Uh. yea. Advise?

[daydreaming]

I know this has like NOTHING to do with literature or anything like that. but i just need some one to get this out to. IF you found out ur best friend did something a year ago [[that is horribly bad and idk hurtful to you]] and you just found out about would u forgive them?
I just need advise:(

[Whifflingpin]

yes.......

[mtpspur]

With me it depends on the forgiveness being sought after from me. If it is then I attempt to forgive but my score keeping idol has plenty to gloat over. If forgiveness is not desired I attempt to decide for myself if I value this relationship to let it stay or go--again depends on the person involved and subject. I discover my long suffering wife Ruth to be almost incredibly forgiving under severe provocations. I am not any easy person to live with.

Hope this helps.

Rich

[Pendragon]

A year has passed. You still call them your best friend, so I gather that this hurt you at the time, but has passed, or has hurt you now that you found out about it, one or the other. If A, the hurt has had time to heal, and if the friend still means enough that you cannot say "farewell." and just walk away with no regrets, forgiveness is a forgone conclusion. If B, then you didn't know who hurt you until now. That is harder to forgive, but the same question remains: can you end the friendship with no regrets? If no, then talk it out, and forgive. God bless. Dale http://smilies.vidahost.com/contrib/unknown/face80.gif

[grace86]

I have to agree with Pen. You are still calling this person your best friend. If that person kept something hurtful from you for a year...that is hard to get over because that best friend lied to you in keeping it. I always try to forgive the faults of others - but that doesn't mean it is any less hurtful. Is your friend asking your forgiveness? Do the two of you feel the friendship can be repaired?

Good luck. I would forgive and have forgiven my best friend for all offenses, but friendships do fade for many reasons that we will never completely understand. I hope for your sake yours can be repaired.

All the best and God bless

Grace

[daydreaming]

Thank you for helping me. you truly helped me. Its hard though. She doesn't know that i know about what she did. Idk its really idk...AH... DRAMA thats all it is. and its complicated she's my best friend and for awhile i've just been trying to find a way "out" i guess u could say the friendship isn't what it was... mostly because i found out of this. i cant stand to just walk away. but like i said. I'm hurt.

[Misscaroline]

I'm sorry daydreaming. I know how you feel. For all of my life, I've talked to my dad and he hang out, even though the divorce is now more than 17 years strong. The reason for the divorce is the problem- I know the truth, and he's not the one who told me. He's never owned up. We're alot more distant than we used to be. But I would rather own up to knowing and work on fixing the relationship or abandoning it than live on with something weighing over you. I know that's how I feel... Nevertheless, good luck, and I hope you find the answer you need...<3

[Nightshade]

I guess, its all about just how hurtful it was and why she did it? And more than that how important is she? But got to say it nothing hurts a friendship more than knowing somthingis hanging there and not doing anything about it, why dont ou figure out how you feel and tell her you know. Then go from there?