Damn my dreaded shyness!

[shadowy girl]

I'm shy in a dreadful way!!:(

Hi guys,
It's the same problem I always face...

You know, when I stand in front of an audience , my cheeks grow red, and I become very scared, then.. And when I finish acting in a play, or reading a poem, or whatever, I go down stage trembling... I dunno what to do...

When I talk to a teacher or anyone bigger than me, my head is always down, and I can't look at this someone's eyes, and when I talk I can't complete one sentence, but I write much better, with more words...

When I talk to my English teacher in English I'm always afraid to make mistakes, although she won't scream at me and tell me I'm talking wrong, I know she is a great person and would never do that, but still I become very shy.

When My Islamic religion teacher talks to me we both become red! :( :) I dunno if I shall smile or cry, but I can't look at her face, and I always turn it around to look at any other corner...
I get more red when she smiles at me.

May be Cuz I respect them both very much, but I can't stay like this all the time

It happens with every person I respect, but respect shall not be this way...

I dunno why I'm so shy, and so very shy... Can anyone help, you know words can change minds...and thoughts and do a lot...

Your sister
Shadowy girl

[Lote-Tree]

I'm shy in a dreadful way!!:(

Hi guys,
It's the same problem I always face...

You know, when I stand in front of an audience , my cheeks grow red, and I become very scared, then.. And when I finish acting in a play, or reading a poem, or whatever, I go down stage trembling... I dunno what to do...

When I talk to a teacher or anyone bigger than me, my head is always down, and I can't look at this someone's eyes, and when I talk I can't complete one sentence, but I write much better, with more words...

When I talk to my English teacher in English I'm always afraid to make mistakes, although she won't scream at me and tell me I'm talking wrong, I know she is a great person and would never do that, but still I become very shy.

When My Islamic religion teacher talks to me we both become red! :( :) I dunno if I shall smile or cry, but I can't look at her face, and I always turn it around to look at any other corner...
I get more red when she smiles at me.

May be Cuz I respect them both very much, but I can't stay like this all the time

It happens with every person I respect, but respect shall not be this way...

I dunno why I'm so shy, and so very shy... Can anyone help, you know words can change minds...and thoughts and do a lot...

Your sister
Shadowy girl

You act in a play and don't feel shy?

[shadowy girl]

I don't look at the seets, I don't look at the people, but inside I'm burning!

[shadowy girl]

I act, but I live in it, I never looked at the people as much as I looked at who is acting with me!

[Lote-Tree]

I act, but I live in it, I never looked at the people as much as I looked at who is acting with me!

If you can act - then there is hope for you...the shyness in time will go away...

Any ideas why the shyness? Too self-consciousness? Fear of Failure? Physical Appeareance?

[shadowy girl]

Well, I'm afraid to be wrong, Cuz when I came from another country I couldn't speak arabic well, and all made fun of me, I was 9 years old.. that's why I don't want anyone to laugh at me, so I stay alone without contacting anyone.. I guess!

[quasimodo1]

Shy has many causes, good self esteem where we think before blathering and not so good because we can't seem to take the risk of approaching others, among many others of psychological beginnings one doesn't want to speculate on. Don't worry about it. You're on the forum, aren't you? quasimodo1

[shadowy girl]

thank you.

[ClaesGefvenberg]

I'm shy in a dreadful way!!I sympathize. Today, most of my friends find it very hard to believe that I used to suffer from the same problem, but there it is: I did. What's more, I know of a cure that at least worked for me: The answer is... acting :idea: , so you may already be halfway there.

I simply (ok, it was not simple, it took a determined effort) created a role for myself: One that was not shy. I started acting it out. Then, one day, I realized that I had become one with the part. I was no longer acting, no longer shy.

During this change it also dawned on me that most people around me were just as unsecure as I had once been. We are all acting to some degree.

