attack. I understand why you feel guilty if you have to go away, but sooner or later we have to fight our demons and get on with our lives. I know nithing about what happened to your brother, but nobody deserves to have anything happen to them by thugs. But they will get their comuppence.

[kathycf]

I think I need a break from here to put my feelings into perspective. I noticed several comments that each by themselves would probably cause me a few minutes of annoyance. However, I noticed them all around the same time, and I have to say...I am totally offended, upset and generally PO'd. I feel like I have been slapped in the face and completely marginalized.

This is what concerns me. I must be some sort of weirdo to let this sort of thing bother me, but there it is. Apparently, I am getting too emotionally involved with this forum.

I suppose this seems all very ungracious of me. Let me say, I have met some incredibly warm, friendly and caring people here. My complaint doesn't negate that.

[Lote-Tree]

I think I need a break from here to put my feelings into perspective. I noticed several comments that each by themselves would probably cause me a few minutes of annoyance. However, I noticed them all around the same time, and I have to say...I am totally offended, upset and generally PO'd. I feel like I have been slapped in the face and completely marginalized.

This is what concerns me. I must be some sort of weirdo to let this sort of thing bother me, but there it is. Apparently, I am getting too emotionally involved with this forum.

I suppose this seems all very ungracious of me. Let me say, I have met some incredibly warm, friendly and caring people here. My complaint doesn't negate that.

I was joking about the dancing bananas Kath :-)
Please forgive me :-)

[Madhuri]

I think I need a break from here to put my feelings into perspective. I noticed several comments that each by themselves would probably cause me a few minutes of annoyance. However, I noticed them all around the same time, and I have to say...I am totally offended, upset and generally PO'd. I feel like I have been slapped in the face and completely marginalized.

This is what concerns me. I must be some sort of weirdo to let this sort of thing bother me, but there it is. Apparently, I am getting too emotionally involved with this forum.

I suppose this seems all very ungracious of me. Let me say, I have met some incredibly warm, friendly and caring people here. My complaint doesn't negate that.

I am sorry that you are feeling this way, Kathy. You can never know if it was intentional or not until you ask them. If there are issues then it is best if they get cleared up, I am sure you'll feel better after that. Why don't you PM that person and clarify? (just a suggestion :) )

Hope you feel better soon. :)

I will check in my Inbox too :nod:

[Niamh]

Hey Kathy! Dont let things here get to you! If i had let every annoyance i've come across on this forum get to me i would have been long gone from here!:) Next time you come across something that annoys you just tell yourself that the person is being a heartless idiot and that their words aren't going to affect you!
We'd all miss you if you took a break!

[kathycf]

I was joking about the dancing bananas Kath :-)
Please forgive me :-)
Oh, your joke was funny and not in anyway a "face slap". Please don't worry about it.

Maddie, I wish I could be mature enough to just say something to the person(s) but I really can't. :(

[Niamh]

Oh, your joke was funny and not in anyway a "face slap". Please don't worry about it.

Maddie, I wish I could be mature enough to just say something to the person(s) but I really can't. :(

Maybe to even just one person? It might make you feel a bit better?

[kathycf]

I don't know. I feel very silly now. If I say something I am just going to look even stupider. Thanks for your input, but I think I just need a bit of time.

[Madhuri]

Maybe to even just one person? It might make you feel a bit better?

I agree. Why do you want to keep it to yourself and feel bad? It is possible that the comment was not directed to you. Just ask the person. :)

EDIT -- Take your time. :)

[Niamh]

I agree. Why do you want to keep it to yourself and feel bad? It is possible that the comment was not directed to you. Just ask the person. :)

EDIT -- Take your time. :)

Or that person was in a bad mood and didnt mean to be rude to you.

[Lote-Tree]

Oh, your joke was funny and not in anyway a "face slap". Please don't worry about it.


No probs - I was trying to be amusing :-)



Maddie, I wish I could be mature enough to just say something to the person(s) but I really can't. :(

I think whatever anyone writes on the forum should not be taken seriously. Because we are all anonymous here. No one really knows us. It would be improper to be angry with an anonymous person that we know nothing about.

[kathycf]

I think whatever anyone writes on the forum should not be taken seriously. Because we are all anonymous here. No one really knows us. It would be improper to be angry with an anonymous person that we know nothing about.
Well, I respect your opinion, but I disagree. The way I feel about the forum is not a bunch of anonymous strangers, but more a sense of community. I have been a member here for a year and many others have been members for much longer than that. While we may not know each other in the sense that I know a person that I meet at school or work, I at least know some of the people a little bit. The way people communicate with each other, even in written form does reveal something of their personality.

I read a comment that seemed to me to have dismissed my contributions to the community and I was offended by that. Sure, whatever I contributed is no big deal, but I did take the time and care to at least try to be helpful.

[kiz_paws]

**Ok, just going to vent here. Mainly cos I need to get it out my head. Dont feel any need to reply, and I will apologise up front in case any profanity makes its way in.**


I hate feeling helpless.

Some of you who have been here for a while will remember me posting about my younger brother previously, I have no desire in boring the rest of you by repeating it. It has been a couple of years now since the attack took place and I thought he was over most of it (still seeing the plastic surgeon on a fairly regular basis) at any rate he seemed fine. Over the last couple of months however he has regressed and is at times breaking down into tears or scared to be out at night with only one other person.

I am his older brother and I should be able to do something to make it easier or make him feel better, yet I dont have a fragging clue how!!! There are a few things I'd like to do - such as take a sledgehammer find the ######## and smash in their faces - however dont worry you wont see me appearing on the news any time soon, I am fully aware this would make the situation a thousand times worse, but it would make me feel a little better.

There is also a possibility that I may be moving halfway acroos the country for work, something I have to do for myself. It still feels like I am deserting me when he needs me though.

Hey Kilted, I am sorry to read of your brother. As the others have said, it is difficult to be happy about a move for the better for yourself while your brother is still going through tough times. He is a lucky guy to have a brother so caring. You can still be supportive of him, despite the miles. He just needs to give himself a chance and all the moral support that you are already giving him. Well, best of luck for both of you, don't feel blue.... you are not deserting him, your heart is tied to his, from what I can tell, and that is not desertion. You will only be a phone call/Email away, and he could visit you, too! :)

[Lote-Tree]

While we may not know each other in the sense that I know a person that I meet at school or work, I at least know some of the people a little bit. The way people communicate with each other, even in written form does reveal something of their personality.


Good point.

But the sense of anoynimity gives one the ability to invent oneself a personality that is different from the real one?...and we can't be sure which is which?...they could be Trolls, WUMs etc...just a thought...



I read a comment that seemed to me to have dismissed my contributions to the community and I was offended by that. Sure, whatever I contributed is no big deal, but I did take the time and care to at least try to be helpful.

I understand.

[Niamh]

Good point.

But the sense of anoynimity gives one the ability to invent oneself a personality that is different from the real one?...and we can't be sure which is which?...they could be Trolls, WUMs etc...just a thought...



I understand.

No Lote... I think that even if one tried to invent a persona here, they'd dump it after a while after they see how much of a comunity is here. They too would want to be a part of it. (unless you have an alter ego of a fairy!:p Which is just for fun!)

For me and i'm sure Kathy is feels the same, i feel more like myself here, and that i can let myself go here with out the fear of being mocked and teased! Trust me i wouldnt openly admit i write poetry to most of the people i know. Here you can tell the words and they'd listen!:)

[Lote-Tree]

No Lote... I think that even if one tried to invent a persona here, they'd dump it after a while after they see how much of a comunity is here.


You don't think budding Thespians may try their skills here? - this is after all Literature forum - where you discuss literary Characters - and characters are very important arn't they? - and if they could fool anyone here - they are indeed excellent actors. Perhaps even Web-robot and Artificial Intelligence programmers may ply their brilliance here? :-) - but I am just teasing you... I understand what you say. The sense of community and all that. What I was trying to say is that there are more important thing in life than to be annoyed by what somone writes on a forum...perhaps I say this because I don't get annoyed that easily. But it was not like this of course. One learns to control one's emotion until it becomes subservient to oneself rather than it controlling you...



They too would want to be a part of it. (unless you have an alter ego of a fairy!:p Which is just for fun!)


Ego is indeed a problem - but Ego of Fairies - hum...I don't know...perhaps a Sith Lord? :-)



For me and i'm sure Kathy is feels the same, i feel more like myself here, and that i can let myself go here with out the fear of being mocked and teased!


I agree that respect is important. And if one was maliciously mocking and teasing - it would break the forum rules or something.

But little witty amusing teasing Niamh -would that be tolerable? :-)



Trust me i wouldnt openly admit i write poetry to most of the people i know. Here you can tell the words and they'd listen!:)

Publish and be damned as the saying goes...we should be little prepared for that Damnation Niamh... :-)

Perhaps I should too publish and be damned :-)

Regards,
Lote.

[Niamh]

What I was trying to say is that there are more important thing in life than to be annoyed by what somone writes on a forum...


A but thats the thing...this forum has a way of beconing part of your life so something someone writes can annoy you. Heck its happened to me a few times! Athough if i dont agree with something i'll say it... which means i have potentally hurt a few peoples feelings.

[Niamh]

the reason why i started this thread is so that we can get those annoyances off our chests, whether its forum related or personal related. Or if you feel guilty because you feel like you have hurt someones feelings in a thread you can appologise here.:)

[kathycf]

. Perhaps even Web-robot and Artificial Intelligence programmers may ply their brilliance here? :-) - but I am just teasing you... I understand what you say.
Have you ever seen posts by a web bot? At another forum I belong to such devises are employed to post spam and the way they operate is to put random words and phrases together in order to "fool" readers into thinking their post is somehow legitimate. Then they usually embed links to a pornograhic website as part of this "legitimate" post. So it ends up looking kind of like this:

Lucky dishes, one way street soap denim. Fiddle tunafish poetry whooshing? www.>>>>>>>>>.com

Would that be an "alter ego" I would run across here?

The sense of community and all that. What I was trying to say is that there are more important thing in life than to be annoyed by what somone writes on a forum...perhaps I say this because I don't get annoyed that easily. But it was not like this of course. One learns to control one's emotion until it becomes subservient to oneself rather than it controlling you...

