something u cant have...

[coulndnotI]

when you want something or someone,
when it's in front of you,
but you cant have,
what do you do?
when it's something, do you get it?
when it's someone, do you want them?

i'm just wondering...
I have something i want be can not have.

[dramasnot6]

agknowledge that you want it, but try to get over it if it is hopeless. There is never only one thing or person for you in your life, it's filled with endless possibilities?

[Adudaewen]

Just because you can't have it right now doesn't mean that its permanent. It may just be the wrong time. Have a little patience and a little faith and things might turn around. If they don't work out, that's okay. Some of the things that I wanted SO badly but couldn't have merely opened the door to something that was even better. Even failures can be sucesses if you let them. ;)

. o O (God I sound like my mother. But it's true. :))

[Stanislaw]

Well, theoretically nothing in this existance really matters...its all a matter of Karma and samsara (my spelling is horrible)... - well thats the Budhist ideal...but it may keep you sane

[Adudaewen]

Aw, but that's such a depressing thought Stan

[amanda_isabel]

ahhh... well, as my mentor says it, 'that's life!'

[Pensive]

Well, yes. This is life. But remember, if you can't have that thing, it doesn't mean that you can't have anything at all.

There are things we want. Some we get, others we don't. And that's how life plays with us. Sometimes we win. Sometimes, our oponent does win too.

[AimusSage]

My tip: stop obsessing over what you want and can't have, and instead focus on what you want and can have.

[coulndnotI]

oh okay!
but how to decide?

[Reccura]

My tip: stop obsessing over what you want and can't have, and instead focus on what you want and can have.

Hello, Aimus!

You're totallllllyyyyy right. Because I'm wanting :flare:something right now that I can't have..... wahhhh:bawling:

[Stanislaw]

Aw, but that's such a depressing thought Stan

well, sort of...but no one said budhists were party animals. :D

[Nightshade]

You know what I think? We mostly do get what we want but we dont always realise weve got it.
....thinks about the starving masses and extreme poverty...err maybe not, that idea obviously has massive holes in it, Maybe I should say work for it and usually get it, but be careful what you wish for because you might already have what you REALLY want and are just to caught up in what you thnk you want to realise that what you have is waaaaaaay better.

[Stanislaw]

You know what I think? We mostly do get what we want but we dont always realise weve got it.
....thinks about the starving masses and extreme poverty...err maybe not, that idea obviously has massive holes in it, Maybe I should say work for it and usually get it, but be careful what you wish for because you might already have what you REALLY want and are just to caught up in what you thnk you want to realise that what you have is waaaaaaay better.

hmm, that reminds me of two quotes:

1. Sometimes having is not such a pleasing a thing as having, its illogical but often true - Spock

2. Absence make the heart grow fonder / Sometime you don't know what you have untill its gone.

sorry for HiJaCkInG

[bazarov]

If it's material, which I really doubt, try to be real. But, it's probably not a material thing, so what means ''you can't have it''? Is it currently unreal or is it simply impossible? If it's unreal, try to make it real...It sounds simple but it's not, I know...Turgenev once said:''There's nothing worse than be in love and not to be loved''
If it's impossible, just try to forget about it.

[Madhuri]

Turgenev once said:''There's nothing worse than be in love and not to be loved''

This is very true. If you are in this situation, it will only make you feel worse.

[coulndnotI]

but how to decide?

[Madhuri]

but how to decide?

I dont want to sound annoying or something, your asking this seems like -- tell me a course of action and i'll follow it -- I think what decision you want to make, should be yours, everyone here can give you suggestions. Besides, no one knows what options you have, if only you could tell whats going on in your mind, someone might be able to help you. 'Something you want and cant have' is a little vague.

[AimusSage]

See, What maddie said is true, you have to decide. make a decision and stick with it. It's not that difficult. Just make sure you don't fall into indecision, as that will only increase your doubt and lower confidence, making the next decision harder to make. Consider your options objectively find out what is the most positive option, and decide to go with that one.

[subterranean]

but how to decide?

It's a matter of learning process. You didn't know what to do last time and you made mistake. Ideally, you (and probably people in general) should learn from that. Next time, when you're in that spot again, you'll know what decision you should take.

[bazarov]

And what about when you know what you have to do, but you don't do that, even though you know you'll feel sorry after it?

[Koa]

Just accept you can't have it.

Or work so hard that you'll eventually get it.

I adapted to the first option for a certain thing and it works wonderfully. Look, but don't touch.

[Adudaewen]

well, sort of...but no one said budhists were party animals. :D

This is true. ;)