/Claes

[Moira]

Hi shadowy

I believe everyone feels shy sometimes but being too shy can get in the way.
You need to determine why you're shy in the first place and start from there because shyness has its roots in self consciousness.
I don't know how old you are but this might change as you grow older and become more confident.
Respect is not the real cause, you can respect people and be able to look them in the eyes, it's something deeper, maybe part of it unconscious.

[Lote-Tree]

Well, I'm afraid to be wrong, Cuz when I came from another country I couldn't speak arabic well, and all made fun of me, I was 9 years old.. that's why I don't want anyone to laugh at me, so I stay alone without contacting anyone.. I guess!

In that case I am sure that in time you will overcome this with understanding...

These kinds of events in your life can scar for a while...we all had those kinds of experiences at least when we were growing up..but in time we can triumph over them...

[Countess]

I understand. If it makes you feel any better, you're better off than me (and more courageous by far) if you can take the stage.
I'm completely Avoidant.
Understanding why you're shy may help, but ultimately making the decision to risk it (by looking people in the eye, making contact) is going to help you over it.
Good luck. C

[Pensive]

Make up your mind you have to be confident. Many of us go through such situations as you do, and believe me many act in the same way as you do, but they change and you can too. All you have to do is to have a strong will power.

Nothing I say would help you as much perhaps as saying that build your own will power strong. You seem to know what you have to do and what you have to do for it is to be strong. Good luck! :)

[papayahed]

I used to be horribly shy as a child. I don't know what happened.

[Countess]

I used to be outgoing as a child, but being beat up on a daily basis cured me of that.
I think the name calling also helped.

[shadowy girl]

I sympathize. Today, most of my friends find it very hard to believe that I used to suffer from the same problem, but there it is: I did. What's more, I know of a cure that at least worked for me: The answer is... acting , so you may already be halfway there.

I simply (ok, it was not simple, it took a determined effort) created a role for myself: One that was not shy. I started acting it out. Then, one day, I realized that I had become one with the part. I was no longer acting, no longer shy.

During this change it also dawned on me that most people around me were just as unsecure as I had once been. We are all acting to some degree.

/Claes

Act like I'm not shy? mmmm I'll try that.


Hi shadowy

I believe everyone feels shy sometimes but being too shy can get in the way.
You need to determine why you're shy in the first place and start from there because shyness has its roots in self consciousness.
I don't know how old you are but this might change as you grow older and become more confident.
Respect is not the real cause, you can respect people and be able to look them in the eyes, it's something deeper, maybe part of it unconscious.

I'm a 14 years old, I don't think it's about my age, Cuz all my classmates aren't that shy even thought they are in the same age.



In that case I am sure that in time you will overcome this with understanding...

These kinds of events in your life can scar for a while...we all had those kinds of experiences at least when we were growing up..but in time we can triumph over them...

this experience I can't forget, it stayed with me over 7 years.


I understand. If it makes you feel any better, you're better off than me (and more courageous by far) if you can take the stage.
I'm completely Avoidant.
Understanding why you're shy may help, but ultimately making the decision to risk it (by looking people in the eye, making contact) is going to help you over it.
Good luck. C

I hate most people around me, I've got my reasons, it's just that they don't understand how sensitive I am, Cuz they dunno what I've lived till now, so they treat me like a normal girl, Cuz I've been thru thing I prefare not to mention.


Make up your mind you have to be confident. Many of us go through such situations as you do, and believe me many act in the same way as you do, but they change and you can too. All you have to do is to have a strong will power.

Nothing I say would help you as much perhaps as saying that build your own will power strong. You seem to know what you have to do and what you have to do for it is to be strong. Good luck!

I tried, you dunno how many times! But there was always something that threw me back to Zero.



I used to be horribly shy as a child. I don't know what happened.

you mean: just like that?!