While this statement may be well meaning in intent it comes across extraordinarily patronizing. Maybe I DON'T have more important things in life to get upset about...maybe I used to consider spending time here to be an important part of my life because I don't have a life? Maybe I am incredibly ill, thusly stuck at home most of the time and coming here used to mean quite a lot to me?

[Lote-Tree]

Have you ever seen posts by a web bot? At another forum I belong to such devises are employed to post spam and the way they operate is to put random words and phrases together in order to "fool" readers into thinking their post is somehow legitimate. Then they usually embed links to a pornograhic website as part of this "legitimate" post. So it ends up looking kind of like this:

Lucky dishes, one way street soap denim. Fiddle tunafish poetry whooshing? www.>>>>>>>>>.com


I was only teasing about the web-robot :-)



While this statement may be well meaning in intent it comes across extraordinarily patronizing.


It is not. It is an alternate view-point. We should try not to be led by our emotions - we should learn to control it :-)



Maybe I DON'T have more important things in life to get upset about...


I see, then perhaps you right to be annoyed here.



maybe I used to consider spending time here to be an important part of my life because I don't have a life?


I find it hard to believe a forum can take over someone's life. Then perhaps even lesser thing have taken over people's life - like slug breeding or something :-)

Kath I realise now how seriously you take this forum. So take my words back.



Maybe I am incredibly ill, thusly stuck at home most of the time and coming here used to mean quite a lot to me?

This is a good point you make.

Go in peace Kath,
Regards,
Lote

[kathycf]

It would be improper to be angry with an anonymous person that we know nothing about.

One learns to control one's emotion until it becomes subservient to oneself rather than it controlling you...
Well, perhaps I am looking at these remarks out of context, but I expressed that I was upset. You come along and tell me I am "improper" to feel that way and that my emotions are out of control. By saying "One learns to control...excetera" well, if there was another meaning you meant with that besides implying that I am emotionally out of control, I would be glad to read it. I am quite sorry I even expressed that I was upset to begin with. Now I am in the position (albeit self imposed) to have to defend my right to be upset in the first place.

I think it is easy to sometimes misunderstand nuances of a post, so I apologize if I am misunderstanding here. I tend to react rather defensively to people telling me "oh get over it, your feelings are just wrong". I know you are being far too courteous to simply say "get over it" and I appreciate that, but I would like to say that is how it felt to me. On reflection, I am quite possibly wrong about that...I am often unbelievably wrong about a great deal of things, and I am for better or worse an emotional person.

I find it hard to believe a forum can take over someone's life. Then perhaps even lesser thing have taken over people's life - like slug breeding or something
I did not state the forum took over my life. I said it was an important part of my life. There is a difference. A "part is not a "whole".
I can't speak for slugbreeders...unless I am mistaken and slugs communicate in some sort of meaningful way comparing forum use and slugbreeding is somewhat of a long stretch. I get that you are making the reference joking with the smiley face, but the fact remains that just because you don't think of something as important doesn't mean that it isn't important to somebody else.

Kath I realise now how seriously you take this forum. So take my words back.
I do understand that I take it too seriously. If you remember, I initially expressed a concern that I was getting too emotionally involved with this forum. Since it is quite difficult for me to maintain social contact with people otherwise, it creates a bit of a dilemna for me.

Go in peace Kath,
Regards,
Lote
Thank you. The same to you. :) I understand you are trying to be helpful and I appreciate that, just as much as I appreciated the comments from Niamh and Madhuri. No hard feelings, I hope.

[byquist]

Okay, I've been reading for years that the top 1% or 10% are making oodles of money and the lower 40% (definitely me) gain about .005% upward income annually. Instead of the rich folks forming foundations, sending millions and millions here and there, and bragging about it on t.v., why don't they raise the base pay of their standard line workers? "I'm mad as hell and I'm not going to take it any more."

[Niamh]

can i just make a note for anyone posting on this thread. Choose your words carefully when replying as punctuation and grammer can have the same effect as body language. We are all human and have feelings.

[Bakiryu]

oK, I admit I'm nosy but i'm bored anyways, this is a thread for Ranting!!! Say whatever you want, when you want it, for example how was your day or who do hate or stuff! Go on be creative!!! And more importanlty Rant!



Luv,


Jin

[apple jiang]

I want the crown of the English Queen as my birthday present~~~~~~

[Bakiryu]

oooh sparkly! I want a million books AND a camera!!!!

[papayahed]

How hard is it to clean a washer and dryer. I've had to request the apartment complex to clean the W&D three times already!!!! What the heck the cleaning person has eyes you can't tell me they think they did a good job???

[Niamh]

Rant page.

http://www.online-literature.com/forums/showthread.php?p=341528#post341528

[Niamh]

Hey! what happened to the Get it off your chest thread title!

[kathycf]

oK, I admit I'm nosy but i'm bored anyways, this is a thread for Ranting!!! Say whatever you want, when you want it, for example how was your day or who do hate or stuff! Go on be creative!!! And more importanlty Rant!



Luv,


Jin


Hey! what happened to the Get it off your chest thread title!

Baki started a thread called "Banana Rain" for ranting. Looks like her thread and the rant thread you started were merged and somehow the title got changed.

[dramasnot6]

SO MUCH WORK!! only just out of exams and i am piled!!!!!
I can never seem to do well enough...why won't everyone just let me be?!

Sorry..needed a couple lines...:p

[Niamh]

i'm pissed off! I'm once again sick! I've and upper respiratory infection and blisters on my throat and when i rang work, they practically didnt believe me! I've only missed two days of work since christmas and yet they practically didn't believe me! even when i said i was certified! I mean what the hell!!!!!!?????:flare:

[kandaurov]

Alone, very alone, and helplessly lethargic. Oh well.

PS: Get well soon, Niamh!

[Niamh]

thanks Kand!

[dramasnot6]

Feel better Niamh! Take all the time you need, your health is more important than anything else.

[Pensive]

Yes, Niamh, don't prefer job over your health! Health is very important.

[Themis]

I must say I am starting to think that in a group of 20 at least 15 are complete fools! Why is it, that some people have to question everything? Any day now, I'm sure, we're gonna start discussing whether the Earth isn't rather shaped like a rhombus! :flare:

[Shalot]

i'm pissed off! I'm once again sick! I've and upper respiratory infection and blisters on my throat and when i rang work, they practically didnt believe me! I've only missed two days of work since christmas and yet they practically didn't believe me! even when i said i was certified! I mean what the hell!!!!!!?????:flare:

I can relate. I called in once, obviously sick. I could barely speak --- I had some throat issue and the manager was a complete *** (this was a job or two ago). I mean, should I have come in and dealt with the public and spread my germs all over town? Apparently. Not only that, customers don't want you to help them when you're so sick (sorry, but I get disgusted when someone coughs on me because I know that I will probably catch it). And even if you can't stay out for the duration of your illness, you at least need to stay home and rest for a day or two!!! You deserve a better job.

[Niamh]

I can relate. I called in once, obviously sick. I could barely speak --- I had some throat issue and the manager was a complete *** (this was a job or two ago). I mean, should I have come in and dealt with the public and spread my germs all over town? Apparently. Not only that, customers don't want you to help them when you're so sick (sorry, but I get disgusted when someone coughs on me because I know that I will probably catch it). And even if you can't stay out for the duration of your illness, you at least need to stay home and rest for a day or two!!! You deserve a better job.

Exactly! I cant go in to work because its a virus! Would they prefare it if i got half the staff sick and absent instead?

[kiobe]

I'm really pretty calm these days, but thanks for the offer. I have found that behind every a-hole are twelve great people, ya just can't let the a-holes suck you into thier world. Just go around.:D

[Nossa]

I'm worn out...I'm having my exams..and time just flies and I can't seem to finish anything on schedule!!! Grrrr....! And it's WAY too hot these days in here...just what I need!!!

[kathycf]

Alone, very alone, and helplessly lethargic. Oh well.

Hey kandaurov, you take it easy. You are a cool guy and I like reading your posts. I don't know your circumstances, so won't presume to know how you feel, but just so you know...somebody out in the world thinks of you...and when you have Niamh stalking you, how can you say you are alone? :p Ok, the last part was a joke, but I was being sincere before. :)


Exactly! I cant go in to work because its a virus! Would they prefare it if i got half the staff sick and absent instead?
Employers are buttheads a lot of the time. I have had similiar experiences like what you and Shalot describe. I had pneumonia and worked anyway and collapsed because of it. So not worth it. I ended up being absent much more than if they had just given me three or four days off to begin with.

Nossa and drama, isn't school almost over for the summer? Think how nice it will be when that happens.

[Madhuri]

I was feeling guilty. I am new in taking interviews, and I feel bad when I have to reject a candidate. This is the second time I have to say no. It's about someone's career and what if I took a wrong decision? I don't want to do that.

This particilar candidate has been teaching computers in a school, but when I asked him about testing, very basic questions, he was so lost, none of his concepts were clear. He has been studying books and reference material from net, I don't know what he studied. Besides, his confidence was very low, and I assume that a teacher has experience in public speaking, as in, dealing with students, talking to an audience, he should atleast be able to talk with confidence.

Maybe next time when I take an interview I won't feel so bad, it's new for me too.

[Scheherazade]

This particilar candidate has been teaching computers in a school, but when I asked him about testing, very basic questions, he was so lost, none of his concepts were clear. He has been studying books and reference material from net, I don't know what he studied. Besides, his confidence was very low, and I assume that a teacher has experience in public speaking, as in, dealing with students, talking to an audience, he should atleast be able to talk with confidence.Those who can, do. Those who cannot, teach! :D :D :D

[Niamh]

...somebody out in the world thinks of you...and when you have Niamh stalking you, how can you say you are alone? :p Ok, the last part was a joke, but I was being sincere before. :)



Hey! last time i checked sneakily slipping coffee and scones out of the coffee thread door to a hungry man wandering the general chat coradoor in a wig didnt constitute as stalking!:lol:

(PS Kathy: better watch your back in the PAM thread missy!:goof: )


Maddie...responsiblity can be very difficult sometimes. But you'll get use to it.

