Your Habbits or problems which you want to over-come.

[Pensive]

This kind of topic might have been discussed but I was too lazy to search out.

What are the things you dislike about yourself? I dislike many things in myself which are mainly:

First of all is my Curiousity and Talkative Nature: I can never keep myself silent and if I can't find the answer of a question, I can not sleep at nights.

Second is my depression to pretending: I hate hypocrisy and I hate to pretend what I am not and I hate it when people very close to me, even they pretend themselves. This makes me really very sad but that is the way world is, perhaps....

Third problem is my laughing: I laugh a lot. I can't help myself from doing so. Sometimes, I laugh even when I don't mean it. Once in the class I started to laugh, my friend saw me and she also started laughing and the teacher slapped her. This made me so much ashamed of myself. All happened because of me, because I laughed. I don't know that how I can stop myself from laughing so much.

My Fourth problem is that when I am busy in something specially in reading a book or doing my paper, I hear nothing and I become a kind of absorbed in that thing. Once in examination hall, teacher came and changed the question. Everyone was alert and changed their questions but I was abosrbed in doing paper and did not hear teacher's shouting. And the result was my less marks.

So many problems, man I don't know how I am going to live this life? *frowns*

[smilingtearz]

:thumbs_up Pensive!

I'm a bit too dreamy....

[Pensive]

Dreams are a sign of good health so they should not be that bad. :)

[smilingtearz]

not when most of your time's spent day dreaming... it becomes a fantastical.. unrealistic world...

[kathycf]

I tend to think about my past too much, also I am very opinionated. I also get extremely anxious and depressed, which at times interferes with being a functional person. Plus, I tend to have a bad temper, and it takes me a long time to calm down when I get upset. I could go on because there are so many other things, but...oh well.

I guess some of the things we dislike about ourselves seem so bad to us, but maybe not so bad to others. Sometimes other people may have a perspective on us that we lack. Pensive, you may have felt bad about your friend getting slapped, but that makes me think you have a concern for other people and a conscience. Smilingtearz, you seem imaginative, which can be a very good trait, if you found a balance between "daydreaming" and being active.

[Taliesin]

Our problem no 1: we are unable to see our flaws.

Other than that, we have no problems. :D

[Idril]

I have a lot of trust issues and tend to be emotionally aloof with those close to me, I suppose the two things go hand in hand really, always protecting myself from disappointment in every form. :lol: Another aspect to the trust thing that I don't even trust myself and I have a hard time making decisions because of that, I always assume that whatever I want to do is the wrong thing. :rolleyes:

On the upside, I have a fabulous sense of humour and never take myself too seriously. ;)

[RobinHood3000]

Hero complex, imperceptiveness, egocentrism, unclear definition of limits, tendency to overreact, paranoia, uptight-ness, and the tendency to use the "thumbs-up :thumbs_up" sign too much.

Hmm. Looks like I'll have to add "pessimistic" to the list...

[Pensive]

Our problem no 1: we are unable to see our flaws.

Other than that, we have no problems. :D

Ignorance is a bliss. :p

Better not to know your flaws and they will not irritate you.

[formality hater]

I am aggresive.

[amanda_isabel]

great thread pensive!

but really, if i list down all the things i think are flaws in me, then forever isn't enough because my opinions constantly change, which is one of the things i hate. i have a tendency to change my opinion just because of some statement, which is not a good thing because i'm easily swayed and sometimes judge people at the wrong time. apart from that a lot would say i'm very frank, i'm too frank. but that's one thing i don't want to change. maybe i'll lessen it just a little but i'm never going to change it... i guess being frank is just being amanda and without it i'll be a completely different person...

anyway what i'll work on for now is trying to wake up early enough to do everything before school starts. i'm late a lot, which is really not a good thing, especially in the theater. in fact our director is very particular about it and i'm still struggling with trying to come to the required 10 minutes before the call time, especially now that i'm the stage manager... sigh...

[Manfred]

I am quick-tempered, opinionated, egocentric, paranoid, and prone to procrastination. I assume that changing some of these traits would make me a better person, but haven't gotten around to it yet...

[thevintagepiper]

Competitiveness (though, in a way, I thrive on it)
Procrastination
Daydreaming constantly (though of course I like it and am proud of my imagination!)
Talkativeness

Lately I have been trying to focus on using my time well, and to make conversations turn toward the other conversant instead of myself. It's hard though ^_^

[cuppajoe_9]

Hero complex, drinking too much, paranoia, a tendancy to skip meals (to the point where I have been asked if I have an eating disorder), a tendancy to stay up too late, somewhat obsessive-compulsive, a habit of chewing my fingernails, a lack of concern for my possible future dependants (according to my friend, anyway), a disdain for money (this gets expensive), a speaking voice that apparently convinces people that I hate them, arrogance, occasional tobacco use, sarcasm, a deficiency of self-repspect.