[Nightshade]

Humm Im not sure I was ever shy really or quiet I used to have a problem with talking to strangers ....but thats because I took the stranger danger rule a little to seriously, and whenever my family would intrudce me to someone or ask me to shake their hand Id just look at them like:eek:.
and then whisper very loadly ( but daddy/mummy they are a stranger
My poor parents!:lol:

Hummm maybe acting like you arent shy will help, or just ignore everyone else and talk to/ listen to only one person at a time. I have a problem with public speaking so I always sat at the front of the class then I could and would answer anything and everything ( I think I was pretty distruptive in my classes :() though Id shut up when told to. I couldnt see the rest of the class so I just forgot about them and focused on what I wanted to know from the lesson and what I wanted to get across.

[Shalot]

I can relate to all this shyness talk. I am very shy in real life. So shy that's it's painful to watch --- just horribly socially inept. And I hate myself for that. I will sit there and replay an interaction over and over and I want to hit myself in the head for it.

What I am going to do is this: I am going to take all the suggestions posted in this thread and I am going to move away and start over and act like I am not a social idiot.

Have you ever seen Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind? I'd like to erase all memories of my social ineptitude and start over. The moving away part is to avoid jerky people who would come up and sneer at me and make fun of me to remind me of it.

I hear terms like social idiot and social retard and those terms do accurately describe me, but they're kind of mean. There are all these thoughts going on in the mind of a shy person that contribute to all the weirdness. So, how do you rewire?

[Countess]

Here are two websites that offer understanding and help:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_anxiety

http://www.socialphobia.org/

While Social Phobia is characterized as an anxiety disorder, there is a corresponding pathological personality disorder:

Avoidant Personality:
http://www.ptypes.com/avoidantpd.html

[Walter]

I used to be painfully shy, until I took a course in public speaking and that cured it. The course was the Dale Carnegie Course. In my experience it is exceedingly effective; however, it is not for free.

[Shalot]

Here are two websites that offer understanding and help:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_anxiety

http://www.socialphobia.org/

While Social Phobia is characterized as an anxiety disorder, there is a corresponding pathological personality disorder:

Avoidant Personality:
http://www.ptypes.com/avoidantpd.html


I wonder if my health insurance would cover meds and therapy?

BTW is that your real pic in your avatar?

[Adolescent09]

my process of disassociation eliminates the ability to feel shy. I stay away from everyone and don't confront anyone face to face. I try to keep people out of my peripheral view as well.

[Countess]

I wonder if my health insurance would cover meds and therapy?

BTW is that your real pic in your avatar?

Most health insurance with mental health benefits cover them. (I haven't come across an insurance company that doesn't cover treatment.)

Regarding the Avatar, that is "a" real picture, LOL. I'm doing my Edie Sedgwick impersonation. I'm a master-of-disguises, however, and am probably missing my calling as an actress or private investigator. I enjoy putting on wigs or wearing different clothing styles to create whatever "image" is most self-expressive for the day. In other words, I dress in accordance with my moods, or current infatuations.

[Countess]

my process of disassociation eliminates the ability to feel shy. I stay away from everyone and don't confront anyone face to face. I try to keep people out of my peripheral view as well.

Adolescent, what motivates you to dissociate? Is it hatred, fear, indifference? Dissociation is an action that represents a feeling. What is the feeling behind the action?

[Adolescent09]

Adolescent, what motivates you to dissociate? Is it hatred, fear, indifference? Dissociation is an action that represents a feeling. What is the feeling behind the action?

Hatred, fear and the notion that I will be provoked into committing an action I will soon unequivocally regret. Making eye contact provokes a nature within me of ineffable violence. It is me that is at fault.

[Adolescent09]

I'm sorry that you feel this way, Shadowy Girl but I believe this is just a natural phase in life. I felt chagrined and angry when I attended normal school (which was in the third grade) mainly because the other pupils in my class felt subtly inclined to graph me out as an anathema. They ensconced my kiddy back-pack with wrotten eggs, jostled with me, spat at my feet, threw paper planes at me and one time when we were supposed to re-enact (i'm not sure if that is the right word) Shakespeare's Othello I ended up slipping and falling on stage, soon to become the subject of laughter for the audience and universal contempt in my class... even the teacher kept a good distance away from me.