[Pensive]

I was feeling guilty. I am new in taking interviews, and I feel bad when I have to reject a candidate. This is the second time I have to say no. It's about someone's career and what if I took a wrong decision? I don't want to do that.

This particilar candidate has been teaching computers in a school, but when I asked him about testing, very basic questions, he was so lost, none of his concepts were clear. He has been studying books and reference material from net, I don't know what he studied. Besides, his confidence was very low, and I assume that a teacher has experience in public speaking, as in, dealing with students, talking to an audience, he should atleast be able to talk with confidence.

Maybe next time when I take an interview I won't feel so bad, it's new for me too.

But it's your job, you are being true to your job. Hey, don't feel guilty!

[kathycf]

I was feeling guilty. I am new in taking interviews, and I feel bad when I have to reject a candidate. This is the second time I have to say no. It's about someone's career and what if I took a wrong decision? I don't want to do that.

I think under the circumstances I would feel guilty too, but you are doing your job...which I think entails doing your best for your company. You considered the applicant's qualifications and while you are kind, you had to be honest also, and he just didn't seem to meet the specifications for a position in your company. That's business. What if you had hired him and he totally crashed and burned? That would have been far worse and more damaging to his career (and maybe yours for making a bad decision.)


Hey! last time i checked sneakily slipping coffee and scones out of the coffee thread door to a hungry man wandering the general chat coradoor in a wig didnt constitute as stalking!:lol:
Yea, yea...sure sure. There are none so blind as those who will not see [their stalkeriness]:p :lol:
(is stalkeriness even a word?--stalker like qualities? Bah, you know I am just teasing you anyway, Niamh. Being silly today)



(PS Kathy: better watch your back in the PAM thread missy!:goof: )
Oh, I'm so scared! :rolleyes: Bring....it...ON! :D :lol: :p

[Niamh]

Yea, yea...sure sure. There are none so blind as those who will not see [their stalkeriness]:p :lol:
(is stalkeriness even a word?--stalker like qualities? Bah, you know I am just teasing you anyway, Niamh. Being silly today)
ye better be!:p ;) :lol: (i'm also feeling silly today! think its in the air! Or a combination of antibiotics and fruit juice!:lol: )



Oh, I'm so scared! :rolleyes: Bring....it...ON! :D :lol: :p
OH ITS ON!:lol:

[Madhuri]

Thanks guys :D I was warned by one of my colleagues that if you send such a candidate for the next round, where my boss will be taking the interview and she finds out that the candidate was to be sent back in the first instance then I will have to listen. So, I just updated my boss on this person's performance (I told her that he hasn't done well) and she said not to worry she will find out in five minutes where the person stands. I was so relieved (sp?) and saved from a sound thrashing that I might have recieved from her on taking a wrong decision.

From next time onwards, I will decide there and then (instead of thinking, what if? and this and that), I will not be a softie...:p

[Lote-Tree]

Those who can, do. Those who cannot, teach! :D :D :D

And those who can't do anything work for the government :-)

[Themis]

Half an hour spent in a hospital and now I'm ill! That is so unfair. And if it wasn't someone coughing in my face at the hospital, it's equally unfair to fall ill because my trousers were a tiny bit wet after trudging through the rain!

[Niamh]

My twin sister is off to Austrailia tomorrow for three months. What i want to get off my chest is this....
I'm kind of glad shes going. And i feel really bad for feeling this. All i keep thinking is Peace and quiet. No arguements and watching her trying to act like a southside yuppy snob who is getting more and more self involved.(southside of dublin)
Is this bad of me?

[Lote-Tree]

My twin sister is off to Austrailia tomorrow for three months. What i want to get off my chest is this....
I'm kind of glad shes going. And i feel really bad for feeling this. All i keep thinking is Peace and quiet. No arguements and watching her trying to act like a southside yuppy snob who is getting more and more self involved.(southside of dublin)
Is this bad of me?

Twin Sister Ha? So it must be like arguing with yourself all the time :-)

As for "is this bad of me"?

That's just terrible. Makes want to have a twin sister of my own :-)

Just kiddin :-)

Of course not!

Sibling aggro is part of growing up in a family :-)

[Pensive]

Why does a man have to be hard on his daughters because he could not have sons? They didn't ask to be born! How can a father regard his so nice and wonderful daughters as if he they don't exist? How can he call them ill-mannered and obstinate when they are constantly bearing his silly commands? They hardly go out to their friends' places. How can he be angry at them if they ask him to take them out for dinner/something even when he can afford it? How can he kill the happiness inside them with his harsh words on their result day when they have showed him such an excellent result?

How can a person belief in Heaven after such a treatment of his daughters? What kind of believer is he? Where is religion then which instructs him not to hurt others???

Feminists do have a point!

[Niamh]

Persive thats though. But i know how that feels. I'm trying to figure out why my Dad is hardly saying anything to me. But i think some dads are just like that. upsetting.

[Pensive]

Persive thats though. But i know how that feels. I'm trying to figure out why my Dad is hardly saying anything to me. But i think some dads are just like that. upsetting.

Yes, even if that does not happen to us but someone we love, it hurts.

[kathycf]

How can a person belief in Heaven after such a treatment of his daughters? What kind of believer is he? Where is religion then which instructs him not to hurt others???

Feminists do have a point!
There are cultures that value having sons over daughters, and it is wrong. But such attitudes are often very deeply ingrained in a person, and are very much a part of them. That doesn't excuse it, but maybe it helps to understand it.

All other points aside, children are a beautiful gift and should be cherished regardless if boys or girls. I feel sorry for the person you are referring to Pensy. He is missing out on a joy in life...the joy of having children and family. I hope his daughters grow up and find peace within themselves and know they are worthy people. That is a sad story.

[Pensive]

There are cultures that value having sons over daughters, and it is wrong. But such attitudes are often very deeply ingrained in a person, and are very much a part of them. That doesn't excuse it, but maybe it helps to understand it.

All other points aside, children are a beautiful gift and should be cherished regardless if boys or girls. I feel sorry for the person you are referring to Pensy. He is missing out on a joy in life...the joy of having children and family. I hope his daughters grow up and find peace within themselves and know they are worthy people. That is a sad story.

Though I am quite sure he loves his daughters as well, but at such times it seems as if he represses this love...

I hope so too! His daughters, the friends I love, would have a even more joyful life. They even try to look contented now, but I hope it would be better.

[kathycf]

Though I am quite sure he loves his daughters as well, but at such times it seems as if he represses this love...


That is what I meant...I didn't mean to imply he didn't love them. It is wonderful your friends have you in their life...a good friend is even more important when someone has an unhappy home life.

As for myself, I am in a horrible mood! :flare: :( :( :(

[kiz_paws]

I am VERY MAD because they have a flimsy fence constructed around the duck pond at our city park. And, today, whilst bike riding around in said park, these little bratty kids had hopped over the fence and were wading in the water, trying to scare the dickens out of a Canada Goose family (mom, dad, and EIGHT fuzzy babies). I was SOOOOOO mad that I ran over there and chased them out, claiming that I was the police..... :flare: :flare:

Of course the poor goose family was deeply ruffled ... the mom is probably still hissing up a storm...

Why can't they make fences that KEEP brats out.....!!! :flare:

[Niamh]

no matter what, they'll always find a way to ryle up the goose and her family.

[kiz_paws]

I still use an old-fashioned camera (non-digital, lol) -- but my photos turn out rather nicely, I must say. I always develop them with a copy onto a disc for the computer. So, when I get my pix back from development, I plan to post a really good one of the goose family. In the meantime, I better rent a police outfit....??:lol:

[Niamh]

I still use an old-fashioned camera (non-digital, lol) -- but my photos turn out rather nicely, I must say. I always develop them with a copy onto a disc for the computer. So, when I get my pix back from development, I plan to post a really good one of the goose family. In the meantime, I better rent a police outfit....??:lol:

:lol: Yeah maybe you should!

[BibliophileTRJ]

Why can't they make fences that KEEP brats out.....!!! :flare:

Instead of making better fences; they should make better parents. THAT would keep the brats at bay!

[kiz_paws]

Well said, Biblio!

I did indeed wonder where the parents were, and noting the lack, decided to be the fake cop ... I think I scared them out of their wits, but when I see helpless wildlife and brats, well, I tend to lose my normal state of peacefulness and tranquility...

[BibliophileTRJ]

Good for you, Kiz. A little "Impersonating an Officer" can be overlooked when one is standing up for those who can't stand up for themselves.

Glad there are people like you around that will DO something rather than just sitting there thinking "Tsk, tsk" like all of the others in the park today.

[Niamh]

Well said, Biblio!

I did indeed wonder where the parents were, and noting the lack, decided to be the fake cop ... I think I scared them out of their wits, but when I see helpless wildlife and brats, well, I tend to lose my normal state of peacefulness and tranquility...

i get like that when i see brats abusing trees. It wreaks my head!

[PrinceMyshkin]

As flies to the wanton boys, "Are we to the Gods, they kill us for their sports?"

For a graphic version of that quote, see the opening of "The Wages of Fear" (Les Salaires de la Peur) by Georges-Henri Clouzot

[applepie]

Instead of making better fences; they should make better parents. THAT would keep the brats at bay!

I was just getting ready to post the same thing. It is a shame how many people just let their children run wild. I see it a ton up here where people just let their young children 4 or 5 out to do whatever they want for hours at a time.

[Madhuri]

I feel so burdened. :( I have been given three project to work on, all production (not management), and I know what's my state. I don't know what my boss thinks of me, as if I am some machine, give her as many projects as possible and see when she breaks down. So far I have been able to somehow do my work, but, still.....Why can't they hire more people? I didn't feel like coming to work today, I feel listless....

[toni]

Wahhh!!! :bawling: i have to go home now to babysit my siblings! Goodbye, friends!

[Pensive]

My mother's sister is ill. :( I hope she gets better.

[kiz_paws]

I see it a ton up here where people just let their young children 4 or 5 out to do whatever they want for hours at a time.
Be afraid
Be VERY afraid! :alien:

[Pensive, I hope that your auntie gets better soon! ]

[Niamh]

yes, i hope you aunt get better soon also!