That is a depressingly long list.

[mono]

I have far too many habits (good and bad) that I could ever possibly overcome in this lifetime. For those who know me well, even on the forum, you know what I mean, no doubt, but thus seems life. I have done well to correct some of my habits, none of which ever affect others to a large or harmful degree, but I have much to conquer. :rolleyes:

[Idril]

I have done well to correct some of my habits, none of which ever affect others to a large or harmful degree, but I have much to conquer. :rolleyes:

I think it's a fine line. I think it's good and necessary to work on those bad habits, to learn how to relate to people better, attempt to make the most of yourself but you don't want to completely change who you are. Those little quirks are what make us who we are and we aren't going to be happy in any relationship or situation where we have to turn into something we're not comfortable being. It's not us who need to change, it's everyone else. ;) :p

[Madhuri]

I have this fear in me that if I become too close to someone, I might get hurt, and that makes me an introvert, I should be more outgoing, coz that the way one can learn more about life, have more interactions, all this has made me think that people are not trustworthy enough as they are always trying to hurt you. I am not sure if this is a flaw in me...perhaps a state of mind, that I need to change.

I am trying....I wish I could overcome my fear.

[Pensive]

Oh Madhuri, to spend your life, you have to trust people. That's what life is. You can not live life without trusting someone. I also hope that you will overcome this fear of your's! Make friends and you might feel change in yourself.

[WhimsySA]

I'd like to be a little more outgoing & a little less shy & self-concious & spend more time on enjoying life & less time on school work!

[SleepyWitch]

I want to quit smoking... been a non-smoker for 4 days in a row already.. :lol:

[TEND]

Hmm, personality-wise, I need to stop getting so attached. I'm so desperate to give out my love, that any girl that so much as smiles at me, I can become slightly obsessive (I am obsessive compulsive, so at least I have an excuse). I sometimes feel that I can't possibly be wrong so I will fight and argue relentlessly with anyone that disagrees with me.

Bad Habit wise, I would really like to quit chewing snuff. It's a disgusting habit, and really difficult to quit. Funny how when you start you feel that you can quit anytime, you say oh no it could never happen to me. Now I have great difficulty sleeping without it before bed, I can't wake up without it, I'll start involuntarily shaking if I haven't had it for a while, it's awful.
p.s. I haven't slept more than 2 hours in each of the past 3 nights :D , so I'm getting somewhere.

[grace86]

A lot of people relate to me here. I need to change my habit of being indecisive. It can get so bad that I cannot choose where to eat. It might also be I am a bit self sacrificial too though. I actually need to learn to close myself off a bit, I am quite an open book.

[Madhuri]

I have this habit of forever waiting for people who decide to leave me, I dont know why I hang on to them so much....hoping against hope that they might return...I wish I could change this attitude, and try to be more rational and move ahead with my life.

I am not able to say no often, which affects me a lot, I dont usually hang up or am not the one who says goodbye first, even when I know there are important tasks waiting for me, unless it is something that no longer can be put off, I wait for the other person to say goodbye.

[higley]

Sometimes I procrastinate :( something awful. I also really need to be better at turning in my library books on time, not kidding. Most importantly though, I need to brush aside momentary obsessions that take over my time so that I may focus on things that are more important. I always tell myself that I'm going to read my Bible more but then I get caught up in other things.

To break a habit I first need to understand the causes that started it. Sometimes it's reluctance to focus, other times it's a matter of priorities. Why are my priorities in the order that they are? What's keeping the really important stuff from topping the list? When I know what the true problem is, I can stop it. :)

[Serenata]

Nail biting, sarcasm, inability to sit still, quick-temper, blunt, basically I am just a huge smart***. But I am trying to work on it.

[grace86]

Higley - goodness I am such a procrastinator when it comes to school work...well just the essays. The other day, I did an entire research paper in about eight hours (the day it was due mind you). But I managed to pull off a B. It really makes me wonder what my grades would be like if I put more effort into getting them done in a timely manner.

I think I procrastinate just because I have so much to do, so little time and I get so easily distracted with the simplest things.

[Outlander]

Having never really gotten over the pains of the past, I have kept myself hostage in a life that I did not ask for, denying the old future that has already come. Arguements blaze back and fourth in my mind, the old me the one who refuses to give up it's control over this existance continues to beat down the future that could be. It's time to allow the disuadement of the arguement and progress of the self.

It's a shame that I'm a procrastanator (and a poor speller) :)