It's a natural phase shadowy girl and I hope you overcome it :) Just remember that if it's too much for you to handle and you feel like going to the nearest gun store to procure a 9mm, start condoning disassociation. (I doubt this will be necessary since I can guess you have friends..family.. affiliates.. etc)

[manolia]

I'm sorry that you feel this way, Shadowy Girl but I believe this is just a natural phase in life. I felt chagrined and angry when I attended normal school (which was in the third grade) mainly because the other pupils in my class felt subtly inclined to graph me out as an anathema. They ensconced my kiddy back-pack with wrotten eggs, jostled with me, spat at my feet, threw paper planes at me and one time when we were supposed to re-enact (i'm not sure if that is the right word) Shakespeare's Othello I ended up slipping and falling on stage, soon to become the subject of laughter for the audience and universal contempt in my class... even the teacher kept a good distance away from me.


Have all these things happened to you Adol?? Why? Sometimes i believe that the process of growing up for boys is much harder than for girls . Me and my brother went to the same school. I didn't have a single problem but for my brother was a living hell..

Shadowy i read through this thread just now. I believe Claes gave you a good piece of advice. I am still shy- most of the times- but i manage not to show it so i can function successfully when surrounded by people. But still sometimes i can't hide it properly and people mistake me for a snob because i don't talk to them so much.:(

[shadowy girl]

Humm Im not sure I was ever shy really or quiet I used to have a problem with talking to strangers ....but thats because I took the stranger danger rule a little to seriously, and whenever my family would intrudce me to someone or ask me to shake their hand Id just look at them like:eek:.
and then whisper very loadly ( but daddy/mummy they are a stranger
My poor parents!:lol:

Hummm maybe acting like you arent shy will help, or just ignore everyone else and talk to/ listen to only one person at a time. I have a problem with public speaking so I always sat at the front of the class then I could and would answer anything and everything ( I think I was pretty distruptive in my classes :() though Id shut up when told to. I couldnt see the rest of the class so I just forgot about them and focused on what I wanted to know from the lesson and what I wanted to get across.

Poor parents you got! I think I shoild ignore who makes fun of me.


I can relate to all this shyness talk. I am very shy in real life. So shy that's it's painful to watch --- just horribly socially inept. And I hate myself for that. I will sit there and replay an interaction over and over and I want to hit myself in the head for it.

What I am going to do is this: I am going to take all the suggestions posted in this thread and I am going to move away and start over and act like I am not a social idiot.

Have you ever seen Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind? I'd like to erase all memories of my social ineptitude and start over. The moving away part is to avoid jerky people who would come up and sneer at me and make fun of me to remind me of it.

I hear terms like social idiot and social retard and those terms do accurately describe me, but they're kind of mean. There are all these thoughts going on in the mind of a shy person that contribute to all the weirdness. So, how do you rewire?


I know , they call me unsocial, Lonely, too shy.. need a shrink... bla bla....
I think they don't believe I exist Cuz I'm very shy!

Here are two websites that offer understanding and help:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_anxiety

http://www.socialphobia.org/

While Social Phobia is characterized as an anxiety disorder, there is a corresponding pathological personality disorder:

Avoidant Personality:
http://www.ptypes.com/avoidantpd.html

Thank you.

I used to be painfully shy, until I took a course in public speaking and that cured it. The course was the Dale Carnegie Course. In my experience it is exceedingly effective; however, it is not for free.
mmm But taking a course, I never thought of that?!


I'm sorry that you feel this way, Shadowy Girl but I believe this is just a natural phase in life. I felt chagrined and angry when I attended normal school (which was in the third grade) mainly because the other pupils in my class felt subtly inclined to graph me out as an anathema. They ensconced my kiddy back-pack with wrotten eggs, jostled with me, spat at my feet, threw paper planes at me and one time when we were supposed to re-enact (i'm not sure if that is the right word) Shakespeare's Othello I ended up slipping and falling on stage, soon to become the subject of laughter for the audience and universal contempt in my class... even the teacher kept a good distance away from me.