[Pensive]

Thank you. I received the news she has got better now. Would go to visit her tomorrow.

[Niamh]

thats good to hear Pensive.

[kiz_paws]

You know, when it rains it pours. Now my brakes on the car have decided to go crazy. They work (somewhat?!?) but it is a grinding metal upon metal sound. My hubby forbade me to use the car till it can be looked at.... and where is he?

GOLFING would you know... :flare:

[kilted exile]

Dont worry, sounds like you just need new brake pads. Not expensive & if you have the tools (and of course have some idea what you're doing) you can install them yourself.

[Mortis Anarchy]

Okay, this has been on my chest for at least a year. I can't really talk about it with my friends, cause it is about them. Or two of them at least. My best friend is ruining her life. She is dating this guy who played her and bunch of other girls at the same time. Bad sign right! Well, he got kicked out of basic training because of stress related asthma(:rolleyes: Well, now he is living with her and her family. Oh, by the way, he is almost twenty and she is seventeen. He has had enough money to get himself into his own apt. and to support himself, but instead he decides to blow his mulah on stupid stuff. AAAAAARGGGGGGGH!:flare: AND he isn't even going to school, or trying to. She is smart and can do so much but she is throwing it away because of this guy who is draining her family's assets. He doesn't pay rent or help out around the house. Her mom even does his own laundry!

Wow, I feel a bit better now!::p

[kiz_paws]

OMG what a jerk. I knew of a situation like that. Hopefully your friend will smarten up soon (or at the very least, the folks that he is living off of...). No wonder you are upset!

[Mortis Anarchy]

The worst part is, that I feel that I could do something, but everytime I try everyone ignores me. Then I feel like I'm not being a true friend. He has changed her so much. We are not as close as we used to be. It makes me really sad. I'm glad someone listens!! Thanks.

[applepie]

Be afraid
Be VERY afraid! :alien:

[Pensive, I hope that your auntie gets better soon! ]

Tell me about it. Those same kids are the ones who thought it was funny to tell my son he was a "little bastard". I don't think the kid knew what it meant, but really where were his parents? It is way to common up here, and I've found if I have my kids out others just come out from everywhere. I think a lot of parents see one adult out there and just let their kids out. I had one little boy who came out every day I was out begging me to just play with him like I do Garrick or to push him on the swing. This went on for over a year until I moved and I never once saw his mother or father. It makes me sad more than anything.

[applepie]

The worst part is, that I feel that I could do something, but everytime I try everyone ignores me. Then I feel like I'm not being a true friend. He has changed her so much. We are not as close as we used to be. It makes me really sad. I'm glad someone listens!! Thanks.

You are being a true friend. It is never easy to watch someone you care about ruin their lives. The bad part is that if you don't want to alienate her further there isn't too much you can do. My advice is just be there to help pick up the parts when everything falls apart. I wish you the best of luck since I had to do this recently for a friend myself. It isn't easy, but after the fact we are still good friends. Closer in some ways because we had so much to rebuild of our own friendship.

[kiz_paws]

Tell me about it. Those same kids are the ones who thought it was funny to tell my son he was a "little bastard". I don't think the kid knew what it meant, but really where were his parents? It is way to common up here, and I've found if I have my kids out others just come out from everywhere. I think a lot of parents see one adult out there and just let their kids out. I had one little boy who came out every day I was out begging me to just play with him like I do Garrick or to push him on the swing. This went on for over a year until I moved and I never once saw his mother or father. It makes me sad more than anything.

That is truly sad, as you say. Perhaps, Meg, your time spent with the other children, how ever small amount of time it may be, may be something that the child will forever remember. And that, in itself, is awesome. So thanks be to people like you who would give of themselves in this way. :)

[Mortis Anarchy]

Thank you MKhockenberry. Makes me feel much better and hopefully she will learn and discover that he is a piece of trash. I'll hang in there as long as she will let me and will be there for her whenever she needs me.

[Mortis Anarchy]

I still have very fond memories of my dad and mom playing with me and my brother! This seems harsh and maybe I don't understand since I don't have a my own family, but it seems that some people just shouldn't have kids. I guess that is why we have so much abuse in societies. Not only physical but emotional and verbal as well.

[applepie]

Thank you MKhockenberry. Makes me feel much better and hopefully she will learn and discover that he is a piece of trash. I'll hang in there as long as she will let me and will be there for her whenever she needs me.

She will figure it out eventually and likely be quite brokenhearted for a while. She is lucky to have a friend who cares so much. If you ever just need to vent about it you can always send me a PM and I'll listen. I know how rough it is to support someone when you think they are making all the wrong choices but to tell them such means you will just be ignored or ruin a friendship.

[applepie]

I still have very fond memories of my dad and mom playing with me and my brother! This seems harsh and maybe I don't understand since I don't have a my own family, but it seems that some people just shouldn't have kids. I guess that is why we have so much abuse in societies. Not only physical but emotional and verbal as well.

That isn't harsh. I think the same thing myself. If you are not willing to give your children the time and care they need then don't have them. It isn't fair to the children to get treated that way when they have done nothing to deserve it. My husband and I spend as much time with both our kids as possible. Just tonight, Tom was teaching our son to ride his bike while I spent some alone time with our daughter. Other nights we will sit and play Candy Land or watch a movie as a family. Well not my girl, she's too young at only 9 months but she gets her time too. I really cherish these moments and I can't understand how so many people don't seem to.

[Mortis Anarchy]

I remember when my dad taught me to ride my bike! I miss those moments. My dad is an airline pilot and isn't home very much and I'm glad I had those moments. I still do, but there is something about being a little kid and thinking your dad is the greatest and that he thinks your the mose special thing in the world! I guess its the whole childish innocence!

[the silent x]

has anyone ever had a day when they go through contentedness to anger for no reason, then to sadness for no reason, then to haooiness with no reason, then contentedness and through the entire cycle all in the matter of around 2 minutes for around half an hour, what is that called

[Niamh]

has anyone ever had a day when they go through contentedness to anger for no reason, then to sadness for no reason, then to haooiness with no reason, then contentedness and through the entire cycle all in the matter of around 2 minutes for around half an hour, what is that called

If you were a woman i would have told you its hormones!:p

[toni]

:( I just feel a little upset because.. I am heartbroken *siigh* I'm not even going to get a chance to meet this -(coughs)-guy thoroughly,and now, he's flying to Saudi Arabia for College. :crash:

[applepie]

has anyone ever had a day when they go through contentedness to anger for no reason, then to sadness for no reason, then to haooiness with no reason, then contentedness and through the entire cycle all in the matter of around 2 minutes for around half an hour, what is that called

This sounds like everyday for me. I would say it was homones since I'm a girl, but the truth is I'm just that tempermental. I get into rages for no real reason and then they turn off like someone flipped a light switch. It may be hormones, but I've decided that in most ways my rage is what drives me in life. The only ones safe are the people I love. Otherwise, sometimes when I see someone I hate them on sight, but I have no idea why. It is just all consuming and uncontrolable. In your case, I think you may be feeling all of those things, but rather than feeling them all at once your mind is shifting through them. Each is given a spotlight, instead of finding a medium.

[Scheherazade]

has anyone ever had a day when they go through contentedness to anger for no reason, then to sadness for no reason, then to haooiness with no reason, then contentedness and through the entire cycle all in the matter of around 2 minutes for around half an hour, what is that calledSugar rush?

;)

[barbara0207]

has anyone ever had a day when they go through contentedness to anger for no reason, then to sadness for no reason, then to haooiness with no reason, then contentedness and through the entire cycle all in the matter of around 2 minutes for around half an hour, what is that called

Psychologists call that manic-depressive - if it happens all the time, see your doctor. :D

[motherhubbard]

has anyone ever had a day when they go through contentedness to anger for no reason, then to sadness for no reason, then to haooiness with no reason, then contentedness and through the entire cycle all in the matter of around 2 minutes for around half an hour, what is that called

Men have hormones too. Aren't you a teenager? If so I think that is just part of life for boys or girls. I think girls get the worse wrap on it since they tend to talk about their emotions more than boys do. It is a huge stage of physical and emotional development. Teens tend to not get enough sleep, their bodies need about 12 hours a day. When you’re not sleeping enough and living on pizza and French fries two staples for teens it’s hard to feel emotionally balanced.

[the silent x]

mother, my staples are tacos, nachoes, and burritoes, solid tex-mex food and i'm on vacation so i'm getting about 6-10 hrs a night so you may have a point there

[kiz_paws]

silent x, those foods you listed are on my top favorites.... :)

[motherhubbard]

mother, my staples are tacos, nachoes, and burritoes, solid tex-mex food and i'm on vacation so i'm getting about 6-10 hrs a night so you may have a point there

Eat a big taco salad and drink plenty of water, take a hot shower and go to bed. Then sleep as long as you can. It might make you feel much better! Just think of how you might feel if you were able to jog around the block first! You could take over the world:thumbs_up

[applepie]

So I need to get this off to someone. My husband just half way listened and that wasn't very satisfying.
My best friend is ruining her life. She has been having all sorts of marriage and financial trouble in the last year. Now things seem to just keep getting worse. Her mom took her daughter away, even though she is the one who supports the family. Her house is in forclosure, and her marriage is in the divorce process. We talk tonight and she tells me she is hanging with a guy who just got back out of prison. He was in for 9 years, out for a while and then something smaller put him back for 8 months because of his previous record. Plus he is nuts, and not in a good way. He went ballistic on his ex girlfriend for breaking up with him and that is what landed him in prison the first time. Her mom has gotten a place to stay, but she is getting state aid to help only because she has temporary custody of her granddaughter. Now, I'm told she isn't even going to fight her mom for custody because it would put her mom on the street:flare: Her mom has been meddleing and causing problems in my friend's life for as long as I can remember and she just keeps letting it happen. She let her mom take her daughter for a made up reason and now she is letting her guilt her into not regaining custody. Instead she will wait 2 years until her mom can get social security and afford to live on her own. What is worse, I keep feeling like if I had been there to help and support her none of this would be happening :bawling: I don't know what to do to help out or if there is even anything I can do. All I could do was advise she get her daughter back and not allow her mom to manipulate her into giving her up. Arrgh! I'm so aggravated and upset I just don't know what to do anymore.