It's a natural phase shadowy girl and I hope you overcome it :) Just remember that if it's too much for you to handle and you feel like going to the nearest gun store to procure a 9mm, start condoning disassociation. (I doubt this will be necessary since I can guess you have friends..family.. affiliates.. etc)

When I was in third garde I once wrote my name in a wrong way on my exam paper, the teacr rased my paper in front of my class telling them how horrible I was! that's where I became very shy, and an enemy of the arabic language!

My mother also tell the whole family everything about me, I hate being between them , cuz I feel I disapointed them someway, and now I have no mother to tell my secrets to!


Have all these things happened to you Adol?? Why? Sometimes i believe that the process of growing up for boys is much harder than for girls . Me and my brother went to the same school. I didn't have a single problem but for my brother was a living hell..

Shadowy i read through this thread just now. I believe Claes gave you a good piece of advice. I am still shy- most of the times- but i manage not to show it so i can function successfully when surrounded by people. But still sometimes i can't hide it properly and people mistake me for a snob because i don't talk to them so much.:(

Me too, they always tell me I never talk to them!

[Pensive]

When I was in third garde I once wrote my name in a wrong way on my exam paper, the teacr rased my paper in front of my class telling them how horrible I was! that's where I became very shy, and an enemy of the arabic language!

Don't hate language for something it is not to be blamed. It was the teacher's fault to shout at you in such a manner that meant to ridicule you. That's why I am strongly against teachers who mock students. One word they say can have a very powerful effect on a student's life. But every teacher is not like that, keep this thing is mind. :)


My mother also tell the whole family everything about me, I hate being between them , cuz I feel I disapointed them someway, and now I have no mother to tell my secrets to!

Oh I can understand this. My mother, though she is a great woman and loves me a lot, she has a tendency of telling most of the things I do to her family, especially her sister. I love my mother's sister but still I don't like it when my mother tells her my thoughts I had only wanted to share with her. And I have this habit of telling my mother each and everything. There would be a few things she doesn't know about me. But then again, when I see other great things my mother has done for me, I don't feel too bad about it. We all have some sort of faults, and I can survive with others for example my Khala (mother's sister) knowing about me because I know she is also true to me. And to tell you the truth, my mother doesn't tell my everything to everyone in her family, only those on which she rely. Perhaps your mother does the same, perhaps she is consulting her family for your problems because they are true to her and you? :)

Take things lightly. Even if the whole world knows the "you" inside you, I think you need not to worry if that "you" of yours means no other person harm. :D I ain't saying your mother ought to tell about you to her family, but perhaps she has no other alternative. And perhaps she is doing it for your own good...Don't judge her too harshly by this.

[shadowy girl]

Don't hate language for something it is not to be blamed. It was the teacher's fault to shout at you in such a manner that meant to ridicule you. That's why I am strongly against teachers who mock students. One word they say can have a very powerful effect on a student's life. But every teacher is not like that, keep this thing is mind. :)



Oh I can understand this. My mother, though she is a great woman and loves me a lot, she has a tendency of telling most of the things I do to her family, especially her sister. I love my mother's sister but still I don't like it when my mother tells her my thoughts I had only wanted to share with her. And I have this habit of telling my mother each and everything. There would be a few things she doesn't know about me. But then again, when I see other great things my mother has done for me, I don't feel too bad about it. We all have some sort of faults, and I can survive with others for example my Khala (mother's sister) knowing about me because I know she is also true to me. And to tell you the truth, my mother doesn't tell my everything to everyone in her family, only those on which she rely. Perhaps your mother does the same, perhaps she is consulting her family for your problems because they are true to her and you? :)

Take things lightly. Even if the whole world knows the "you" inside you, I think you need not to worry if that "you" of yours means no other person harm. :D I ain't saying your mother ought to tell about you to her family, but perhaps she has no other alternative. And perhaps she is doing it for your own good...Don't judge her too harshly by this.


I love my khala too... actually my khalat! but I don't want them to know every single detail in my life, as I expect my mom to keep them all secrets between me and her.

[Aunty-lion]

Don't hate language for something it is not to be blamed. It was the teacher's fault to shout at you in such a manner that meant to ridicule you. That's why I am strongly against teachers who mock students. One word they say can have a very powerful effect on a student's life. But every teacher is not like that, keep this thing is mind. :)

Bingo! What an idiotic, insensitive and seemingly malicious teacher. People like that should be fired. Aargh!

I am one of those strange people who has never had a problem speaking in public, likes to meet new people, and finds my own embarrassing moments so hilarious that they cease to be embarrassing. But please don't hate me for it :)

I could never understand what it felt like to fear public speaking etc until I took up another language. I have now been learning Maori for 3 years and I'm reasonably confident/competent, but when I first began I was a total scaredy-cat!! I remember the first time I got up to speak Maori in front of my class, and my knees were knocking so hard I was honestly scared I'd fall over!

It was really enlightening for me to feel that fear, and now I find that I can empathize with stage-fright and shyness in a way I never could before.

Anyway, I guess I think that fear can be good sometimes, it can level you. But I realise that it can also be like a debilitating social condition, and for that, I truly sympathise. That sucks. It must be really nice to be able to talk to people on forums like this. No face to face....

[kandaurov]

Well, picture the audience naked :p Now seriously, don't treat shyness as if it were a disease. It's a trait of character just like any other, and you shouldn't be too self-conscious about it. The best people I know are shy, and they are admirably humble and tolerant.

If you do want to shake off some of that shyness, just try and understand that it doesn't matter if you trip and fall, it doesn't matter if they laugh; these are incidents too insignificant for you to pay any notice.

Be proud of what you can do, have a humble opinion on your limitations, and you are sure to please everyone (that matters). Hope I haven't been parroting what someone else has said, and that I have been of some use :)

[shadowy girl]

Well, picture the audience naked :p Now seriously, don't treat shyness as if it were a disease. It's a trait of character just like any other, and you shouldn't be too self-conscious about it. The best people I know are shy, and they are admirably humble and tolerant.

If you do want to shake off some of that shyness, just try and understand that it doesn't matter if you trip and fall, it doesn't matter if they laugh; these are incidents too insignificant for you to pay any notice.

Be proud of what you can do, have a humble opinion on your limitations, and you are sure to please everyone (that matters). Hope I haven't been parroting what someone else has said, and that I have been of some use :)


:P, Nacked! I won't take this one as an Advise!
How can't I pay attention to the mouths that all are open : hahaha!
I hate peopel, Cuz when something like this happens to somebody else I don't laught in front of him.


Bingo! What an idiotic, insensitive and seemingly malicious teacher. People like that should be fired. Aargh!

I am one of those strange people who has never had a problem speaking in public, likes to meet new people, and finds my own embarrassing moments so hilarious that they cease to be embarrassing. But please don't hate me for it :)

I could never understand what it felt like to fear public speaking etc until I took up another language. I have now been learning Maori for 3 years and I'm reasonably confident/competent, but when I first began I was a total scaredy-cat!! I remember the first time I got up to speak Maori in front of my class, and my knees were knocking so hard I was honestly scared I'd fall over!

It was really enlightening for me to feel that fear, and now I find that I can empathize with stage-fright and shyness in a way I never could before.

Anyway, I guess I think that fear can be good sometimes, it can level you. But I realise that it can also be like a debilitating social condition, and for that, I truly sympathise. That sucks. It must be really nice to be able to talk to people on forums like this. No face to face....

I know, I surely know, how you felt on that stage! Speaking a new language is so hard, I won't hate you for not taking embarissing moments so seriously, I actually admire you for that!

[Aunty-lion]

I know, I surely know, how you felt on that stage! Speaking a new language is so hard, I won't hate you for not taking embarissing moments so seriously, I actually admire you for that!

Thanks missus girl!:p

[shadowy girl]

It's actually how I'm trying to become!

[Aunty-lion]

It's actually how I'm trying to become!