[Niamh]

thats crap. i dont know how to help you. All i can suggest is that maybe you get her over to your side of the country and help her gett on her feet. Light a fire under her bum and make her get her child back.
Also you need to stop putting the weight of your friends problems on to yourself. you have enough to deal with. but i do think you should get her nearer to you and away from crazy man from prison.

[applepie]

That isn't too bad of an idea. I've actually considered moving home earlier just to help get everything sorted out. I did tell her when I get home I'm going to find her some nice boy who isn't fresh out of prison, or the brother of the same dude both of whom are crazy. If I could afford to bring her here, or if she could afford it that would be the plan.

[Bakiryu]

I'm ok, my mom got into a fight with my dad and is feeling depressed. Sometimes she just says she wants to kill herself. I promise I wouldn't do it if she didn't but I fear for her. My dad is an arschloch!

My kitty bit into a fishook and my dad had to pull it out, so it's lip broke a bit. I petted it during the 2 hour long ride from Miami and gave it fish and kitty food. I hope it heals soon.......

[Madhuri]

I am really mad :( :mad:

It's my brother's wedding anniversary today. I had sent them their gifts by courier 4 days back, and they haven't recieved it :( It was such a nice gift. I am sure the courier guys have lost it, because it should have reached within two days of sending it.....I just feel like killing the delivery guy or whosoever is responsible for the loss......

:mad: :(

[Lily Adams]

I am really mad :( :mad:

It's my brother's wedding anniversary today. I had sent them their gifts by courier 4 days back, and they haven't recieved it :( It was such a nice gift. I am sure the courier guys have lost it, because it should have reached within two days of sending it.....I just feel like killing the delivery guy or whosoever is responsible for the loss......

:mad: :(

That is horrible! I hope maybe it's just being delayed because of the weather or something because it being stolen is really bad! I hope it turns up. :(

As for me...my leg hurts for no reason and my teeth and gums hurt from flossing for the first time in a while...yes, I am a bit lazy when it comes to flossing. :blush:

[Niamh]

The teeth problem was bad enough, now i think my body doesnt like the painkillers!(if you dont know what i'm on about see blog.)stupid dentist!

[livelaughlove]

Is it possible to be in love with somebody after only meeting them for 10 minutes and barely having spoken to them? We met in a foreign country, and he lives in another country (not the country we met in) - we speak on email occasionally, he sings and I have his CD, we talk about normal life but I've found that we have a lot in common. He's sweet on email, but I know that on the computer its easy to disguise your identity. He just sent me an especially nice email, after I opened up to him a little bit... now what would you do? He's talking about maybe coming to visit and singing in some places where I live. He's not like a famous singer or anything, he just plays his guitar and sings because he loves it, but that is what would bring him here. Sorry that I've rambled so much, but I am so confused. I want to love him and I kind of feel like I'm in love but can it really be? And what should I do?

Any advice you could give me would be so appreciated. I figured this was the best place to post this - since it has been on my chest for the past couple weeks. Thanks!!

[Domer121]

I think that it is possible, though who knows what love really is, you know? Everyone thinks it is the butterfly feelings and all that, but that kind of love doesn't get you through all the hard times, which is why the divorce rate is so great. I think that if you do really love him you will want what is best for him, whether that means him coming here or not, you have to trust that if you are meant to be together, you will be.... And I will agree, internet it a lot different than real life, so just watch out. Good luck:):):)

Okay.......I made a big mistake.....I told my best friend something that I had promised myself I would never tell anyone.... something about my past that nobody could understand but me... I am afraid now she looks on me differently than before.....I don't worry that she will ever tell anyone, I am just worried how we will be together now.

[livelaughlove]

Thanks Domer. While it would be great if he came, I would also be okay if he didn't come - I'm definitely not counting on it because I know in reality, you can't count on things. Nope, no butterfly feelings - come to think of it I rarely get butterflies, only when I talk on the phone which I for some reason hate doing - but I really just felt something for him, you know? You are so right - who knows what love is. So I guess I will wait and see. Thanks again. Que sera, sera...

As for your situation, if she is really your best friend, I don't think it would be fair of her to change her opinion of you just because you shared something with her, unless it's like really really shocking. Is she the type of person you could ask? Or just say to her "Listen, I hope you don't think badly of me now that you know that..yadda yadda.." ? Would that be possible? When I share my past with my best friend, that's what I say, and normally she reassures me that her opinion of me would never change, which actually makes our friendship grow. But is that an option for you? Have you guys hung out or done anything together since you told her? If so, how did she act?

[papayahed]

I'm annoyed with myself. I went running this morning and I had to start back at squar one 1 min run/2-3 min walk. I used to do 5K's with out any problems, why did I ever stop. What's that saying "If you got it up keep it up." Doh!!

[Mortis Anarchy]

I HATE MY JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:flare: :flare: :flare: :flare: :flare: :flare: :flare:

But I need the experience...grrr! They don't give me enough hours cause I can't get people to sign up for the store's credit cards. I don't work for fun! I work cause I need the money!!! JEEZZZZZZZZZZZ!!!!!!!!!!!:flare: :flare: :flare:

[kathycf]

I am so sick of dealing with crap. Time to just freakin' hide in a cave.

[Niamh]

I'm not happy. In fact i'm quite angry and miserable! I'm seriously on my last nerve and i cant take any of this crap anymore! :flare: why is it that some men are just so bloody selfish! I mean, when you are in a relationship there are two people. not one person and there ego!:flare: I mean at the present moment i'm coming in second to a computer game! did you hear that litnet A COMPUTER GAME!!!!!

[Pensive]

Why does she not understand what she thinks is good for me is not what the real 'me' can accept. Why can't I have different priorities? :( :( :(

[Madhuri]

I am fed up of everything...I will never learn from my mistakes :(

[weepingforloman]

I'm not happy. In fact i'm quite angry and miserable! I'm seriously on my last nerve and i cant take any of this crap anymore! :flare: why is it that some men are just so bloody selfish! I mean, when you are in a relationship there are two people. not one person and there ego!:flare: I mean at the present moment i'm coming in second to a computer game! did you hear that litnet A COMPUTER GAME!!!!!

On behalf of all Y-chromosome carriers, may I say: we're just plain stupid.

[the silent x]

On behalf of all Y-chromosome carriers, may I say: we're just plain stupid.

agreed

niamh, he's only trying to show you that he tocks at many challanges you throw at him, he's triyng to impress you, his mistake was to not drop the fact that he got owned in some video game and now he's embarrased because he lost in front of you and he thinks the only way he can redeem himself is by beating the video game and being persistent, this could show you that he is a persistent son-of-a-b**** and may be good to have for future problem's although in my family it has caused the exact same amount as it has fixed

[applepie]

Niamh, I would be mad too, but I have to agree with Silent X. He may be just showing off, or if he is like the men I know and love then he is simply too caught up in winning to know how much time has passed. Now that I think about it, I'm a woman and I still get so focused on beating something that I will persist for hours until I complete my objective:) I hope things get better, but try not to be too mad... boys love their video games. Even the fully grown ones:D

[Bakiryu]

Is just video games are so addictive, once i went for 48 hours trying to beat one. Is like.....eh (try to remember feminine thing....) oooh! Shoe shopping! He might be too caught up in the game to think....

[barbara0207]

How about tit for tat? Couldn't you just ignore him when he's eventually finished playing just saying you're busy? Maybe he'll see what he did to you then.

[spa girl]

Okay, does this bug anyone else? I go through the drive-thru, place my order at the speaker, drive around the corner & see the arm of the girl (yes, it seems like it's always a girl) dangling out of the window with my bag of food! What is that all about? How much time do you think she saves by doing that instead of actually waiting for me to get there so she can politely hand me the bag? I swear, one these times I am just gonna slow down enough to grab the bag out of her hand & keep on driving.

Thanx for the thread, I feel a little better.

[Pensive]

Why do people have to make jokes which hurt others at least once in five minutes they talk! And then they expect others to take those jokes happily with a smile on their faces. What the hell is that? Jokes are good, teasing sometimes is okay, even harsh teasing can tolerated at times, but again and again? It's just mad!

[Niamh]

agreed

niamh, he's only trying to show you that he tocks at many challanges you throw at him, he's triyng to impress you, his mistake was to not drop the fact that he got owned in some video game and now he's embarrased because he lost in front of you and he thinks the only way he can redeem himself is by beating the video game and being persistent, this could show you that he is a persistent son-of-a-b**** and may be good to have for future problem's although in my family it has caused the exact same amount as it has fixed


Niamh, I would be mad too, but I have to agree with Silent X. He may be just showing off, or if he is like the men I know and love then he is simply too caught up in winning to know how much time has passed. Now that I think about it, I'm a woman and I still get so focused on beating something that I will persist for hours until I complete my objective:) I hope things get better, but try not to be too mad... boys love their video games. Even the fully grown ones:D


On behalf of all Y-chromosome carriers, may I say: we're just plain stupid.

Now if only that WAS the case but believe me its not. Its an online game and he spends any spare time he has playing it. Which mean... hardly any time with me. He only rings me when things have happened on the game, but yet has the nerve to be snotty with me for not ringing him as much as i use to. There is only so many times one can hear 'can i ring u back i'm just doing something at the moment.' And thats if he answers the phone. Its come to the point where he doesnt even wait for me to reply and just hangs up! He's even got all his mates playing the game now so when i do meet up with him and if any of them call his phone, i'm egnored while they talk about their allience etc. Now do you really understand why i'm pissed off? and to make matters worse when he goes on hols with the lads he wants me to look after his "whatever" for him. Told him no as i've no interest in it and he got pissed off!:flare: Three years to babysit the computer game thats more importsnt than me in his life? dont think so!

[kiobe]

If you are going to be riding your bike to work in the street you had better go the speed limit, Stop at all red lights and stop signs. Don't cut across the street unless you don't mind being hit by a 4,000 lb SUV. Move to the right if going slower than traffic. Obey the same laws that all other moving vehicles have to obey. But bicyclists think that they are chamelions. There all over the road, where ever they want to go and then when they get hit they're so surprised.