Yeah, well I think that's great. It can sometimes be hard to laugh at yourself, but once you've got the knack of it, once you realise how stupidly hilarious you really are, life can be a funny, funny place:lol: :lol: :lol: .

It's also a great defense mechanism. I mean, if you laugh at yourself before anyone else can, then their laughter has no power to hurt you.:D

Stay happy Shadow. If the world gets to much for ya, you can always moan about it on litnet.:idea:

Love from,
Everybody's Aunty-lion

[shadowy girl]

Yeah, well I think that's great. It can sometimes be hard to laugh at yourself, but once you've got the knack of it, once you realise how stupidly hilarious you really are, life can be a funny, funny place:lol: :lol: :lol: .

It's also a great defense mechanism. I mean, if you laugh at yourself before anyone else can, then their laughter has no power to hurt you.:D

Stay happy Shadow. If the world gets to much for ya, you can always moan about it on litnet.:idea:

Love from,
Everybody's Aunty-lion

:lol: LOL... ya life is great sometimes, but something awful happend to me today, my schoolmates all of them, made fun of me, with that non-stopping laughing I hate, all I could do was to cry! :sick: And after my teacher asked tham what made me so sad they told her it wasn't their fault, and that it's me who was too sensitive, they never look at thirselves and how they act!

[Aunty-lion]

:lol: LOL... ya life is great sometimes, but something awful happend to me today, my schoolmates all of them, made fun of me, with that non-stopping laughing I hate, all I could do was to cry! :sick: And after my teacher asked tham what made me so sad they told her it wasn't their fault, and that it's me who was too sensitive, they never look at thirselves and how they act!

Oh Shadow you're breaking my heart. :(

What a bunch of idiots. I hope you know that you don't deserve it. I suppose sometimes, we just have to be a bit thick skinned, but I know I would have cried too. I have quite thin skin myself.

I'll tell you what, I went through a really hard period about 3 or 4 years back, and I just knew that it wasn't going to get better any time soon. So I thought about it, and decided that even though I was having a hard time of it, that I wanted something to come out of that hardship. So I spent a few years focusing all my sad and angry energy into creative pursuits. Sometimes, there's nothing like a bit of sadness to rouse the creative mind from its slumber. I wrote some of the best songs I've ever written then, and writing them helped me to cope and get over any issues I had.

If you feel like it's not getting better, pull out a pen and paper my dear. Get it out of you. Don't let it poison you, but instead, let it lead you down a road of self-discovery.

And don't worry honey, idiots like that grow up to regret their childish actions, and you will be safe in the knowledge that you didn't stoop to their level. Kia kaha ( that means 'stay strong' in Maori).

Your empathetic Aunty-lion xox

[shadowy girl]

Oh Shadow you're breaking my heart. :(

What a bunch of idiots. I hope you know that you don't deserve it. I suppose sometimes, we just have to be a bit thick skinned, but I know I would have cried too. I have quite thin skin myself.

I'll tell you what, I went through a really hard period about 3 or 4 years back, and I just knew that it wasn't going to get better any time soon. So I thought about it, and decided that even though I was having a hard time of it, that I wanted something to come out of that hardship. So I spent a few years focusing all my sad and angry energy into creative pursuits. Sometimes, there's nothing like a bit of sadness to rouse the creative mind from its slumber. I wrote some of the best songs I've ever written then, and writing them helped me to cope and get over any issues I had.

If you feel like it's not getting better, pull out a pen and paper my dear. Get it out of you. Don't let it poison you, but instead, let it lead you down a road of self-discovery.

And don't worry honey, idiots like that grow up to regret their childish actions, and you will be safe in the knowledge that you didn't stoop to their level. Kia kaha ( that means 'stay strong' in Maori).

Your empathetic Aunty-lion xox

Thanks really, all I went through made me write more than ever, but I write in arabic more :P... and I'll stay Kia kaha... You all made me feel better.
I won't care about my calss mates Cuz there must be something wrong about them athat made them do this to me.;)