[the silent x]

Now if only that WAS the case but believe me its not. Its an online game and he spends any spare time he has playing it. Which mean... hardly any time with me. He only rings me when things have happened on the game, but yet has the nerve to be snotty with me for not ringing him as much as i use to. There is only so many times one can hear 'can i ring u back i'm just doing something at the moment.' And thats if he answers the phone. Its come to the point where he doesnt even wait for me to reply and just hangs up! He's even got all his mates playing the game now so when i do meet up with him and if any of them call his phone, i'm egnored while they talk about their allience etc. Now do you really understand why i'm pissed off? and to make matters worse when he goes on hols with the lads he wants me to look after his "whatever" for him. Told him no as i've no interest in it and he got pissed off!:flare: Three years to babysit the computer game thats more importsnt than me in his life? dont think so!

ok niamh, there's one of two ways you can do this, i'm guessin gthis game is either warcraft or diablo. you can play it yourself, (although you may not like it) and use that tiem to sort of "bond" with your friend, or you can say "it's either me or the game" since he doesn't spend much time with you anyway it's not going to leave that big of a hole in your life to drop him like a four year old cheese slice. and if he truly cares about you, then he will drop the game and be around more, if you have to say this more than once, he's not listening to you or doesn't think your serious, then follow through and leave him. go on in your life.




If you are going to be riding your bike to work in the street you had better go the speed limit, Stop at all red lights and stop signs. Don't cut across the street unless you don't mind being hit by a 4,000 lb SUV. Move to the right if going slower than traffic. Obey the same laws that all other moving vehicles have to obey. But bicyclists think that they are chamelions. There all over the road, where ever they want to go and then when they get hit they're so surprised.

on mackinac island, mi, those people are called fudgies and the saying is, "you may know how to ride a bike, but there are strange people who do strange things, they will hit you with their bike that they don't know how to ride" (or something along those lines) and you have to remember, hitting them with you SUV is called murder and you can go to prison for that,although the judge might understand and leave you alone. just honk your horn at them and they'll run, they may hate you, scream at you, do many things other than move, but they will move. if they don't move, drive along behind them with horn blazing and it will eventually get their attention. showing them the common road greeting (the bird) as you pass by is very wholesome feeling. always remember this there is no such thing as Road Rage, it is really called Road Justice often assissted by a tire iron. read the alphabet of manliness(or something like it) and you'll understand.

[barbara0207]

Now if only that WAS the case but believe me its not. Its an online game and he spends any spare time he has playing it. Which mean... hardly any time with me. He only rings me when things have happened on the game, but yet has the nerve to be snotty with me for not ringing him as much as i use to. There is only so many times one can hear 'can i ring u back i'm just doing something at the moment.' And thats if he answers the phone. Its come to the point where he doesnt even wait for me to reply and just hangs up! He's even got all his mates playing the game now so when i do meet up with him and if any of them call his phone, i'm egnored while they talk about their allience etc. Now do you really understand why i'm pissed off? and to make matters worse when he goes on hols with the lads he wants me to look after his "whatever" for him. Told him no as i've no interest in it and he got pissed off!:flare: Three years to babysit the computer game thats more importsnt than me in his life? dont think so!

If it's as bad as that already, your friend may be addicted (happens to more and more people nowadays). He can hardly think anything else but that computer game, he can't help it. That means he needs professional help. But probably he won't see that he does. If he has any feelings for you left, he may see reason if you talk to him about it and threaten to leave him.

[kiobe]

ok niamh, there's one of two ways you can do this, i'm guessin gthis game is either warcraft or diablo. you can play it yourself, (although you may not like it) and use that tiem to sort of "bond" with your friend, or you can say "it's either me or the game" since he doesn't spend much time with you anyway it's not going to leave that big of a hole in your life to drop him like a four year old cheese slice. and if he truly cares about you, then he will drop the game and be around more, if you have to say this more than once, he's not listening to you or doesn't think your serious, then follow through and leave him. go on in your life.





on mackinac island, mi, those people are called fudgies and the saying is, "you may know how to ride a bike, but there are strange people who do strange things, they will hit you with their bike that they don't know how to ride" (or something along those lines) and you have to remember, hitting them with you SUV is called murder and you can go to prison for that,although the judge might understand and leave you alone. just honk your horn at them and they'll run, they may hate you, scream at you, do many things other than move, but they will move. if they don't move, drive along behind them with horn blazing and it will eventually get their attention. showing them the common road greeting (the bird) as you pass by is very wholesome feeling. always remember this there is no such thing as Road Rage, it is really called Road Justice often assissted by a tire iron. read the alphabet of manliness(or something like it) and you'll understand.

I would drive off the road before I hit a bicyclist, by the way I drive a Prius. It's just that they don't feel the need to follow the same rules that everyone else must follow.

[Mortis Anarchy]

You know, maybe I'm just being childish and a tad bit jealous...but I don't care. I'm tired of my dad. He is only home 2-3 times a week and when he is home he is always off doing things with my brother. He never says hi anymore or call me nicknames like he used to. I think the longest conversation we've had in the past 3 months was, Hows your studying going? You really should put more effort into it....never hi, how have you been, what have you been up to, whats interesting...never anthing interesting...we used to sit outside at night and talk...talk and talk and talk. Now he goes and hangs out with my brother all the time...and when he is gone my dad choses to ignore me or yell at me. He doesn't even say bye to me when he leaves.

[applepie]

Now if only that WAS the case but believe me its not. Its an online game and he spends any spare time he has playing it. Which mean... hardly any time with me. He only rings me when things have happened on the game, but yet has the nerve to be snotty with me for not ringing him as much as i use to. There is only so many times one can hear 'can i ring u back i'm just doing something at the moment.' And thats if he answers the phone. Its come to the point where he doesnt even wait for me to reply and just hangs up! He's even got all his mates playing the game now so when i do meet up with him and if any of them call his phone, i'm egnored while they talk about their allience etc. Now do you really understand why i'm pissed off? and to make matters worse when he goes on hols with the lads he wants me to look after his "whatever" for him. Told him no as i've no interest in it and he got pissed off!:flare: Three years to babysit the computer game thats more importsnt than me in his life? dont think so!

I get it entirely now. I'd be hopping mad too. My sister is obsessed with online games the same way, and I just don't get the attraction. I would try to talk with him reasonably about it, since ending a three year relationship (if I understood you correctly) shouldn't normally be done lightly. If he can't get it under control and take notice that you need some of his time also then make a decision on what you want to do. I really hope that things get better for you. You could always cut his computer cord;)

[Video Drone]

Its an online game and he spends any spare time he has playing it.What game is it, WoW, Lineage? Sheesh. I never got into those MMORPG's for some reason, a couple million people did, tho. But with a guy who's a gamer, you better be a gamer yourself, you'll have much to discuss... But if it's an addiction, addictions are hard to deal with, very hard... If he spends more than weeks on it playing all day long it's an addiction. You really need harsh measures here. Cutting the cord, seriously.

Games are actually becoming dangerous. Well...

YOU WERE WARNED

To Mortis Anarchy
Wow, that's really horrible. Did you try talking to him about this?

[Shalot]

What is wrong with women in the workplace? My coworker (we'll call her Tammy) is a bleach-blonde, cigarette-smoking, pick-up truck driving, high-heels wearing, tough-talking WITCH from hell and I hope she rots there.

How dare her burst into my cubicle talking about filing and proper procedure? Her "qualifications" for the job consist of a high school diploma and running her husband's business and now that he dumped her wrinkly old arse, she has to come get a job with the rest of us who don't have actual assets and she hasn't quite figured out that she is no longer in charge. hmphhhhhh

:rage: :rage: :seething rage:

someone should choke her in the neck (that saying always cheers me up. where else would you choke someone?)

[Mortis Anarchy]

What game is it, WoW, Lineage? Sheesh. I never got into those MMORPG's for some reason, a couple million people did, tho. But with a guy who's a gamer, you better be a gamer yourself, you'll have much to discuss... But if it's an addiction, addictions are hard to deal with, very hard... If he spends more than weeks on it playing all day long it's an addiction. You really need harsh measures here. Cutting the cord, seriously.

Games are actually becoming dangerous. Well...

YOU WERE WARNED

To Mortis Anarchy
Wow, that's really horrible. Did you try talking to him about this?

No, recently I've found it really hard to talk to him. My dad is a pilot so thats why he really isn't home...but this sounds bad but, I just feel that I'd rather have him never home or home all the time. Maybe then he would pay attention to me. Its my last year at home and you would think that he would take advantage of that. I've tried tagging along, but I just end up being ignored. I tried to see if my mom would talk to him, but she is just happy that he is home. Most of the time I just leave home and read and bookstores/coffeeshops or paint or work. Then I don't have to think about it and get depressed...I'm having a really hard time about it...and I don't like showing negative emotions so its been hard.

[applepie]

No, recently I've found it really hard to talk to him. My dad is a pilot so thats why he really isn't home...but this sounds bad but, I just feel that I'd rather have him never home or home all the time. Maybe then he would pay attention to me. Its my last year at home and you would think that he would take advantage of that. I've tried tagging along, but I just end up being ignored. I tried to see if my mom would talk to him, but she is just happy that he is home. Most of the time I just leave home and read and bookstores/coffeeshops or paint or work. Then I don't have to think about it and get depressed...I'm having a really hard time about it...and I don't like showing negative emotions so its been hard.

Not to pry, but were you and your dad close until recently? The reason I ask is that my own dad behaved the same way when it became clear I was leaving home. I moved from Ohio to Washington and it killed him to let me go so far away where he couldn't watch and take care of me. It was his way of preparing to let me go and make it a little easier on himself when I left. Now that I'm due to move back soon he is turning back into the same man he was before I left. He is back to saying "I love you" on the phone and teasing. Let him see that his behavior is causing you pain, but also know that it isn't anything you have done. He is probably just preparing himself for you to leave home.

[Niamh]

I get it entirely now. I'd be hopping mad too. My sister is obsessed with online games the same way, and I just don't get the attraction. I would try to talk with him reasonably about it, since ending a three year relationship (if I understood you correctly) shouldn't normally be done lightly. If he can't get it under control and take notice that you need some of his time also then make a decision on what you want to do. I really hope that things get better for you. You could always cut his computer cord;)

I got really angry a month back and spoke to him about it but a month later things are back the way they are! When we started going out three years ago it took me along time to get him to do things without his friends. now it's like we are back at the beginning but the friends have been replaced by an online game ,that i wont name incase some of you play it and he's attacked you, that he plays with his friends. And i've had enough. I need a change and i think that includes him.

[applepie]

I got really angry a month back and spoke to him about it but a month later things are back the way they are! When we started going out three years ago it took me along time to get him to do things without his friends. now it's like we are back at the beginning but the friends have been replaced by an online game ,that i wont name incase some of you play it and he's attacked you, that he plays with his friends. And i've had enough. I need a change and i think that includes him.

Then go for it. I've ended my fair share of relationships for the same reason, and if he isn't willing to give you the time and attention that you deserve then find someone who will. It sounds like you are certain in what you want, so now all there is left to do is act on it which I know is easier said than accomplished. I hope everything works out for you.

[Niamh]

Then go for it. I've ended my fair share of relationships for the same reason, and if he isn't willing to give you the time and attention that you deserve then find someone who will. It sounds like you are certain in what you want, so now all there is left to do is act on it which I know is easier said than accomplished. I hope everything works out for you.

Thanks Meg. Just wish i had an ounce of courage or i would have done it today. My major flaw is i shrink in the face of confrontation!

[Mortis Anarchy]

Not to pry, but were you and your dad close until recently? The reason I ask is that my own dad behaved the same way when it became clear I was leaving home. I moved from Ohio to Washington and it killed him to let me go so far away where he couldn't watch and take care of me. It was his way of preparing to let me go and make it a little easier on himself when I left. Now that I'm due to move back soon he is turning back into the same man he was before I left. He is back to saying "I love you" on the phone and teasing. Let him see that his behavior is causing you pain, but also know that it isn't anything you have done. He is probably just preparing himself for you to leave home.

We were very close. I've always been a daddy's girl...we used to go mountain biking together all the time...and he always used to ask me to come along and do stuff with them. But the thing is, why would he want to do that in the first place? I mean, he is never home anyways, so why would he want to push me out even further! I almost freaked out on him yesterday...me and my dad are a lot of like...we don't really say 'I love you' easily, or 'sorry'...

[Mortis Anarchy]

I got really angry a month back and spoke to him about it but a month later things are back the way they are! When we started going out three years ago it took me along time to get him to do things without his friends. now it's like we are back at the beginning but the friends have been replaced by an online game ,that i wont name incase some of you play it and he's attacked you, that he plays with his friends. And i've had enough. I need a change and i think that includes him.

Take a little break. Its not fair for you to have to ASK for him to hangout with you...he should want to do that without you asking. Sometimes change is for the better. I wish you luck though, with whatever you do...

And maybe he is just going through something...I dunno...good luck though!:)

[the silent x]

i hate my little sister, she does nothing but lead me on and force me to have to go to my parents to figure out what she's doing, today, she grabbed somehting from my room but wouldn't tell me why she took it, i asked her politely many times over, then i finally went to my parents and they said they had asked her to get it from me. i have to live with a demon in the house and i can't get away from her, my parents also take away all of my power as the adult when i'm babysitting, no one listens to me, they blow me off until i stick my face two inches away from theirs and yell until i'm hoarse. then i get in trouble for it, i'm on the verge of saying something once and when they don't do anything about it, dropping it then having my parents be the bad guys and yell at the three of them for not doing something. blame it all on my stepmom, her favorite method of communication is to scream at the top of her lungs for us to do something even when it's the first time she's asked us to do it, i'm getting fed up with this family, this is why i hate people, i have such awesome examples in front of me.

[dramasnot6]

I hope things get better Niamh, you deserve only the best.

Sounds really unfair silent x, don´t try to get too down on all of humanity because of them. When I encounter hopelessly wretched people I tell myself to strive to be better to prove them that i am.

No complaints here, im on holiday! :p :)

[applepie]

Hopefully things will get better Silent X. I was lucky to be the youngest, and my sister and I were close enough in age that she never had to babysit me.

[Pensive]

i hate my little sister, she does nothing but lead me on and force me to have to go to my parents to figure out what she's doing, today, she grabbed somehting from my room but wouldn't tell me why she took it, i asked her politely many times over, then i finally went to my parents and they said they had asked her to get it from me. i have to live with a demon in the house and i can't get away from her, my parents also take away all of my power as the adult when i'm babysitting, no one listens to me, they blow me off until i stick my face two inches away from theirs and yell until i'm hoarse. then i get in trouble for it, i'm on the verge of saying something once and when they don't do anything about it, dropping it then having my parents be the bad guys and yell at the three of them for not doing something. blame it all on my stepmom, her favorite method of communication is to scream at the top of her lungs for us to do something even when it's the first time she's asked us to do it, i'm getting fed up with this family, this is why i hate people, i have such awesome examples in front of me.

Oh I can understand how it feels but you should perhaps look at the positive side - the things your parents have provided you? This might help. And you said your sister is little, if she is little then forgive her, nearly all children do such things. That's a part of childhood.

And I hope things better for both Niamh and you and everyone who is in trouble!

[aabbcc]

I resent - to myself, to God, to world, to system, whatever - the fact I have one more academic year to spend at school before I can go to university. Not that I particularly dislike my school, I just dislike the fact it is school, it is filled with immature undereducated brats to whom the main purpose in life is to get drunk (I would not like to generalise, but the majority are such), the "academic spirit" in it does not exist except during a couple of minutes of Gaudeamus igitur during ceremonies, and I dislike having to study a plethora of subjects I am never going to need in my life.

Not that I see the world from the utilitarian point of view, nor that I particularly care about "usefulness" as pretty much everything "useful" one learns out of one's formal education, but I still view it to be pretty pointless that our school system forces students to study so many subjects and does not allow us to choose amongst them.
So I intend to study literature, history of art and Italian at university, and still, I will have to bother myself the entire year also with Chemistry, Mathematics, Politics, Latin, Greek and whatnot else they invented, which only takes away my precious time which I could dedicate to literature and art.

I also dislike constant arguments I am having with my family regarding my choice of university. They believe my choice is "childish and idiotic" and that it will only bring me to ruin and disappointments, and that I should study something "useful", with which I could "contribute to society instead of wasting your talent on doing-nothing in reading books and observing architecture", such as medicine, or, if I so dislike sciences, law; and I cannot even imagine myself on those universities, and do not get me started on how much I would hate to study something other than what is my choice. From their perspective I am just "too lazy to go to concrete university". I am sick of constant trying to prove them that the only thing I wish to do in life revolves around languages, literature and art.

[Pensive]

I also dislike constant arguments I am having with my family regarding my choice of university. They believe my choice is "childish and idiotic" and that it will only bring me to ruin and disappointments, and that I should study something "useful", with which I could "contribute to society instead of wasting your talent on doing-nothing in reading books and observing architecture", such as medicine, or, if I so dislike sciences, law; and I cannot even imagine myself on those universities, and do not get me started on how much I would hate to study something other than what is my choice. From their perspective I am just "too lazy to go to concrete university". I am sick of constant trying to prove them that the only thing I wish to do in life revolves around languages, literature and art.

That's a truth that it's difficult for those who study languages and literature to get a a good job, but it all depends on your priorities. If you would rather earn less money with your hobby as a job, it's understandable or even if's the other way, it's also understandable. I would advice you to choose whatever you want but before it think about the advice of your parents also. And coolly not emotionally. Not because they are saying it but because you have to choose whatever is good for you. :)

[the silent x]

here's an idea, i always do this when deciding whether to spend a lot of money on something, get an impartial party, (e.g. friend, brother, sister, family member who doesn't adore your parents), then sit down with your parents and the impartial party, then write down all the good and bad things about your taking your parents approach, and all of the good and bad thinggs about your approach. The impartial party is supposed to be there for helping both parties and deciding the verdict.

when all this has been done, have the impartial party put the stuff together with a point value, such as: you want to learn about architecture, so you would pay more attention and produce better results than something you didn't want to do, that would get a 2. becoming rich might get a 1 or something like that.

anyway, this won't work if you have extremely authoritarian parents, "you will do this my way when i say so."

have you ever considered being an architectural engineer? that way you could study the actual building and help complement society at the same time, try combining the topics to make a job that makes both of you happy.

i am thinking about going into Literature as a teacher, i like to read, i like to analyze and i want to impart that on a bunch of crazy drunk kids who have nothing better to do than sit in class and listen/sleep.

about the school thing, i have no school spirit so i can't help you there, and for the drunks, ignore them, or if you see one of them getting drunk, smash the bottle over their head and say, "every time you drink, the bottle will get smashed over your head and you will get covered in beer" (don't really do that i was making an attempt at humor.)

[kiz_paws]

To silent x, to Niamh, and to Anastasija, I sincerely hope that things go better for you. You are all such nice caring people and deserve only happiness in life.

For me, I am here to say that I am thoroughly sad that a couple of really talented and wonderful people have just up and quit us. Just like that. For reasons I cannot understand. I hope that they find happiness in life, too bad that they could not have mingled here even a bit longer. I have found a wonderful group of people here, this is a site that is a lot different than so many on the internet. Bravo LitNet, and may our two friends go in peace. They are always welcome here, just for the records. :)

[the silent x]

well thank you kiz paws, was one by chance countess, i believe she was one of your friends and you posted the most on her leaving thread, again, i think that's how it was, yeah, countess will be missed

[kiz_paws]

Ummm, well, I only posted once in that Countess "Leaving" thread, but yeah, she is one of the people who have recently left. The other was (sadly) Adolescent, who, without word or warning, just disappeared in a puff of smoke. Both of these people were extremely eloquent, animated, and full of spirit. I hope they rethink leaving LitNet, because it is such a place where all are welcome, no matter what their personal story/history is.... there is a place for all....

Good luck with your sister, silent x, things have a way of working out over the years

**thinking back to a hellion [a.k.a. sister] of my own...** :lol:

[aabbcc]

Thank you everyone for your suggestions, and just... for being there to stand my rant ;)
I do not have authoritatian parents, thankfully, they are just somewhat conservative, but in the end they will accept my decision (as they always have before when we were in disagreement - it is my life after all).
It really is more important to me to enjoy thoroughly what I do, even if I know that as professor of literature or as historian of art (unfortunately I do not have enough talent to be an artist myself, and I have always preferred history and theory thereof, so... it will be history of art, not art or architecture) I will not have much "profit" in life. They will simply have to live with the fact their daughter has got head in clouds and is really not suited for medicine, or law, or international business, or anything of the kind :D

[the silent x]

stick it to them, my dad wanted me to be in nano technology, he got my first grade in physics and immediately realized that he couldn't always have his way. haha

[Bakiryu]

I'm so angry I've been listening to whiny rock for hours. the idiot in my house started screaming at me about housework and made me clean. He's been telling me if Kiichan (my cat) steps in the living room, he'll kick her out the house. I began drawing and posted some of the sutff on my blog, but i'm still very, very mad.

[the silent x]

who's the idiot, your dad or older brother?
go on to the another creative game thread and start killing people left and right, but think of some really good stuff for them too

[kiz_paws]

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha :lol: :lol: Silent, sometimes you really make me smile! **hugs**

OK, I am mad at my car. Very mad. Blowing up mad... :flare: :flare:

[the silent x]

what did you car do?

if you are blowing up mad at your car, i actually blew up a car, took a lot of sledgehammers and fireworks, but we finally got the thing to explode, with the help of an Acetylene bomb. shop kids had a fundraiser, $2 to hit the car, then we blew the thing apart (with 18+supervision, [some kids older brother])

[kiz_paws]

The state of that sh** box we call a car is such that a trip to Minneapolis has been halted. Dang and all dang! (the front end is shot -- hmmm, maybe I should put it out of its misery???)

**sigh**

Maybe it is in the stars that I stay put for the next few days??? Let us hope so, cuz it better be a good reason. I was soooooo looking forward to The Mall of America and all the other goodies that Minneapolis has in store for travellers... Grrr and double grrrr! :flare:

[Bakiryu]

The idiot is my stepdad, so annoying! And to top it off I still have to pack since I'll be leaving in 2 weeks or so. (Minneapolis is in Minnesota right KizP?)

[the silent x]

step parents are either a**holes or b****es, i have a step mom who hasn't spoken a word that has not been screamed, all she does is scream, I definitely understand where your coming from

[kiz_paws]

(Minneapolis is in Minnesota right KizP?)
Yes indeedy, Baki!

Sorry to hear that you must tolerate so much screaming in your life, Silent. Buy an opera cd with lots and lots of soprano singing. And BLAST the dickens out of it. She will get the point. Unless the point is on her own head ... :lol:

[the silent x]

she wouldn't understand. i ruined two CD players doing that with a screamo band, maybe you should put the car out of its misery kiz, hwo long have you had it or how old is it. i'm no expert on cars so i'll be looking things up oonline for a while

[Bakiryu]

she wouldn't understand. i ruined two CD players doing that with a screamo band

:D Then do what I do X: SING. My stepfather got so mad:flare: and hated it so much I'm not allowed to sing at home anymore. I do it occasionally and his face turns purple :lol: :lol: :lol:

[kiz_paws]

hwo long have you had it or how old is it.

The car is over ten years old, we have beaten all the life out of it that we were meant to, methinks (what with winters-in-the-Canadian-Prairies and the sheer torture cars have to put up with therein...)

My hubby believes in this car, and so I silently stand back. My ship will come in. Someday...

Baki, his face turns purple? Sounds very scary, fodder for a horror novel ... :sick: **shivers**

[Niamh]

Poor you kiz. I remember when i was a kid we headed off for out summer hols in wexford. We'd only gotten as far as south dublin When the blasted thing came to a halt. Stupid nissan dastun! When we eventually got it back working again my dad turned around and headed home. Stopped at my sisters old apartment for a few hours. She convinced him to try towards wexford again, which we did and some how made it. That was the summer we almost didnt have a holiday!

[chasestalling]

one of these days i'll have these lions mauled.

who am i? your dread sovereign and you will yield!!

gotcha sucker.

[Wakaba]

If anyone has seen Family Guy you already know what this thread is about. If not.... feel free to get out todays stress with a little rant about something that really "grinds your gears." :flare:

Im pretty happy today so ill just wait and watch :p

[1n50mn14]

When skin grows on my pudding or mushroom soup.

When I'm waiting for a call and my roomate's dad stays on the phone for two hours.

[*Classic*Charm*]

People pounding on my dorm room door at absurd hours of the night so I'm too scared to go to sleep! Ooh, and the night someone broke all the light bulbs in my floor all over the lounge right outside my room. That was a fun night too.

[LadyWentworth]

People saying, acting and doing stupid things just for the sake of being stupid. That in turn makes them annoying, irritating and frustrating.

Also, people who completely forget how to drive in snow. I can't even let it go with the first snowfall. But, for the sake of this post, let's say people actually DO "forget". Why, when we have gotten SO much snow this winter do they STILL not have the tiniest bit of memory of how to drive??? You'd think they'd get used to it by now! :rolleyes:

[Tersely]

People who can't shut up. I need to be somewhere isolated.

[pussnboots]

I hate it when people snap their gum, especially if I am sitting next to them on a bus. I'll admit I snap my gum as well but only when I am by myself.
As to LadyWentworth's comment abt people forgetting how to drive in snow, how abt the people that forget how to drive when its raining out?

[Bakiryu]

People who turn the volume down on my computer 'cause they hate DEVO. Jehovah witnesses showing up at my door on Sunday at 6 am. Stupid people, people who can't shut up, boring people too. people. Concerned people putting pieces of meat on my lovingly prepared all vegetarian food, c'mon man, not cool!

[Aston]

I'm 14, She's 14, He's 15, She went out with him, He made her cry almost every night, He had sex with another girl, I love her. She still loves him.
THAT'S WHAT GRINDS MY GEARS!

[LadyW]

WHEN PEOPLE SNEEZE.
Ahem. I'm sorry...
I don't mind just ONE sneeze, covered by a hand.
However, when people are careless enough to fire their germs at me and/or do this about 8 times in a row - I could scream.
It makes me want to puke :(

[aabbcc]

I get annoyed when people demonstrate a significant lack of:

A) Classical manners of behaviour.
You do not need to open door to me every time or insist that when in the group of people we go out only guys pay for the drinks everybody had - though it is certainly nice :lol: - nor do you have to demonstrate you know all the rules of gentleman's or lady's behaviour, but you do need to respect some of those. I do not show it openly, again because I am raised in accordance with those same norms, but I do get upset over those things.
You cannot not pay attention to how you eat in a restaurant, you cannot not to look in people's eyes when you talk to them, you cannot interrupt another person speaking, you cannot walk around behaving like an idiot, or you sink down in my eyes; sorry, some basics are to be respected.

B) Classical manners of speech.
Same as the above; you do not need to speak in hexameters, but do care to make coherent full sentences and to minimise the use of vulgarism in your language - speaking like a person who never read a book or typing lyk dis definitely grinds my gears, even if I will not mention it.

C) General knowledge.
Of course that nobody is omniscent, but some things are just assumed to be known by an educated individual. And even if it happens that you do not know some crucial things, do for the sake of your own image hide that fact and quickly change the discourse, because there is nothing worse than "Voltaire, who?" in the midst of conversation, especially if in larger company and in public.

[mercy_mankind]

*Classic*Charm*

People pounding


LadyWentworth,
People saying,


Tersely ,
People who can't shut up


pussnboots,
I hate it when people snap their gum


Bakiryu,
People who turn the volume down


Aston,
I'm 14, She's 14, He's 15,


LadyW ,
WHEN PEOPLE SNEEZE.

People!
If we asked those people they will answer with the same word too
"(PEOPLE)" . :nod:

For me , I hate to see some one talking badly about another one while his\her absence , and when that one came , he\she starts praising after insulting. He\She is hypocrit .

[Aston]

:s i didn't say people

[Bakiryu]

I DID say PEOPLE.


people.

[metal134]

People who don't like baseball. Strike that. People who don't LOVE basball.

[LadyWentworth]

As to LadyWentworth's comment abt people forgetting how to drive in snow, how abt the people that forget how to drive when its raining out?
Yes, that is bad, too! I definitely agree with that. I won't really have to worry about it until Summer, though.


People who don't like baseball. Strike that. People who don't LOVE basball.
:thumbs_up Agreed!!! :D

[mercy_mankind]

:s i didn't say people

:nod: you didn't , but you said (He , she)
I think that (he, he) might be people? :) :)


I DID say PEOPLE.

Yes I think that every one will post here have to say in the beginning PEOPLE :)

because there is nothing made us get nervous except people's acts, but not people themselves.

[Pensive]

Okay. Let's see what I have got to get off my chest today. Erm, one thing for sure. My flu has still not recovered. Don't feel very good.

[Anza]

I'm 14, She's 14, He's 15, She went out with him, He made her cry almost every night, He had sex with another girl, I love her. She still loves him.
THAT'S WHAT GRINDS MY GEARS!

awww... Unfortuneately, I'm basically that girl...

She's had her heart broken a thousand times, and it's all she knows, so she just keeps going back for more. She sees what she's doing, and every time he opens his mouth, he kills her a little inside. She is Echo, and he; Narcissus. She is me, and he my "love" John. My twin asked him today, and he only likes me as a friend. I have other options that would treat me so much better. I have people who think John is so lucky to have my heart. But he is blind.
And I guess... so am I. :bawling:

[mheartin]

Three letters: PDA.

why must these lovey-dovey couples exude so much happiness in front of the whole world? [/emo]

[metal134]

:thumbs_up Agreed!!! :D
Then you're OK in my book!

[LadyWentworth]

Then you're OK in my book!

Well, you were already OK in mine just for making that statement! :)

[metal134]

Who's your team? I'm from NE Ohio, so it's Cleveland sports all the way. I still haven't gotten over that collapse in the ALCS. :(

[browneyedbailey]

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr rrrr! thanks I needed that.